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It's hard to distinguish a person's true intentions in a relationship, a person's mind can change like a switch from being faithful to being a cheater. It's all trial and error in the dating game.

>>17712956
>beautiful girl
post pig you uggo, friends and family probably just dont want to hurt you.

Just have sex with a guy that you think, is the right one. If he isnt, fuck it. Shit happens. You will dislike it but you cannt change it.

Dont worry. You will be fine.

>>17712903
are you black kek? yes you should be.

>>17712911
Yes I am black

Why do you even want kids? Life is pain, why subject more people to this flawed world just so they can suffer and die?

>I'm a drama llama who thinks it's funny to act like a retarded 12 year old in front of other people, but it's a lot less funny when other people do it.
Congrats, you're growing up. Get your ass to Macy's, buy some nicer clothes, and get a boyfriend with a car and a job.

>>17712867
We're actually both college grads with jobs; he's looking to rile the party up through drug use and outlandish behavior and I've lately been caught in the puddle splash. Also I've been dating him for two years, I'm not just going to "get another model".

talk to him about how he's acting in public and how it bothers you. You can't expect him to change if he doesn't even realize that his behavior is annoying you.

>>17712856

Did the math based on what? Broke people date all the time and some women are fine with paying their part on dates. I'd imagine a long term escort arrangements costs hell of a lot more.

>>17712856
Interesting math you got there, care to post the numbers?

>I did math based on something I don't have enough data on.

I can sit here and shit numbers onto a spreadsheet about how much it'll cost to fly a rocket to the moon vs. building a really long ladder, but it would still be retarded and incorrect.

>I'm mentally damaged from an event I didn't witness and wasn't really part of.
I'm glad that you found an excuse for being a fun-sucking sloth, but I guarantee you that literally everyone went through this moody horseshit when they were teenagers. That's why adults won't take you seriously. Somewhere like 3% of the population has real depression, but the internet has convinced you that 100% of it is somehow a sad, anxious, sexually deviant ball of fail. Anyway, the rest of the world doesn't give a shit. You're expected to get off your ass, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and man up.

>>17712807
You could try embracing stoicism; essentially embrace the fact that ultimately, we cannot control our emotions or how we feel, or our circumstances in life, but only the actions we take in light of those things, and thus that our actions should be our sole concern and the basis of our judgments about ourselves and our worth.

>>17712807

Almost had me until you mentioned casual sex.

It would be weird as people will see you as a needy cunt. It sounds like you need to work on communication, maybe start by going to events for your hobbies and meet people. There's plenty of lonely people out there OP.

>>17712751
pay for sex mang not hanging out.

Unless you hit rock bottom i would noy advise in doing so. Just go to the gym. Lots of people there and you'll have a commen goal so itll feel like you have actual friends. Dont even have to stay there alot,just maybe a few hours a day and youll be alright.

If you dont i will tell your mother about what you did to the sheets last night.

>>17712748
Tomorrow isn't today and today doesn't have to be yesterday.

>>17712784
:)

>>17712702
if this guy she is talking to lives in america and she has went to america then yeah she is probably cheating. if she is cheating, she probably never ended it with you because she didnt know if things would work with this american guy.

Sorry to say anon but from that info you sound doomed to fail

Once the trust is gone what do you have left

Hoe probably got raw dogged so if you stay with that dont hit it for a few days n take those sloppy seconds

Sorry bro

he's from Australia, from a town about 3 hrs from us

>>17712676
Get some friends.

>>17712676
Grow a shadowy nature.
Stay alone in the dark.
If you realize that words are meaningless, realize that people are dumb. They will mock what they can't understand. You can either make yourself understandable, or isolate yourself to the point where no one wil be near you go mock you.

>>17712676
Make them fear you yo the point that they wouldn't dare making fun of you again.
Worked for me.

>>17712675
There may be plenty of reasons to dump her - or, for that matter, for her to dump you. But keeping score on sexual histories is not one. With every day that passes the odds against your finding an untouched virgin (who is not that way because of serious mental problems) become greater.

Choose your girlfriends by legitimate considerations, not this one.

>>17712720
What makes a consideration legitimate or not.

>>17712729
If it actually has anything to do with the validity of the relationship nigga.

Having 7 partners is not in and of itself a sign of a bad or incompatible partner.

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>>17712651

He agreed, after all, he's supporting a 51 year old man whilst trying to live his own life. Not only that, but he's a huge annoyance to both of us. He does help out with cleaning here and there, but in the end, he's more or less just annoying, and personally, I haven't brought anyone over that didn't already know him being there because it's awkward as fuck to have to explain why a nearly senior citizen is living with us..

Anyway, after we sat down and talked to him about him getting the fuck out, he got his ass in gear for roughly 10-14 days. Then it was back to him staying up til 2am and then lying on the couch all day watching Netflix while playing on his phone.

I know this is going to sound fucked up, but how can I facilitate him getting kicked out faster without overtly doing so? At this point, I'd rather him not find a job and get kicked out by the end of December. He's perfectly qualified, he used to make 6 figures (which leads me to believe he was fired from his prior job and didn't retire because otherwise he could have just gone back at an equal or lesser pay, but yet here we are).

From what he's told both of us individually is that he has even applied at local grocery stores and hasn't gotten a call back, which might be bullshit or might not be, regardless, he hasn't found a job in a solid month of "looking."

I don't want him to find a job that will just let him scrape by paying the small amount of utilities and rent we pay at the house because that would entail him saving up for a vehicle and an eventual apartment (which is contingent on credit, which I'm sure his is fucked because he has a repo of a truck that was 2 years old at the time that he'd had for a little over a year; also, god knows what else he's fucked up in the meantime).

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>>17712654
This is going to sound callous, but is there any way I can prevent him from finding employment? Either directly or indirectly? I don't want to be there for the additional year of him scrimping together to get a vehicle and apartment, which would likely end up with him drinking it all away.

I'm just tired of him being here.

Here lately I've been keeping the volume on my computer real loud at night since I basically work evenings/nights, so I know I'm waking him up because I'll hear him go out to the garage at 2-4am to smoke a cigarette, even though he doesn't usually wakeup until 7-9am.


This isn't an issue of his last place to live, he has another daughter and 6 months ago he spoke of going to live with his brother in Georgia. He has plenty of options, both in terms of his resume and familial relations. But at the current state, he's just milking us for all he's worth.

PLS HALP

I HATE THIS SHIT.

IT HAS BEEN OVER A YEAR OF THIS SHIT.

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He's not the perfect roommate, either.

On several occasions, he has been caught:

>smoking my, or especially my roommate's, cigarettes without permissions
>drinking my liquor or the beer that my friends buy when they come over
>leaves the light on in every room where he isn't in
>leaves whole playlists worth of movies playing in the living room after he decides to go to bed - usually with the light on
leaves both the overhead light and vent feature active in the kitchen hours after he has produced either cinnamon rolls or biscuits
>leaves hordes of coffee cups filled with water that breed fruit flies like crazy that he constantly bitches about

All these things and plus both my roommate and I have spoken with him about multiple times in the yea+ that he has lived here, and yet he has still to alter his behavior.

Go to a different doctor? Did they actually look in your vagina like with an ultrasound or something? Also do you get wet? Going to a therapist might help. There are people that specialize in those issues.

>>17712619
I asked my regular doctor to sign me up for a proper psychologist, but I have to go to a hearing about it first, so we'll see after that. I went to a different gyno who looked at me with ultrasound, but could find nothing wrong. I don't know if I get wet because I have an extreme amount of discharge, so I am always "wet" anyways.

Vaginismus
It leads to a psychological aversion to sex
Your body reacts sexually, but when the situation arises your mind starts to panic and this message then goes to your body.
You tense up, get pain and then this reinforcees the response of pain=fear=tense=pain

It doesn't have to be from a single event like rape, can develop over years of this sort of reinforcement.

It's treatable, but is difficult.

>>17712560
consider moving to Africa
You have no chance in a white country, friend.

>>17712560
5'11 is pretty tall.
You can improve your shoulders, my boyfriend had really small shoulders but by going to swim every other day for a couple of years they improved a lot.
Now he has pretty decent shoulders, arms and back.

>there's nothing I can do about this situation

Buddy, get a better mindset, there's everything you can do to improve this situation, go out and do it.

Then pull out and do something else. Go down on her, make out and play with each other's genitals, tease her, etc. Change positions, slow down, think of something boner killing.

Actual penitrative sex (for me) can last anywhere from five to thirty minutes. sometimes an hour or more, but I'm not a huge fan of that.

I think it is a psychological block, sometimes I will be drunk and stop having sex before I've managed to cum

>>17712514
I get what you mean. I've had sex last hours and less than a minute as sad that sounds. But how excited are you? The more calm the longer you'll be

She's ugly as hell dude

>>17712525
Well I wasn't exactly asking you to rate my girl, now was I?

>>17712538
Do you make her take a paper bag on her head when you're fucking?