I only started lifting and getting "game" by the time I was 21.
I get laid now, but I regret the entire time between 15 and 20, in high-school and college, when I was almost a virgin
any one else with these feels?
>>17756340
well how do you get laid now, gimme that young advice
>>17756361
This
>>17756361
hmmm this is the best way I can explain it...
first of all, you gotta get in shape.
Hit the gym and put on some muscles. Follow the /fit/ sticky. use the starting strength work out routine
Get a new wardrobe. follow general fashion trends.
Stop wasting time on the internet. start joining groups in your city, this way you can socialize. Each friend you make will lead you to another.
Are you a NEET living in your mothers basement? Get a fucking job and move out.
Women can smell "normal person" and "weirdo" out by behavior alone.
My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years. I love her, and I care for her. I've always suspected she has some sort of mental illness which effects her mood.
every few weeks or so, there will be a few days where she wakes up and feels easily irritated, says bad things about me and our relationship, and goes berserk sometimes and cry a lot.
In the beginning of our relationship, I thought it was because I did something wrong, or we just had unmatchable personalities. but now it is very clear to me that this type of behaviour from her is spontaneous.
so what the hell is it? I looked up bipolar disorder symptoms, but a lot don't match. its not her period either, since she has these episodes sometimes just after her period.
whatever it is, what can I do about it? (besides leaving her) she would be totally offended if i suggested we take her to see a psychiatrist.
>Every few weeks
It's her fucking period mate. Mood can fluctuate at different points in the menstrual cycle outside of the period and it's different for different women.
>>17756317
the best match of symptoms is mild borderline PD + menstrual period.
obviously youre description is too short for more than a guess.
im a psychiatrist in training.
>>17756323
I feel like her symptoms are extremely exaggerated to just be considered having her period. and I want to correct myself, its more like every 2 weeks or so that this happens
>>17756331
the majority of the time shes ok, and she can be very sweet and sticky.
when this happens, it usually happens for 2 or 3 days. she wakes up, feels easily pissed off. the smallest thing could set her off to flipping out like crazy. she would often propose breaking up, and would ignore me, then cry at night. Before, I would try to fight with her when she does this. but now I know fighting with her does nothing to help.
after she lets out her anger, I would be able to hug her while she cries and she would turn back to normal.
this cycle has always been happening for as long as I remember
I wanna fall in love! How?
Kys
Get gf in heaven
Don't do it
>>17756305
You don't get to pick that. You meet people until you find someone to love.
Long story short:
I'm a brand new seller on eBay. This was literally the first thing I sold, my old laptop. Well, I fucked up. I got an email from a fake PayPal domain that a payment was processing, and a notification on eBay saying that payment had been posted. I literally thought that's how it worked.
The guy contacts me, asks me to send it to a different address. Sounded really nice and upfront, saying it was a gift for his son at an army base (I know, I know, looking back I feel like a moron).
So I ship it. Next day I'm talking with PayPal and literally while I'm on the phone I'm re-reading the email they sent me and notice a typo down at the bottom of the letter. I go "oh SHIT," explain to PayPal what happened, and immediately call the post office.
I file an interception claim immediately (this is the morning after I shipped the package). I call customer affairs and open a case. The woman tells me not to worry, the package is sitting in the post office (I'm in Denver). I ask her if I can come get it, she says no.
I call again the next day. I'm told I was assigned a case manager who was supposed to call me. I tell them she didn't. They tell me she'll call me -- I tell them "please hurry, I'm dealing with fraud here and I'm out $1000. The package is sitting in your facility."
Nothing from them. I get no call. I call again and just start getting voicemails.
On the tracking I have for the package, it now says SUCCESSFULLY INTERECEPTED IN HOUSTON (the destination).
[more]
THEN I GET AN EMAIL saying
> Hello
> Thank you for using USPS.com.
> This is an update on your Package Intercept Request.
>Your package will not be delivered to the new domestic
> destination you requested. The package will continue to its
> original destination and your credit card will not be charged.
> We apologize for the inconvenience.
lol you must be the most gullible idiot on the planet.
But I think I can help you op, I'm a Nigerian price. I just in inherited 3.8 billion dollars. More then enough to cover the cost of your laptop you lost to that thief. All I need is you to wire me the taxes on the 3.8 bil so i can claim it and I'll wire you the money for your laptop and the taxes back no sweat.
yesterday was a holiday
So my mom just got released from prison yesterday. I do plan on seeing her again, but I don't know how to confront her.
>>17756082
What'd she do? How long since you've seen her?
Possession of marijuana. It's been 2 years. It might not seem that long compared to other offenders, but it feels long.
>>17756097
What's the issue? Are you mad at her? That's not that serious of a crime, it's kind of bullshit that she'd get locked up for something like that at all
What do I do about undiagnosed chronic pain in my left leg? I've gotten blood work, x-rays, ultrasounds but they never find anything. It's like a dull achy pain that's in my upper calf, below my knee.
Bump
Anyone?
Page 10 bump
Anyone idea?
>>17756026
Work out until it goes away.
September of last year, a close friend told me he was in love with me and asked me out. I have trouble saying no to people, so I accepted. I hoped my feelings would change over time, but they never have. He's just a friend to me. There's no romantic or physical attraction there.
I don't want to take the cowardly way out and come up with an elaborate white lie. So, any suggestions on how I can tell the truth and break up with him without hurting him?
(Pic related because I feel I deserve to be slapped. He's much too sweet to ever do that, though.)
>>17755893
safest way to remain friends i guess would be to tell him you're gay. Anything else you're going to break his heart regardless.
>>17755893
In this case, the truth would hurt him MUCH more than a white lie. There's a reason most people handle breakups in a "cowardly" way, because there's absolutely nothing constructive about explaining the reasons you don't find him attractive. He'd either get depressed, or try very hard to change himself, when another girl might like him the way he really is.
Just break it off clean, and give a standard bullshit explanation like "I just need time to myself" or "I'm just not ready for something serious" or whatever.
Tell him the truth. You ended up in this situation because you wanted to protect his feelings. Keep doing it and you're only spiraling it down into more lies or misunderstandings that will ultimately hurt him more.
Don't give him some bullshit excuse that will only confuse him and offer no closure, tell him that you don't see him that way, that you're sorry for leading him on and that you want him as a friend but you understand if he wants to keep the distance for some time.
Hey /adv/ 20 yr old kissless virgin here. On my way to a college in neafby town to try and get laid or ateast practice talking to girls. Im 6'3 and black with some chub and everyone says girls should be pouncing on me but i just dont know how to talk to them so and help/tips would be much appreciated.
>>17755800
thats just something we say to chubby black guys to make them feel better.
>>17755800
Lol, he fell for it
>>17755803
fuck man, i'm not OP but as a somewhat chubby black guy who gets hit on by a lot of white girls, I just don't know anymore
pretty sure i'm having my first herpes outbreak
how to cope
>>17755799
remember that the CDCs current plan is to let everyone in the world catch it.
>>17755805
wut lol
get some ointment containing aciclovir
How do you guys manage to do productive stuff that you don't /need/ to do instead of shitposting or playing video games?
Like how do you find the motivation?
>>17755763
bump
Wish I fucking knew. I have so much shit to do and just can't.
>need to send some sort of paperwork to student loan guy or I'm in deep shit
>need to go to dmv and register vehicle
>tried, went to library to print insurance card, it was fucking closed on a friday and so was dmv
>have to apply for jobs, send an ap here and there
>need to get new version of a document
>try, really fucking try
>website that is supposed to be nation wide doesn't work for my specific city because fuckery and bullshit and incompetent nigger politicians
>have to get health insurance
>need to seriously clean everything and prepare for moving
>have to sell or get rid of two items
>just can't be pissed
>half the days can't even manage to brush my hair
I think it's because my everyday life is monotonous and shitty and is like a neverending timeloop of suffering and stagnation where nothing ever changes or happens. I'm trying to change that but I need my shit in order first.
It's something I've been struggling with, but I've found slowly trying to do things one day at a time helps.
For example, I've always wanted to learn another language, so what I did was set aside what time I'd usually use to shit post, and instead go to the library or some other quiet place and study.
After a while, I found myself focusing on improving and being productive and not wasting time. Though I'm still a long ways from where I want to be
I think I am having a conflict of character. I am very tormented and conflicted inside.
A part of me wants to be kind to people and help and learn. Another part wants to just say fuck it and pursue unending power. Just tell people to fuck off and to just die or get outta my way.
Why am I like this? What makes a person this way? A I have to tell myself every morning I get up that "being a good person is worth it" even though I don't believe it.
Help. The conflict is leaving me exhausted. What turns good people bad? Or was the person never good to begin with?
>>17755737
TV. you arent a monster, ur just an ego centric little kid.
both of your options are extremes that imply you're the main character in the universe, either becoming the hero that saves us all, or the villain who takes over the world.
thats not being a monster, thats being pretentious.
>>17755737
That's you're rationality trying to speak. Someone who never thinks about doing a bad thing isn't good, because being good is making the choice to do good, even though you could do bad.
That said, do what's best for you. If some fucker you'll never see again asks for some change, fuck them. You gain nothing. But if a friend asks for a favor, it is actually in your best interest to help them usually
>>17755746
I don't feel very pretentious though. Don't feel particularly heroic either. I just feel like i am stuck fighting against myself.
So im gonna get to the point on this
I was in a long distance relationship with a girl i never met. She said she wanted to spend her life with me, loved me, etc...
Anyways, she breaks the news to me she meets some guy irl and starts dating him and she expects me to be ok with it.
Now my question to you guys is do i give her another chance when i move near her, or do I end things with her forever because she wasnt willing to wait for me?
>>17755623
lol just meet girls irl mate
>she expects me to be okay with this
the rest of the world does too dummy
>>17755629
im a midwest guy...shes a cali girl
>>17755651
>were from two different places
right! thats how LDR works.. which is why i suggested you meet girls irl.
How to con women into letting me fuck them? I wanna be like Brian Murphy
If it was that easy, you would know about it already. It is possible to manipulate women into sleeping with you but that's not exactly easy, you would already need a dose of personal charm, ability to manipulate people, a lot of experience etc. And these are things you mostly learn through trial and error.
There's no three step cheatcode or anything.
>>17755527
I didn't say it must be easy. What is it exactly I should practice, what cons should I do?
Your answer is not very concise
> hurr to manipulate you need the ability to manipulate
No fucking shit.
I mean there must be some sort of book on conmanship or something. Not The Game or 48LoP or tons of bullshit baitclicks but an actual guide or something.
>>17755580
>no fucking shit
yet you act like a retard.
manipulation is not a magic one size fits all wand that lets you say the same shit to different people and they just do your bidding.
look at real masters of manipulation and you'll find that they already are attractive, already are fit, already are successful, and most importantly: are already great actors.
everyone thinks it'd be so cool to eb a master of manipulation, its basically the current trend of fedora edge lording. people who think 'WELL IM SMART SO I SHOULD BE ABLE TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO CONTROL WOMEN WITHOUT WORKING ON MUH SELF'
>i mean there must be some sort of book on companionship or something
>THERE MUST BE SOME MAGICAL GUIDE OUTSIDE OF THE ONES I ALREADY KNOW ABOUT
there is, its called life. you see everyone around you and what works and what doesn't.
be attractive. be fit. be of good standing.
manipulation isnt mind control. its using what you have working for you to get people to do what you want. don't have any thing going for you? better start working.
telling a woman shes ugly doesn't work if you are ugly yourself. you need to be good enough that what you say is believable.
manipulation is like 'confidence'. you still need something to back it up, you cant just pretend you have it and expect people to take you seriously.
Hey Advice,
Not sure If I should place this on /pol/ but I need something more like comfort and advice.
My Grandmother, the woman who raised me, just reamed me out for voting for trump.
The thing is I didn't. I am a dyed in the wool democrat, but my close friends are republican, including the man I am all but engaged to. So after the eruption of anger over the vote I took a hard middle stance. I would not take my friends on the left or right being attacked. Not even when my grandmother did it. She posted on my boyfriends feed and I responded politely telling her I loved her but she was over reacting just a little. When she supported the riots I reminded her that we were just as much to blame for the widening of the political aisle as the republicans.
She then assumes I voted for trump, reams me out , demands I delete my post, and when I apologize but point out she taught me to treat others with love and respect even if they may disagree with me she blocked me. Won't return my calls.
What should I do ? I apologized for disrespecting her, but I am not willing to have her act that way towards the man I love.
Understand I struggle alot with abandonment issues, so this may seem small but right now she's just another person in my life who has told me I am unlovable for my choices.
>>17755497
If there really is a conspiracy to destroy America from the inside out, they couldn't be doing a better fucking job. I want to say that your grandma is going to calm down and get over it once the shock wears off, but I just don't know. I've been seeing this shit happening all around me. I feel like I've been watching most of my friends go completely insane over the last 2 years.
>>17755503
The last 48 hours has been friends blocking me left right and center , and when asks it because even though I am generally respectful and about acceptance they just can't deal that I am "involved" with trump supporters.
One pointed out that I was just rolling with the pigs and inviting them in.
update: Nana has told me that she will not talk to me until the offending post is removed, The post in question.
"Trumps a symptom of the problem. The problem is bigger than one man."
Unsure what to do?
Should you try in life to become really good at something you enjoy doing but have no talent for
Or should you stick to the things you're talented at even though the activity feels unrewarding most of the time and you'd rather not
and you feel like a SELLOUT every day?
senpai..
Both are good. They each have their own satisfaction. It is probably more satisfying to follow your heart than to follow other people's advice.
>>17755446
depends. what do you enjoy doing but arent talented in?
what are you talented at but dont feel so rewarded by?
tell us the story?
There isnt a clear answer to this. It depends on how much money each of those things can make, what are you life goals and how much comfort and luxury you want.
Generally, I'd say that if you can make a decent, pleasant living with the thing you enjoy you should go for that. But if you can make A LOT of money with the thing you're good at it's worth considering. For instance, if you really make a lot of money (300k+) you will be able to invest it and retire after a decade or so and at that point you will have a steady income without working so you can do whatever the fuck you want. But you'll still have to work for years or even tens of years doing something you don't enjoy. There's pros and cons to either choice, you have to decide which looks better for you. I for one went for the thing I'm good at and wins me a lot of money so I can "retire" as soon as possible and I don't regret it. But that's just because I want to be a filthy NEET for the rest of my life, maybe you have other goals and desires.