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The girl I'm dating wants to go to the cinema. The problem is, this is already our 4th date and I still haven't kissed her. I wanted to go for drinks since it's easier to do it in that environment. What do?
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>>17755272
How old are you? Like not asking to be condescending, but if you can get alcohol involved, then it makes things easier. Just don't get hammered.
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Kiss her after the movies.
Or be a man and just whip out your dick when the previews start and give her a big ol ;^)
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>>17755286
Where, in the cinema? Basically I've been feeling really low recently, lots of anxiety, depression... Just horrible altogether. I've postponed a lot of our meetings because of that. I don't like cinema either.
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>all the girls who are only into hooking up are chill, laid back, funny, cool, have interesting experience and are good company
>all the girls who are into long-term relationships are uptight, have no sense of humor, boring as fuck, basically future-trophy wives
why live?
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>>17755233
>>all the girls who are into long-term relationships are uptight, have no sense of humor, boring as fuck, basically future-trophy wives
but only to their partners, with their lovers they are chill, laid back, funny, cool, have interesting experience and are good company
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>>17755233
When you stop being a little boy and become a man you'll see things very differently.
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You're right, existence is now totally pointless. Women were all life had to offer.
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Is it absolutely required to pull my foreskin all the way and uncover my penis tip, to have sex?
I can fap alright without doing it but if I do pull my foreskin too much it hurts like hell.
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You need to google phimosis friendo
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Clean your fucking dick OP.
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>>17755262
I see.
I'm 22, I assume this can still be fixed right?
Either way, my question is still is this really 100% necessary for sex?
>>17755266
I do, I just really hate doing it because it's painful as all fuck.
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What's up adv . Couple days ago I posted here talking about how gf broke up with me, went no contact for a month, then she sent me a message telling me she misses me. Well today I found out that she has another dude already. Why would she say she misses me when she has someone else ? Screen shots boys
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Her friend posted this picture and that's how I found out
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Some people are cunts would be the standard answer.
She might be trying to hedge her bets, if shit doesn't work with her new man she always has her trusty old anon to come back to.
Or she might really miss you and that guy is just a cheap replacement she is trying.
Either way I can think, she seens like a not so good person and you should just ignore her from now out, shouldn't even have sent her second message to be honest.
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>>17755202
i didnt want to send it but for me i guess it was some kind of closure i suppose. That entire we were apart i forgot about her and i focused on my studies. but when she hit me with taht i miss you shit kinda boggled my mind
I can't seem to have fun or feel any enjoyment. I've felt this way for over a year now. I've spoken to some doctors about it and have even done sessions with a psychologist, but they can't seem to help me. The doctor prescribes me different antidepressants and the psychologist keeps saying "fake it 'til you make it" while giving me a list of "fun" things to do and weekly goals. None of it seems to be working. I have no motivation because it feels like there's never any reward for anything I do.
Does anyone have any suggestions? Has this happened to anyone in the past? Any reply would be greatly appreciated
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>>17755135
OP here. I forgot to mention the term is called anhedonia if that helps
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I have a suggestion:
Just keep doing what you've been doing. In the end it's all about the times you had, and not worrying about where your mind put you in the moment. Try everything and don't give up, there's something out there that will entertain you. You just need to go out there and find it.
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Thank you for your reply Anon. I don't really worry about it intensely, but recently I have been thinking to myself "at what point do I give up? it's been over a year with no progress"
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well fuck /adv/ so there is this girl I like and I think she likes me a bit to, well I don't really know, but today we are going on a date so I think she does.
we are friends and when we are together we always cuddle and when we walk we are holding hand etc.
fuck that sounds so beta of me but what ever.
so the main point is this: yesterday I was at a party and she came too, then we drank and shit you know the usual stuff but after some time one of the girls there said she had weed and the girl I like went to smoke.
I know that it is just weed but still I'm so pissed I hate the fact that she did it because I know how it can fuck you up, when I was a teen I smoked weed because of a friend and then some chemical drugs too that shit was the worst even weed gave me a huge shit filling that I remember to this day...
So I talked to her about this today and she said that it was her first time and she wont make it a habit but I'm still concerned because her cunt friend with the weed always come to where she is.
tl;dr : fuck me I hate that the girl I like smokes weed especially because I'm her friend.
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>>17755091
Even if you already were in a relationship it is folly to expect someone else to adhere to your standards even if it is literally for their own benefit.
If you don't want to be with someone that smokes weed then don't be with someone that smokes weed. This girl does so why are you going on a date with her?
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we are friend and were friend for a log time she is very dear to me more then just wanting to be in a relationship with her.
its just that I know how this shit can fuck you up and I don't want her to end up in that state.
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>>17755091
>she said that it was her first time
That makes it worse, desu. You don't just take new drugs on a whim.
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I have so much shit wrong with me. I want to stop going to college and get intensive therapy. I'm afraid, at the rate I'm going, I'm not only going to burn myself out, but I'm going to fucking kill myself, too. It's getting really bad. I can barely take care of myself, let alone attend class or do work.
I have scholarships. If I stop, I'll lose them. I'll lose this chance to go to college. My parents won't help me go to college if I quit. I'll need to work. I can't work.
I'm stuck. What do I do? How can I just power through three more years of this? How do I stop myself from putting a bullet in my brain?
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Have you tried regular, non-intensive therapy? I've been in your position, and though I'm not a whole lot better now, I credit therapy with possibly saving my life. There are antidepressants that help with anxiety as well, talk to a doctor about it. A GP can prescribe antidepressants or refer you to a psychiatrist.
Does your school have any kind of mental health services? Try and find out, maybe they're free for students. If you've got insurance that covers it, try and get referred to a therapist who specializes in what you're going through.
Therapy helps, anon. I know it's hard to get yourself to go but it's so, so worth it.
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>>17755123
I've had a psychiatrist since the start of middle school. I've been on medication since middle school. I've gone through therapy multiple times, for years at a time. None of that is new territory for me.
You're right, though. I should talk to a therapist. I just worry that this time, it won't be enough to get me through three years of intensive school.
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OP some people are just to fragile for university
just get a oil field job or something
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Defining the same variable twice in the same scope? (C)
One of my homework assignments asks why the value of f and g are different. My guess was that f was already declared as 3.0 so it stays that way even though it was defined again, but the second definition of f doesn't make sense to me (defining a word by using the word itself).
code:
#include <stdio.h>
int main(void) {
int i,j;
float f,g;
i = 5; j = 2;
f = 3.0;
f = f + j / i;
g = (f + j )/i;
printf("value of f,g is %f,%f\n", f,g);
return 0;
}
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>>17755074
How new are you to this?
Also there is nothing wrong with the code, only with your interpretation of it.
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Would it not be better to ask /g/?
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>>17755111
very new. I'm taking an intro programming class online.
So if nothing is wrong with the code, how can f be defined twice? what is the value of f then?
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what do you do with that one member of the group chat who never replies at all, not even with an occasional 'lol' or 'ok'
they're quiet in real life too
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>>17755051
Reach out to them. They are every bit as insecure uncertain and awkward as anyone else and will almost certainly find it difficult to communicate that they feel that way.
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>>17755051
Elaborate? You mean you want to be closer to that person?
Maybe the topics in the group chat don't interest him. Maybe he simply thinks he doesn't have anything to add up to the conversation.
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>>17755051
i'm that guy
i replied but it's an exception
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Hey adv, what do you call the fallacy when someone uses moral relativity or of everything being relative as a last resort to try and shut down an argument?
Here are some extreme examples:
>this flower is beautiful
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so your argument is invalid!
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>throat raping babies to death is an evil act
Good and evil is relative so who are you to say what's good and evil?
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Morality is never black and white so stop trying to play god and let me fuck my new kittens in peace! What's wrong with you?
Google doesn't really give concrete answers. Anyway lesser known fallacies thread?
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>>17755048
counteract by saying that you were saying it from the general consensus point of view and that applying relativity to these kind of statements is illogical being the least practical way to look at it. It can be viewed with relativity, but being less pragmatic in society it is far less applicable.
Thus purposefully choosing that point of view to counter the kind of statement you said (especially the second one) demonstrates stubborness and unreasonableness.
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>>17755048
Realize that "moral" doesn't mean "good/evil" but "general public perception about good and evil" ... if you try to argue for objective morality, you can't win, since it's bullshit.
If you're clever enough you can even make an argument for objectivity of beauty but it'd need an opponent who is less clever.
Also read the greeks.
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>>17755062
I did try explaining in similar terms in an attempt to be reasonable but more often than not the other person will just take any reasonable argument to troll me further.
I'm just curious if this one has an official term so I can just call them out on it to enlighten them, or if they're doing it deliberately, to let them know I'm on to them.
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Lower back pain after 2hrs of standing up and Im only 24 years old. My job requiers that I stand up 8hrs a day. What do, is there a cure for this? Should I be worried?
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I'm sure there are some yoga exercises you could do that might relieve the pain. Generally exercise is the best way to deal with these sort of pains. A hour of yoga in the morning and before bed should help you feel much more lively.
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>>17754994
>ice
>lift
>physiotherapist if nothing works
Maybe ask /fit/ or read their sticky.
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>>17755004
also, if you're gonna put ice on it, make sure that you don't put ice directly on the skin. Also do 20 minutes on, 20 minutes off otherwise you might damage the skin
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>started watching porn and masturbating when i was 10
>been doing it multiple times a day since then
>same routine for everything
>go home jerk off etc
>now 20 years old
>read about nofap and its positive effects
>try it
>dont masturbate or watch porn for 4 months quit cold turkey
>anxiety problems out of nowhere, insomnia, random bouts of crying, becomig easily irritated, INSOMNIA INSOMNIA INSOMNIA, general feelings of dread,no desire to talk to people
>cave in last night and jerk off three times in one night
>pass out and wake up next morning
>amaZing mood, called and chatted a friend, music souds so fucking good
>restful fucking sleep
>dark circles under eyes faded
Am i locked in this cycle? I wanna break away from porn and masturbation but those 4 months of my life were just filled with depression, numbness, anxiety and insomnia
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Get a girlfriend. If you're too shit for a girlfriend then just masturbate.
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>>17754997
i have one but we only see each other once every 1-2 weeks
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>>17754999
Well it sounds like you should continue fapping for your well being.
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How to decide what job I want?
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>tl;dr 24 and well educated, but have a shit job. Can think of no realistic career options that will make me happy. What do?
I recently completed my MSc but for various reasons it won't directly lead to a job, even though I have always got top grades (first class at BSc, distinction at MSc). I applied for about 15 university jobs, but didn't manage to even get to the interview stage for any of them. Therefore, for the timebeing I've gone full-time at the bartending job I've had for the last couple of years and live with my parents. They don't charge me for rent or food so it's a pretty comfy arrangement where I manage to save at least a couple of hundred pounds each week. I have no problems with the job and genuinely enjoy the opportunity to mix with 'real people' instead of the typical middle-class uni crowd.
However, in recent weeks I've been feeling pretty down about my life, like I'm a loser. I meet up with old friends who are in proper graduate jobs and earn twice as much as me, and feel embarrassed about what I'm doing. I know that my life is at a bit of a dead end at the moment - I've not been with a girl for years, and won't be able to bring anyone home while I still live with my parents, for example. It's not the case that I don't think I'm able to get any other job, I just genuinely can't think of any realistic career option that I'd enjoy. I desperately want to spend my days doing something that is rewarding (and, let's be honest, well-paid), but I can't think of anything that I would enjoy.
So how do I figure out what I want to do? Or, at least, how do I stop feeling bad about going nowhere career-wise? I want to feel like my life has direction again.
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You're living in late capitalism in a globalized society, in a country that profits the most from said globalism.
If you can't "make it", and don't understand what you're supposed to be happy with, just go live in a hole in the ground and eat roots and berries, and give everything you have to someone who deserves it.
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>>17754992
Please never give advice to anyone ever again.
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>>17754986
Think about stuff that interests you and how you can make that into your profession. Many people work shit jobs, don't worry what people think.
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>3years ago, get a gf
>start going out less
>lose contact with friends
>do all the shit she wants, but she never wants to do the shit i want
>stop going out with my friends, stop going to bars, concerts, etc.
>i feel like my girl doesnt want to be with me, she wants me to be with her --- live her life do as she says
>uses me in every way possible
>in the last 3 years grow apart slowly everyday
>our relationship isnt what it was, the passion is gone
>she talks about when we are going to marry
>bitchwhat.jpg
>play along untill now
A few weeks ago I started meeting my old friends, I'm going to finish university next year and I have a lot of time I wish to spend with my close friends, I want to feel young and free again. 3 years and the dudes still treat me as one of their own, nothing changed, we are still those crazy boys
>feel alive once more
>went to a bithday party of an old friend
>fell in love with one of the girls there
>love at first sight
>as the night went by i talked to her a little, while my gf was in the other room ofc cuz jelaousy.png woldnt let me talk to other girls
>we talked for about 5min and she seemed like a really nice person, she stole my heart
>the rest of the night we split up, and i went to the dudes for more 420, booze and shittalking
>at the same time my gf was nowhere in sight she came to the party just to bitch and sit on the couch , she went home by herself even wanted me to come home with her bitching all the time she was near me
>I stayed, the girl i love went home too shortly after that
>I'm afraid she has a boyfriend and I dont know what to do in this situation
tl:dr
>current gf wont let me live my life
>fell in love with a girl i might have known sooner if i wasnt with bitch gf
>girl i love has a boyfriend
WAT DO ?
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>>17754965
Stop being a pussy.
Your gf doesn't hold a gun to your head to make you do things
Form some boundaries and make her respect them.
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>>17754967
i dont know if i even want to be with her anymore, if i was given the chance i would run away with the girl i fell in love with, but i dont know if she would love me too
feeling suck
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>>17754972
Break up you retard!!!!!!!!!
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The following are my letters in the random letter thread about ex who I dated for 3 years, and broke up 7 months ago. I was OK the first few months, but by July after some unsatisfying one night stands I realized her and tried getting her back, but she tells me she had a new bf since June just a week ago. And also told me we need a clean break, and she will never go out with me again. I'm in a 3rd world country now with ugly girls, in parents home, so no chance of dating anyone else (probably can't either, tried months before couldn't).
Needless to say I am hurt as fuck. I still rage and get the feels when the thought of her and her new bf having sex like we did comes into my mind. Need to stop it. Am I on the right path /adv/?
From Thursday;
E,
I am insane, you are right though my love. I am insane for you. With everything happening to me I keep asking
"Oh, Gods, is there no forgiveness? I did what I did in madness. Is there no mercy?"
E, I did not know what I was doing. I was mad! I am mad. Oh, E!
Please, though you say you forgive me I know that you do not. If you did, you would be by my side.
I hope you realize what we had was real and unique. I have changed for you, I realize my mistakes.
I have earned my torment. I deserve the final death. Oh, E, I deserve death.
I deserve death.
(1/2)
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Friday;
I hurt her in my madness (not physically but emotionally) many times. When I was being tortured for years by my superiors through systematic mobbing, slowly ruining my career. I lashed out at her for not agreeing with how much I despise these people, the horrible things I wish would happen to them. I thought how could she have any mercy on such people, that are causing me so much pain?
While she stood by me through my darkest moments of my life, I gave her little tolerance. I did not see her true value. I did not appreciate her kindness, her beauty. Our love. Those three years...
Finally I broke it off with her after an argument. My fault. I should have kept my emotions in check. There was so much going on in my life... but that was no excuse. Forgive me. Please.
She showed me that I could be loved, and I gave her pain. Now she is with someone else, and never wants to see me again.
All aspects of my life are falling apart, everyone's dying or leaving me.
I have earned my torment.
I deserve death.
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From Today;
E,
Every morning I wake up I still think of you. And it hurts me like nothing. But every morning it is less.
I did truly love you, remember when I said all I wanted was just to have you with me on the couch?
But that was when we started growing apart... Or you did. You started to neglect me, only came to mine to sleep after being with your friends for the night. We would try to hang out but you'd already be asleep. I feared you were going to leave me. And the next argument we had, I left you.
And you moved on so fast. Not telling me about it for months, just so I would still give you my cat.
Though I love you, I know now that you have become a manipulative cunt.
You are anxious dependent, this is why you did not even mourn me before you found someone new to fulfill your insecurities.
Did you even love me truly?
You manipulated me all this time, so "I wouldn't hurt you" and that I'd let you see my cat and later give him to you?
You're disgusting. You are no longer the girl I fell for.
But I love you. Thank you for all you've done for me before, I really wonder what changed you from such a kind person to this.
And I will still always love you. It's the way I am, call me naive, stupid, insane, I don't care.
My honor and purity of passion, I will not stain because of you.
Enjoy your rebound. Hope he at least can form sentences in english.
Now I realize that it may not even have been my madness, but you, that made me so miserable since you started to change.
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>>17754905
You're a faggot