Confidence

Say something or make a gesture to someone randomly in the street. Get used to talking to random people.

>>17708896
That's a good tip, for sure. But I can do that part. It's actually talking to someone that either knows me or will know me longer than a few minutes that terrifies me. It's like I'm scared they'll discover I'm a boring/bland/shit person or something.

You have to understand that confidence is built by being competant at things. Meaning doing something over and over again.

Start small with interaction. Do you have anyone at work you can chat to?

>"I'm scared they will think I will be a boring person"

People don't really think like this, they focus on the interesting parts of you, not the boring ones that are in your head. People simply aren't thst judgemental either, maybe you are projecting something you do yourself on to others?

I used to think like that at least.

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>>17709290
>People simply aren't thst judgemental either, maybe you are projecting something you do yourself on to others?
A few of the people I'm around, and one of them being someone I live with, are judgemental to what I consider an absurd degree. I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt, but a good portion of the people I'm personally stuck around tend to be the opposite. I'm worried that you might be wrong on this, but none of us read minds so who knows for sure.

>You have to understand that confidence is built by being competant at things.
That's a good way to put it, and it makes sense. I'm not confident with much of anything, though- even with things I'm competent at. Maybe my lack of self confidence stems more from an irrational fear of failure than anything else? If that's the case, I should work on getting rid of that. Maybe I need to go out and fail a lot at something in front of other people and get over the fear of humiliation. It's weird though, because growing up I was very, very used to public humiliation. I think that might be why I'm avoiding it so hard now.

I can talk to some people at work, but nothing outside of work-related stuff, usually. Maybe I can try to start more conversations about unrelated things and see what happens. That might be a good first step, thanks.

Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

>>17708800
"Everyone fucking loves me, anyone who doesn't is a fucking weirdo/asshole."
if you actually begin to believe that you'll have confidence out the wazoo. combine that with some red pill and you should do fine.