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>>17777066
how about you start calculating how much money you need for land, a place to sleep, etc ?

>>17777066
As an ex-hikkikomori let me tell you that, at least in my case, after becoming a functional member of society I constantly miss my hikki days and I lock myself in my room, comsume drugs and play videogames/watch anime whenever I get the chance (basically all of my off days).

That said, becoming a farmer is not easy, and if you plan on living off your land China is a bad place because due to overpopulation land is expensive as fuck, if you are not a landowner then the neet life is better than farmer's.

Just get a job wherever you are and see where you get from there.

I know you want to make a big change but sometimes a small-big change works just as swell

How about a week trip somewhere

>>17777056
Well it seems like you done got away with it then.

Congrats bub.

>>17777056
you gonna get problems bro

>>17777056
Don't worry about it if it was an honest mistake. Any reaction/action towards/against you would have happened long ago.

Incident reporys are usually needed for insurance purposes, and seeing if something can be done to prevent this from happening again.

>>17777055
okay lets clarify something here.. you want your sisters nudes from her ex? for what purpose?

>>17777764
friends sister

>>17777055

You'd be better off just asking her if you can see her tits. Seriously.

Better yet, quit being a creep.

Penis tester

>>17777049

A comedian because i think you would have to be funny to balance out how ridiculously full of yourself you would have to become to be half of kanye west.

>>17777049
Papa johns delivery boy

Granted, she -seems- to have changed a bit. I changed a lot, due to lots of things happened. But no, ''her'' change isn't a deciding factor at all, since people always ''change'' when it's convenient for them.

>>17777036
There's an old Chinese saying, if you want something long enough you won't.

Do you really want to enter a relationship that goes against all the growth you e had for the last several years or whatever?

This is like becoming a castrato, getting your balls lopped off to be stuck at a certain point of age for someone else's entertainment.

Think of yourself as a whole and not just your cock sonny boy. Putting your dick in crazy once is forgivable twice means you probably like the degradation like a sick in the head cuck

Do you really want to go back with her?
Are you aware of how badly it can go?
Are you willing to accept all of the suffering knowing that you might get absolutely nothing of worth in return?

If you answered yes to all of the above then go for it, it might not be healthy but fuck it, is your life and you can throw it away if you desire so.

On the other hand if you answered no to at least one of the questions then just don't.

>>17777026
you have to make the effort to find your passion
it will take time but some people do find it sooner than later

>>17777035
But how do i make the effort to find my passion

>>17777144
The same way a kid on a playground figures out what toy to play with

Do you wanna go down the slide, dig holes in the sand, play tag with people or jump off the swings
just with adult world shit

>>17777017
have you tried crying moar?

>>17777017
Post more pictures, you look like you'd make a delicious trap.

Also
>>>/fit/

>>17777017
If you stop looking like a woman you might be able to attract them

>>17777008
>why the fuck would someone do this to me
gotta stop thinking like that fampai, no one owes you nothing

>>17777008
what a girl says is true in the moment and that moment only

just because she talks about making plans in the future doesn't mean it will happen


>My confidence was through the roof and I felt like I had won a fucking million dollars, but right now I'm getting really, really mentally crushed.

there's your problem
you are relying on this girl to make you feel good, to give you good emotions, which is ultimately the women's role in the relationship
but what does she get out this?

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>>17777020
OP here and this sounds like bullshit, desu. I'm not dating 12 year olds over here. My free time is somewhat important to me and I refuse to believe that women in general do not acknowledge that.

>>17776986
Give her an ultimatum. Throw your own hissy fit. Tell her how this attitude of hers is hurting you and the relationship and that if she doesn't start doing Jack shit then she can get the fuck out of your life.

>>17776986
Going by the text I am still not quite sure how hard you tried to convince her to do SOMETHING, if you think you tried enough, yap it's time to cut yourself lose from a dead-weight like her. If you're not certain, gotta try harder. Though from the sound of it, change seems doubtful. Personally I'd quit after the "no hobbies" bit.

>As if I should love her the way she is and all this feminist bullshit.
Hey, feminism is all about empowering bitches. She's throwing away all chances for self improvement and fulfilled life from the sound of it, which is quite the opposite of it.

>>17776986
>i love her
>she was pretty decent when we started dating

Bingo. Self worth issues nailed; you did this to her OP. Not saying she probably wasn't asking for it, but you sure must enjoy having someone to point the finger down at huh?

Just dump her already you psycho fuck.

>>17776895

Don't mention that you like anime and you'll double your chances of getting laid. Even if she's also into anime, trust me.

Get her drunk or high and then initiate. 9/10 times she'll go with it.

>>17776895
>What is the best way to initiate sex?
Consent

What were you expecting a magic series of words?

You really just have to be above-average looking, not fat, and have to be aware if she's even interested in sex

>A girl that I am into is coming over tomorrow
you've got at least a 10% chance or more depending on the reason she's coming over

But how you go about depends heavily on the girl herself, after all, we don't know shit about her beyond that she's female

>>17776846
What would you like to do for a job?

>>17776850

Well, I should have mentioned I'm socially retarded, so jobs that require being likable are probably out of reach for me. Which is a shame since those seem to be the ones that pay decently. In terms of what I would like to do, I don't really know even though I had an aptitude test done.

>>17776846
What's the minimum wage in your state? Divide that by half, because you are fucking worthless.

Shit fucking sucks, man, but the only thing you can do it move on. Hang with other people, do other things. It is not easy to force yourself to do so sometimes but it has to be that way.
There are two things I have to add though. You have to learn to respect yourself. It might be not easy. But you really need to learn when to stop perusing someone. Second thing (which helped me personally) is anger. I learned how to stop myself thinking about a girl that I fell in love with (it was a short thing but felt really fucking good, but she had I break it) by just saying "well, fuck her. I tried, she fucked it up". You don't want to be full of hatred though. Just being angry at her helps me. It helped me to get over her, mostly.
My two cents , anon. We all will make it, just keep your heads up.

>>17776861
Its hard to "hang out" with people. To put it simply, I had a lot of friends. But as time has gone on, all those people that I thought cared about me don't hit me up anymore. They blow me off, and a lot of the times are just fucking rude to me. Normally I know when I've made a mistake, but all of those people I realized weren't really the best friends I thought they were all along.

I'm alone now. I don't have friends. I'm going to be 20 in a few months, I work but I'm not in college, I don't even know how to make friends anymore. I wasn't even good at it to begin with. I'm so fucking lonely and this all happened so fast and now I'm stuck at my house with no one.

I also will never be able to blame her. She did nothing wrong to me. But I get angry. This morning I was angry, I wanted to break shit. I was thinking about therapy but I don't want to waste my money talking to someone who most likely doesn't genuinely care about me.

I don't know. I'm scared, I'm alone, I don't have any fucking idea what to do with myself.

>>17776841

Those dreams suck. I still got them even after falling completely in love with my current gf. What helped cure me was writing a list of reasons why the relationship didn't work and why it never will. It's written on a sticky note that I leave in my dresser. It's a bullet point list that serves as instructions to get my brain back on track when it's in its shitty hopeful dream mode. When I would get those dreams or couldn't sleep due to racing thoughts I would read it.

You know this already but time will eventually heal your wound. This can only happen if you let go completely. Every time you try to contact her you open up the wound and set yourself back at day one. Treat it like an addiction you need to kick.

>>17776819
>really lofy reason

NOW you have to mention it, OP

WHY'D SHE DO IT OP

>>17776819
Eat some ice cream, lean on your friends, and feel sorry for yourself for a while. Presumably this person who dumped you knows you would have preferred not to be dumped, so any reconciliation has to come from them, so don't text them every 5 seconds asking for them back. After a week or so of moping, force yourself to do something positive, like hitting the gym. Start positive self talk - it doesn't feel like it, but ending a relationship that wasn't working (even if you felt like it was working for you) is a good thing. It means you can move on and find someone who suits you better. It feels like the end of the world, I know, but that feeling really will pass. You're going to make it through this.

>>17776786
go for it. sounds like an adventure
also 28 obv isn't old (tho i suspect you already know that)

>>17776786
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>>17776793
bless u adam sandler

only thing i can really think of is programming or being involved in software development which does not require a degree but does require a shit ton of knowledge im assuming you dont have

or you could be an entrepreneur but obviously not easy

mturk?

>>17776781
You're right. I don't have that knowledge.
>>17776782
ok, but I'd have to make something like 2 million submissions to make the money I need.