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I should add that I'm 20, I have my high school diploma, and I've been out of school for a year.

Have you EVER had a job?

>>17783321
No, I've never had a job.

As a girl I can confirm that gay porn is pretty common, it's not something I'm personally invested in, in fact I find that pic pretty lolworthy. But just look at yaoi, its targeted and consumed mostly by women etc. As far as I know live action stuff is mostly watched by gay people (surprise surprise) and women.

As far as the other stuff I can't really say, I would probably do it but then again I'm of the gender where it's more socially acceptable to do so, just wanted to pop in to say that yeah, it's pretty common

You're considering gay sex so yeah it's a bit gay. Can't call no homo on this one. However it's not like you have to do it. I have a few fetishes but I don't demand they're fulfilled, and vice versa if they had a fetish I wasn't comfortable with.

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>>17783296
The idea of being coerced into gay sex for my gf's pleasure is a pretty strong fetish for me. I'd have to be a bottom though, I couldn't get it up to stick in some dude's poop chute. The thought of getting pounded while she watches is fucking hot. Now I just need to find a gf. Also outside of this scenario I'm totally straight, it's strange.

>>17783284
70-ish guy here (Yes, there are some of us on 4chan).

How does it feel to be old? You notice that you can't do some things - mostly physical, like running up stairs - you used to. But then you don't particularly want to run up stairs much, so it's no loss.

How does it feel to stop work? You wonder why you waited so long. But it is absolutely necessary to have something to retire TO, not just From. Those who don't plan for the new no-work life can be lost, and age rapidly. Those who have a new life (of hobbies, avocation, travel, grandkids, whatever) flourish.

>>17783545
>A 70 year old on 4chan

I don't doubt it's possible, but hot damn. Also never saw it from the perspective that you can't do things, but you don't really feel the need to do them anyways.

My grandfather retired at 62 and died at 84. His health only started failing him (as a result of his work) the last 3 years or so. He and my grandmother spent 22 years together all day every day, traveling and reading and playing games and watching their grandchildren grow up.

He was a happy man and it showed.

you probably have normie meme depression

>>17783288
yes, I know that I'm depressed for about a year, but recently it's really fucking up my life. I lost my whole motivation for things that I normally like, I cut off almost all of my friends, stay the whole day at home if I don't have to go out, I get really angry for no reason and my studies get worse and worse. Additionally I'm a 21y old KHV, and I often think about throwing myself in front of the train before I go to university, which I still have for at least 2 years. I'm a shitty mess at the moment. I hold my the phone for about an hour in my hand before I called the shrink and then answered with a high pitched voice like a kid. When I talk to people I always think about them laughing about me. I don't understand this shit anymore.

>>17783297
>21y old KHV

as a 19 year old KHV i know that feeling

>>17783273
>I'm 20 and feel im just too old for the dating phase.

Matey, you haven't even really properly entered the dating phase. That starts for proper when you have some money and a job and are actually an adult.

>haven't dated since 17

then you have never properly dated, you were just being a teenager.
Spending your parents money to go to the mall with a girl you like isn't dating.

>>17783273
>Is there a reason to date or marry anyone as an adult?
>I'm 20
You are not an adult. Is there a reason for you to date? Maybe not. But it has nothing to do with your age.

Personally, I met and started dating the woman I ended up marrying when I was 20. That's obviously pretty unusual. But it has dramatically improved my life, and I think hers as well. So that's one anecdotal reason to date at the old age of 20, as well as to get hitched. Makes life better, or at least can.

>I'm 20
Lol

She obvi going through some shit

You gotta do one of those intervention things, have fun

btw pro tip, don't ask why she was drinking, ask how she's doing and if there's anything she wants to talk about

>>17783237
You could also just break up with her and get her out

You're totally in the right to do that

Dude if she does not have sense enough to shape up on her own she's sure as fuck not going to do it just because you ask her to. The fact that her disinhibited instinct was to be horribly mean and then when you asked why she was drunk attack you is a CLEAR indication that she doesn't value you or the relationship very much, and definitely not as much as she values drinking. Just leave it's already over. Or you can stick around and try to force her to change, which will leave you drained and further damaged, at which point you will realize for yourself that you cannot create lasting change in another person unless they themselves want to do it.

>>17783220
it's evolution, baby

Kek
Yea it's normal bro
Chris Rock made his last 10 years about that struggle
Man is never satisfied

I recommend that you figure something out that lets you get with with other girls because that shit would eat me up inside and id probably end up cheating on my wife, but maybe you are a stronger man than I

Attraction is important so break up asap. No point of stringing it along any longer than it needs to be. If you aren't attracted to her now, imagine when she's fat, pregnant, swollen and has a hormonal attitude to boot? Only a man who truly loves his woman puts up with that shit. End it now.

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Dammit, this is not like in one of your japanese anime where you can simply go the harem road. It's impressive enough you managed to get grills with painting alone. You'll have to choose between the girl and the trap. Keep in mind that traps can't get children and are also nutjobs most of the time, but so are you.

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Wtf man, do you want kids? at 25? So in your mind there is a way where you have a family and a trap lover(?) and they all live happy together.

I also dont know how understand the sissy thing, you're saying you couldnt fuck them without being feminizated? Lmao

>>17783139
I paid $40 ($100 collectors edition of game) for a in game skin, €25 isn't that bad.

>>17783145
The figure though, would you say it's nice? Would you think it would be strange if I owned it or do you think it would look nice as a standalone part of my room?

>>17783166
If you get a girl to your room I doubt a figure is going to scare her away

Any hobby is enough

Video games and masturbating to anime aren't hobbies

I'm talking real hobbies.
Like shipbuilding or engine working

Those and things like then are hobbies

>>17783112
That's your advice, shipbuilding or engine work?

>>17783142
No, you autistic fuck, I'm saying that a real hobby like those I mentioned make you valuable to other people
Shit like anime isn't

Don't give up before you become a wizard wizchan.org

It is never too late. You do not need a "learning curve" when it comes to romance.

You should jumpstart your sex experience by going to a prostitute. Practice with prostitutes a few times until you get the hang of sex and are no longer mystified by it. Then you will be in a much better situation to get a girl for yourself.

>>17783085
Wait I don't even understand, if you have the same rash in your arm it's scabies. What is the problem?

>>17783095
I'm saying it doesn't look quite the same nor does it itch, which scabies are supposed to itch like a motherfucker. I was placated by his contact dermatitis excuse, but now I'm worried that it was scabies after all and I was stupid to believe he didn't cheat unless a) there's another probable way to get scabies on your penis or b) my rash isn't actually scabies.

>>17783102
Not everyone has the same allergic reactions to scabies, some people don't itch at all, although most do itch. Is your boyfriend itchy?
Yes, sexual contact will give you scabies if said person has scabies but even sleeping in a bed that may be infected, or camping can give you scabies. My mom got scabies in a hospital ffs.
I'd be weary though, is there more reason for you to believe he cheated?

>>17783074
Stop watching porn, you're addicted and getting iron claw.

I'm sure if you take a break from porn your tolerance/sexual desensitized viewpoint will change. But unfortunately sex might feel dull even if you avoid porn, and if your doing partner doesn't give oral or anything outside of standard sex that could be a reason why you need something extra to cum. People say women need mental stimulation above the physical, but so do men. Go celibate for a week or so, let yourself rediscover your pleasure center in your mind.

You're addicted to novelty. Stop watching porn.

I don't blame him to be honest, having a baby is a huge life changer. At what age does he want to get married?

>>17783087
Around the same.

I can't understand why people won't acknowledge that it starts to get dangerous for the woman and child at that age. And I want to have energy to play with my kid. But mostly I just dont want to wait that long.

We talked about it (argued about it) and he said he'd think about it but mostly his side was "I wish you luck finding someone who shares your goals"

Everyone I know, friends, and family waited to have children around their thirties. ESPECIALLY these days it just isn't reasonable to think you'd decently support a child or children prior to that unless you have insane amounts of family support.

If you're itching to get pregnant and anchor your life down for the next 18 years, and he isn't, he can't be blamed.

He is 21 for fucks sake, he was a teen not to long ago. I guarantee you, having a child has never been on his mind, and you scared the absolute shit out of him by bringing it up.

I wouldn't be surprised if he breaks up with you. There is no compromise in this situation. You can't go "Well, if not soon, then get me pregnant at 25". Guys don't think ahead like that, and generally think that doing so is crazy (because it is).

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I get mad a lot when things don't go my way with Melee so even that feels more and more useless to me now.

As for work, I hated work because I did a call center. I handled customers and fixed printers and shit like that. It was an extremely easy job with barely any mental effort but unfortunately I absolutely hated speaking with people. I wanted to pass some quiet time but every time somebody called me for their retarded shit problem I'd get extremely agitated and annoyed that they called at all. I helped them just fine but I got more and more of a headache just speaking to these people regardless of if they were nice or bitchy about their issue.

It was a full time job and it felt like such a waste of time and I hated every minute going there that I decided to quit and I've been unemployed for about a month because of it. I didn't care about having money or anything, I already have everything I could possibly need, I am a person that needs very little to be pleased. But unfortunately due to the living situations I can't pay for my cell phone bill or internet bill or car anymore because I had shit spending habits and barely ended up with much in the bank after I quit after working for 8 months.

Initially though, I quit the job because I was going to have a paid internship if I would've done the Security + cert, which would've been just fine. But unfortunately studying for it is extremely difficult for me, I couldn't figure out a proper method to figure it out, so instead I just wasted my time instead keeping off the day to fully go into studying because I was lazy. I don't know about the condition of the paid internship at this moment, but I keep pushing back when I actually bother studying regardless of how the situation is.

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Also, I was planning on going to a cheap community college to delay the debt payment of the college I failed, but looking through the classes is proving to be a difficult task as well considering that I'm having issues contemplating what kind of degree I even want to do. I don't know if I want to try a "software development" career again after failing that with little interest the first time, or if I should go for something art related. But both involve classes I don't give 2 shits about and I'm trying to take that into consideration alongside my poor motivation skills.

And now I'm basically at an impass, I have no idea how to progress, I don't know where to go or what to pursue. I don't want to do anything at all. I thoroughly enjoy my NEET life but real life doesn't accomodate my enjoyment of the situation; I have bills to pay, my mother hates me, and I'm a joke to my family. I don't help around the house because I tend to sleep a lot and feel that my time is better spent doing other things. I'm obviously not helping with pay, especially after we finished recently moving into a house after living with my grandmother for several years.

Plus, I'm out of shape, I barely go outside, I just kinda suck in general. I hang out with friends whenever they're not busy but not for very long. Thinking about my long term I have extremely little energy. It takes a lot of effort to wake up or do anything that requires energy, even with the meaningless hobbies I do like smash or speedrunning, it takes a shitton of effort to bother with those things just because of how tired I always feel. I feel sleepy constantly as well.

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There's also the additional fact that in the long term, I can't really see how things will be for me in terms of where I'll stand with friends and family.

Right now my plans are to possibly try freelancing since I hate the idea of working for a company. Working at the call center ruined that idea, I would much rather have like a week to do something with my own hours within the week then follow a strict schedule of some shit company working for them as an empty shell of a human being. For whatever reason though, even though I like to retain my humanity I don't want to work, all the free time I have now is being used on fucking nothing anyway. I try to have motivation for freelance like web design or art but I can't bring myself to even bother with anything of that matter and instead just do mindless things like play online games with friends or play smash or whatever.

Anyway, after all that rambling, that's the situation I'm in. I can't figure out what's wrong with me, I feel indifferent about everything, I don't want to do anything, is it because I'm out of shape? According to my mother she says I've been this way for a long time now. I'm immature and can't handle things on my own, having a job is too big for me because before I quit the call center, I was fired from the last two jobs I had due to being late. The reason I was late was cuz I wanted to stay home for as long as possible because I didn't want to go to work or school or whatever.

I have less energy than my 54 year old mother, in social events I barely hold a conversation because I hate talking about myself, I can hold a conversation if it doesn't involve myself for a bit but if I'm not talking I'm just by myself on the phone or away from the noise or whatever. Which is bad to my family that is obsessed with constantly being together and spending time with each other without being distracted.