I got married a few weeks ago, and I'm already getting to

I'm genuinely at the end of my tether and I can't handle it. When things were good, they were great. We have loads in common, constantly speak about the future and laugh constantly. Now, I can't be bothered coming home because I'm sick of her constant nagging, complaining and general laziness. I don't know how to explain this to her, because I get the feeling it's just going to go in one ear then out the other. She seems to love trying to talk down to me, start an argument then play victim. I've never completely lost my temper at her but I'm starting to get very close.
She loses her temper all the time if I try to say that I'm doing stuff without her, for example I'm going away with work next week and me and the guys decided we are going to go to a theme park while we are away, and she started shouting etc being like 'why did you even tell me, I never get to go places like that' etc. I won a jacket in a shop the other week, and she started trying to argue with me in front of all the staff being like 'you don't even need a jacket, I do, you should give it to me' and it was honestly one of the most embarrassing things. I went back to the shop later to try and get it in the womens version to avoid argument, and they wouldn't change it. Again, further embarrassment.
How can I speak to someone who doesn't want to listen? My original plan was to basically say 'I can't deal with this for the rest of my life, and I'm going to leave you if you don't change your attitude to me' but I know that she's just going to try and blame me. I need help speaking to her, for the sake of our very short marriage. I can't go on like this. What advice can you give me?
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tl;dr
>Got married recently
>Wife nags, complains, starts arguments constantly
>Doesn't listen when I tell her to change her attitude
>Don't want to be around her
>Can't deal with that bullshit for the rest of my life
>How do I get her to realise how she is making me feel so we don't end up getting divorced soon

just dealing with an immature brat. your fault as much as her. 20 is not a time to get married... 25 when you have your shit together is better.

>>17709225
Talk with her. Not AT her as you suggest. See a marriage counselor.

Your biggest problem as a couple is that you have never defined the relationship and therefore have different expectations from it.

And you are not innocent in this. The very fact that you are "keeping score" on how much you do for her or how much of the bills you pay, and even how much fuel you expend driving her to work says that you have a warped sense of marriage, just as she (in different ways) has.

The two of you have to get on the same page to get along, and that's what counselors do well.

>>17709353
OP your wife is getting to comfortable in the relationship. Everytime you threaten to leave and don't you weaken that threat. Add marriage to it and it ineffective.
The reason why you argue and she doesn't listen is because you are arguing in a way where she thinks she has an option. She's the type of wife that needs someone to grab her reigns. Stop getting in a arguement and tell her the way things are going to be and follow through. Shred her card and tell her not to get a new one because you arent paying for her fuck ups anymore. As for the driving you have to fix that yourself. Get her driving situation fixed or make her quit her job.
When she does stupid stuff like that in the mall, you have to match her audacity without getting emotional. I would've told my wife to shut up right in front of everyone. And then left her there and ignored her if she was still acting up. Especially if I was her ride.

What you describe is marriage. I have been married 19 years and it is exactly as you describe. Constant bitching and nagging. It won't change, only gets worse. The not driving part is over the top. She needs to learn to drive. That is actually a psychological disorder meant to tie you to her.

>>17709927
Yes a lot of marriages end up that way but its troubling that his marriage is this way after 3 months. That way to soon. Maybe a year or 2 at the least.