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They will never know the pain of not living a life.

>>17779065
In that case your problem isn't the answer to their question. How the fuck did you even manage to stagnate for couple years?

>>17779065

It's a shitty question that I hate asking and being asked, but it's just kind of a sound social introduction kind of greeting. Who knows, maybe something's new? Even if something isn't new, I try to come up with something reasonably creative to get the conversation started. Talk a new game, movie, something like that.

>>17779060
How do I tell if emotional trauma has caused lasting damage?

>>17779060
Why don't you get a real job as a neurologist?

>>17779094
Not that as much into neurology as into psych. I work on the unit for the criminally insane. Never gets boring.
>>17779084
If you avoid or do certain things because of the trauma it did leave a mark. How you handle it will determine if it's just a lesson or a serious condition.

It's only going to get worse if you keep loosing sleep. This is really bad, it's not like staying up a couple of nights and then "catching up" the following days. It's worse than starving yourself, worse than being dehydrated. Whatever you're doing with your life right now is not worth it. If you have to quit your job to get enough sleep do it. You can find something with fewer hours. Sounds like you're also developing some minor insomnia so the sooner you start sleeping properly the better. Make a sleep schedule and keep to it.

>First off sorry to disappoint but I don't need help with anything concerning dating or dealing with the opposite sex. I know that's mostly what you all care about.
>Anyways I've had problems with depression...

>>17779077
Im trying man
I cut back a lot on my hours and I finished my labs for school so now I really only have to do shit three days out of the week. It does seem like I've started a runaway snowball effect for sure I'm just trying to reverse it before I wind up in the nut house.
Been avoiding caffeine, quit drinking(which blows). I've been thinking of trying 5-htp as I've read lack of sleep causes serotonin problems which cause sleep problems. I use to use it the day after I rolled until I quit that shit and it kinda worked.

>>17778984
first:
nobody cares about highschool gpa
its all sat/act, class rank, and extracurriculars

>>17778991
second:
you're underageB&
fuck off

>>17778997
I'm 18

>>17778991
I did sports I guess and my school doesn't rank

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>>17778973
I want a girl to peg me

What is the secret handshake to let girls know I want this

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said goodbye to the girl i've had feelings for for the past 2 years. shes with someone else and pregnant but i never stopped thinking about her. i said goodbye and that was it. wanted to say so many other things but my mind was blank. i feel like dying.

>>17778989

Probably just post on CL or fetlife or some shit that's probably the best demographic to appeal to if you are into that kind of degenerate shit.

>>17778963
For the record. With one friend I kinda "suggested" that I wanted to be with her, very awkwardly. She was disoriented at first. But then she texted me saying that she wanted too.

With the other one, I kissed her out of the blue, but it was the wrong scenario and situation (we were both sober, watching a movie at my house). It was awkward as fuck.

But both worked.

I just want to do this same thing, but less autistically. I want to know if anyone has an advice.

>>17778963
>>17778981

I think the kiss will be better if you manage to do it in an optimal situation. Most women prefer non-verbal communication in romance.

>>17778992
Thanks, breh. This was the kind of reinforcement I needed.

By optimal situation I assume you mean a little bit drunk, laughing a bit, yet intimate.

I have this moments with her that I thought "now it's the time" but chickened off. Next time, I won't let it pass.

I can only talk about East Kilbride since am from near there, it's entirely dependent upon the area within the town whether it's a shitehole or not, and East Kilbride's shite holes are proper shiteholes, however it is not a terribly expensive place and it isn't actually that close to Edinburgh in regards to what is considered close in the UK. It is close to Glasgow though which has loads of connections to East Kilbride transport wise. You'd be able to live off £800 a month (rent, bills, food) if you plan right in both EK and surrounding areas, throw in an extra £100 if transport is needed.
In regards to the racism thing us up in Scotland don't really have the whole get every foreign person to fuck idea, even the people who are total arseholes up here won't be telling you to get to fuck cause you're foreign.

Anything in particular you want to know just ask, I'll keep watch for half an hour or so.

>>17778940
East Kilbride is near Glasgow, not Edinburgh.

Also, the English dislike foreigners far more than the Scots do.

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>>17779026
Thank you for the reply.

I want to ask one more thing. How expensive is Glasgow and East Kilbride in terms of night life?
Also, I am generally interested in smoking laws. Are there pubs where you can smoke inside? When I was in London and Oxford last year, I couldn't find any pubs where smoking was allowed, not even pubs where they have separated space for smokers.

Talk to one everyday
It'll b hard but it'll get easier
It's a skill
Imagine your EXP meter going up each time you talk to a ho


Expect nothing from the talk. Just the act of talking is +10exp

>>17778873
Based answer. I was going to ask the same thing, I can barely stand to talk to people I'm attracted to. And God deliver me from strangers, public meetings and family reunions.

>>17778866
Realize that they are people pretty much like you but with a different set of genitals. Girls shit and fart too.

>>17778855
Stop talking to her

Ya that's gonna hurt

Exercise and asap stick your dick in anything else
It'll make your feelings be less

>>17778863
I tried that but it hurts losing what little I have. Hurts too much.

>>17778870
I know I should, but I don't want to look for somebody else.

I need to just see her as a friend, but it's fucking impossible to shake these feelings.

>>17778799
What do you mean by difficult relationship?

>not financially and/or psychologically prepared

Wtf u answered ur own question bitch

>>17778815
like what happens when you don't have a good amount of money and/or psychological wellness

>>17778761
just stop talking to your normal friends. start watching anime or something. it should all come naturally after that.

Watch more porn and anime

>>17778761
go get some awkward hobbies. maybe start smoking weed 24/7. go for repression of your problems. there will come a point where u will feel antisocial again. and if u keep going there u might reach the point of no return. stop talking 2 girls 2.

>>17778742
Listen to some Bill Withers, Smokey Robinson, Frank Sinatra, and some Otis Redding.

Goddam... You need to DESTROY HER, anon... SEXUALLY! Oh my goddddddddd stick it in there and UNF UNF UNF UNF DE LA UNF UNF UNF !

Honestly, you started your story by comparing yourself to her ex. The first thing you need to do is establish an identity separate from him. Be the best you that you can be. If you start trying to to do what he did and try to do it better, you will either succeed or fail. When you blaze new trails, you can only succeed.

>>17778742
From what it sounds like if you already made out with her and you've known her for awhile it'll be really hard to fuck up.

Probably the only thing to make it awkward is whip your dick out

Just like hold her hand and do some other cute shit and you'll be good

Yea
Stop watching porn for a month and report back

When that fails, give up and binge on porn

>>17778705
it's time to stop watching porn

Please

>>17778708
>>17778709

I tried. I didn't watch porn or masturbate for almost a year

>>17778694
Look, it was you or her, and she choose to sacrifice herself for you. She gave you your life, so don't fucking waste what she gave you moping. What happened happened, and you can't change it. So if you love your mother, live your life to the fullest extent. That's what she would have wanted.

>>17778694

You never knew your mom so you didn't feel the need to grieve her death. The video suddenly made her "real" to you and now you're feeling the loss. Once it's there, grief can last a lifetime.

You're going to be butthurt for the next several weeks, that's all I know

>>17779503
this anon said it best

sorry for your troubles OP

Does this end in some incest stuff, I'm getting bored

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(cont.)
...but it bothers me when she greets my father.
And when they talk to each other. Or when she asks him for help with the computer or something.
The final straw was when, last Sunday, he made breakfast for himself, my little sibling and my cousin. Spaghetti from the previous day (my birthday) and eggs. I got up a little earlier than usual and I thought that one of those plates was mine. Nope, turns out it was for them. Why didn't he make breakfast for me too? Because he never knows when I'm going to get up in the morning. Bullshit, when I come home late from school, even if at night, my mom keeps done food for me from lunch. And the same thing happened again today.

Today I have finally admitted that I hate my cousin.

After some alone time crying in my parents' room, I thought that maybe I hate all this because I hate myself. I feel useless and inferior when she helps with the housework. And when she does the dishes without anyone telling her to do it, it makes my blood boil, and it's even worse when I AM supposed to do it but she does it before I even realize it.
When this happens, I feel even worse about myself and feel like procrastinating even more. I think "well, idiot, if you want to be a fucking slave it's not my fault. Go and do it if you want, I'll be here not doing anything. Aren't you supposed to have lots of homework? Then stop doing that and let me do it, you fucking bitch!" or shit like that. She's like she's always trying to help in everything and it just annoys the fuck out of me. Even when I have to cook and she's doing her very important homework, she offers to the half of the work. And it makes me feel bad.

>>17778688
Well be ready to get bored to death, my man

>>17778690
(cont.)
Anyways, right now my problem is that I'm jealous of her relationship with my father.

We don't talk much to each other anymore, because recently for some reason it's been more difficult for me to talk to him, more than ever, even if I just want to tell him about mundane shit like the news or random trivia. Yesterday I fucking cried after quietly telling him "thanks" for giving me a ride to school (when I was supposed to take a bus) and I don't know if he even heard me. I sent him a message saying "I said thanks for giving me a ride, and sorry for making you bring me to school once again" (this happened three times this week because I overslept). I think this fear I have of taking to him is precisely because I realized that I'm jealous of my cousin.

Now, I don't know what the fuck are "daddy issues", but I'm pretty sure that I don't have the Elektra complex because I love both my parents equally, I don't feel threatened by my mother, when they argue I take my mom's side, my dad's side or I take no sides, and I have a boyfriend who I love and is younger than me.

I don't know. I just feel like my cousin is trying to take my father away from me, like she's trying to steal him or something. I feel I'm a terrible daughter too, not only for my father, but especially for him because he's always been so passive that even to this day I'm used to yell or raise my voice at him over the slightest annoyance, which is something I'm changing now.

I feel like such an idiot. I feel so shitty right now. What the fuck do I do? I think every time I go cry and reflect on all this I'm a step closer to the solution.