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>>17806361
There only exists crazy people who cannot control themselves.

The second one sounds a lot more likely than the first.

>>17806364
But what if they are crazy but you still love them

>>17806356
>"I'm so fucking wet right now"

>>17806356
It's what happens when your authority is as soft as your flaccid dick

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>>17806356
You don't know the first thing about women, do you?

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to this?

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With this.

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avoiding this

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I'm in college for compsci and I'm probably gonna be a wage slave until I'm 80 since I don't have any actual skills in computers or anything in general. Anyone else on this train?

>Which of these is best
Ohio State is the only one that stands out to me as being a well known school, and thats because its fucking gigantic.
The school you go to doesnt matter unless it's ivy-league, what matters is what you study, what internships you take, and what research you push yourself to do.

>>17806369
Too many of you.
Stop cluttering up my field.

>>17806369
Good lord man why would you study comp sci then?

>>17806378
Seriously, you think Ohio State is better than Madison, UIUC, and Michigan?
And by the way none of those are "ivies" but they are all listed as "public ivies" and also their graduate math departments are all top 20 in the world. Notably, U Michigan is 9th in the USA for mathematics.

>>17806277
I can't offer you any advice, but that was poetic.

>>17806277

been there done that. Sounds a lot like something I went through. I was going to say go and meet other women but then I saw that you've already done that. It's better then nothing though. I know that there are girls from years ago who are far better then anyone I've met since, and I still care about them, but all the pain is gone. It just becomes a part of the past eventually.

I'd also say that the reason why it didn't work with this girl is that the two of you are too alike., there wasn't enough chemistry, and you made it awkward by telling her about your feelings. Even if you're both 100% right for each other apart from those things, she's still not going to see that herself.

>>17807004
thank you

>>17806238
Well. The practical version is this: listen more. It is a perfectly valid way to maintain a conversation, and it will likely lead to a better experience for all involved---just nod you head, and interact in simple ways. Once you feel comfortable to speak, do so---don't rush. People enjoy a good listener more than a funny joke.

In terms of starting a conversation...No clue. I'm shit at that, too.

>>17806238

it probably just means you're smart and you're not a peice of shit. Easiest way to get over that awkwardness and anxiety is to realise how shitty people are and how banal and silly a lot of socialising is. You're not above socialising, but you're probably above the vapidness of it.

Know that you don't always have to keep a conversation going. Face them, then ask them some questions, then smile and stop talking. Now the ball is in their court. Naturally, if they want to continue talking to you, they will ask the next question. Otherwise, after a while of silence, you can shift your posture SLIGHTLY away from them (think of it like turn your body slightly away from them). If you do this correctly and casually, it makes the conversation less interview-like and more open and casual, which makes everyone feel much more comfortable and invites others to join in on the conversation.

Just get comfortable with keeping your mouth shut.

Consider actually giving yourself a shotgun mouthwash because you sound like a psychopath.

>>17806264
I'm not a yank

guns aren't easy to come by

>>17806237
NARCISISSTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER (pretty sure I spelled that wrong but look it up my mango)

Don't report him. Imagine if you were in the cheaters shoes.

sounds like a shit system put in place by a lazy prof

don't turn on your comrade

>>17806182
You won't see the person after the semester. It's shitty but they'll learn their lesson and you'll get a better grade for the school you're paying for.

Just saying.

Read no more Mr nice guy, full PDF is a Google search away. The main things you should get are
-accept and love yourself
-be really honest
-set boundaries for relationships and don't let anyone breach them

It's only been two months. Reel it in and work on getting over your ex and the other issues i'm guessing popped up as a result of the breakup rather than talking to rando girls.

>>17806179
You need another 10 months to get over her before you can get into another relationship

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I'm genuinly curious

I watched Dr's take notes and others write their grocery list.

>>17806159
>(mtg is my life),
Kek, had to look this up, I hope you're joking you autistic fuck

>>17806174
I'm not, I play magic at a professional level.

Was going to go to grand prix Denver in a week or so.

>>17806190
>I play magic at a professional level.

Literally the most autistic thing I've heard in a long time. You can not play a card game designed for autistic children at a "professional" level.

>>17806145
having sex before marriage =/= slut

>>17806148
Fuck off faggot.

It's because those women talk to wrong men.

>>17806145
Sluts= girls who have sex with people who AREN'T THEM

>>17806140
>I'm a trans girl
Well go ahead and contribute to the statistic then.

I'm fairly sure someone told you it was a bad idea, but you wouldn't listen, right?

>>17806140
Okay, stop.
You're being really dramatic.

First, realize that yes, while you are a part of a niche romantic market, this can only translate that there are people who think similarly to you, possibly feeling just as alone. There is someone out there for you, and while finding them may be harder in your situation, you can definitely do just that.
You are on the internet.
You do realize the infinite possibility for networking here, right? Get your head on in a healthier way, so you will be primed to carry on with a great relationship. No one will love you if you make them deal with your insecurities when you yourself won't. Then, branch out. I promise you there will be a catch of a lifetime out there for you, if you are truly dedicated to finding & loving them.

Just stop acting like the world's ending and get serious about your own behavioral patterns. You can be loved, OP. Believe it first.
Go for it second.

>>17806140
Listen bud

You aren't hopeless. And love does exist. It may sound sappy, but true love exists out there for everyone, somewhere. You have to go through a lot of shit to find it, but it'll come - and it usually comes when you aren't looking.

Please don't kill yourself. You prevent yourself from ever knowing the happiness of getting married, raising a child, reading a good book, whatever. All that happiness is gone not just from you, but from everyone who ever loved you.

Youll hurt all of those people in ways you never knew could exist. And it doesn't even end there. That shit'll effect people you never even knew existed, somehow. A friend of a friend of your friend, a random person reading the obituary, whoever.

Suicide does not end pain, at all. It amplifies it a million times, and then projects itself on countless others.

And, like I said, love is out there for you somewhere. But the only way to have it is to keep living, even when it all seems shitty.

Do yourself a favor and see a therapist. If you're in college your campus probably has a free resident therapist. I see ours every now and again, there's no shame in it. You'd be surprised what you can overcome if you just let someone help.

You're loved, OP. The only way out is through, and love's on the other side waiting.

It's not a serious problem and it's fairly normal. Stop worrying so much about it and maybe it'll happen.

the most likely answer is that you don't know how to do it properly. girls are not taught this stuff, and porn isn't helpful because that's all about getting guys off and what they want to do with girls.

try looking up advice from lesbians, clitoral stimulation is obviously the main way to reach climax. then just try stuff out.

>>17806128
this is exactly why there are so many girls that don't know how. they get told its normal and to not worry about it, and never receive any actual help with it.

it is only "normal" in the sense that it's common, but not because "it is what it is". you most likely do not know proper technique and all that.

4chan is a terrible place to ask for advice on this btw. please google advice from women or lesbians.

>>17806028
One thing that helped me get braver was thai boxing. It helps to know that you have an idea of how to defend yourself in wrong place, wrong time situations.

Why are you a pussy? Most people are so insecure these days that it's impossible not to be a pussy in people's eyes. People will always find a way to think you're a pussy. Best, most non-pussy thing in my mind is to just not give a shit whether or not you're a pussy.

Learn how to be confident in yourself. Try to improve the way you look, do sports, pick up a "manly" hobby like wood carving or something. Make yourself feel more powerful by learning some sort of martial art. Also, don't listen to insults and don't think about being a pussy. It'll only bring you down.