Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 3455. page

>>17733296
Personally it's very important, even if it's just shared hobbies.

My girlfriend and I both like video games, movies, eating out at restaurants, hiking, camping, walks, traveling, and reading.

As vanilla as these may be, they give us more than enough in common to never get bored on dates.

>>17733296
They are pretty important but not fundamental.
In the long term after you know all each other stories and you spent 6 minutes talking about your day, you will thank God for having common interests and be able to have a discussion about whatever. It is also cool when it comes to planning something to do during a date, so a shared hobby is usually nice.
One thing that saves that all is having the same sense of humour. I literally can shittalk for hours with my boyfriend. I think we haven't had a decent conversation through text in months.

>>17733296
Every couple should have some things they both love to do or be involved with, some things one loves and the other doesn't mind, and somethings they do/love separately without trying to involve the other.

The trick is finding the balance.

What the fuck

Yes, you are and the vast majority of people do

>>17733295
I haven't felt any attraction towards the past 6 dates I went on wtf and they all have been "pretty" girls


Maybe I'm just gay?

i think maybe talk about it. not accuse him of liking someone else, but maybe that you are feeling a little bit neglected and/or jealous of this other person.

if he says they are just very good friends, honestly i would say on principle to trust that, unless it goes further. but guys are not to be trusted t b h.

>>17733280
oh, and only do this if it's been going on for like over a month. otherwise you will seem clingy and overprotective and jealous.

a few years ago, i had a girlfriend, and i met this fantastic girl in one of my classes. she approached me cos she thought i was cool (i had a great hoodie that displayed how depressed i was ha ha). we became best friends immediately, we clicked on so many levels and it was great. she was a fantastic friend.

i was loyal to my gf, i had no other intentions except to spend time with this new great friend (i dont have things in common with many people).

after about 2 months, she told me she had to stop talking to me because her bf was jealous, and she loved him.

it was super shit because if that didn't happen, we would have easily been lifelong friends. she has been lost to the ether.

that's what i hate most about life. i hate that sometimes you have to mourn the loss of a friend.. and they aren't even dead.

>>17733305
what kinda hoodie was it

She tells me that she sees this working out for sure in the long term but right now she needs to go out and be single. I can kind of see her point but to make matters worse she doesn't want anything to change. She wants to keep seeing me like she has been which is pretty much as a couple (dates, staying over at hers nearly every night, house sitting for her, helping eachother out with problems we don't talk to anyone else about etc)

My issue is that I really like this girl but I'm not sure I will if she gets with someone else. I can't be expected to sit back and pretend everything's okay while she's out getting with other guys. The ultimatum I'm faced with is either continue having fun with this girl and accept that she's gonna be getting with other dudes or break it off completely and not know what could've been. What do I do? Am I over reacting?

I'm seeing her tonight and what I'm going to say is that if she wants me around she needs to prove it to me. It's either commit to me or don't have me at all. I'm not afraid to lose her because if she's willing to sacrifice whatever this is just do go out and be a slut then she's not worth having around anyway.

>>17733261
She cheated on her 4 year bf, she will do it again with u, specially if ur as stupid as u sound. She is not relationship material

>>17733263
>she sees this working out for sure in the long term but right now she needs to go out and be single
>right now she needs to go out and be single

Anon, what makes you think you're the only guy she's come across during her 4 year relationship with her (ex?)bf? This girl is the definition of a red flag. Abort mission

>>17733191
is that all they said? no advice on how to deal? no medication? the fuck kind of shit doctor is that?

see a different doctor and actually ask them to help.

drink water, take painkillers etc etc

really try to slow down and take deep slow breaths

>>17733191
Sounds like panic disorder

>>17733154
you should see a doctor you idjit.

phimosis? my phimosis only hurts when who i'm with isn't wet enough or my dick isn't lubed up enough. once its all wetted up it feels great. condoms also eliminate the pain completely for me.

idk about the lump but you should be seeing a doctor anyway to see about what options you have, since it seems to actually be affecting your sex life.

or maybe just drown your dick in lube when starting out. but you still need to see a doctor for your lumpy dick. since it's not always there you might need pictures.

It should not hurt you. You should have been peeling back your foreskin all this time to wash there in the shower. Your father should have told you this at some point in your life. The first time you peeled it back shouldn't have been when you had sex.

>However, when I jokingly put my dick into her (all of the sex happend in the same evening), it didn't hurt either. And I'm sure she was not wet then.

Literally what? How you did you jokingly put your dick in her dry pussy? Sounds like rape, dude.

I made another topic back on /gif/ with real masturbators, there's more info in that thread:
>>>/gif/9545902

>>17733550
When I look at Google or Wikipedia, the pics tell me that the pens gets thinner in the middle when erect which is not the case wth me. It does not seem as tight anyway.

When I use condoms, it affects my foreskin cuz it retracts it and, thus, can hurt. Although I might as well give it another shot.

>>17733602
Well,

>You should have been peeling back your foreskin all this time to wash there in the shower.
I kind of do, I peel it back, but not all the way cuz it didn't seem to be required. I didn't know what was normal and not and I just pulled it back till it hurt...

>Your father should have told you this at some point in your life
Quite the delicate subject for both of us, I guess. When I was smaller, yea, he told me to. But I jus said "ya i did" and that was it. I was under the assumption that even seeing the glans penis was enough. How should I have known back then?

>How you did you jokingly put your dick in her dry pussy? Sounds like rape, dude.
Because we were both naked and I "fuck" with her all the time. It's literally nothing serious, it's just joking around and we do this all the time. Don't worry too much about that part.

>>17733085

>Why do you think you're lonely?
I'm a depressed piece of shit with zero self esteem who doesn't want to subject others to my toxicity

>What kind of relationship are you looking for?
I'm not. At this point, I don't even known what I'd do in a relationship, like it doesn't even sound fun. Quite the opposite, actually. Why would I want someone around who is constantly looking for attention and wanting to spend time together?

>What would you like to know?
What's the point? Like I said above, why would anyone want to be with a constant pain in the ass. Who wants to deal with all that stress?

>What do you think is holding you back? I'm a depressed piece of shit with zero self esteem who doesn't want to subject others to my toxicity

>or have anything else to say about relationships in general?
90% of couples I see are miserable, and all one does is complain about the other.

>Why do you think you're lonely?
Well, I just got out of a relationship. But, I've been managing it pretty well. A few initial breakdowns but I'm doing okay.

>What kind of relationship are you looking for?
Something very casual, not at all serious. I don't want phone calls before bed, or good morning texts. I just want a reliable booty call for the current time being. But, I'm not even looking at the moment, really just trying to focus on myself
>What would you like to know?

>What do you think is holding you back?
A lot of physical appearance stuff I'm working on.
>or have anything else to say about relationships in general?
I think I'm too selfish at my current point in life to have a relationship to worry about.

>Why do you think you're lonely?
I'm 23 and haven't had a serious, long-term relationship. I also haven't had sex with a woman, and that makes me feel unlovable sometimes.

>What kind of relationship are you looking for?
I want to explore my sexuality with someone who makes me feel attractive.

>What would you like to know?
How to tell the difference between romantic and friendly interest.

>What do you think is holding you back?
Lack of self-confidence, assuming I'll come off as inexperienced and undesirable no matter what I try.

>>17733043
If you have money, why not train martial arts? get a trainer or go to Thailand and train at their muay thai gyms. Do some amateur fights and maybe go pro.
It's better than doing nothing with your life and you'll feel alot better

>>17733112
Are you retarded?

>>17733121
Are you?

>>17733025
Alot of people do this. Building a little fantasy from a minor encounter. Sounds like its all you got though homie. Build a bigger relationship with someone and you might fantasize less about your brief interactions.
Good you do that though, i think. Use it as an energy to pursue something with the next one.

>>17733025
hahaha i do this too dw i think there's millions of us

>>17733025
You need to think and keep your head cool. It's difficult but it can be done. You need to control your feelings and dismiss them when you know they are caused by something not intended to cause them, like a girl saying hello to you.

This, and experience. Eventually you'll become too worn out and become more jaded. At this point you either become a bitter loser or you keep trying while knowing to be reasonable.

>>17732993
no more porn. i mean it. you can still jack off, but no more porn.

>>17733057
Haven't watched porn for a month now

>>17733057
anon speaks the truth
there really is no reason to when you have several booty calls on deck at any given time, anyway

For the love of God talk to her. You won't find out other way. Next time your eyes catch just smile and make some small talk. Her gazing MAY be a sign of interest, but unless you talk to her you can't be sure.

File: pooinloo.png (47KB, 853x665px) Image search: [Google]

47KB, 853x665px

>>17732984
It could be anything. For instance, maybe you have poo on your shoe m8

>>17734135
LOL
>>17732984
Just talk to her next time you see her! You have nothing to lose at all

>>17732894
Try wearing a scarf, whenever you howl, you can muffle yourself with it.

>>17732894
lmaooooo

>>17732894
Just when you think you've heard it all..... along comes The Walrus.

When I've finished laughing I might think of something helpful, I might be a while.

You should try doing charity work on your free time, helping others will show you that not everybody want to hurt you, people will be kind with you and will thank you.
Just, don't hang yourself, good people haven't to die. Survive so you can show those guys who's got the strongest mind

What type of person are you? There's two types of people who I can think of as attractive bullying. Those are the short-tempered guy who doesn't understand friendly interaction or teasing, and the small weak guy who is very aggressively assertive/creepy. Not saying that's all there is.

>>17732823
Maybe I'm a mixture of both? the difference is I've learned to just shut my mouth over the years and I rarely talk anymore, i just shut off most people around me. also my temper flares once you get it going, hence the amount of fights I've been in.

how do I just stop it all? should I just be completely cold towards everyone so nobody talks to me and I can finally be left alone?

>>17732695
Reading. Also practice and more reading.

you gotta put yourself in the right environment. you want to write and think more fluidly? become a mermaid. live in the ocean. everything about your life will revolve around fluids.

You have to read more if you want to be a good writer. Are you taking creative writing classes or are these just scholarly writing courses?

>>17732325
Proceed to use it as a crutch and excuse for your shitty behaviour for the rest of your life. Like most with bpd

>>17732374
I don't use it as an excuse. I've stopped going out often to stop exposing my behaviour to people. And when I do go out I'm off my ass on sedatives so I don't lash out at others

>>17732325
shit sucks op, prepare for a life of enormous and constant disappointment without having any remedy.

I have it too and I pretty much gave up on dating, going out, and pretty much anything else because it's difficult enough for me to focus on keeping my decent job so I can have a roof over my head.

It could be worse though, sometimes suffering is better than being dead