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>>17754889
Just to clarify my parents are divorced

>>17754889
Go see a therapist. Make your mother pay.

>>17754889
I'm going to give you some good advice that will really hurt.

This story is not about you.

Your mother and father and her boyfriend are going through something that is about THEM. And you, I'm sorry to say, are a bystander caught by flying shrapnel or collateral damage.

If your pain or moral outrage drives you to distance yourself from your mother, then THAT story is about you, and you must do what you must do to keep your mental/emotional balance.

The situation exists. Your task (and your right) is to decide how you can best handle it.

Change position..

>>17754884
Try doggy or lazy doggy. The front wall of the vagina is firmer than the rear, and will give you more pressure/friction.

>>17754898
Sounds about right. I'll try it. I literally gotta be grinding inside her to make her cum... But I gotta lowkey mind fuck myself since I don't feel shit.

Pretty good

>>17754873
Grade Z teenage fantasy porn.

Didn't read it but people steal ideas so keep that shit to yourself tI'll you sell it

The pain of living in consanguinity, brah

If that was really all you said that's some hardcore triggering to want to fight your brother over it but then decide to take it out on your dad instead. I feel you must not be white for the police to say that to you.

>>17754885
lol yeah, we're Hispanic

It's really a mindset thing. I was like that for an entire year, realised it was vaguely school-related in my identity being tied up in it, so took a break and focused solely on self-improvement and gaining some tangible form of identity and purpose. Maybe take a break from uni (if possible), find a job - this will give you something to do instead of becoming more demoralised - and maybe try some new shit. Do you have an idea of what you're going to do after uni, and whether the initial reason you chose your uni course still holds true or means something to you?

In my opinion, school sucks. The only thing that got me through it was having a solid friend group.

Motivation to me consists mainly in not ruining something you find to be enjoyable, by (as you mentioned) competing in it.

If you want to genuinely enjoy what you do don't compete, and don't do them to be the "best."

Do them because they're fun. And if they're not fun, don't do them.

But at the same time, don't ask for too much: I don't love my hobbies 24/7.

It's tricky OP, but do one thing, at least: get out of bed. Take a walk. Get rid of suffocating expectations.

>>17754866
my plan was get a history degree and teach high school, but while it's something that i'm interested in, financially it's a mistake, as i live in Vancouver and wish to continue living here.
another aspect of it is that university is basically my sole source of social contact with people my age and I don't really want to give that up because I've met some really good people there

>>17754844
I also forgot to add that i have almost no emotions. Fuck i'm useless

Get your hands on some beta blockers for the nervousness. Drop some LSD for a life-changing experience that may make you value how feelings are life-affirming. Alternatively place yourself in a circumstance that does this if you want to avoid drugs and want a bit more than just a kick start.

>>17754877
>Get your hands on some beta blockers for the nervousness.
I don't think i understood that, did you mean go get pills from the doctor?

Eat more calories you consume, while also working out upper body and eating an excess of protein.

>>17754817
My goal is to draw less attention to how small I am, not draw more attention to how self-conscious I am about being small.

>>17754824
>complains about being small
>refuses advice on how to get bigger

Eat shit, faggot

Assuming this isn't bait, who are you to dictate how he lives his life?

>>17754781
I'm no one, I'm not trying to dictate his life. I just see the limitations that it imposes on him and the restrictions on the things that he wants to do. It's kinda hard to watch. I just want to better supply another viewpoint, I know I needed someone to supply another viewpoint when I was chrishtan.

>>17754791
He's heard your viewpoint, and he's chosen to stick with Islam. What's it to you?

You will never know until you try, and it seems you have already had a relationship before. Don't have any expectations, let everything flow. I say be bold and just ask her to have some coffee with you. I think the real G way is to have a coffee pot full of good coffee in your study room and ask if she wants some. Coffee is an aphrodisiac and that's what people do to stimulate conversation and intimacy. Coffee break between studying, or just to cap it off. Want to have some coffee with me? Simple question.

>>17754798
thanks, when i ask her out, what should i ask her out to? i live far from home and dont have acar on campus, could i ask her out to like a friday night dinner and a movie at my place? some walk to the rose garden?

>>17754815
I think the movie and dinner thing is a huge leap for a first date especially, but might bode well for you and it might be exactly what she would be looking for. Rose garden seems nice, if you picked up some of that starbucks on your way there if thats possible, but just a walk for the soul reason of "hey I like you a lot". Honestly, go for the pre arranged dinner date and movie and your place. Good luck! =)

>>17754758
Nigga what kind of advice is this?
I meet her in like 9 hours.

The fact you asked how can you make this your advantage makes me think you are a real ass wipe. But....there is definitely the chance of a 3 way if you play your cards right.

Listen here you piece of shit. Tell her you still want her in your life no matter what. Tell her it's perfectly normal to have the feelings she is having. Tell her you don't think love is singular and that the heart can grow to accommodate many people.

Then kill yourself.

Your boyfriend's too stupid to be a med student if he refuses to see a doctor. Coughing for 2 months straight is not normal and can be a sign of something serious. I know a guy who was recently diagnosed with tuberculosis after finally going to the doctor after months of coughing.

>>17754709
Thank you. I wanted to be told I'm not crazy. He's third year so he sees how bad it is to ignore glaring problems all the time... I don't understand why he can't see that it's concerning. He says that there will be no treatment for him so it will be a waste of his time and money. What if it's something serious though? I honestly feel so upset by the potentially that it could be something serious.

>>17754718
Well the flipside is that you can't make him go to the doctor if he doesn't want to. It's really concerning that he doesn't want to go to the doctor though, do you know why he refuses to go?

please dont

It's a permanent retainer. It keeps your bottom teeth in place. One time mine came loose when I was a teenager, and my dad, a dentist, used some pliers and yanked it out. With that being said, don't be a fucking idiot and just leave it be.

>>17754769

Permanent as in forever? If i recall correctly, i was told as a teenager that it had to be there for like 10 years or something.

Well one of the sides is completely loose and stabs my mouth it's absolutely fucking annoying. Just gonna try and pull it out and make my teeth great again

My thoughts is you need to keep your business more your business. If your friends persist on personal shit they know is personal they they aren't your friends and need to basically just get older to understand this need for space.

My other thoughts are that this girl really wasn't shit. She is a sociopath and uses guys around her because she expects them to provide for her in more ways than one. She sees no harm in doing what she has been doing to you and doesn't understand your side whatsoever. Her bf is probably a sociopath too. Her texting you only makes her feel better about her lame situation which she willingly got herself into to begin with. So right there, again, she is expecting guys to take care of her problems and provide for her. She is essentially a princess. You have catered to this and helped enable this attitude.

Your novel function isn't necessarily to solve problems for females and give them advice. Yet you hold a relationship on some level with this human being because they have a vagina. They are not a good human being. You hold bias and treat her on a pedestal because of the vagina. I don't know how else to say this. She is just not a good human being. So why fuck with her? Cause she has a vagina. Move on. Get real bro.

Also, are those gland hubguards?

>>17754689
>She's super attractive. I'm surprised she even talked to me at all.

It sounds like you have low self-estee amd you're putting her on a pedastle because of how she looks, two traits that are extremely unattractive in men.

>Like it's actually turned into an unhealthy infatuation. I started to fantasize about her like she was actually my girlfriend. I have folders of pictures of her on my PC, her name is a lot of my passwords

Please stop this dude. She's just a person. I know you like her but you're actinf like a woman when you become this emotionlly enfatuated with someone you barely know. She will be able to sense this and will be repelled by your feminine emotionalism.

>What's cool was as I've got to know her more, we kinda started talking online. But it was always just her crying about her guy. And she never replies to stuff I want to talk about. It's started to piss me off.

You two don't need to constantly talk online, it ruin the sexual tensions, mystery and human authenticity of dating. Also she datinf and fucking other men while crying on your shoulder, most likely because they're acting like actual men. She doesn't like you.

>My mates keep telling me she's not worth my time. But i'd always be like there's something special about her, even though she treats me like shit sometimes.

Listen to your friends. She doesn't care about you. If she did she would be with you. Is she? No she isn't.

>So anyways one day she told me her and her bf broke up. Now I'm like this is my chance. So I got us some concert tickets. It was ok but something was kind weird about the whole thing.

The next day I'm on the bus and drive past her work and I see her kiss that guy she said she broke up with. Like WTF.

You're being that typical beta orbiter that's waitinf to impress her as soon as he "get's his chance". You never had a chance with her to begin with. Neither will all of the other men who are doing this with her in order to jump in line.

>>17754731
Don't text her. Don't whine to your friends. Stand up for yourself. Tell her you aren't interested in being friends and walm away. I can tell this is hurting you and you don't deserve this. I say this things not to be hard on you and hurt your feelings, but to help you move on. If she reaches out to you ask her on a date. If she says no or gives you a "girl excuse" (my friends pet hyena has cancer and I really need to help her through this emotionally) tell her "okay" and stop talking to her. Hold your ground and stop acting like a bitch. Date other women and forget her. She might chase after you, she might not. You'll find someone better who doesn't lead you on. Good luck.

How do you think anyone else ever learned? They practiced, bit by bit, day by day, you gain conversational skills by forcing yourself outside your comfort zone.

You can start small, just starting with an enthusiastic hey how are you doing with that random cashier, and progressively build from there.

You're not going to like to hear this, but if you dont like "sports" and have "constrained hobbies", you need to expand, even if you don't like it. You need to pick up new things and grow your interests, learn the basics of things you may not be interested in, and just GIVE them a shot. Even if they dont end up being a hobby you'll gain the knowledge to build a basic conversation off them. If thats something you're not willing to do, then this whole issue you're facing doesn't bother you enough more than you want to change it.

>>17754699
>hobby
>even if you don't like it
I'm 23. I have done this. I know what I do and do not like for the most part. I've tried playing sports, I've tried being in anime clubs, they're boring and don't interest me. I can't force myself to have a hobby I hate to make friends because that's disingenuous.
Also it's not my conversational skills, when it's somebody I know I love talking. But I don't understand the weird gap between stranger and friend where smalltalk happens and it's just...I don't do anything with my life that's worth talking about. They're not interested in hearing about the perl scripts I've been writing.


This issue fully bothers me enough to change it but insinuating that I must force myself to learn bullshit about things I don't like is ridiculous.

>>17754684
You already answered your own problem. Literally talk to them about anything. Ask how their week was, ask about class, ask them what they like, literally anything.

>>17754641
>good looking
>university
>not getting laid
One of these things must not be true. I was a shut in in my first year, spent most of the time in my room playing video games and studying, occasionally go to party with my friends and I still fucked this chick a few times. College girls are horny af.

>>17754655

There are always people hitting on me. I'm just too socially awkward to follow up on that. I just don't know what to do when someone hits on me.

How did that work with the chick you fucked. What did you do when you first saw her for example?

>>17754666
>How did that work with the chick you fucked
She's a friend of my roommate.
>What did you do when you first saw her for example
I was sitting at my desk reading a book when she came over.
I went to the swimming pool in university town, saw her there again, talked a bit, then when I walked out of the shower room she was there waiting for me, then when I went back to my room she came with me, I didn't remember what I said to make her think I invited her... Roommate was not there, just two of us in a summer day. When I was in the middle of changing my clothes, she sat down on my bed and took her shorts off. I was like, oh well, she's attractive and this couldn't be more obvious, so I tried to lean down and kiss her, tripped on my pants and fell on her, she thought that was an aggressive move on my part and went along with it. That was the first time I had sex in semester 1.

Another significant encounter was one month later, the sorority next building was doing room cleaning service for all students to raise funds for some event. I was jerking off in my room and this chick knocked on my door offering to clean my room, when I saw her face I was totally flustered, she was so pretty, but there's no way I want her in the room after I masturbated so I told her "not now, maybe tomorrow?". The next day she actually came back, I let her in, this time I made a joke about what she was doing seems like a scene in a porno, she stared at me for half a minute, I apologized, she ended up riding me on my bed for like 30 minutes. So afterwards we just lay there, I heard her stomach growl, she blushed, I asked her if she wanted to eat something, we went to the cafeteria. That was our first date, we came back to my room and had sex again. She told me she saw me masturbating through the gap in the curtain the previous day, before she knocked.

TLDR college chicks are horny..under some conditions