I have a serious problem. I can't orgasm/climax/whatever.

It's not a serious problem and it's fairly normal. Stop worrying so much about it and maybe it'll happen.

the most likely answer is that you don't know how to do it properly. girls are not taught this stuff, and porn isn't helpful because that's all about getting guys off and what they want to do with girls.

try looking up advice from lesbians, clitoral stimulation is obviously the main way to reach climax. then just try stuff out.

>>17806128
this is exactly why there are so many girls that don't know how. they get told its normal and to not worry about it, and never receive any actual help with it.

it is only "normal" in the sense that it's common, but not because "it is what it is". you most likely do not know proper technique and all that.

4chan is a terrible place to ask for advice on this btw. please google advice from women or lesbians.

>>17806129
>>17806133
Why would I seek advice from lesbians and not hetero women?

I only orgasm when I use a vibrator to the clit.

If I counted how many times I faked an orgasm LOL

That's totally normal tho

http://www.herballove.com/case-studies/collateral-damage-high-frequency-vibrator

>>17806236
Because hetero women, as proven by you, very often don't have a fucking clue how to get a woman off. Lesbians however know exactly how to do just that. Just as some hetero guys do. hetero guys that know how to get hetero women off are, unfortunately, quite rare.

Speaking from personal experience, it's probably going to be easier to have an orgasm by yourself than with your boyfriend for the first time.

What have you tried in terms of masturbation?

I swear women are the dumbest creatures.

>Play with your shame hole until you find out what triggers you to orgasm
>Tell your boyfriend

Wow.

>>17806412
wew lad sure you're on the right board? I'll help you:
>>>/r9k/

>>17806489
He way he said was stupid, but he's not wrong. Most women will fake an orgasm rather than learn what makes them tick. This isn't an opinion on women; it's an unfortunate fact.

>>17806116
Two findgers inserted tips up, nails down, massage the 'roof' by moving your whole hand with the fingers inserted up and down.

Doable by yourself but far better with a partner. Ive never been with a woman this has not worked on.

Protip: this is also how you make a girl squirt.

>>17806557

That is actually massaging the rest of the clit, which is why it's so effective.

>>17806116
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h2Jb-qEcDJg

>>17806501
You do realize that's because there is little to no education on womens orgasm right? And that's because a vagina is ten times more complicated than a dick and nine times out of ten, people will just tell women it's 'normal' and not to worry about it or that they should just wait because someday it will feel good. Of course women don't know how they tick because those are the common answers readily available to them.

Not to mention, just sticking fingers in and wiggling them around is the most ignorant advice I've read about helping women orgasm.

Do kegels. Orgasm is a series of rhythmic muscle contractions. The more toned those muscles are (in this case the ones you keep flexed to keep from pissing your pants when there's a long line for the bathroom) the more powerful your orgasms will feel.

If you're getting the build-up and just not reaching the finish, relax and stop holding your breath in anticipation when you start feeling like you're getting close. Breathe through it. This one has to do with bloodflow and oxygen.

If you're not getting the build-up, it's either not enough stimulation or not the "right" spot is getting stimulated. In any case, try this: spread your lips with one hand, lick a fingertip on the other hand, and spit-polish your clit with it. Be patient, be persistent, and see what gets a reaction.

If you start feeling the build-up and it gets "too intense" and you have to stop even though it feels like you were right there and it almost happened, ...well you shouldn't have stopped basically lol. Have your boyfriend do it if you can't and just try not to twitch out of the way at the last second, because fair warning your hips will probably try to do just that. And remember: keep breathing.

Small clit vibe can work wonders but it's easy to get dependent on them. Arousal counts for a lot.

>>17806116
It is, quite literally, "different strokes for different folks" and all you can do is experiment. Statistical probability (and not much more) suggests focusing on the clitoris, but you're on your own from there. Try different motions - up & down, side to side, circular - and different pressures and different rhythms until you hit on something that feels better than anything else, and then zero in on that.

Meanwhile other things might be your route - pressure on the lower stomach from outside, vaginal exploration, the legendary G-spot, breast play, even anal - on their own or in combinations.

And take heart from this - the first orgasm is the hardest. Once your body learns how to do it, they'll be easier in future.

>>17806396
A little harsh but I suppose that makes sense.
>>17806501
I'd never lie to him and fake an orgasm, what good would that do?

>>17806128
Actually it's not normal.

>>17806116
If you've never had an orgasm then wtf dos your masturbation and sex become? 98% of people who orgasm and have sex do it so they can orgasm then they call it a day.

Very little percentage of females can actually cum from penetration alone. Please keep that in mind. More often than not fucking a girl without touching her clit is like fucking a dude's asshole minus the prostrate without touching his dick.

>>17807328
It just becomes me thinking/seeing something arousing and then sticking some fingers in/stimulating my clit.

>>17807382

This, basically.
Sometimes it gets easier for you with age but some women just can't have a penetrative orgasm. Definitely try stimulating your clit, it might take a lil work at first but there are lots of books on techniques if you feel you're doing it wrong.

I like how youre all talking about the clit when there are some girls who have gotten off to boob stimulation entirely.

OP you need to find out what feels best for you. Just go all over the place with yourself until something feels most good to you. Don't forget your butt. Your bf can help too.

Do you take anxiety medication, antidepressants, something like that?
That stuff messes with your sex stuff. In my case I can only cum in masturbation, in a very specific knee position, and I have to focus a lot, and even then it still takes a while.
Meds might make you less horny or even if you're still horny, it takes a long time to reach orgasm.
Might want to talk to your doctor if it's the case.

>>17806272
Oh God, as a man, this is such a fucking nightmare to me. I always try to pleasure the girls I fuck in the best way I can and the thought of sex with a potential gf being forever one-sided, she faking it and never telling me how is the best way I can get her off (even if it means using a vibrator during sex, I don't care) is pretty depressing.