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>>17711751
jfc did you have to respond like a fucking scientist giving a diagnosis

>>17711758
Im not hugely socially inept in person, but holy fuck texting and its ilk dig deep and find the autism that lurks within.

>>17711764
just talk as you would in person, simple dude

ask her if she wants to meet up at a cafe or something, sounds like she's interested.

family comes first ass hat especially at that age. why not try and get to know her family better

>>17711755
She said meeting her family means we are super serious. Her mom likes me so far, and she says she wants me to meet them in the near future.

>>17711746
Show some fucking understanding maybe? I am not even a family person but this nigger is 70 years old, will probably kick the bucket in the next decade so it's obvious that she would spend time with him over some guy she's dating for 3 months. It's not like she cancels on you to hang out with Chad and Tyrone or even her girl friends.

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I don't know if you guys can see it but they were small blisters that now are unified. Its like im mutating.

>>17711745
Take some allergy pills and go to the doctor.

>>17711967
They're called hives. Its an allergic reaction. Benadryl or its generic will ease symptoms and probably prevent it from getting worse.

If your symptoms don't get worse and you can determine the source, no need for doc. If hives get a lot worse or you get shortness of breath go to ER or call 911. If available, utilize epipen.

I don't know. What do you think Admiral Ackbar?

Don't do it. You need to find out why she is saying this. Maybe she cheated and feels guilty about it and feels like giving you the offer will absolve her of that, maybe she feels like she's not making you happy or your relationship has halted but she cares enough about you to make herself feel like shit so that you're happy. Whatever the reason, it doesn't seem like it's coming out of nowhere. Get to the bottom of it.

Don't be naive, women ALWAYS play games. There's a reason she's saying that.

A friend of mine was tricked by his ex-wife into a threesome with another girl then she guilt-tripped him into letting her fuck two strangers at the same time.

>>17711732


Grooming your eyebrows, antiacne treatmnetnt, maybe growing some beard to change your face proportion.

Losing body fat

>>17711732
There are facial exercises but I never tried and never really got interested enough to research deep into it so I can't speak for effectiveness
But it's a thing that exists and there are forums dedicated to it

>>17711721
>I know guys are not THAT picky when choosing women to fuck
Bullshit. I don't care how horny I am, would never go below a 7. MAYBE a 6 when horny and really drunk.

>When you look at the flaws do you feel disappointed with yourself?
If I go for somebody below my standards, I am not in a state to think about it too much.

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>>17711742

>I don't care how horny I am, would never go below a 7. MAYBE a 6 when horny and really drunk.

>>17711721
When I lost my virginity (at 23) I was pretty much running on pure adrenaline and could only think about how exhilarating and terrifying it was. I felt strong feelings forming towards the girl too, she was so cool and caring about it, probably the greatest act of kindness I've been afforded.

For a little while I had the wrong condoms and couldn't cum. I enjoyed making her feel good and would think about her facial expressions more than anything. I would worry that my lack of pleasure would ruin things for us.

When we started fucking regularly, a weird thought I would have was how bad stale saliva smelt, I dwelt on it for a little while and it sucked. Other than that, I was thinking about how great it felt, and of course, wether or not she was enjoying it too.

Once we got into our rhythm, and I had the right rubbers, I felt like a fucking god; light, elated, unstoppable, amazing. The good sessions made me feel exalted, I thought every part of her was gorgeous and tasted like heaven, even the soles of her feet, even her asshole. I couldn't get enough of her, I would feel how liquid smooth the skin on her back was and just imagine sinking into it while taking her from the back.

Once the good sex gave way to bad sex I started to feel anxiety, not like virgin adrenaline, just plain old 'oh god, she's not enjoying this but I'm too tired and frustrated to not cum'. I used to feel guilt for fucking poorly, which made it even harder to enjoy myself. I felt shame when her pussy wouldn't get wet.

It ended after that.

You're bad for not breaking up with her first, which is the obvious answer. You won't be happy with someone who doesn't meet your needs.

>>17711715
>loving relationship
you're not on a loving relationship from what I can tell, you got big issues, the road to a good relationship is a good sexual life.

Now, you had issues with sexual matters and it seems like she didn't want to try, which was probably caused by other issues in the relationship.

She was cold towards you and even more after leaving, but you're even a bigger dick for cheating on her.


Was this once per week thing always there since the start?
Or did it started midway into the relationship or something?

>>17711769
Only when we started having sex. Three months into dating. Random blowjobs and oral was pretty much whenever I wanted it, but sex way less frequent. I don't know if she just doesn't like sex in general (both virgins) or if I'm just shitty in the sack. I make her cum all the time through oral but PIV just doesn't get her rocks off I guess.
Outside of sex we have a pretty great relationship though. She's an awesome person.

Time and others.

That's the bottom line.
It sucks but that's how it works.

One day you'll feel like shit over someone, then the next you'll meet someone and forget why you were ever so upset about the first

>>17711703

Don't let the feeling fester. Move on fast and keep looking.

I wish I could help you, but I can barely help myself.
Though you just might think it's not the end of the world and this rejection must be seen as experience, so you can deal better (and also succeed) in the future.

>>17711699
You sound like a cunt. Expect your roommate to have left by this time next week. You won't have to worry about what's on TV when he's gone and you can't afford a TV at least, so things are looking up!

>>17711699
Time for a therapist.

>>17711699
i hope your roommate moves out, your edge would be unbearable to live with.

>>17711668
You sound like you're happiest when working towards a greater cause.

Have you considered volunteer work in third-world countries, refugee camps or disaster areas?

I'm not even memeing.

U got a snap
I'll add you if you tell me

>>17711668
Yeah, talk.
I'm drunk and therefore gregarious beyond my means to satisfy.

Job sucks. That's how it works. But you got a shit job. What are you doing to make it better?

No friends? Definitely try to fix that. It's going to need you to go beyond your comfort zone, but it's worth it.
Friends happen in strange places, but you need to risk.
No risk, no reward.

And practice relieves anxiety.

I want to elaberate a few things. The doctor did not formally have me tested but reccomended antifungal cream. And the itching comes and goes, still a bit of redness.

Please please some normie god fearing anon reply

Come on /adv/, dont fail me here when I need you

>>17711587
Don't know how feasible it is, but I can tell you that banks have long memories and we're becoming more interconnected these days. Maybe Bank of America couldn't touch you decades ago but they might have deals worked out with foreign banks

>>17711615
I'm considering shit like the money tree and paycheck loans as well. Maybe a school loan but I don't know if they're cash. I'm leaving the country either way.

>>17711625
Oh, I think those places are used to people not paying back

bump. can anyone help?

Getting over is not about the person, but about what you feel for her.

In that case, you should think to yourself if you know her enough to feel what you feel, of if you just hope she is something you wish/miss.

In any case, getting to know other girls (even if not romantically) should help, and as I always say, there's this technique called "Emotional Freedom Technique".

I don't think its your case, but you can use EFT if you wish to.

Hope I helped. I'll stick around this post for a while, if you happen to respond I'll keep on helping.

I just thought I'd get over her by now but it's still lingering. I got a somewhat nasty history with girls and I thought she would be my type. At the beginning of the school year I started to get my shit together and actually dressed nicely with a good haircut.

I just can't stop thinking about it really. Maybe I need to do some decluttering around the house and that will free my mind. It's like there is an alternate reality where I actually did get with her and everything is fine, but I'm stuck in the 'bad' reality where it will never get better. Like I must do X before I do Y. I'm still stuck on X

>>17711518
Doesn't seem bad, what's the problem?

Also, use the real emojis. :p looks spergy

>>17711518
I mean it depends how long you guys have been talking

Nothng wrong with that response. If you think hes cute, talk to him. Dont ignore him because he will just next you

I just ask them about their interests and it seems to work. A lot of them will talk forever if you ask about their hobbies. It might be a little personal and awkward on paper but I've never had an issue.

your instincts are correct, it's transparent and weird to just talk to people out of nowhere. Well, to be honest, I have known a few people who do this and get away with it, but i m o they're the weirdos, not us autists. Join a club, go to parties, etc. These are settings where people are TRYING to meet other people.

of course there's a cultural aspect to this too; I live in nyc where you don't talk to anyone you don't know generally, but in small towns or other countries I suppose this could be different

>it's just odd because I feel like I'm being told to draw a circle but I'm not given a pencil or paper.
welcome to life lol

>>17711493
So what's your opening line then? Surely you don't just go "Hi, I'm anon, (Insert question about random interest for the sake of conversation)?"

>>17711496
Can't go to a club because not 21, and not going to just stand around a bar with X's on my hands like an asshole. I've went to a few parties and am going to one tomorrow night, but they're always low number groups of like 12 people at most.

I've also looked into the clubs on my campus, but they're all women's studies/men of color (I shit you not)/frats/religious affiliation clubs.

Only remotely interesting thing is a shooting club but they are EXTREMELY overpriced.

First month they had a bunch of events but I didn't really meet anyone there. Not a lot of people showed up to those, to my surprise.