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Because it is different to hear that someone doesn't find you attractive based on something physical you have nothing to do with personally, or that they think lesser of you as a person.

All the more because people tend to bit a bit crude and instead of sticking to different morals, they make it obvious that they think she's trash. No one would like the implication that their character is trash from someone they have feelings for.

because youre (truthfully) telling them they have poor value, not a very nice thing to hear

>>17780661
I doubt anyone wants to hear that due to no fault of their own, the person they like will never be attracted to them. Id rather be shot down because our personalities don't match than be told Im too short.

It's definitely worth it to work on body language. As for how to learn it, I personally like videos. That'll depend on how you like to learn though. I learned a lot about body language in a public speaking class, so if you have that opportunity I'd take it.

>>17780639
Superflirt by Tracey Cox

>>17780723

Thanks. Will look for that options

>>17780761

From the description on Amazon the book looks definitly like what I look for. I will read it. Thanks

depend which pain we are talking about, tell us more.

>>17780478
I am 6 weeks throrugh SSRI, sometimes it feels okay due to numbness.
But it's all fake, I keep getting back to the point of being extremely low and suicidal.

It doesn't end, ever. How is this even possible?

Work out, exercise, get fit

You'll feel too tired to feel whatever's bothering you

>>17780332
Shit dude. I actually got a girl pregnant and she wanted to keep it. I didn't know what to do. I didn't want to walk out on it. I was broken up with the girl at the time so it made things worse. In the end she promised to get rid of it if I got back with her. She did and I did. But then she told me I didn't have to be with her anymore. Something about her conscience. Turns out, she faked the abortion. I wasn't there, but her mom drove her to the clinic and she jusy sort of hung around for a bit. Got some gauze and wrapped it around her arm where she got supposedly injected with anesthesia, and sent me a picture of a fetus she found online. Her plan would've worked too...

...if she didn't have a miscarriage. I got so fucking lucky. We're not together anymore but I still fuck her. Don't use a condom, just pull out.

Anyway. Get whatever you want from this story.

>>17780345

>picture of a fetus she found online

Are you retarded? You think they show you the fetus? You think the average aborted fetus is in one of those dramatic single or few pieces? I realize this has nothing to do with the substance of your post but she and you were both stupid as fuck.

>>17780367
>You think they show you the fetus?

Don't know. Never had an abortion, fuckface.

>You think the average aborted fetus is in one of those dramatic single or few pieces?

Didn't look like that. Looked like orange chicken.

>>17780064
>jobs that don't ask too many questions and will hire any moron?
Well, yeah, there's a ton. First off-
>all the jobs are illegal immigrant tier
Oh. You're a picky faggot who thinks he's too good for building work experience with starter jobs . Never mind then.

>>17780079
this
fuck OP

>>17780079
I'll take 'em if I have to. Geez. Sorry. Ok, what do you have? It's just that the jobs I've had over here were from agencies and I was mostly working with chinese and mexican ladies at factories. Often just for a few days before I had to go re apply for another job. I'm trying to see if I can find something a little more stable, that's all. Sorry it rubed you the wrong way.

1. Exercise
2. Hobbies
3. Socializing
4. Medication

>>17779998

I don't, I need help too, although I admit journaling and friends help

But it's just like applying an unrelated treatment to a wound or disease, it does not quite fix the source of the issue

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>>17779998
Crying to internet friends at night

>>17779926
Totally, do the same back.

>>17779941
Excellent.

Not sure about friend A, we've been hot and cold with each other.
I might try to be more touchy with friend B. She's actually older than me though.

>>17779926
female C will suck your dick OP, keep going.

>>17779713
Shove your arm up my ass

>>17779719
A-Are you a girl?

Not really, at least I prefer skinny fat guys

>>17779612
>What am I feeling...I'm so confused.

This is called being a girl.

If you enjoyed holding his hand so much, you might be romantically interested in him? Feelings can change and it's not something we're always conscious of.

you shouldnt have let him do it.
Either you give a relationship a shot or you cut it off.
There is nothing wrong with friendzoning a guy unless you lead him on with false hope. Its not your fault, he grabbed your hand not the other way around.
But by taking a bit to let go you've sent mixed signals and unless its a downright rejection a guy is gonna keep at it.

Unless you're like some women i knew who have romantic feelings for the guy but dont want to fuck it up because "they were friends first though". Which is retarded.

So two options
1. If you reciprocate his feelings you owe it to yourself at least to try it out. Who knows maybe it could lead to a lot of happiness down the road for both of you.
2. Tell him straight up in the most direct way possible that you will never love him. Sure you might lose a friend, but you're a shitty person if you lead him on.

>>17779456
Gay marriage in the UK grants citizenship status?

>>17779364
>useless degree
Stopped reading right there, no degree is useless if you learned things and grew from the experience.

>>17779375

I didn't mean it in a literal sense, I meant degrees that aren't in demand except to teaching the new generation what the previous generation taught you. First thing that comes to mind is Philosophy.

Yeah, you can write a book but you'll typically end up teaching it at a community college.

what about computer science

>>17779225
inb4

>cheated on my bf because i was too scared to say no

slut

>>17779225

Think of it this way: Being uncomfortable now will lead to much more piece of mind down the road.

You already identified the problem you need to work on, being timid and soft. I personally believe that you should firstly have a facade to hide that side of you, some ass holes will notice that they could push you around and get what they want.

This may seem a little strange but maybe you should attempt taking a self defense course, not because you're unsafe but when you spar with someone you can't back down. You have to defend yourself and actively be assertive, this could get you in a better mindset plus be a great way to blow off steam and exercise.

>>17778297
Jesus I type like a retarded. I'm sure you get the gist though

>>17778297
I need to get some pants with butt vents

>>17778297

Just remember that girls wear stuff like this because they want to express their sexuality and feel sexy, not because they are looking for sexual attention.

I know it sounds weird, but girls really do like to peacock but this is completely a separate concept for them in their mind than fucking or flirting.

Also, trying to prevent your girl from wearing sexy clothes is creepy and paternalistic. She wants a boyfriend, not another father. Plus it teaches women that they should be ashamed of their sexuality, when men are not taught such lessons. It propagates the cultural conditioning of the patriarchy which teaches women that they do not own their own sexuality and that it should be in control of men.

Cheers.

>>17777624
I know that feel OP, I think it's normal. Just remind yourself why you wanted it in the first place and how your life will be better with a gf. If it doesn't work out it's not like you are 100% tied to her, but it's worth giving it a shot imho. Good luck.
I mean as long as you were once interested in her. If you were never interested in her, don't. But you find her attractive, you get along and you want or used to want a relationship so go for it. You don't have anything to lose except a bit of money and time that will be worth it for the experience you add your mental resumé.

>>17777632
The thing is she was doing these things that really annoyed me such as playing hard to get, begging to go to parties with drinking and drunk men, and basically trying to gauge my interest by ignoring me. I swear she's great and I love talking to her, but those just really turned me off. Who's to say she won't continue that... Would she stop if I just ask her out?

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check em

>>17776829
Come to Canada. There is still racism here of course, but it is very rare (unless you are First Nations of course), and our politicians speak up against it.

>>17776830
how many gender pronouns are you maple syrup swilling faggots up to now?

Op, what ethnicity are you and where are you from? Everywhere you go, there will be racism. It's a really stupid fact, but it's true. I'm australian, i'd recommend coming here, because as much as we have dumb cunts going " OI GET OUT ME COUNTRY", we are a nation of so many cultures, and i feel like the good parts will outweigh the bad parts.