Obsessive idiot

A few days ago I'm stretching against a wall and she walks up to me and we have a nice talk, she asks me about my competitive results and is really impressed, shes really animated and does a lot of that looking down/up on me, smiling and shrugging and all those little signals. She even flexes in front of me, inviting me to feel her bicep. She spends the session looking at me lots when im not looking etc. This wakes up the obsessive part of me. When I get home, and ever since then I end up wondering what shes doing all the time and feeling generally low over not knowing if I'll be able to get her and finally end this streak of loneliness with a woman Im so stimulated by. These obsessive feelings are very disruptive to me. They ruin my life.

I did like how she seemed to be into me that session. But going without talking to her for a whole week made me feel kind of sad.

Today I walk in, we talk briefly. She mentions that shes really tired after the workweek. I talk to her a few times but dont feel the same thing as last time. Shes avoiding eye contact, seems low and doesnt seem as interested in how its going for me. She does briefly mention how easy a few training drills looked for me though. All and all she seemed colder. Going home this seemingly minute instance of my crushed me. And now I'm deep in the feels.

I'm not stupid. So I'm not gonna ask "Did she decide she doesnt want me?", but instead: How do I stop obsessing over women I like who start giving me attention. It fucks my life up every time it happens.

If you went all out with your personality on the first meet and had an explosive time. The second time is always gonna be less impressive, just be normal. Don't change your tone of voice when you talk to her, you'll find that things can bloom when you're just being normal.

>>17734871
I was acting normal. She was less shy than the other girls, it was the first time a girl had actually walked up to me and shook my hand and introduced herself. Perhaps I looked at her often that but I was mostly into my training, and I acknowledge that new girls often are nervous and tend to stick with the girl group in training so I give them space. Its always like that.

I was particularly smitten when a bunch of us went out to dinner after training a week ago, and was seated with her on the opposite side of the table. She struck me as intelligent, funny and insightful. I couldnt think about anything but her on my way home.

>>17734871
Today was roughly the fifth or sixth time I've met her by the way.

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