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>>17753883

19 is such a good age. I think the first thing is to realize that you're not a loser at all. So you haven't experienced something yet? So what? It doesn't mean you're not going to experience. And secondly nobody cares what you have and haven't done.

But I know how it feels, it doesn't matter what people think and it matters how you feel about yourself. So the important thing is to realize that just because you may not have been in a relationship or have experienced sex doesn't mean you're less of a person. It doesn't mean you've missed out on anything.

Step one is to stop comparing your life and experiences to other peoples life experiences
Step two is to find what you value and what you're passionate about and chase that
Step three is to realize what your shortcomings are and improve them


If you just want to have sex with someone, that is the easy part. But if you want to have a meaningful relationship with yourself and with a significant other that takes patience, courage, and hard work.

>>17753883

a lack of romance and sex doesn't make someone a loser. thinking you're a loser for it certainly does.

self improvement itself is a great path to be on so dont be mad that you're taking the time to get your shit together, you're not as late to the game as you think.

remember that what you see in public is just the sliver of them that is present at that moment. you dont see all the amazingly terrible shit that makes them think they're a loser too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=201C7kjrd5I

this video may seem unrelated but i promise its not. it highlights how we all have so much shit going on in our heads that we don't think about each other much... unless were thinking about fucking them. all were doing is comparing us all to each other for petty reasons

>>17753883
Lost my virginity at 23.

When I was 19, the thought of it was beginning to cause me anxiety. By the time I was 21, I was more secure with my virginity but it still made me uncomfortable. I confided in a few close friends and they were cool about it, they made me realise that I'm a person with qualities and value, outside of who I was fucking. I consciously made an effort not to reveal my virginity to my family and acquaintances, a decision I don't regret. Your sexuality is yours and it's important to remember that even if your experience lies outside of the norm, it's still unique to you. There's no real reason to feel shame about it; that's something projected on to you by others.

Ultimately I'm glad I waited; my first time was with a girl I cared about a lot, and I was able to be totally honest with her about my situation before we had sex. She was extremely understanding, patient and supportive. I was very lucky.

Though that luck, in part, is due to the fact that I waited. I would recommend doing the same. Society has men believe that they're running against a clock when it comes to their first nut, but we're not really. Take a load off of yourself and be patient, wait until your path crosses with somebody special, somebody who takes you for who you are, virginhood and all.

>>17753875

decide what is more important: being friends, or the possibility of romance.

then act accordingly.

>but how do i know!!?

there is no real answer. its literally just what you feel. its going to be conflicting.

my advice? just make a move. best case scenario of trying to be friends is that you sit there and let it fester inside of you for months or years but you cant let go of the feelings and then they explode out when its far too late and everyones time was wasted.

>>17753875

>What should I do if I like my friend but want to stay friends with her and don't want to risk that by making a move?

If you want ALL of those things at the same time?

Do nothing.

That is your only option.

>>17753898
Say I grow a pair and do ask her out or flirt, if she rejects me what should I do to try to stay friends?

>>17753813
surveying this thread because I too just cope with acne

you've tried a dermatologist?

>>17753825
yup, gave up after about 6-7 years of trying different products and medications

>>17753746

>how do i magic without unmagicing my magic

you dont. there is no magic option that makes them just not care.

>>17753746
>I'm afraid of getting yelled at.

You can start by growing the fuck up.

>>17753817
why do /b/tards spam the generic 'le grow up' advice as if it improves anything but their own shitpost count?

Try a thinner condom

>>17753758

I haven't been using any

>>17753741
Is it literally numb?You should see a doctor

>>17753665
Don't share it with them, or stop giving a fuck about their opinion about it

>>17753667

Sometimes I wish I could share the feelings I get listening to music by myself with others

>>17753665

start by sharing with internet strangers. this will help you learn what is good criticism and what is simply a matter of someones tastes.

then try to move on to showing friends. me personally, i dont bother showing my wokr to friends. everyones so judgy about stupid shit, everyone thinks their a critic.

showed my effects reel to a girl on tinder cuz she asked.
>OH WOW, I DONT MEAN TO BE RUDE BUT I THINK ITS AWFUL, MAYBE I JUST DONT GET IT BUT I THINK ITS BAD

this reel got me work at bad robot productions and the new power rangers movie mind you. its literally my calling card that gets me all my work.

showed it to one of my friends
>IT JUST LOOKS FAKE, LIKE OYU CAN TELL ITS NOT REAL
>ITS NO BIG DEAL I JUST SEEN SO MUCH I CAN TELL WHATS REAL AND WHATS NOT NOW

people suck

Yeah believe it or not, there's people who aren't autistic shut-ins

>>17753566
Well I'm very jealous. I try to just enjoy it but unless I drink copious amounts of alcohol it makes me feel stupid and awkward.

>>17753573
talk to people about things you like until you eventually find someone as enthusiastic as your topic of choice as you are.

Put it in your butt

>>17753554
>being raped as a small child
how big was his dick?

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>>17753563
idk I was like 5 y.o. so it wouldn't have to be too big to cause irreparable damage.

Stop thinking about her and move on.

Convince yourself to move on. Keep her memories in your heart, but nothing else. It's a long and painful process, took me 2 years, hopefully yours will be faster.
What you need now is stuff that can distract you from reality and help you escape. A good book, a series, a game, a hobby, friends, or alcohol. Buy a cactus, no idea why but it feels good. Personal experience: you're better off not talking about it to people non-anononymously.

>>17753547

I see her multiple times a week and that's not going to stop anytime soon

>>17753521
It's definitely better than "hi, how are you"

>>17753521
if you're not attractive no

>>17753527
Will I get the puss tho?

>>17753518
Become somebody she'd want to be together with.

>>17753529
No, you see, bitch broke up with me two months ago. Now she wants to talk about it, I am kind of neutral. But If it would work somehow, I would be ok with that.

>>17753557
she wouldn't want to be with someone who'd take her back, no girl would. That's weak, and beta-male material.

I'll talk about them when it gets brought up. That's about it really. Everyone stopped talking to me for completely different reasons.

>>17753446

i am not really big on politics. I have my opinions, but I don't usually discuss them. when I do and people disagree i end it with a 'i disagree, but i don't think you're 'wrong' either.'.

then i let them get a last word in. then i bring up something shallow like a movie or tv show or whatever.

closest I've had to an arguement was my roomamte
>did you vote
>me: no
>why not
>me: i dont agree with any of the candidates
>but its your civic duty
>me: its my civic duty to choose someone even when i don't like either candidate? doesn't not voting say more?
>no! you have to vote
>me: but what if im not educated enough on the majority of issues or don't think its my place to dictate how others choose on certain major issues
>its our job, its the reason we have a deomcracy.

lold all the way back to the couch.

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I was talking with a girl and she suddenly stopped all communication. My gut feeling is that she saw my FB profile and the type of things I think.

So I'm conflicted: do your political beliefs define you? Because in all honesty you could meet me and never guess how I think, and I believe that's how it is for most people. Some of my best friends are polar opposites of me politically yet all it ever does is fuel interesting conversations.

This has made me think maybe I should keep my political views to myself? Yet at the same time I think not only is that cowardly, but it also just sets you up for complications further down the line - surely the best policy is to be open and honest?

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>>17753380
>I'm afraid that the pressure I was exerting on my knees made my knock knees worse in just one week. Is that even possible? You can notice that I'm leaning to the right more in the recent photo. I took many pictures and it's all the same. I'm afraid this is because my left calf sticks out more.
>Is it even possible for knock knees to visibly worsen over 1 week just by exerting pressure on them? My knees have been hurting a bit during that week.
tl;dr no, leaning on one side doesn't make your knees worse

it is perfectly natural to lean more on your dominant side, everyone does it, it is also why you tend to fall to one side or put a hand out first when you fall.

You aren't making anything worse, it is all in your head, stop being a bitch.

>>17753752
I meant that I'm leaning to one side as a result of knock knees being worse? I said I was doing all those compulsive things like standing on one leg, walking on tiptoes or up and down the stairs, this is what got me worried
However the difference is just 1 week so I guess it is indeed only in my head

>>17753348
As a fellow 26 year old loser who has wasted his youth I can tell you that how you feel depends on what sort of person you are. I, for reasons I cannot figure out, had multiple women chase after me quite strongly when I was younger, flirting, touching me, and doing all sorts of shit all the time. However I was and still am so incredibly timid and spineless that the only thing I got out of it was an increased heartrate and a desire for them to go away. It wasn't that I didn't like them or didn't want them, but I was always too scared and awkward to make a move and that fear was what dominated my thoughts. So pretty shit to be honest family member of mine.

In the past couple of weeks it's just sunk in how badly I have fucked up my life. It might be time to kill myself honestly.

>>17753348
>>17753376

Hey I'm 26, too guys!

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You know that feeling you get when you're in an empty room, but someone is watching every move you make. It's like that mixed with an annoying little brother or sister copying your interests and mannerisms.
But when it's mutual, it's like a slow waltz to an inaudible symphony. Each step in sync and every moment of eye contact ends with a kiss, as sweet and sudden as sugared tea. Then you fuck and you find out she's into getting strangled and shit on, then that tea turns into a 40 of cobra malt liquor.
WILD LIFE

Do you already have a piano?
Why do you even need 3 violins. It's not like they come in different standard tuning, the timbre is just slightly different.
As a lutenist it makes sense because there's renaissance tuning in C, as well as a bass variant, and there are theorbos and baroque lutes. They come in different sizes and string numbers which can make certain repertoire much easier.

I would sell the violin and get a digital piano with midi function. Would be great to change the sound with so much freedom.

>>17753226
I've always wanted to play the violin. How does it feel?

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>>17753343
>Do you already have a piano?
No. I never played a piano. I just like the instrument.

>>17753343
>Why do you even need 3 violins.
It's just because the violin I have is not of the best quality.Pic related: the violin I'm usin atm

I've been looking at some auctions at eBay and a few seem very nice.

>I would sell the violin and get a digital piano with midi function.
I don't know anything about pianos.
I saw this one http://kurzweil.com/product/mps10/ in a store nearby and it feels good, they didn't sell it with the fancy stand but with an X-shaped stand.

>>17753359
I wouldn't know how to answer this.
I'm still a beginner so I am not the best person to answer either.