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I need to change, I've met the girl of my dreams but she is out of my league, we've been friends for about 2 years and I can't make a move, i've seen her with 1 guy they broke up and now she is moving onto another a few months after. I just have to sit here in the background watching as the girl i love and the girl i feel such a huge connection with just goes to another guy who is better then me. I need to change, I just don't know how. I know all the normal stuff like the gym and whatever but I just lose energy and desire to keep on at the gym. Its breaking my heart knowing I am not good enough for a girl like her, and its killing me more knowing her feelings arent the same because im not good enough
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>>17752038
ur literally not. and you cant become good enough.
becuase if you were good enough you wouldn't lose motivation.
girls are a shit thing to improve for anyways. change for yourself meme.
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>>17752047
By good enough I mainly mean good looking enough, I am a little overweight she knows i have no experience with girls and whatever. Like we hungout wednesday to watch south park and i hear her phone go off and its a notification from tindr which was a dagger on the heart, she ignores it and we just hangout watching tv, she texts the guy back and ding another message so she lets it sit then texts, it hurt me so much just to sit there and watch as she was doing that. I asked her today if she wanted to hangout tomorrow and chill and shes like maybe idk yet i have plans but they arent offical yet, so im like ok sure let me know if they fall through and shes like I hope not I am really looking forward to them. So its safe to assume its something with tindr and I kinda cut myself off on the conversation and left her alone. It just burns me that I was lucky enough to find a girl like her but unlucky enough to not be good enough for her.
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>>17752058
>by good enough i mainly mean good looking enough.
i dont. you are literally not good enough for her mentally, emotionally, etc.
because you are fat. and you know it could win her or any other girl just to lose some fucking weight.
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I have a bit of a predicament on my hands.
I was searching my name in google, something which I like to do occasionally to make sure there isn't anything I don't want out there, and I stumbled across my 51 year old Dad's twitter.
At first glance it looked empty, but then I noticed that his follows were full of porn accounts. Kind of weird, but then I thought of all the porn that the average male watches. Still, out in the open like that?
I'm sure he has no idea that his follows are public, and his twitter is the second result when you search his name on google, under his linkedin account. Hahah.
Anyway, now I'm sitting here trying to decide if I should tell him, or let him find out himself. I'm leaning towards telling him in a non judgmental way and joking about it. Making sure to let him know that I'm passing no judgement and that I'm just looking out for him.
The thing is, I don't think that anyone is searching his name on google, but he might be changing jobs soon. I feel like I have to let him know so that his potential employers don't think he is some sort of degenerate.
Also, I don't want him to think I was snooping. I mean I kind of was, but if its on the internet, you're asking for it.
Thoughts?
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>>17751993
you werent snooping. you googled yourself and then checked out your dads social media account.
id tell him, like you said, non judgemental. if theres a way to make that stuff private, tell him, and if not, recommend he make a private anonymous twitter for such things.
if you're comfortable with it admit to sharing a similar porn interest so he feels less weird. i know that sounds weird but as you get older you'll realize the only thing stopping you from discussing your sexuality is the other people.
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i vote for telling him. ask him if he's aware his twitter follows are public. offer to fix for him if possible.
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>>17751999
That's what I'm leaning towards too. I feel like I gotta tell him when a potential job is at stake. (My parents are software engineers, and they just moved, so they are looking for local jobs. They've been working remotely in the meantime. )
It's time to face the elephant in the room. I've been pretendning this is a nonissue for a while but its a fucking issue alright.
>How come I always have to message my frieds to hangout, i always have to send the first message, I always have to go out of my way to talk to people, I NEVER get invited to anything, my friends NEVER text me unless I text first
I refuse to believe im just ugly. And I SWEAR im not that bad attitudewise. is there a way to test your attitude and find out if im just a shitty person to be around!?!?
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>>17751963
same boat op I dont get it I hangout with my friend all the time and she never asks, like once every few weeks i get a surprise message but its mostly me. Kinda hurts honestly
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>is there a way to test your attitude
yes. have a friend that you are 100% open and honest with, and they do the same for you. if you're shitty, they have to tell you.
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>>17751963
>why am I the one who has to do everything
because you are more invested in them then they are in you, and likely by a whole lot if they literally never initiate.
>but why
i dunno. any number of reasons. for the most part (assuming it really is as bad as you say it is) you are likely a bad person to be around.
but your relationship still might be growing. in some rare cases its just pattern. im not much of a texter myself so i never reach out unless its specifdically to hang out.
if everyone knows your busy and are typically asking to make plans, they may see it as easier for them to just wait til you message them.
but if literally everyone you know does this for even your longer term friendships, then yeah, they are probably not that into you.
>i refuse to believe its because im ugly
that checks out. even ugly people have friends who text them. just not you.
>and its not my attitude
it probably is
>BUT I FEEL SO NORMAL
so does every asshole.
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How easy is it to get a credit card company to settle your debt?
Im a college student, i work 20 hrs a week and take 6 classes and basically I went into a small debt, got into a crazy injury and was it able to work or work or even walk for about a year. Now my debt is about a grand from not being able to pay it off at all, and I do not have very much in the way of savings. I use wells fargo, if it matters. Would it be easy to convince them to settle my debt for less, and how much typically would they settle for?
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>>17751944
i think if they have any kind of customer service they will discuss options with you..
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>>17751944
>would it be easy
usually after its in colelctions its easy.
>about a grand
>how much would they settle for
not sure. we owed 8000 at work, got them to settle for 5000.
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>>17751949
im a newfag when it comes to financial stuff, how will i i know if it is in collections?
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How to meet more single girls
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Literally every girl I meet these days is taken already. I used to use Tinder but its all bot accounts nowadays.
Other than bars/clubs, whats the best place to meet single women?
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>>17751940
>its all bot accounts nowadays
this has not been my experience, I've met only one bot account.
just sounds like no real girls are interested in you.
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>>17751950
so this is it huh
ive got the incurable case of the uglies
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network
Maybe you guys can help me out
(yes this was on /b/ earlier because I didn't know about this board, bite me)
>be me
>18 year old relationshipless virgin
>Never really pursued girls because I was brought up in a "don't do anything before marriage" in and out home/private school situation so I had few social skills
>Don't even know what I would do if I met a girl I like
>move to my dad's house a couple summers back
>start to normalize
>get friends
>do normal things, stay at friends house, stay up past 9:00, etc
>this semester I took an art class
>table groups of 4 or 5
>Girl at my table, pretty cute
>we kinda become class friends
>Eventually people dwindle and scatter and it's just her, me and another kid
>We get to know eachother, joke around, talk about stuff as you do
>This goes on for a while
>I slip in small complements now and then like how her hair was nice or her projects was really coming along nicely
>Skip a while to last week when she asked if I had a crush on her
>ohshit.jpg
>play it off like I don't with added theatrics to make it more joking
"Yep. Ya got me. Madly in love! For years!"
>We laugh about it and move on
I've been thinking about it ever since and I want to say something to her and tell her that I do, but I don't know how to initiate something like that or what to even say. What do I do guys?
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>>17751890
>remember when you asked if i had a crush on you?
>i joked about it because i was terrified but i do actually have a crush on you. do u want to go out some time?
when she says yes you get her to sign the contract you already prepared that signs her soul over to you
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Help my fuck op. Man up, she asked you directly. Tell her you were nervous and that you do like her.
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I think an issue with guys is they feel that words have to be what initiates things with women. But honestly it sounds like shes into you. Ask her to get dinner or hang out or something and then eventually come back to your bedroom look her in the eyes and just go in for a kiss, and go from there.
Kisses say a lot more than words imo
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Any other guys have a complex about their gender?
It feels like the population has such a hard on for the message that girls are there to be pretty, guys are there to provide 'strength' and 'brains' to the point where I don't see any real benefit to being around other guys outside of work or some other pursuit that will result in monetary gain. Why should I bother if I can just hang out with my girlfriend or another girl friend who will put more effort into being cute? Internet messaging/gaming has kind of obviated the need to actually meet up for nontrivial information exchange/hobbies after all.
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um...
what?
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>>17751870
ur whats wrong with male bonding, not the solution.
your gf will leave yuo. so will the next one. a lot faster than any real male friends will.
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>>17751870
>Any other guys have a complex about their gender?
yeh, I feel like worthless piece of shit but not for the reasons you described.
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>>17751790
Same lololol
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>>17751790
same here bro but I'm too spineless to kill myself. I just ignore any health problems and go to bed hoping I don't wake up one day.
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>>17751790
Me too. I hate myself.
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How do I respond to complements/flirting?
>"Wow anon, you're so strong..."
>"Th- th- thanks..."
Or alternatively:
>"Hey anon, you're a really good singer! I wish I was as good as you!"
>"Thanks...?"
Maybe I'm over thinking this but whatever I say in reply comes off as awkward or weird. What do?
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>>17751774
>wow anon, you're so strong
>yes. thank you. strong. strong like my resolve.
>hey anon, you're a really good singer! i wish i was as good as you
>baby if i get into your pants i will make you sing
ask a modern day romeo anything
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>>17751797
Why are you on 4chan instead of fucking 12 girls at once, as that is your destiny
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>y-you too
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I took a nap about an hour and a half ago, and I've been feeling like shit since, as if there's something missing from my body and it definitely isn't water.
What do you do in that situation?
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>>17751767
how do you know its not water? most people even those who think they drink enough water are dehydrated. you probably operate under the assumption you only need 1l of water but that is just a myth, with no medical backing. between 1-2 liters is more realistic for an adult, and thats provided you don't sweat alot. also hydration isn't restored instantly, it can take upto two months for your cells to return to their fully hydrated state. adequate hydration can improve ones health a great deal.
i suggest doing some reading on how much water you should drink.
in saying that all, i don't know how your feeling, so it could be anything
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A demon whisked your soul away
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check your body for any new stitches/scars that you don't remember getting. you may be missing a kidney
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tldr: Is there anything I alone can do to feel attracted to my boyfriend again?
I have little attraction to him besides still wanting to friendly cuddle and some kisses.
I can't rely on him to help me with this because this is how it all started in the first place. He masturbates to porn most days... I kind of lost attraction when I realized he was doing this almost daily and was rarely horny by the time I got home.
He gets hard only after some heavy petting and touching his flaccid penis makes me very nauseous. Our foreplay is mostly me giving him oral and dirty talking with little in return apart from touching me down there to make sure I am wet enough to penetrate. He has no interest in spicing it up and trying new things with me, he has sex to cum and the in between seems lost on him.
We can go days, weeks, even reached months without sex and he is fine with it. I am not and he knows it. My therapist told me I was mirroring how he makes me feel and I kind of agree but also aware this can't help our situation.
We've already tried the no porn/no fap/mutual fap/sexy fantasies/get more attractive/active thing...nothing works. He only had 1 fwb before me and that lasted a few weeks so porn was all he's ever had.
We've been together for 3 years and for the past few months, I have struggled to stay with him, mainly because of this.
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>>17751760
Sounds like youre putting in effort and he is not.
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>>17751789
this
he is trash, get someone better
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>>17751805
It sounds that way but it's only my side of the story. I have made the mistake of saying this to him and he has been very offended. He tells me it's a struggle for him also and that he does try.
So you think there is no hope for us?
There is a lot of love and care for each other but our sex life is terrible.
is sex with overweight girls bad?
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depends how overweight.
I prefer thick as fuck
>pic related
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>>17751759
Sex with anyone can be bad. I don't think being overweight means its going to be bad any more than being skinny means its going to be good.
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>>17751759
There's nothing bad about it, no. Do whatever you like.
I'd bust your balls if you were my buddy, because overweight chicks are gross, but deep down, I don't give a shit what you do. Really, I'd just bust your balls if it was clear that you weren't into it, but just desperate for affection. Which probably makes it worse, but I don't care.
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alright /b/ i got a simple question for you but its bugging the hell out of me
I work with a chick i was planing on asking out, but i failed to do so. (I always look for the "golden opportunity" to ask out a chick which didnt come)
i only work with her on thursdays and i really cant wait for next week so Im almost planning on finding her number on the directory (its a small company) and texting her to go out. Now im not totally a sperg with girls but I am when it comes to the whole dming texting ect thing.
im pretty sure she likes me back but i can probably screw this up if i text her and its actually a faux pass. Yet, I really dont want to wait 7 frustrating days. ughh why didnt i just ask her out today?
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meant /adv/ not /b/ obv
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find her address and slide a letter under the door
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>>17751775
this, plus a little zip lock bag of your droppings.
sweet, thoughtful, very normal.
for real though OP, I had a girl in one of my classes while studying in singapore get my number from the class register (first day of that class, so we were all filling in our names and numbers).
she got my number and started texting me. she liked my hoodie. i thought it was a little bit weird at first but i was so glad she did, she was really, really cool. we were instantly best friends. eventually it ended tho cos her bf got jealous or something of all the time we spent studying and doing assignments (we literally never even met outside of school, or even the library/classroom). i still mourn for her.
all in all she might think its fucking weird as shit, or she might not.
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Am I Actually Attractive?
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I don't know how many other people have had this problem, but I'm very confused about whether or not I'm good looking. I'm a 6'0 male at a healthy weight. Here are some points that help me play with the idea that I may be attractive:
>Have had a couple girlfriends in the past
>Have talked to a fair amount of girls (about a dozen or so)
>The majority of these girls I consider unattractive or average now, but a few of them were totally qt3.14s
>Was told by a few coworkers at last job that a lot of the girls there thought I was cute
>One even showed me a video of one of them drunk, calling me hot
>Get told by strangers fairly often that I look like certain celebrities
>Family insists that I'm handsome, a few times friends have said I'm good looking
Despite all of this:
>Sexually inexperienced at the age of 19; only slept with one girl
>Girls pretty much never approach me or flirt with me
>Made a Tinder profile and only got 6 matches with average girls within about 5 days
>Check my reflection at least 20 times a day, super insecure about my looks
>Not a complete social autist, but I never approach hot girls and often get insecure and intimidated when I make eye contact
>Lonely and single one semester into college
My issues seem like they rule out the possibility that I'm attractive. Deep down, I have a very low self esteem that almost entirely has to do with my looks. I know how to take a good picture of myself that makes me look decent, but I feel like IRL I'm ugly as shit. A lot of my day I'm thinking about how I look, it's starting to get obsessive. I have no idea if my insecurities stem from being complimented too much from actually being good looking, or if they stem from the fact that I believe that the reason I'm failing sexually is due to my looks.
Is there a way to tell for sure if I'm good looking or not?
If there's a decent amount of evidence that I'm good looking, why do I have all of the problems I just listed, and how can I fix them?
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>>17751752
How about you post a pic you ugly sack of shit?
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>>17751757
I might if this thread gets enough attention, but probably with the eyes covered. I have a couple friends that go on 4chan, so, you know
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>>17751752
Attractive is not a pass/fail qualifier.
Some people will find you attractive, some people won't. I think you know for a fact that a certain amount of people find you attractive and that you're just here to be validated.
We can't prop up your self-esteem for you, OP. You're going to have to deal with people who think you're cute and people who think you're ugly just like the rest of us.
If you want more opportunities with girl, get out there and start being more outgoing. Bitching about how girls and interactions don't just fall on your lap while you can't even make eye contact or talk to them doesn't make any sense.
You know exactly what your problem is, you're just either too scared to do it or you're trying to find an easy way out.
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>On third date, going very well
>Moment is actually good, go in for kiss
>She rejects the advance
How do you move forward without looking like a sperg?
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Forward is not an option, move away
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>>17751742
By communicating with her like the two of you are grown ups. She has a reason why she rejected the kiss. It's probably a retarded reason, but there IS a reason.
So tell her something along the lines of
>Anonnette I really do like you. Do you feel like we're going too fast? I don't want to put you in an uncomfortable position.
If she's particularly daft (which is likely, because girls are often fucking stupid), she may ask something like "why do you say that???" Then bring up how she shied away from your kiss.
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It's done abort ABORT