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how fine event didn't make away but I can't think because the thoughts are being inserted into my brain and I cannot think. it's hard to listen access there are people who I'm asking for help, and the police are following me now.
I'm having trouble writing but I hope there's a man that can help me. I'm failing my classes at university and it's only my first of year. The thoughts in my head are unorganized and constantly blocking me. Cigarettes usually calm me down, but this only lasts for 15 minutes or so. I'm not sure how relevant this but I've smoked marijuana since I was 17, but stopped. When I smoke weed I become very paranoid. I don't think I'm paranoid about it I stopped going to classes is there a man who can help? please
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I read my post and it didn't make much sense, I'm sorry
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Try again.
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Hello, when I wrote my post it made sense in my mind, but after rereading it it had none this is getting worse for me and my therapist says I'm depressed but I'm not
How do I get rid of depression? I can't feel anything good anymore, everything seems like a bore fest and a chore to complete.
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be happy and don't give a shit
the only unhappy people i know give too much of a shit
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>>17709354
Man, you are so ignorant. Fuck off.
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Have you tried therapy or antidepressants? I advise not taking medications unless absolutely necessary.
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>>17709354
>how do i stop being poor
>just have money! it's so easy!
OP, seriously though, do make an attempt to care less. Not about stuff in general because I'm sure you're already crushingly apathetic about everything, but that "thing" you think about that always bums you out.
Also drugs are good.
Also if this has been a life-long affliction, medication.
Meditation and yoga are good for this, and I know you've heard that a billion times already but force yourself to. Listen to 15-30 minutes of Alan Watts a day, patiently, do nothing else, and do yoga.
Alan Watts' lecture on The Nature of Consciousness is a great listen and long, and you can take it in 30m chunks easily.
The Sun Salutation is a great overall, basic yoga routine to get into.
You may as fucking well, it can't be any worse than how shit you feel now. It got me through a ton of awful shit a few years ago for certain.
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I'm hoping that if someone says the right thing to me in the right way I'll be able to see myself and my problems in a new light and actually become proactive in solving them. To that end, I would be grateful if I received many responses so that I get many different ideas and perspectives. The more I get, the more likely it is that this will work.
My anxiety is the most powerful thing in my life and I need to find a way to use it for my benefit, because it's so massive that I couldn't possibly get rid of it without years of effort. It's an unthinking, animal fear that's triggered by work first and by social activities second. The work aspect is crippling, I've never held a job for longer than 11 months. My resume is a bad joke. The anxiety activates in response to engaging any task at work that I'm not absolutely, 100% confident of having mastered. Which tends to be everything I do at any given job because the anxiety lowers my ability to improve my skills drastically. The anxiety strengthens itself that way. A method that's just occurred to me is that I might try motivating myself by thinking of how much more anxious I'll be when jobless and verging on homeless, but this also seems like a powerful way to amp up my anxiety even further and wreck myself.
As i'm not just going to be able to vanquish my anxiety overnight, how do I use it? Or are there other means by which I might help myself?
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Hey i am you.
Anxiety and other problematic emotions relating to anxiety, anxiety of anxiety has ruined my life.
Meditation is the only thing i have found to reliably help and it has worked wonders for me.
I am not religious in any way, i also do not claim to understand neuroscience in any way, but this is hands down the best, and only, reliable way to not suffer at the whims of my anxiety.
Its a desperate thing to try out but i was a fucking nervewreck with psychotic panic at the time i decided to give it a go.
Now i have a reliable thing i can do with my consciousness in order to not be in a state of doom and panic all the time.
I actually had a period of like 2-3 months where i experienced close to no anxiety, especially the kind of "OMFG WAT IM DOIN WITH MY LIFE" type of anxiety.
But it also works for the "IS THAT GUY FUCKING LOOKING AT ME??" *stumbles* type of anxiety as well.
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And let me just add that ive tried a bunch of drugs aswell, none of them gave reliable relief.
Food, exercise and sleep are also really important but i didnt really start to improve in those areas before i started meditating.
I might also add that i have a fairly decent amount of experience with hallucinogens wich might make me biased towards the experience of meditating.
Good luck to you anon, i know the struggle.
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This is something I tried to get into in the past and I didn't consistently apply myself. It's obvious that this is the sort of thing that only pays dividends when you're persistent, but god is it hard to buckle down on not thinking for twenty minutes a day for some reason. I live in Saint Cloud, MN (IDGAF about people locating me at this point, my life is in the gutter) and I think it would really help if I could find an organized group to meditate with, but as one of my friends once said, "It's like they think culture is just something you do on the weekends." There are no groups in my community for this sort of thing.
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>be friends with a girl
>hangout often
>getting too close, talking a lot
>kind of felt like kissing at first, got denied two times
>now don't even think about it when hanging out
>we regularly talk for hours
>days back, on a movie
>she is holding my hand and rubbing my fingers
>put a hand on her thigh, doesn't mind
>making circles on her thigh, doesn't mind
>move hands to inner thigh, still not saying anything, just heavy breathing
>feeling her up thighs, looking at her face, she's going hot
>moving hands to her panties, rubbing around it, but not on private parts
>says I'm not ticklish there, don't try
>sudden urge to pinch her nipples, did it, without thinking
>felt lightly over her bra
>what the fuck did I do
>she gets visibility shocked
>stares at me, looks like a combination of furious and shock
>don't know what to do, can't say if she's feeling turned on or violated
>movie ends, leave
>ask her if she felt violated, says don't know
>tell her sorry anyway
>on phone, talking like anyday, tells me we should make ground rules regarding whatever the fuck we are on
>forgets about it, back to normal convo
>late night, talking goes flirty
>ask her if she was turned on, says yeah kind of
>don't know what led to what, I'm talking dirty, she's masturbating
>comes, screams over phone, me first time ever doing that
>ask her if she just got an orgasm
>"yeah, fuck, it was good"
>goes to sleep while talking
>got really horny and masturbated and went to sleep
>next morning on phone
>she's all pumped up and all
So what the fuck? Is she going to kiss me or do I have do try the third fucking time and probably get denied? Or am I putting too much emphasis on a kiss?
I really don't want any of this complicated shit, just a normal relationship. She doesn't appear to have any romantic feelings to anyone.
Is there something I'm missing that will invoke those feelings?
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If you want a "normal" relationship you need to know what you want, know what the other person wants, and you both need solid communication skills. Based on what you're saying, neither of you is that kind of person. I want you to go through a mental exercise for me. Seriously, please do it. Try to stop thinking for a minute or so. Let go of your emotions and your thoughts. Then picture yourself in your surroundings from a top-down view. Be detached. Think about yourself as a separate person, one you don't care about. Now, looking at yourself in that way, ponder on why you haven't just asked for clarification from this girl. And don't stop pondering for a minute or two because you may very well be overlooking some significant factors.
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I have tried to communicate with this girl, but I can never accept what she tries to say.
I have already told her that I want a normal relationship, but she replied that how relationships hurt you in the long run especially when you know things are not going anywhere.
She said me, she was in a serious relationship, but at the end how the other person always blamed her for mistakes, made her feel worthless and at the end left her. It hurt her and she concluded to herself that she never wants to date anyone anymore.
But I can't understand how someone leaving you in a relationship would hurt you so much that you would never want one again. There are far more problems in this world which would definitely hurt you more and I can understand them. My past relationship never got that serious because I'm completely happy myself and don't want another person to decide my feelings especially after knowing that they don't love me. I loved her and all that but I moved on. I would like someone explaining how someone leaving hurts you that much.
My brain always tells me, she's lying, she's just not attracted to you unless she lets things go serious. I have accepted that I'm not attractive but I'm trying my best with other things and my personality. I don't know whether I'm right or wrong.
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I got married a few weeks ago, and I'm already getting to the end of my tether with my wife. We've been together for almost 3 years now, and decided to get married a few months ago.
We currently live together and we are moving into a house very soon. There's a 5 year age gap (I'm 25, she's 20).
Anyway, I cannot stand her attitude. She constantly nags, complains and tries to argue with me over the smallest of things. I've told her multiple times to basically stfu and stop talking to me how she is, but the message doesn't seem to be getting through to her. About a year and a half ago, I threatened to break up with her if she didn't change the way she spoke to me and she seemed to genuinely take it on board. Now, all that has been thrown out of the window. I can't be bothered being around her any more, because I'm sick of her constantly nagging.
>Drive her to work every morning (she doesn't drive) meaning I lose out on sleep
>Lend her money because she is shit at managing money
>End up paying more on bills
I get paid more than her so I don't mind putting a bit more in, but it's getting fucking ridiculous. We both got credit cards recently and she's maxed it out every month, then paid it all off the next, meaning she has to max it out again.
As for driving her around constantly, I get barely any thanks at all. She doesn't seem to understand that fuel=money.
Again, I don't mind paying more on bills as I get paid more, but I'd like to at least come home to a clean house and have dinner ready, as she works way less hours than I do. Whenever I come home, she tends to just be asleep and when I ask what's for dinner, I just get back 'I was sleeping, I don't know'. This is with her finishing at 2pm and me not getting home until 6pm.
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I'm genuinely at the end of my tether and I can't handle it. When things were good, they were great. We have loads in common, constantly speak about the future and laugh constantly. Now, I can't be bothered coming home because I'm sick of her constant nagging, complaining and general laziness. I don't know how to explain this to her, because I get the feeling it's just going to go in one ear then out the other. She seems to love trying to talk down to me, start an argument then play victim. I've never completely lost my temper at her but I'm starting to get very close.
She loses her temper all the time if I try to say that I'm doing stuff without her, for example I'm going away with work next week and me and the guys decided we are going to go to a theme park while we are away, and she started shouting etc being like 'why did you even tell me, I never get to go places like that' etc. I won a jacket in a shop the other week, and she started trying to argue with me in front of all the staff being like 'you don't even need a jacket, I do, you should give it to me' and it was honestly one of the most embarrassing things. I went back to the shop later to try and get it in the womens version to avoid argument, and they wouldn't change it. Again, further embarrassment.
How can I speak to someone who doesn't want to listen? My original plan was to basically say 'I can't deal with this for the rest of my life, and I'm going to leave you if you don't change your attitude to me' but I know that she's just going to try and blame me. I need help speaking to her, for the sake of our very short marriage. I can't go on like this. What advice can you give me?
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tl;dr
>Got married recently
>Wife nags, complains, starts arguments constantly
>Doesn't listen when I tell her to change her attitude
>Don't want to be around her
>Can't deal with that bullshit for the rest of my life
>How do I get her to realise how she is making me feel so we don't end up getting divorced soon
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just dealing with an immature brat. your fault as much as her. 20 is not a time to get married... 25 when you have your shit together is better.
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help, im having a panic attack and i can't stop thinking bad thoughts 2016-10-27 06:06:03 Post No.17709220
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i don't even know what im thinking, i just took 4 xanax im so fucking fucked. i have a perscription tho, it's ok.....
sigh, fuck i need someone to talk to.....
im at a university, im in my last year, last semester and im scared of failing classes....one class in particular....
i have no friends, no support system, i can't ask the teacher for help--she hates me because i make light of the subject material (class is about racism) but a huge part of that is a coping mechanism to deal with the fact that the class makes me uncomfortable.
every time i go i spend the rest of the night in a terrible mood, im panicky, im worried about the future, i just want to graduate but i feel like there's so much against me.
i need to talk to someone....
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You shouldn't of taken 4 you need just one for anxiety and you should be fine or do you have something else
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>>17709220
this anon is correct, 4 is way too many and you're ruining your brains ability to cope with stress and anxiety on its own.
please tell me you're not drinking too
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i keep thinking about running away, but then i think about my parents and their investment in my future. im just scared that things wont work out. that i wont graduate on time and that i wont get into a more practical grad program. im in a shit program now, bunch of stuff i'll never use, bunch of shit that's not even facts, mostly just feelings and empty flowery words.... i guess it's ok to say i go to a seminary....
look im upset that no one is my friend at my school, im upset that my teacher hates me, im upset that im not doing what i want to do in life and that ive wasted so much time doing bullshit. im 28 and i still dont have a single masters degree yet. ive never held a job. i dont even have a passion except for video games, hiking alone outdoors, smoking pot when i can find it.
i never got on board with the whole find a career and do what you love make your passion your profession shit
god dammit i just want to be ok....someone out there say something, i need a human being right now
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Title as stated. Pros and cons of checking out. No one gives a shit about me. For context, 21, female, still married to a husband who never told me what was wrong and is now living with his fucking parents. I feel so fucking alone and worthless.
Pros and cons of killing myself, I guess?
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You're barely 21. Stop being so dramatic. Divorce him and go to school, join the peace corp, or something, goddamn.
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do you have kids?
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>>17709162
No kids... Just two cats. All his shit is still in our house.
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How do you make friends in a new city? (no job or school)
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>>17708998
Stop being a neet and get a job or go to school
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>>17709014
I do freelance work at home occasionally, that's my income, I mean I'm not working most of the time.
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>>17709021
Go somewhere were your forced to meet people, pick the most comfortable place/situation you can think of, man up, DO it.
Will it be akward, might it feel futile and pointless?
Yes, but think about it a little bit more realistically.
I asume that you live in decent size city - think about the probability of your city having people you could get along with/people just like you.
Chances are theres quite alot of people who fit you.
You might have to look abit harder if your a freak but still entirely possible, probable and feasible if you do the necessary work.
That should serve as both motivation and realistic expectations about social interaction.
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I was sitting in my living room about midnight and I heard my gate open (the gate to my property is about 15 metres away and make a noise). I turned the porch light on and looked out. I may have saw a dark shape run (my imagination?) but other than that I saw nothing at all. I watched for a bit then assumed it mustn't have been my gate and was something else. I woke up this morning and saw my gate open. Maybe a family member forgot to shut it last night but its a weird coincidence.
I'm slightly concerned because I live in a relatively quiet street and have never had anyone open my gate at night ever. Should I be concerned?
my fence is like pic related but 7ft
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Probably Chinese people looking for bottles and cans.
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Never see them around where I live lol
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Do you have any security cameras?
How do you stop feeling like you're worthless?
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>>17708900
through self-improvement. build something you value and respect through hard work and willpower.
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>>17708900
LSD
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What am I supposed to value and respect?
I want to be loved, but I have no idea how to make myself lovable.
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I was watching Netflix with this girl I've been talking to, and she asked when the last time I had sex was, and I told her I was a virgin and she was all "NOOOOOOO..... are you serious?!" and then just dropped the subject.
Should I have lied?
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No, now you know more about her personality.
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>>17708895
If she was a bitch and didn't fuck cause you were a virgin you didn't really lose much m8.
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>>17708895
Yes, OP.
Being a virgin isnt sexy because usually the one who pops you will end up being your first love
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What do when your coworkers think your gay but you are not?
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Tell them you like girls.
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They are not believeing
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Get a prostitute and fuck her and record video of you fucking her with your cell phone. Make sure to aim the camera at her face, tits and pussy so it is clear you are fucking a female. Also then point the camera at your face and give thumbs up and smile. Next time someone at work makes a comment about you being gay say "Now look here, I am getting real sick of you people believing me to be homosexual. I am tired of your incorrect beliefs about me and I am going to put an end to it once and for all. Check this out!" And whip out your cell phone and play the video of you fucking the prostitute.
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Does anyone know of any general confidence-building exercises that work in regards to social activity? I've read a lot of articles on building confidence and finding ways to stop hating myself, but I really wanted to see if there's anyone out there that found something that worked for them- maybe it can work for me.
My end goal right now is to get myself into a relationship. I won't do into too many details, but I'm 28 and I've spent most of my life pushing women away because I was too afraid to get close to them. I'm also terrified of approaching anyone I like whatsoever. In fact I'm terrified of people in general and I believe it's strongly tied into my seemingly unreal lack of self-confidence, something that's plagued me since at least middle school. I'm working out, trying to take care of myself and I'm in better shape than a lot of people I know, but I can't seem to make myself believe I'm worth more than nothing.
I've never been in a relationship and I'm a KHV, primarily by being an extreme social recluse. I don't really care so much about the virginity aspect as I am lack of close relationships. I want nothing more right now than to find someone I can be close and intimate with, but I lack the confidence to socialize, approach people and take chances.
Can anyone give me any simple steps to build confidence that worked for them? Even little ones would be a great help for me.
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Say something or make a gesture to someone randomly in the street. Get used to talking to random people.
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That's a good tip, for sure. But I can do that part. It's actually talking to someone that either knows me or will know me longer than a few minutes that terrifies me. It's like I'm scared they'll discover I'm a boring/bland/shit person or something.
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You have to understand that confidence is built by being competant at things. Meaning doing something over and over again.
Start small with interaction. Do you have anyone at work you can chat to?
>"I'm scared they will think I will be a boring person"
People don't really think like this, they focus on the interesting parts of you, not the boring ones that are in your head. People simply aren't thst judgemental either, maybe you are projecting something you do yourself on to others?
I used to think like that at least.
I get hit on and stalked by creeps daily
>guy filmed me running
>guy from college told everyone we were secretly dating but don't tell anon because she wants it to be a secret
>my bfs cousin told his fiancé we dated, I cheated, and he forgave me
>guy sat next to me to talk in the library, I moved to a different area of the library, he follows, takes my book, says "you're not reading until you talk to me."
The uni let me carry pepper spray just in case he harasses me because he's done weirder things in class and the teacher even got offended
>my friends (a couple) broke up, guy joined my gym, and tried to smash, didn't happen because I don't want her to hate me, she tells everyone I'm a bitch and whore, they get back together
>trainer rubbed his d on me
Thought it was a mistake the first time. Second time was awkward. Third time I cancelled training sessions with him.
I also think he was taking pictures of me during stretches and sets
>church counselor who's twice my age, tied me up, tazed me, stole my v
>my running coach/aquintance said he joined my gym to get to know me
I move 30 minutes away for higher paying job
Join new gym
>60 yo man and I have small talk often. He seems lonely but nice.
Each time we talk, he insinuates we go out clubbing, casino, or the beach. It was funny until he said he likes them young.
>walking down a street at night. Bf is across the street but following. Hobo looking guy grabs me, forces his hands everywhere, tries to kiss me. I struggle to push him off. He lets go when bf starts screaming and pedestrian runs over to help
>gym employee steals my number from registry, texts me like it's not creepy and illegal
How do I stop getting harassed?
What am I doing to get harassed?
The older I get, the more older men approach me. I've been crying too much lately because im kind of scared of going out.
Is there a type of girl that gets harassed more than others?
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hide your body if youre not already
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>>17708789
posts pics.
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>>17708789
Are you really attractive? If so, thats probably why you get harassed so much.
I don't have an answer for you about the straight up creeps/attackers but for people you know socially maybe just try to act like a stuck-up cold bitch. But then people might not like you and you might get lonely. Sorry you are going through this.
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GF wants to commit suicide and I don't want to be with her anymore 2016-10-27 02:56:04 Post No.17708710
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But I know things would never work. I don't want to be with her anymore, but I don't want her to kill herself, but I don't want her to be forced to suffer, because I know she has absolutely no friends and nobody to care for her. Her family is too poor to get her therapy sessions, and her parents are neglectful of her. I'm truly stuck here, and I really need help.
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>GF wants to commit suicide
has she actually said this? If so call 911 next time she does.
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>>17708710
You can't stay with someone out of pity. If you really care just say you don't want to be her boyfriend but you can be her friend offering morale support.
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>>17708718
What he said.