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yes? why are you even still talking to this whore

she wants you as her betabux backup in case her relationship with chad thundercock doesn't work

forgive the /r9k/ memes, but you're literally being played right now.

>>17752303
Lmao, and I feel it man like we hang out and still do relationship things but it's just so many lies being told to me. One night we were on the phone she told me she was going to bed. And ended up on Skype with him! And when I brought it up she told me to stop being worried he's just a friend. That's hard to believe man.

>>17752307
it's hard to believe because she's actually just lying to you

idk what else to tell you. you broke up, she's going after other men, but wants you to still stay on the hook

that's called being second fiddle. she's lying, and you're being played

Anyone?

drink

>>17752248
It's a natural occurrence. Everyone does it, mate. If someone is truly inspired or genuinely enjoys something, their voices change. It's not just kids.

Just do it you pussy

>>17752232
>i still want to be there for her as a close friend

Not really up to you. They'll decide whether or not they want to remain in contact.

Rule of thumb, tell them honestly that it's not working out and keep it 60 seconds or less. Don't let the conversation draw out any more than 5 minutes and then leave them to process. Chances are they'll want a lot more explanation than you should really offer. Don't fall for it. Generic "let them down easy" language is absolutely for the best. They think they want the truth, but they really don't. In time, once they've accepted the separation they will not care less about the why so no reason to plague them with it in the beginning.

>>17752232
>we're in a relationship but it kind of happened
Relationships don't "kind of happen". Did you even give a fuck about it? Let her go, it's best for you both.

You definitely can still be a writer. It is possible even to stay in your engineering path and be a writer on the side until you are confident in a full-swing.

But

Do you really want it that much?

Do what makes you happy, my dude.

At the end of the day, who's the person that lived YOUR life in YOUR shoes? You!

Live for the now, so you have little to no regrets when you die.

You seem to not want engineering.

Being a writer is going to be as hard or harder. It's very arduous, with no reward for at least a very long time, with people saying you are crazy for trying that.

If being a writer is really what you want, you wouldn't care or be scared about any of that at all.

Investigate other options, remember your context, don't throw everything away due to a mid-youth crisis.

bump because i would also like to know this answer to this question

It's the other way around, you go out only with girls that are already interested in you. Pick up the signs.

Just go with the flow, my dude. Congrats on getting out there.

Do what you think is best. If she likes you as well, she won't mind if you're texting her back and already making plans for next weekend.

>>17752208
10/10 pic, btw. I want a hedgie so bad, but can't afford one right now.

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>>17752217
Thank you. And I guess that makes sense. Going by instinct is how I got this far in the first place, after all.

I should note that at one point while we were hanging out she asked if I'd be interested in going to see a certain museum exhibit that was in town, so I feel like at least some of my worries about all this might be unfounded to begin with.
>>17752219
I thought that I had more hedgehogs on this computer, but it seems that I do not. So have this instead.

>>17752199
If you honestly don't care, drop out and leave a space for someone else. Take some time off to figure out what you want to be when you grow up.

The world will always need plumbers.

>>17752199
Retake that bitch. Its not like you failed it. Just give a good explanation on why you fucked up and assure you wont fuck up again.

>>17752199
>Just got a 60% on an exam worth 40% of final grade.
Isn't 60% a pass grade? If it is, then you fucking passed! Stop worrying about that and try to study a bit more for the next one if you want the fancy grades

Yeah, I know a couple qts who like anime. It's when you obsess over it and buy anime things like dolls or whatever that it starts to weird people out.

>normie

/thread

Yes it is as long as you never ever bring it up unless you know for sure the other people are into anime as well

She's using the same ruse in an attempt to keep you hooked. You've already got your foot out the door, keep walking, my friend. Don't look back.

I am most definitely plan on being done with this girl, but I need to be sure this is FAKE. Would claiming the fetus to be 3-4 weeks old, yet linking a picture of a ultrasound fetus with HR of 168 be enough to prove this fake?

>>17752177
Go with your gut. Assume it's fake, until you start seeing the signs that it's not. Once she starts getting a belly and pops out a kid half a year later, then it's your call; buck up and be the father with some wacko chick, or deny it and move on with your life?

>>17752154
girls like the upwards curve. i'm not so sure a about an exponential function dick. good luck to you.

>>17752163
>girls like the upwards curve.
do they really? Any girls care to weigh in on this? How would the fact that it's so short play into things?

>>17752154
Surgery perhaps

>>17752147
yes, you should

>>17752147
OP

Listen to me. This happened to me. Same thing, and she started hanging with friends more than me. She started spending time with me only for a few hours and then to sleep. After she had helped me go through horrible depression and more problems, been my rock.

I felt insecure, felt she was going to leave me. So I left her first after an argument.

7 months, and she is seeing someone else. Won't even talk to me.

I regret it so bad. I would burn the world and use my soul as tinder to have her beside me again. Try to make it work, anon. 3 years is a long time, it was for me. We went through thick and thin. It took me a few months to realize her value. And now I am dying inside.

Listen to me anon, try one more time at least. Talk to her.

If it works, come back and tell me. So at least I know I prevented another from feeling the same pain as me.

>>17752147
How about you talk to her about it first?

Tell her you're bothered by the lack of communication and sex.

We have online banking these days, which includes the ability to deposit checks remotely by taking pictures of them.

Assuming you have a debit card, you're golden.

If you're going to kill yourself, I suggest you ride a bus until it crashes, explodes, and kills you. Eventually, you'll get used to the terror and realize there's nothing to worry about.

>>17752144
>too proud to get any sort of job in retail/food

you need to start somewhere, if you don't want to choose those two, which the majority of entry level positions are, you're just limiting yourself. not saying you can't find a different entry level job, you have to be open minded and versatile otherwise you won't make any money.

>vehophobia

i really feel like you're a hypochondriac and I hope you just stop. maybe you're anxious driving, that's okay. it will go away with experience. but you need to drive, that's a part of everyday life. maybe get a scooter or bicycle? take the bus?

>wouldn't know how I would ever actually be able to put away or receive money

do you even have a bank account yet? you wouldn't need to go to the bank if you had a work at home job. you could get funds deposited directly and then just use a debit card or something.

>>17752168

I can drive in rural areas just fine, but I avoid any busy highways or cities at all cost. I feel like I'm a bad driver and I'm afraid of getting into an accident, so I don't want to even attempt anything out of my comfort zone. I don't have a bank account because I've never wanted to need to put my money in a bank.

>>17752140
I had the same thing happen to me, gf and ex co worker want to go out, gf offers to invite me.
they ended up loosing contact or they met behind my back idk.

So he's in town from another area for a day.

Is it cool if I go with her or is this cuckoldry?

Should I ask her about why this id the first time he was mentioned?

>>17752244
The "friends ex co worker" bit is pretty weird. Wouldn't she just say he was her friend if they were close enough to be hanging out?

>>17752127

you are over thinking this. instead of approaching every interaction like you have to get it right, approach it with simply wanting to experiment and learn. you'll have more fun.

and whatever you do keep in mind that htere is no magical code to crack. girls are not robots running the same software. pressing all the buttons the same way everytime wont make a girl open up her legs or her heart.

99% of the time girls dont 'friendzone' you because you did something wrong. its becuase they just arent into you. its the default state for the world.

imagine going up to every single guy you meet and asking to be friends with them. would you get mad that they just arent your type of friend? you shouldn't.

Have a spine, take action, don't just be all talk.

Escalate situations, don't just sit on your hands hoping she takes a hint.

This shit is not something ANYONE will ever be able to fully explain to you, the only way you will learn is if you go out, experiment, and learn on your own.

Go take actions, even if it means you fuck up and fail, and actually learn.

>>17752127
Short of it is OP. If more than one girl has told you this on more than one occasion then.......you're ugly. But you seem like a decent dude, so they're saying to you "yeah I'd be friends with you, you're cool. But you ain't fucking me"

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>So I ask you.

That's not a sentence. See me after class.

>>17752083
Cancer

>>17752083
Are you sure? It's got a subject and a verb (main clause) and it finishes a complete thought (you being the target).

"So" leads from the previous sentence, much like "therefore". As far as I know, it's not grammatically incorrect to start sentences with discourse markers.