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Am I getting friendzoned by fwb? 2016-10-26 09:31:38 Post No.17705777
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Am I getting friendzoned by fwb?
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>been hooking up with co worker for past 3 months
>mutually agree on fwb relationship
>most nights end up back at my place and I drop her off in the morning.
>a few times are hooking up she had expressed concern that she liked me too much
>keep hooking up and having amazing sex
>recently we've been hanging out like usual, but at the end of the night she says shes tired and goes home
>told her about my roomates being gone for a week
>4 days in now, and everytime she says she would love to but I live too far away(about 10 min drive)
>mentioned at work that her best friend has been distant since getting a boyfriend
>she tells me i'm becoming her new best friend
Not sure where to go from here. She still initiates contact via text almost daily, and even suggests hanging out. I'm just scared that the lack of intimacy these last few dates are a sign shes trying to make me into her emotional sponge and nothing more. I admit, i'm starting to get feelings for her, but i'd like to keep this fwb thing going if anything. With work and uni its been hard to meet anyone lately.
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She's developing feelings for you, doesn't want to be, and as a result is distancing herself, at least when it comes to sex
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>>17705781
This.
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>>17705781
Should I continue to spend time with her and see where it goes? Or pull back and give her some time to think about things?
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Just got into a stupid argument with my friends over the concept of change, tell me who's right here.
So it started out as me jokingly saying gay things (I used to be a raging homophobe, this becomes relevant later). One of my friends in particular always gets a little pissed every time I act gay. He asked me why I act like this so I said "people change". He said they don't, people just get wiser. Which made no sense to me, because getting wiser is maturity which is basically change. I never pointed this out to him though.
The conversation switched to racism. I told them how I changed as in toning down on the racism. Now i'm not racist, I've even told them I joke multiple times and they just go on with it. They even make racist jokes too as well. I used to make really fucked up "kill all blacks" type jokes but I told them I toned down on it, which I did. One of my friends said "Just because you don't express that shit to people doesn't mean you changed in your head", which kinda struck me. How does someone know you more than yourself? How can someone tell you what your personality is except you? Like I said I used to be a big homophobe, and i've changed to the point where i'm coming out of the closet myself. Even they knew this which is why one of them asked me why I act or say gay things.
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It gets even better. They acted like i'm the only one that has ever said anything racist, even if it was jokingly. Hell, we call each other "nigger" as a joke. I used to call random people on the internet "niggers", regardless of what race they are. It's basically shock value. Most of the jokes I say nowadays are fucking /pol/ memes for fucks sake.
My 10 year old brother is even black. Now I know this is a cliche thing to say, but how could I be the racist they make me out to be even though I have a black brother that I care for? I acknowledged to them that I toned down on the racism but they say otherwise based off of nothing.
After I pointed this out to them, they just stopped talking. One of them said something sparky like "denial + white privilege = it can only get you to so many places". I haven't denied a thing and the white privilege comment seemed out of place.
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>>17705754
Purely based on what you're telling us, they seem in the wrong. Sounds like they've been taken in by a tumblr mindset desu. Are they all black?
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>>17705771
No, one of them in Mexican whom I frequently talk to more and we make racist jokes a lot. The other one is white, but over time he turned very liberal. Though he used to make racist jokes with us as well.
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how come a girl can have so much power over me by just existing? even though I already tried to ask her out, I still can't ignore her
shes the only person I know that makes me feel insecure, weak, pathetic when our eyes cross, her presence alone makes me think about every act I do
how the fuck do I get rid of this shitty feel? this delusion that I still have a chance? I've stopped talking to her for months now but recently fucked up and talked to her online again. since then i didnt message her.
please help me. I dont want to feel this way if the feeling is not mutual. I dont want anyone to have so much power over me.
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pls respond
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Have sex with another girl.
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>>17705807
why ?
Draw me a house /adv/.
The green is my yard.
The red part is where I'm allowed to build.
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Pic is the red part separately (to scale) for you to draw in if you want.
Shooting for about 200m2 / 660ft2 of living space (not including garages and basement).
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pic related kind of style.
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Is it better to be alone in a group/with another person, or to feel alone in solitude?
My specific situation is that I got together with some friends from work for a drink a couple of times and despite us all getting along, I didn't feel any better. I'm comfortable alone, so since it wasn't doing anything for me I no longer spend time with them anf isolates myself.
Then I suddenly ran into a childhood friend and I've been hanging out with her alot. I'm 99% sure we're into one another but she's not in a place for that rn, so I've just left alone. Kind of having the same issue as before tho, except I'm into her so my intrigue is keeping me somewhat content.
Now, I'm not technically alone and I have someone to talk to, but I don't feel any better. I don't think I'm depressed, cause I'm OK by myself. Possible that I'm just expecting more comfort from other people than what I'm receiving.
Maybe I'm misunderstanding my emotions. Idk I'm confused, and this post is probably incoherent as a consequence of that. Sorry
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I feel more alone with others around than by myself...then I met my ex and felt close to someone else for the first time in a very long time. But that ended so now I feel miserable with and without people around. Be careful what you wish for.
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>>17705706
Ups and downs man. Have to pay a price for everything
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>>17705706
Honestly I don't think we'll ever be together, but I'm not really concerned with that for this thread. I'm more concerned of what it's indicative of. I've always felt better alone, yet I'm incredibly lonely. It makes no sense
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What is happening to me? 2016-10-26 08:31:46 Post No.17705676
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Whilst I was with my last gf:
>had a good amount of savings
>didn't touch drugs (illegal)
>barely touched alcohol
>showered everyday
>dressed smartly everyday
>kind, loyal etc
Since breaking up with her:
>no savings, maxed out credit card
>will do any drugs I can get my hands on but smoke a few joints and get drunk every night at least
>dress like something straight from /fa/
>cheat on my current gf
>horrible to basically everyone
>more arrogant than ever
I don't think this is all because of my ex, but when we broke up its like a switch was flicked and I don't care about anything anymore. I don't quite understand what's going on.
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Not a pro but seems like depression.
How did the first relationship end? Be specific.
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Budget your finances, snap your credit card and don't bother with anyone until you get into some drug treatment program. Once your back on your feet embrace your 'don't give a fuck attitude' because caring got you nowhere.
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>>17705695
We really liked each other but we constantly argued, it was very toxic for lack of a better word. I hated her but loved her dearly at the same time. We argued one too many times and that was it.
>>17705699
Thank you, I'll try this. Id like to get back on track with everything.
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How to get more alone time 2016-10-26 08:13:16 Post No.17705652
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How to get more alone time
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I have my own apartment and my problem is I always have people coming around, literally everyday, for most of the night (after i've finished work)
I'm trying to start my own business after my 9-5 work hours but I'm making no progress with that many people coming around. How do I stop it?
I don't want to be an ass about it but it sucks and on top of that I have loads of people that want freebees, like flashing Amazon Fire Sticks or fixing laptops, getting rid of viruses, and all that bullshit. It's really fucking getting me down, I don't know how much more I can take.
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>I have loads of people that want freebees
Regardless of everything else start charging for that shit.
It didn't help me since they actually started paying me but now I have a ton of extra money at least
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Tell them your neighbour complained to the manager, and the manager threatened you with eviction if you keep inviting people over.
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>>17705652
Or you could tell them you have bed bugs, or black mold growing behind the walls, and it's a health hazard or something.
any advice on how to get over my seething jealousy?
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you cant
so grow up and dont show it
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Think of something your better at than them. I don't lift a lot like most people at the gym, but I could still kick their ass since I do MMA
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jelous of who/what?
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For those that have experienced a deep depression before and have gotten through it, what kept you going? What can I do on a daily basis to fight through it?
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>that pic
Fitting, because it was the gospel that got me out of that rut.
Read the scriptures OP. Find daily devotions.
I recommend Charles Spurgeon's daily devotions. Uplifting, hard truths, hope in the morning and evening.
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i was depressed daily for two years, i guess i still am depressed but now i feel a lot better.
how i did it
>call ex
>argue with ex
>she hands phone to boyfriend
>we argue
>he talks some shit
>i grab my weed wacker, walk the 100-150 ft to his house and chuck it thru his window
>tfw frustrations relieved over him cucking me and her breaking my heart
>tfw got charged n have court due
>court looks bad because this is my 2nd probation breach in less than 3 months
>on an indictable offense
>will be 2nd time going to jail "because of her"
>still feel happy and not giving a fuck
my advice anon is whatever is bothering you, just destroy it. Seriously, annihilate it.
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>>17705648
I was born and raised catholic, went to catholic school for 13 years. I can't really identify with the faith at this point but I did appreciate the community it created. I guess my concern with it is showing up at a church and having people shove scriptures down my throat. I wish that community could exist without the bible.
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My ex-fiance had an affair for 4 months before I found out. I broke up with her on the spot but was able to forgive her after about 2 months... but it's 7 months later I'm still finding it hard to forgive myself for allowing myself to be humilated, degraded and disrespected like that. I feel like the biggest idiot in the world for putting that much faith in a person only to have them betray me. I know its stupid... but somehow its harder for me to forgive myself than it was to forgive her.
So I asked out this girl. She says she wants to; but she's trying to start a relationship LDR with someone and she's waiting for his answer.
What should I do?
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>>17705590
Do you have any advice spiderman?
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Instant no.
You're the second choice and always will be.
I'm stuck on a plane for the next 13 hours and my seatmates are a mega /pol/tard and an extremely far left black feminist. How do I not go mad? These two retards won't stop arguing.
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Put some headphones on, buy some beer and motherfucking peanuts and just chill out.
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Recite the plane scene in your head and picture they are the hired guns.
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>>17705468
Put head phones on and listen to music.
so my gf is really shy about sex. she doesnt want her roommtes to hear. its keeping her from fully enjoying sex. Is there a good way of either reassuring her she can be as loud as she wants or is there a cheap way we can be completely alone together. i dont wnat to spend like 100$ just so we can fuck in peace.
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Forgot to mention. She's really loud or atleast she wants to be which is the problem.
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She can't be as loud as she wants. People who shout the fucking house down during sex when other people are in are knobheads.
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>>17705546
This. If you want privacy, get an apartment together. Otherwise, drive outside city limits and fuck in the back on your car.
That's what I did throughout highschool.
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Legit question: am I "privileged" if I got a full-ride academic scholarship?
I graduated 6 years ago, and my friend says I just don't understand what he has to deal with because of it. I feel that I worked hard.
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It doesn't matter, what matters is that you can't relate to someone who didn't get one.
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>>17705408
Your friend needs to pull his head out of his ass. It's not like someone just scooted up to you and said: here, have a free scholarship!
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>>17705445
>. It's not like someone just scooted up to you and said: here, have a free scholarship!
That sounds literally what happened
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I need some relationship help,
>Been dating my gf for 3 months
>she's still a virgin
>she's never had a bf before because of her 6 older bros
>she's super into her family, they all are really close
>everything is going great we talk on the phone every night for hours and see each other as much as possible.
>our dates are really long
>her mom likes me
Only problem is she flakes out on dates a bunch. We were supposed to go out on my day off but she called it off because her dad asked her to bake with him. Shes canceld about 3 dates in the first few months. She says she really likes me all the time and mentions plans for the holidays and shit.
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Just bee your self :)
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>>17705335
When she flakes out for a family thing, invite yourself.
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Holy shit OP are you me
>Had a crush on this girl for a while
>Fuck it I' m asking her out
>First dates we do cute and fun stuff
>Find out her sister is like a replacement mom (both her parents always worked all day long)
>Gf has a stranger thing with her dad. She is always calling him, mebtioning him in random conversaciones, she even listens to the same music he does
>She cannot make any decistion wothout their consentment
>She confessed she was a Virgini, never masturbated, etc
I evnetually gree tired of her because she was basically a little girl with no ambitions in life. She did evnetually let out her horny side but it was too late into the relationship
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I need to know if I'm being totally unreasonable or not. This girl I'm dating frequently wears a giant sweater, like in pic related. My problem is that it's literally all she wears when she wears them. The sweaters nearly go down to her knees, and she'll go out like that. Am I totally unreasonable to have a problem with this? She's covered and all, but she's not wearing a shirt, or pants, or even underwear under the thing, and will just go through her day like that.
Is this a total slut move, or am I over-reacting?
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She's a slob who can't take care of her looks and is too lazy to do laundry
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>>17705319
that has to be the most prudish and slutty outfit all at the same time
you should be thankful other guys have nothing to look at, and when the moment strikes you can take her into the bushes to bust a quick nut
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>>17705319
Hot af my man
I'd try to convince her to wear underwear at least