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Probably like many of you on this board, I don't know what the fuck to do with my life. I am 24, I have worked shitty jobs, went to college, got a degree, got a masters and did unpaid work for 'experience'.
I'm starting to realize that the field I was previously getting experience in (business/marketing), and hoping to eventually get a career in is not for me. I'm not interested in working a shitty office job and saving for a mortgage/car/family, or whatever.
I still live at home with my parents and I feel like a complete loser. I have a job, but it's just a shitty retail gig and I can't get hired for anything else. I'm in a long-term relationship, but my partner is older than me and keen on the two of us getting settled down as soon as possible.
I feel trapped, disillusioned and lost. I have been playing with the idea of moving abroad, but I don't know where I'd go or what I'd do. I feel like there is no freedom or excitement in my life, and now that I'm a year off turning 25, I'm starting to worry that I'll never do anything interesting with my life.
How do I find work that interests me and gives me the means to support myself? How can I find value in my life? At this point, I'm so close to throwing in the towel because I can't see myself doing anything worthwhile by 30.
TL;DR: I'm lost & disillusioned with life, i dunno wtf to do, can someone give me some advice on what to do next?
Also, make this a general advice thread for people going through similar shit.
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what country are you from anon? ever wanted to travel?
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>>17780511
>got a masters
how many masters did you serve?
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>>17780551
I'm in Ireland. Always wanted to travel but never really had the opportunity to do it before.
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Welcome to the NEET/shut-in improvement thread!
>old thread
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>Discord
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Join us for help on improving your life and becoming more social or just helping people with these things! All are welcome, as long as you follow the rules.
>What do I do in the threads?
Ask people for advice on your NEET-related/social problems, or join our discord group to do the same.
>I need help but I'm not a NEET, can I join your server?
Absolutely. Anyone is free to join our group if they feel like it could help them improve, or if they want to help others.
>I joined, now what?
Post in #introductions, and one of our staff members will give you permission to post in the other channels.
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Get off this and meet up with new people every day. Literally hang around as many people as you can. Weed is a common go to and allows you to connect with accepting people around the world or your city. Purchase CBD to combat the high. You can meet really cool people.
Girl wise, be FRIENDS with girls so you can attract attention of other girls and meet their friends. Every girl will lead you to more girls. Old high school friends, go to underground parties or raves and meet people. All you are looking for is the follow up! That's why you smoke weed or drink or even fake it.
Keep a friendly tone and learn as you go. Some people you'll connect with some people you won't. Experiences will be extremely good or okay or extremely bad. Learn from each one and keep going. Do things in your everyday life to make going out pleasant.
Decipher the people who want to use you from those who want a friend to those who you can use. Go with the flow and never be a bitch otherwise you'll get treated like a bitch. If that's your crowd then so be it. Soon enough these people will influence you.
I've made it far, gl anon bros.
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>>17780515
What does getting high has to do with getting a job?
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Someone with autism + neet + no job/career for nearly 10 years.
I want to earn money again and create a stable wealth for myself, what can I apply for that would allow little to no contact with people, give livable amount of money and isn't too hard?
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So I have a fuckbuddy for about one and a half years. At this point one could say she's my girlfriend, as she's the only one I've fucked in the last ~10months and I'm pretty sure she's not fucking anyone else either. But I made it pretty clear I don't want to commit. We agreed at the beginning of the relationship that we're just having fun. And we did.
But it's gotten pretty obvious that she's not fine with that anymore. In the last few months she kept trying to get closer to me and tie herself to me. She kept bringing her stuff at my place, sleeping over, calling me all the time for no reason, implying that we should move together and so on. She even gets jealous of my coworkers and female friends, she starts asking question about my relationship with them every time she sees me talking or texting another girl (which is usually work related). I tell her to fuck off every time she questions me, but other than that I let her do whatever she wants, I don't mind her sleeping at my place and spending time here.
Now here's the problem. 2 days ago she told me she's pregnant. I made her take a pregnancy test at my place so I know she's not lying. Thing is, we always use condoms so I'm quit suspicious that she messed up with them on purpose. I didn't think she'd be this insane and she sure as hell denied it, but she said she wants to keep the baby no matter what. I told her that I have no intention of raising a child with her and she started crying, yelling at me, calling me an immature asshole, saying she wished she never met me and all the good stuff. But she said she still has no intention of aborting it.
Now, I was planning to leave the country in 6 months or so. This was one of the reasons why I didn't want to get close to her, because I sure as hell don't plan on taking her with me. I've been planning this for many years, saving money, looking for potential jobs and so on, but I never told her. She may have found out from my friends though.
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So, is there any way I can convince her to do the abortion? She never seemed particularly interested in having children, but now she acts like it's the only thing she wants and this is her only chance at it. If she keeps it she'll pretty much have to raise it alone and she'll have a hell of a time doing that consider her financial situation. I don't really want that to happen, I don't really want to ruin her life, but if she'll be stubborn and keep it I won't help her in any way. I want to get this message across, but she doesn't believe me. I suspect that she thinks she'll convince me of forming a family with this baby.
Also, if I leave and she really keeps the baby can that come back and bite me in the ass? Are there any laws for that? Paying child support is not the end of the world, but I'd rather avoid it if I can. I live in Romania right now and I plan on moving to Canada so I don't know what laws if any apply to a situation like this.
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Lol you're such a liar
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If you used condoms (correctly) 100% of the times you had sex with her, and you never had one break, she's not pregnant. Not with your child anyway.
So take a deep breath, relax, and go through with your plan of leaving the country and this manipulative fleshlight with legs behind.
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I am pulling my hair out. (Trichotillomania)
I am 23 yrs old, I live together with my girlfriend.
We are facing some issues as I have no spare time to take care of myself due to fact that I am a last year student ant work 32 hours/week. I am constantly tired, I don't sleep much.
So the thing is that I am losing my authority in the relationship as a man. I have no time/no money for new clothes, no energy for meeting new people, interesting activities and etc.
So I can clearly see how this affects our relationship, how she is loosing interest in me. Both like a friend and sexualy intimate partner.
So back to hair pulling - trichotillomania. It is a self destructing mean of coping with stress. I've been pulling my hair out since I was 15yrs old. Lately I've been facing a lot of stress: lots of shit to do for the university, lots of shit at work. I've been pulling my hair out more intensively.
I almost never realize that I am pulling my hair out, it happens unconsciously, automatically.
Two days ago I've got a buzz cut and I've got some bald spots on my scalp.
I've realized what I've been doing all this time, how bad that is and how much hair I have already lost.
Yesterday I've ran into some kind of paranoia, panic attack when I was thinking about it. I've noticed how I try to keep my posture correct, keep my head always up so people would not notice and I've become very self aware about that.
It is very overwhelming emotionally for me.
So I've tried to talk about this with my girlfriend.
I understand that we are facing issues as a couple atm, and this could kill my "macho status" in the relationship completely.
I've opened my heart, I've told her all my fears, how I feel.
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I spoke for like 20 mins non stop.
But she did not respond at all.
She made fun of me.
Because I smoked a joint like two hours before the speech.
She even got mad at me for talking rubbish and this is nothing but the weed. The problems are not real, my emotions are not real. That's what she said.
Yeah, the bald spots are imaginary as well. Right guys ?
I told her that I was very open and it was hard for me to express the way I feel because I fear the consequences for my image/status as her man.
She ignored that.
I have no one else to speak about this with. Please help me out /adv/ how to cope with this, what should I do with her ?
She is very anti-weed, she has never smoked it. Of course I suggest her sometimes trying it. She compares weed to heroin, and all that, despite the fact the she smokes cigarettes, drinks cofffee and she supports the idea of presribing sedation drugs for treating depression.
Regarding the hair, I will cut my hair as short as possible so I wouldn't be able to pull them out. So the hair part is all sorted out.
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Are you high right now? I have no idea if the problem here is the hair pulling, your self-image issues, the stress, your gf not listening to you or your different views on drugs.
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Your first order of business would be to find a different way to deal with stress, maybe meditate? As for your gf, deal with your own problems first, then tell her she failed you, and that you expected at least a little support in these tough times for you, and then dump her or imply that.
Being with a person who is supposed to be close to you only for that person to dismiss your problems and make fun of you is unnacceptable.
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What are effective ways of cleaning pores and removing spots and bumps under the skin? As you can tell from pic related its disgusting and want it gone ASAP. What are some good methods of doing so?
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>>17780452
Go see a dermatologist. They can do a proper clean up and then recommend products/methods that might work specifically for your skin type and problem.
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>>17780452
Follow Patrick Bateman's morning routine
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>>17780452
Rub jizz on it you wanker.
Better yet.
Don't touch your face.
Wash your hands.
Prevention is the name of the game.
Control your diet.
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Been on 5 dates with a guy I met online. He seems cool, easy to talk to, quite good looking, doesn't seem like a bum in the sense he has a job and his own car.
Yesterday I find out that he still lives with his mom and has never moved out. He's 33. Is it right that this setting off alarm bells in my head? Is it weird to still be living at home at that age? I honestly just don't know if I want the awkwardness of going to his place and his mom being there. I'd understand if I was dating a college student, but this is a grown man. I'm only 23 and I moved out years ago.
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Ask him about it. More than likely he's aware of it.
If it's for financial reasons then it's excusable imo. Housing market in your area maybe inflated and needs a higher deposit or something.
Many people dont leave the nest until they are ready for a year of mortgage /rent with a viable job and a car.
Don't sweat, but do ask him. It may be a financial decision more than pure NEETdom.
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>>17780457
In fairness, he is living in a pricey city. His job is as a supervisor in a supermarket. I'm not looking to date a guy who is rich, that's not really important to me, but I do expect a guy in his 30's to be able to support himself. If he can't afford an apartment where he lives, he could move to the next town and commute in, he has a car after all.
I also found out his last girlfriend was 12 years younger than him. It's just all sounding a little bit like he might be a secret man-child, and I'm just really not in the position to take that on.
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one bump for advice then i'll let die if no one has any
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Iam starting a youtube career. Is this good enough?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBGM_RTnLi4
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>>17780446
The secret of youtube is either a great pitch, ten years of making videos or knowing a bunch of people who already have fanbases
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>>17780448
what if i am just a content stealer? :D
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>>17780449
Like stealing ideas?
That doesn't work very well, you may get a couple videos with se views early on if you are really good
Then you are fucked
Like reposting videos?
YouTube algorithm kills that
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i don't want to live anymore.
what do i do now. give advice please.
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>>17780435
What's the problem, Anon? What was the latest straw?
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>>17780435
What is that from
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>>17780696
HEY Arnold pidgin man episode
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So I overslept today, just woke up 00:47 pm or 12:48. Tomorrow I have school so I need to wake up early. How do I make myself so tired that I can fall asleep tonight at an appropriate time? Around 22-23 or 10-11 pm
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>>17780422
bump
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>>17780422
there really isn't much to do is there?
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>>17780422
Drugs... Seriously, your bodies sleep pattern is already altered so you need something to make you sleepy, ie. Drink till tired, alot of weed etc....
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Caught my little toe and most of the nail broke off
I feel sick
Is it going to grow back
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no it's over i'm sad to say, you're gonna get a hyper resistant toe mrsa
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>>17780407
troll?
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>>17780376
Please help, I'm really worried
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A year ago I met this girl while I was working abroad. We started out just casually seeing each other and having a good time. She told me very early in that she had a boyfriend and I was fine with it because I wasn't looking for anything serious either. Anyway, we kept seeing each other and things started to change. Over the course of the previous year she probably spent twice as much time staying with me as she did seeing him. She eventually came out with it and told me that she was not happy with her boyfriend at all (he is significantly older than her) and that she really likes me and I felt the same way. However, whenever her boyfriend came to visit she obviously had to stay with him and it really bugged me.On several occasions she has talked to me about whether we could actually be together and that she didn't want to stay with him anymore, however, she always ended up being too scared to break up with him which caused a lot of drama between the two of us. I'm pretty angry about the fact that she keeps bringing it up only to then get scared and change her mind again. I guess we also both know deep down that we couldn't really get serious because we're at different stages of our lives right now. She's 4 years older than me, I'm not even half way through uni and we live on opposite sides of the globe. A big part of me still wants to try with her though, and I don't really feel bad about trying to get her to leave her boyfriend because it's so obvious that she doesn't want to be with him at all. Anyway, the reason I'm posting this is because just now we went through that whole drama again (with her changing her mind again and being scared to break up with him) and I'm really angry about it.
The way I see it these are my options:
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1) I could understand that this is not what I'm looking for and she has put me through enough, try to forget about her and see if I can find an actual girlfriend.
2) I could take a step back and accept her situation, make it clear to her that I don't ever want to have that discussion with her again and that we're only going to be friends (well, a bit more than friends). Try to have a good time with her whenever we can see each other and leave her alone whenever her boyfriend comes to visit. I really hate the idea of seeing her after she's been with him though, I keep picturing her with that disgusting old dude and it makes me wanna throw up.
What do I do /adv/? I'm not very experienced as far as relationships go, whatever it is I got going with her is arguably the most serious I've gotten with a girl and I'm really struggling to deal with the fact that she's having sex with someone else at the same time, as much as I try to rationalize that it is just sex. I've also been with a few other girls since I met her and I wouldn't say it changed anything about what I felt. Am I being really stupid and immature about this?
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>>17780369
Lets forget that she is cheating on her bf for a moment.
1. If she wanted only you she wouldn't want him at all
2. You are ok with her having two men
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Your her bit on the side, younger man to fool around with while older man gives her security. She's a bitch who wants things both ways. Have a bit more respect and get yourself a girlfriend instead of sharing someone else's. Find someone who doesn't lie and cheat on their partner, which your current girlfriend does.
If she 'leaves' her older man, she'll find another. Halfway through uni you can't offer her stability or income, and she's four years ahead of you. She'll be thinking about having children when you're barely in your mid twenties and starting a career.
How difficult is it getting laid college?
Pic related: 18 year old HS senior. Going to uni next Fall.
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>>17780307
in college*
Also, I'm not interested in relationships right now. Just looking for something casual.
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>>17780307
You gotta give me something to work with here, OP. Are you capable of growing a beard? And what's up with your faggot shoes? No it's not hard to gey laid. Everyone gets laid. Short guys get laid. Fat black ugly chicks get laid. Everyone. You're parents got laid, ok? You're mom probably got fucked alot back in her hay days. You just have to not emmit radioactive waves of autism. That's it. For God's sake, hide your fucking powerlevel.
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>>17780312
OP here.
>are you capable of growing a beard?
No, not yet. My dad was able to when he was in his 20s, though.
>faggot shoes
lol
I'm not a virgin. I'm just wondering what the sex scene is like in college.
"Hey girlfriend do you want this laptop, since yours got stolen?"
"No, I feel bad about taking it so I'm just gonna borrow it"
My friend then comes along and offers me 100 bucks for it. I tell him that he can buy it at the end of the semester because my girlfriend is borrowing it. He's a cool guy and gives me the money for it already.
I tell girlfriend what happens and she gets really upset. Tells me that I'm shitty because I know she wanted the laptop but sold it. Told her that its okay because the guy is taking it after the semester ends plus I have have another old laptop I can give her. All hell breaks loose and she gets really pissed.
What the fuck am I supposed to do? Give the dude his money back? I need that money. Plus I asked her first and she told me she didn't want it. She'll only borrow it. She didn't give me a definite time so I told the guy to take it after the semester ends.
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>>17780279
Sounds like you're girlfriend's fucking crazy. Don't worry, all women are. You just have to grow a pair of balls, explain your position, be firm, and set her straight. I think most women subconsciously want to be disciplined. If she's still acting like a cunt, guess what? BYE! BYE BYE! BYE!
Let her find another boyfriend. You guys probably won't break up over a laptop and if you do, then you're better off without her, dude. Honestly.
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>>17780286
This
tell her to fuck off
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>>17780279
You made a bad choice of selling the laptop when it wasn't even in your possession. You are in the wrong here. You can try to patch things up, but you made a few poor decisions.
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Did this girl try to hit on me at the club tonight?
I was chewing gum and she came over and tapped me and asked me if I had any gum. In retrospect I don't know whether she actually gave a fuck about chewing gum at all, I think it's possible she just wanted to speak to me. What do you believe?
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>>17780273
She just wanted some gum
You could have used that opportunity to start talking to her
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>>17780273
Why do you seem dumbfounded by a girl asking you for gum? Why would you even try to look deeper into this?
You must have a really unfulfilling life
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>>17780278
Well just in retrospect I think it's complete bullshit that she wanted any. I believe it was just an excuse to talk to me... It's not exactly something anyone would be that desperate for, especially in a nightclub.
It matters for several reasons.
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God dammit why does porn and fapping have to be bad??
Its the only joy in my shit life
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>>17780257
>Its the only joy in my shit life
That's the problem. I'm struggling with it too. Difference is, I actually get laid. I think porn has desensitized me. I grew up jacking off about (no joke) 10 times a day. I have sex with my ex pretty regularly but I still jack off. Fuck.
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>>17780257
What makes you think it's bad? From a biological perspective the ONLY function of the male reproductive system is to produce viable semen and then launch it once there has been enough stimulation. As far as your body is concerned masturbation is absolutely identical to sex with a woman in the missionary position for the purposes of procreation.
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>>17780257
That's pretty sad man. Rather than worrying about fapping shouldn't you be evaluating why you're unhappy with your life and taking steps to reach a better future?