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>>17778215
>buying pokemon games

>>17778215
why not ask >>>/vp/ ?

>>17778222
My girlfriend and I play pokemon together. Sometimes we have sex before during or after. Then smoke some weed and back to it. I'm on the second island already, bitch is still figuring out where to ride her Tauros.

I'm sorry your life is devoid of this experience. Nice Tripps though.

Bojack should have just gone to a therapist
It wouldn't have worked out because it wouldn't be a show/they don't want to end up being sopranos but irl it helps

Go see a therapist

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>>17778196
>open relationship
>want

>>17778196

Do you have any goals you work towards? Does anything feel worthwhile or fulfilling? All the things you listed seem like things that offer gratification now, but don't really offer you anything to work towards. Maybe you need something to aspire for. Or maybe you're studying the wrong field, your friends aren't that close or instead of just a fuck you'd prefer something more intimate. We can't help you, because we don't know you that well. You gotta figure out this one yourself.

>>17778138
First off, relationships established through a tragedy never works out in the long run. They are opportunistic at best, only meant as a healing tool. Eventually, it wears off, and the original person will realize what a mistake it was to date you. She probably realizes you two aren't compatible or that you're not even her type. This is why she cheated on you.

és tuga op?

>>17778148
this

Also, the fact that you went to shangai to study means the pressure of friends and family to never do the wrong thing isnt there anymore, so she felt safer to cheat on you.

>>17778148
We have been together 2 years, i wasnt the one to go to her and start it. She did it, and we actually had a good chemistry, everybody said it, and i am not naive, i could tell when people were not just being nice. And she also did somethings for me that showed she loved me (or so i thought). The worst part is that she keeps sending messages telling me she will still fight for me disregard what happened, but i just cant go back to her without feeling like an absolute cuck. Cut thank you for your reply

>>17778123

Go see a dermatologist.

Laser treatment or possibly a DEEP facial peel.

Hope you got money because insurance won't cover cosmetic procedures.

>>17778123
>smallpox
But that's been extinct since the 70's and was last reported in 1977 you filthy liar

>>17778781
Than how do you explain my scars on the Face?, I got smallpox as a child, and many other People too 10-20 years ago

>>17778111
Love is when you miss the person you're dating even when aren't horny.
Make it known when it feels right, it's up to you.

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>>17778111

When you have mutual understanding of another and despite the mask coming off between you there are feelings in your chest that make you want to be around them constantly

You'll know the difference if it happens to you

Does "love" happen to everyone in their lifetime?
I am talking just that feeling of love towards someone that doesn't even have to be reciprocated back, do you think everyone is capable of love?

27 years old and I never felt anything even remotely similar to that so I'm sort of confused.

I know I have a long way to go but most of the people I know have already had some form of their "first love" or how you call it so I'm genuinely curious.

1) I could understand that this is not what I'm looking for and she has put me through enough, try to forget about her and see if I can find an actual girlfriend.

2) I could take a step back and accept her situation, make it clear to her that I don't ever want to have that discussion with her again and that we're only going to be friends (well, a bit more than friends). Try to have a good time with her whenever we can see each other and leave her alone whenever her boyfriend comes to visit. I really hate the idea of seeing her after she's been with him though, I keep picturing her with that disgusting old dude and it makes me wanna throw up.


What do I do /adv/? I'm not very experienced as far as relationships go, whatever it is I got going with her is arguably the most serious I've gotten with a girl and I'm really struggling to deal with the fact that she's having sex with someone else at the same time, as much as I try to rationalize that it is just sex. I've also been with a few other girls since I met her and I wouldn't say it changed anything about what I felt. Am I being really stupid and immature about this?

Smoke pot and jack off thinking about her senpai.

>>17778174

Funny you should say that. Exactly what Im doing tonight.

Any more advice though?

>>17778081

Have you actually loved her? Or do you just feel like you should? If you've just drifted apart, what might work is to do things people in early relationships do; go on dates, spend time together, do exciting things and have lots of sex and try new things in bed too. That in some cases work. However, just because she seems like your ideal girl now, doesn't necessarily mean she is. Not all relationships last, even if they seem "good", and dragging it on might just make things worse. There might be someone better suited out there for both of you.

>>17778081
End it

>>17778109
>Have you actually loved her?
I have, we've been together for good 3 years

We live far apart right know (and will continue for the next year), because of college/work, so we can't really spend a lot of time together.

>dragging it on might just make things worse
Maybe. I'm just afraid of letting everything we build together go. I'm also afraid of being alone.

Anyway, thank you for the advice

>>17778068

It just happens. People on Internet are picky, and treat others poorly esp. considering the online dating environment.

Women on OKC get dozens of messages a day. If you aren't a piece of dirt that is asking for an NSA blowjob, you're doing okay. The other half is they have to find YOU attractive and interesting, otherwise it doesn't matter how engaging your questions are. If all the convo is involves you acting like you did a close reading of their profile and they don't ask questions back, then they aren't putting in any effort or don't have real interest.

Also, big piece of advice, if you actually want to take a girl out, maybe ask one question, get a reply, and they ask her out. Cut to the chase and get a real life date on the books, my dude.

OKC is a rough place esp. for nice dudes, because women are really at the meat market. They have so many options and there are 100s of dudes ready to take them out and get it in as fast as possible. Sure, women can be into that, no judgement, but it can make it hard for you as a man to feel like you are distinguishing yourself from the fuckbois. I've never been into hookups, and when I was using OKC it made me feel bad because I would be flat out ignored by women with 99% match.

That said, I have a GF of one year who I met on OKC. Persistence pays off. Just deactivate your account if it causes too much stress and then focus on you in the meantime. You can always go back.

>>17778699
Cheers for the pointers.

Care to share how your initial convo panned out on OKC with your GF?

>>17779412

That was an out of the ordinary one for me.

Her profile said something along the lines of "don't be offended if we just end up friends" and at that point I had been on the site on and off for about 9 months and was feeling like going out on a limb because I had dated 3 girls already who cut it off after a couple weeks. I sent her a message saying I thought we would get along just fine, no matter the context. At the time I had zero idea what the hell I meant by that. But it reflected the mindset she wanted her dates to have going into it. And it worked out. We had a great first date.

Our relationship has been by no means idyllic, but I love her I still find it odd that one little decision could have kept my GF out of my life forever.

So I guess another piece of advice I have is that when you feel like you have nothing to lose, go out on a limb and see where it takes you.

>>17777999
Be a little boy.

>>17777999
Seek intensive therapy with a psychologist who specializes in sex offenders. If at any point you become certain that you cannot avoid offending you need to check yourself into the hospital. If this becomes a chronic situation you should kill yourself.

>>17778032
Implying getting proffesional help wouldn't get him arrested/ on a list

Just keep it to yourself anon

>>17777991
Try not to move because he will cum in 20 seconds.

>>17777991

Don't focus so much on his virginity, it's demeaning. He is inexperienced, not the guy with three arms.

If you are experienced, then guide him a bit. Guide his hands on your body and don't oversell it. Don't be afraid to say "I don't like that", treat him like an equal and talk to him.

He'll probably be slower on picking up non-verbal cues.

>>17777991
How inexperienced is he? Kissless virgin?

Foreplay is more important than the actual sex, but if he's a real virgin anything you do will blow his mind and he's gonna be 100% focused on trying to make sure you have a good time. Don't worry about it too much, just be relaxed and comfortable and speak openly about about what you want from him.

You stop feeling bad about your decision the moment you realize she didn't tell you the whole truth.

Why are you even interacting with your sister at this point? It sounds like you don't get along at all and she doesn't give a shit about you. Let her do whatever she wants with her life, you worry about yourself.

>>17777982
>How do you say no to family without feeling like a piece of shit?

You say No. You have at least as much right to refuse as she has to ask you, in any situation. In this one you have more right not to be inconvenienced than she has to inconvenience you..

>>17777981
Sounds shitty. They sell prosthetic dicks you can put on your dick, might make you feel better.

Otherwise, try to readjust your thoughts. You're not gonna change the size of your penis or the shape of your build by being neurotic about them.

>>17777981
Freud said all women envied penises, but then what did he know?

>There's this weird aura of power and domination about penises my genitalia can't provide,

Have you ever been in the presence of any male over 11? Your body has the power to turn most males into gibbering, salivating idiots. All those boners you envy were generated by thoughts of your genitals.

>in reality I want the opposite.

If you want to be sexually dominant, there are plenty of guys out their whose deepest wish is to be ruled by a 'mere girl.' Google 'BDSM for beginners'.

>>17778016
>If you want to be sexually dominant, there are plenty of guys out their whose deepest wish is to be ruled by a 'mere girl.' Google 'BDSM for beginners
That wouldn't feel right because most men could overpower me in a matter of seconds and I would know they're just pretending to respect me as their superior. They all have the possibility of dominanting or even raping me if they were into that but choose not to. That's what I envy, and I even joined a gymn because of that but considering my weight and size there's not much to work with.

Fucking kek, go full Wario bro.

>>17777929
You can make a stew/broth with it but if you want to eat it raw then yolo. Seeing if you can eat an entire clove without wanting to die or douse your mouth in milk is a good bad ass test.

Just wait it out.

>>17777885

Find something worth doing. Why would you want to learn? To do something?

>>17777894

Just because i don't have any practical skills. And I feel like a waste of space. But at the same time, I don't have an ideas about what to do, even when I do learn anything.

>>17777897

Then pick something. Even if it's just getting a job to uy something. Get a goal and work towards it.

>>17777857
First of all, did you exchange insurance info? If not, don't. Offer to pay for her repairs after she gets 3 estimates.

>>17777867
No we haven't exchanged insurance, just license plate and numbers. And ok ill attempt to convince her

>>17777857
>noko
This takes me back