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It just means the person saying it doesn't "get" you. You're probably introverted, smart, want to talk about deeper things than reality tv and makeup / cars.

This girl in my social circle always said I put her to sleep but she was an alcoholic and on amphetamines all the time, lots of tattoos, no education or interest in the real world.

Not a huge loss to me considering you are a combination of the top 5 people you interact with.

Don't get butt mad about it. And actually, consider yourself lucky. Aim higher my buddy.

>>17710703
i think it depends on what a person is looking for in a relationship. most women my age will find a guy boring if he isnt fun to be around, so essentially they are looking for party type people. i always hear girls saying they want a guy who is up for a laugh and banter. personally i look for someone that is nice, up for doing things and can provide decent conversation.

For me, boring means unpassionate. Not dispassionate, but unpassionate. As in without drive, passion, or motivation. If you're doing things you're passionate and excited for life you aren't boring.

>>17710668
>mostly As and Bs
>fear of going under a 2.5 due to one class
Something isn't adding up here.

>>17710674
Ok, so maybe I won't go under 2.5 if i just fail CA, but it still makes me feel like a failure every time i walk into the class. I can't drop it, becauae then I wont have enough hours to continue to receive funding. So I'm stuck going to this class, trying to teach myself, through the book, and when i participate in class, i sound like an absolute moron.

>>17710682
You sound like you know exactly what to do, but you sound like you're having delusions caused by your insecurity.

Not a guy, but it sounds like he's respecting your decision to not have sex but would also definitely date you if given the chance. Your situation sounds a lot like my husband and I when we were first dating.

Also, if you're getting the connection error, it's probably because you're trying to post in the popup window. It seems to have problems, especially if you use adblock. To make it work, copy it from the window and paste it into the form at the top of the thread, and it should work fine.

>>17710624
>the popup window
What do you mean the popup window? Anyway, I pause Adblock and yes, it stop telling me that, thanks!!

And, I didn't understand the part of "date you if given the chance"? I was kind of shocked when I met him bc he is like the kind of guy I would definitely consider and I told him that (I kind of regret that and not, honestly, but it was like a very weird thing to me atm and I couldn't help it). He told me he appreciated my honesty and keep being very respectful. And it was in that moment when he told me he want to know me better and that he find me very interesting, so... it have been like a lot of things said and really little of something done (we have seen each other three times in two months).

I'm not used to a slow pace in flirting, that's why I'm confused.

>>17710624
Well, not dating, but you know what I mean. When we were on the verge of it.

:(

>>17710597
>Does this qualify as sexual abuse? What's your opinion?
I don't know if I'd call it abuse. But it's almost textbook sexual assault if true.

As a guy I'm not really sure how I'd respond to a similar situation. Like I'm just passed out drunk and wake up with someone jacking me..

>>17710597
Yeah, it's sexual abuse. Just forget it, don't ever contact him ever again. If you really can't get it off your mind, then go to therapy, but as a last ditch effort.

Some guys believe they're entitled to do what they want to women who are in a bad position, were exes, etc. That's just life.

Pretty normal man. I was dating a girl for a month and that helped me engage myself more. What I did was focus on the body, her breathing, and how much I was lusting after her. It also helped that we were building an emotional connection, because that's important for me. That helped make the sex better after every encounter

>>17710602
In addition to focusing on her, you learn to forget about everything else and bring out your animal instinct. Remember. The human body is designed for food and sex, your body will make it work

>>17710602
>>17710605
Also, erections are powered by the parasympathetic nervous system, otherwise known as the unconscious part of the nervous system. The same system that powers your breathing and digestion. Learn to relax and do what I said above and focus on HER. Try not fapping for a while do your body can resensitize to human interaction

>>17710591
Don't. Just go, have a drink and you'll know by the end. Be flirty, confident and follow up with another night out in a day or two.

>>17710599
How soon is too soon for a second meet up if all goes well?

>>17710606
It depends on your read of the girl. But following up the next night doesn't sound unreasonable.
>Femanon, I had a great time drinking fruity alcoholic drinks with you last night. It was great to catch up and get to know you better. You better get that vaginal fungus under control before your cooter falls out
Or something, with humorous tone that she can't refuse to not respond to.

>be in library
>empty spot happens to be behind a girl I was seeing last year
>haven't really seen her around after the first day of uni this year, I changed my major
>anyways, sit behind her in the library
>don't really stare at her
>she notices me
>leaves the library
Wtf? What did she mean by this?

I don't think she had a class to go to either. I know her timetable because she sent me one in the beginning of the term

>>17710581
It means she doesn't care to be around someone she had a "thing" for. For whatever million reasons she could have.

Dude, how the fuck are we really supposed to know? You didn't tell us anything about the nature of your "seeing" her. How it ended. Why it ended. If you cared at all.

>>17710584
Well we were the same majors last year, so we took a lot of classes together. She subtly asked me out for valentine's day too, on the weekends leading up to the day

It just naturally ended because I changed my major, we didn't take classes anymore. She seems too busy with all the labs and shit.

Last time I was talking to her on snapchat, told me she could come see her if she wants. But I was already home by then lol. I showed her my timetable and she just stopped responding, idk

ily

>>17710516
gay facebook tier bs

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anon's first heartbreak? Don't worry, you'll get over it.

>>17710502
You must be retarded

>>17710502
are you under the impression that girls put on lipstick one time in their lives?

>>17710502
yes you will have herpes for the rest of your life

Are there questions that I could ask my bf that will make him realize he's throwing his life away? He's lazy, has no motivation, and i want to leave him, but at the same time I can't since I've spent many years with him. I'm lost and feel lonely. What should I do?

>>17710445
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>>17710445
How do you help children when you're not a relative?
Also get a tripcode.

>>17710320
Yes, focus on eating more fruit and drinking water. Do thirty minutes of exercise for the next week, whether this is running or weightlifting, anything works.

Don't watch porn and don't masturbate. At the end of the week you'll be harder than you've ever been before.

No need to thank me, have fun! :-)

>>17710357
This will work, worked for me

I fapped like 3 times in a row yesterday and 10 minutes later I got another raging boner. No fap is a meme

Bump. Anyone?

First, a tip for the future: Try not to get emotionally invested in girls so much before you actually have something going on with them. Do not fantasize about them, imagine a relationship, stalk them on instagram whatever. This will make it less painful when you end up getting rejected. Also, it will prevent you from getting too nervous around them and acting desperate.

Now for the whole "being heartsick" thing.

Personally, I try to socialize with other girls as much as I can. This is what helps me the most and I think a lot of other men feel the same. It helps to get your self confidence back up and makes it easier to forget her.
Other than that you should occupy yourself with other things. Physical activity is usually a good pick, especially because your mind won't as easily switch back to thinking about the girl as it will during non-physical exercise. Of course you have to make sure it's exhausting enough.

I'm sorry I can't give you the secret recipe against heartache, it's always the same advice. Give it time, take the chance to improve yourself, don't sulk on it, hang out with people, etc.

>>17710530
Thank you anon. I appreciate your advice. She's a good friend and I talk to her almost every day so it's very difficult for me not to be emotionally invested. I don't stalk her or do anything creepy except be as good of a friend as I can be but that's not exclusively her since I do that for all my friends... I'm able to cover it up really well when we're talking so she has absolutely no idea how I feel. At all.

Yes, I agree. I've been working out more and eating less because I just don't feel like doing anything else. I don't want to forget her, though. She's a great person and I like being in her life but I want to be more in her life, ya know?

Yup, that's all I can do it seems. Should I ever tell her?

>Can you love someone but want them to suffer?
No. They are not opposites, but they are not compatible.

>>17710216
I kind of disagree with the anon above me. I think you can obsess (not love) or be infatuated someone and want them to suffer, but it's unhealthy for you to feel that way. Love and sadism don't mix, but obsession and sadism do.

>>17710232
This sounds sensible, I think you could be right. I already though what I was feeling was unhealthy.

>>17710204
>Nobody knows what it means to be human anymore

you're edgy. read and study history. its always been the same. read will to power and realize that some form of government will always exist.

This society has actually made the cattle enjoy their enslavement meanwhile the other side of the world is on fire, people are burning alive because of our selfish actions here in the first world.

again, this has pretty much always been the case. the only difference now is that people want money to buy the latest i phone rather than because they need to survive.

Since when were material objects more important than people?

since we figured out that if we use people to gather resources it can give a select few people more freedom.

Why are we being rewarded for not thinking outside of the box and continuing to not question this piece of shit RP we all live in?

there are tons of academic people that do this, problem is that they are mostly edgy and extremely liberal like you.

>>17710231
>you're edgy. read and study history.
lol you fucking pleb money has only been around for 8000 years. lern history you fuck.

>again, this has pretty much always been the case.
Actually it pretty much always hasnt been the case since modern society is only a couple of hundred years old. Before that point you could live off in the forest in your own private village for many generations without anyone fucking with you.

>Since when were material objects more important than people?
Hurr durr you are a fucking idiot if you think material objects like cars and iphones give you more freedom. Cars reduce your lifespan, cellphones reduce your lifespan and fucking brainwash you.

>there are tons of academic people that do this, problem is that they are mostly edgy and extremely liberal like you.
The academic system is built on the prussian sysem from nazi germany meant to brainwash people into subservient slaves just dumb enough to stamp a time card and not question anything, so you.

>>17710231
I hope you enjoy your shitty fucking Role Play that you refuse to question until you fucking die and realize your entire fucking life was a lie.

You didn't think this through, did you?

>>17710200

How much do you know her?

>>17710200
be casual, ask her how her day has been, get a conversation going. if you get on with her, and its obvious that she enjoys talking to you, ask her out after a week or so.