Are all boyfriends just destined to eventually be less attracted to their girlfriends? To want to have sex with other, newer girls, more than their girlfriend?
I have a psych class and the professor was talking about how eventually people, especially men, become habituated to their significant others. and that's why people cheat and have wondering eyes or just stop having sex.
I'm very terrified that someday my boyfriend will become bored of me and we will never have sex, and he will cheat, or leave me, or just be dissatisfied for the rest of his life.
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>>17809817
It is normal to eventually become habituated to your SO, yes.
This doesn't mean that there's nothing you can do about it or that he'll end up cheating or being dissatisfied.
Keep yourself attractive. Be in shape, take care of your hair and your skin, shave. Don't be too much of a sloth around him - even if you're alone at home with him, put some effort into what you are wearing. Put effort into the way you look when you go out together.
Keep your sex life interesting. Put out. Please him. Be open.
Keep your relationship interesting. Take care of him. Do fun stuff together. Communicate and talk to each other.
nice projection there from the prof
no obviously not, otherwise everyone would cheat
which is not the case
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Please help with diagnosis
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>>17809768
To no avail
I am not sure how to go about this.
I was told in order to heal from my past I have to come to terms with it. I have seen many physiologists but have never felt comfortable around any of them. My farther has PTSD I am considering telling him about it because I think he will understand me best but I am really afraid to.
I am a 24 year old female and when I was 9 I met Olvia she was four years older than me and my parents disliked her and I never understood as to why. When I moved when I was 12 I was bully badly even by teachers Olvia was the only friend I had and she manipulated me. It got to the point where she had full control over me and started getting me take naked pictures of myself and send them to people online for money she of course got all the money but she still remain my friend. I continued doing this until I was 14 I feel ashamed with myself and I still do to this day. It is hard to explain how much control she had over me the best I can explain is that I felt I would die without her friendship because she "protected" me. The odd occasion I would get the men who saw the pictures finding my personal information and trying to blackmail me which made me nervous of anyone putting anything about me online as I got older. I stopped talking to her when I was 17 and told no one of it.
Last thing that eats away at me I do not really want to explain in detail, all I have to say is when I was 19 I caught my now ex taking pictures of me and having sex with me while he thought I was asleep.
I am not really sure what I should do just typing this makes me feel ashamed.
I think the first thing you need to do is remove any notion of guilt or shame. You were very young, and this older girl obviously manipulated you into doing these things that you feel ashamed of. Yes, there were warning signs and events that would have made others jump ship earlier, but you were young and afraid.
Your ex is a piece of shit, no doubt. No person with a shred of moral dignity would do that to another person.
May I ask you what attracted you to your ex? I only ask because I think your answer will help you come to terms with your past.
>>17809766
I am happily married now my husband is nothing like my ex so you do not have to worry about future abuse Anon at least.
He was very controlling and a lot like her. Even though I hate her I feel weak and it has taken me a lot not to get back in contact with her.
>>17809784
I'm really glad to hear that. It sounds like you have already done a lot of work in dealing with this emotionally if you have found a loving husband, very admirable.
Do you still find yourself somewhat drawn to personalities like her in your friend circles or workplace? And what were your parents up to during your teen years?
Please list out most of the red flags in men/women.
I really need help with this.
Thanks in advance.
>>17809702
>Breathing
>tattoos
>>17809708
>drinking water
So earlier tonight, I'm attempting to unlock a phone connected to my gf's gmail when I discovered that she saved her pw when she used chrome. I'm not the snooping type, I was really just trying to get this phone unlocked (she said i could have it), but during the process I came across an email she sent this dude back in may.
I don't know how far this affair has gone, but the way the email was typed sounded like he meant a lot to her or some shit. We have been living together this whole time and I've been putting up with mountains of shit from this bitch the whole time. We have a nine year old daughter and I thought it was best to try and make the relationship work, even though we were never in serious love or anything like that. There was a period of abuse (around 2-3 years ago) where she would lose her temper on the kid a few times a week and sometimes left bruises. I threatened to leave her and/or call child protective services several times and eventually she stopped.
I thought things were alright for awhile but she was obv. doing shit behind my back for who knows how long. I'm afraid that she will start abusing the kid again now that I won't be around to protect her. What should I do?
I'm worried about a custody battle because I'm sort of a NEET (my main source of income is eBay and amazon). Seeing that the courts usually favor the mother no matter what, what are my chances at full custody. There's little in the way of proof besides hoping the kid tells the truth but I know her and her parents (who she is going to move in with) are going to bribe her with shit like a new phone, dog etc. because they've been spoiling the kid rotten since she was little.
Should I go for it and try to get custody or cuck out and agree to split custody? What are my chances of winning if the kid admits the abuse?
Wow sounds like you had a really fucked up relationship from the get-go there, friend.
Sounds like you should of walked away from that crazy bitch and sued for custody, but you didn't.
And now you're a cuck.
>>17809707
Yeah I know it's painful as fuck knowing that I put up with her for that long only to find the worst thing possible was happening behind my back.
I thought it was best for the kid to keep trying to make it work. I regret not reporting the abuse earlier, especially now. I can't believe I wasted ten years of my life dealing with it when I could have had a shot at custody then. I was always worried though because on paper I look like a loser, even though I make more than her.
>stay together 'for the kid'
>don't actually want to stay together otherwise
>she doesn't really like you, you don't really like her
>wonder why she's 'cheating'
Need some info: Can you queue reblogs/likes on Tumblr? Gf says "Blah blah blah have to go do this shit so busy" and then I see her reblogging and liking shit on Tumblr for an hour. She says it's just her setting up her queue. I don't use Tumblr, but I can't find anything that says you can queue reblogs.
yes you can.
You can queue your posts, but not your likes.
Yes you can queue and schedule reblogs. Also I find this disturbing if your girlfriend is busy don't stalk her tumblr... that's not the sign of a healthy relationship. Give her space man
I'm 23, almost 24, and it just hit me that I'm getting older fast and that the years just fly by. I've basically fucked around since I left high school and all I have to my name are like 4 years in oilfield and a 2 year community college degree. Never had a gf or friends for that matter.
What the fuck should I be doing? I feel so lost. Should I join the military before that option is out? Should I travel and have hooker sex? What do people my age even do? Am I on track or off?
All I really know is work, imageboards and anime and lately I'm just scared you know?
plz halp
You sound like you're doing okay.
A lot of people are seeking relationships around this age and trying to find a life partner to settle down and marry because they think that's just what they're supposed to do, but imo, it's not a requirement for a happy life.
Also it's common to try to be building a solid career and trying to begin the steps obtain a privately owned home.
You can do whatever the fuck you feel like, though, it's your life.
Congrats bud, you just arrived to " I just realized I'm an adult". In this stage of life you will notice people are getting married to somebody they met six months ago, people wasting their money on new cars and people travelling to Cancun because the internet told them that's what young people do.
If it makes you feel better, I'm 27, I've been in the same job for three and a half years and I'm starting to feel like I can do better. I don't have a gf because I dedicated the last 20 months to getting a master's degree, which I'm finishing in two weeks.
I don't have a house, I don't know what will happen next year in the love section since it's been a while since I dated someone for real. My only real friend lives in a far away country and he sometimes talks about getting married and having kids, which makes me feel uncomfortable.
But hey, the winter Steam sale is in a few weeks and I want to get Resident Evil 5
>>17809677
>You can do whatever the fuck you feel like
That's what I've heard all my life yet I've been doing "what i want to do" and here we are.
Besides that's not the point. It's not about what I want to do, it's what SHOULD i be doing? Your 20's only come once, I don't want to blow them.
>>17809720
>If it makes you feel better, I'm 27, I've been in the same job for three and a half years and I'm starting to feel like I can do better. I don't have a gf because I dedicated the last 20 months to getting a master's degree, which I'm finishing in two weeks.
but at least it's something. you can legit say "i spend my 20's doing this" gnomesayan? I don't have that. It bothers me.
Been crushin HARD on my GFs younger sister. What do?
>>17809630
Don't do it
>>17809630
Don't do it
>>17809630
Or just fucking do it when your ready to crash and burn that whole section of relationships
Is depression a meme? I looked up the symptoms and most of them fit me to some extent, but it feels like its the same thing as reading horoscopes, as if its too broad to be accurate on an individual level. How do you draw the line between being a sad person in general and being actually depressed? How do i even talk to someone irl about this? Im not really someone that gets taken seriously because when Im around people I like I dont seem depressed or even unhappy, even when I drop hints on purpose, people think I'm joking.
So basically I have no motivation, goals, or passion in life anymore (i used to love wathcing and making movies). Religion is a sham and I've never been attracted to women so that's off the table. It takes me a long time to fall asleep, I can't concentrate on anything, I don't get hungry, I have fewer and fewer friends by the month, and I am pretty restless.
I know other people here have the same problems, so come out and talk..pls
>>17809611
I feel ya. I think I probably got schizoid though.
But yeah, all those mental disorders are a meme. They exist because society creates a baseline of what normal behavior is and when some people deviate from that normal behavior they are labeled as "sick".
People tell me to go to a psychologist but why do that when ending my life is much easier
>>17809620
>ending my life is much easier
I remember when they told me that suicide was never the answer. But now I'm pretty sure that's a globalist meme so that they can one day use me for slave labor. Suicide feels like it is the only option at this point.
>Talk to this girl a bunch
>Made out once
>Text her ask her if she want to hang out
>Says next week
>Ask next week
>Says no
>Ask again the week after
>Says no again
>"Accidentally run into her"
>She talks to me a lot
>She says she will text me when she's free next week
Not sure if she said she would see me next week as a form of letting me down easy and she will just never text me again or because she actually wants to.
No. Girls don't like guys who can't take a hint
>>17809610
Shit you really think so?
>>17809612
I know so
How do I talk to this qt asian exchange student in my class?
She speaks with a pretty heavy accent
>>17809569
Ask her how she feels about gooks getting heated up to 10 thousand
>>17809574
but thats racist
She is foreign. She had different custom. Might be still a virgin because of her customs.
If you just want sex, pick a different girl. Asian girls are really modest about sex . Modest about sex means that she won't give you any pussy for 5 months or more, can be until marriage.
Asian girls get married fast because they think they 24+ is too old to get married and not a lot op men would like them.
If you want sex, pick bad girl to have it.
If you want real love, stop thinking about the D to get touched.
What is the most painless, cheap, clean way to commit suicide? Will stream it in exchange
dude why do you want to kill yourself?
>>17809560
He doesn't, he just wants attention.
Helium
Do not try pills
If you're serious: please go see a doctor and a therapist, try changing your diet, work out, get vitamin D, pray to jesus, keep talking to us but don't do it
I'm wondering if I have some mental illness I haven't heard of. I can't connect to anyone in a meaningful way and can't even recognize people. I know formally who they are, for instance my mother or sister but it is like someone installed those memories in me. It happens with everyone I meet after I get to know them, Of course, one part can be that I lack that excitement that I had at the beginning but it is much more extreme. It is like I don't have the feeling of presence of that particular person but just know formally I know him or her. I can't recognize even best friends after a breaking point when they lose their newness. It reminds of friends seeing each other after years and discover they are grown apart but it happens after a week with me. It isn't even a best friend vs a casual friend, but more like a friend vs the person I've never seen before but whose name and face I know.
Maybe it is the same with everyone? But if I ask them if they recognize me, they do. I don't. It can even happen after a disagreement where I see a person from the other side and lose all connection. I've never had friends with whom I have lived through those times and felt at least some connection again. I simply can't see them, only what they look like.
I am probably slightly autistic which causes all kinds of problems in practical communication, for instance meeting people, I never understand if they invite me somewhere or just say it because of politeness. When I was younger I went to meet people when they didn't invite me and vice versa but even now some invitations are hard to understand. Another problem is practical issues at home or with stuff. I keep my opinion on a person inherently different from what they do physically, for instance, if they don't clean, always eat my food, etc. One is emotional, one practical. Therefore it is almost impossible for me to understand which of my physical behaviour annoys anyone because I'm not annoyed by theirs.
>>17809521
Their emotional response (which is usually just very subtle or passive aggressive) triggers my emotional response and I'm starting to search problems in my social side. If I was mean to them, rude, didn't listen their problems, talked too much, ignored them and so on. Sometimes problems turn out to be very trivial, like I never noticed to buy toilet paper or create too much mess visiting them. On emotional level I can't understand that kind of response. If a friend stole something from me or broke my computer, it doesn't change how I feel at all. Only social/emotional aspects do. If they never wash dishes or shit the toilet door open, I might not like it but it doesn't do anything emotionally. I can also have long arguments about politics, science, work or school without our relationship changing, even if my opponent is for instance, racist or sexist. My opinion on them as a person relies completely on how they are emotionally at that moment.
But then again, totally random smile, lack of it or just their changed behaviour because of something completely random can change instantly if I see them as friends. Or just time, not seeing each other for few weeks, finding other friends and so on. Like I'm drained of all emotions I had for them.
I even can't say I had them before, it was probably excitement who that person is. But I can't see it.
Otherwise, I don't think I have lack of empathy, I react strongly to movies, people's faces, also care about social issues, animals, can't watch someone tortured or bullied. I have high sense of fairness but it doesn't matter who the person is for me. Although it is universal, it also depends how the pain is portrayed. Sad music, expressive face and so on. I doubt I'm a sociopath for that reason.
I feel that I don't have any past or future, all the memories are installed in me like I am a robot.
>>17809564
At the same time I am very depressed and have been since childhood, part of it is because of my autistic tendencies which cause conflicts but not all. I had always that natural state of sadness even in normal situations, like going to an excursion on a bus or just having a break at school. I never felt comfortable anywhere, was afraid to be in the same car with my family, was so aware and a little bit scared talking to anyone, just because they were around. My parents, friends, classmates. Even when we got along and even those who had never done anything bad.
I think then I just wanted to have friends and because I rarely did, I couldn't even recognize I can't connect to them. I've never picked anyone, just talked to those who talked to me. Being int he same room and not feeling like I have a birthday and they are my guest and I have to entertain them has never happened to me. Like in movies where they just are casually around others but do their own thing. Either I am socially turned on or totally out, don't even react when someone asks something.
The last part should just explain my situation, that I'm rather emotional, not otherwise cold, don't lack empathy but just can't feel the connection of presence of a particular person any more. I've never been friends (where I recognize them) with someone over few months if even that.
>>17809564
just to clarify, I can't almost recognize faces and don't know who people are after meeting them a few times. All male actor look the same becuase they have similar haircut and -color. It took me 3 years to separate between all the boys in my class because they all had the same clothing style and haircut. Comparing Facebook pictures is very helpful nowadays but even then I can't really see how the person in one photo is the same as in another.
I can't also recognize facial expressions well but if I do (often accompanied by sad music or story) I am very compassionate. However, I find pictures of strong facial expression ugly sometimes. Like people laughing on their fb profile photo, it makes their teeth big. Fake Hollywood smile, it distorts their face and makes them uglier. I would never put up a photo where I smile teeth open because I find it so ugly like it is distorted. It makes my lower part of face bigger and eyes smaller. I can't even see the emotions that others can, just ugly.
Something very peculiar happened today /adv/
>Set up lunch date with girl
>Tell her the place we're going
>She says she doesn't like it
>Okay where do you wanna go then?
>No response for hours
>Don't go to pick her up cause I didn't get any confirmation
>Text her again
>No reply
>Whatever
>Get text saying her phone died because she was out all day
>Ask her what happened
>Calls me and tells me she decided to go shopping with her friend
>Says is tired and then hangs up
I'm confused here, our last meeting went well, we made plans to so what do I even do here? I know for a fact that I didn't do anything wrong but is this normal behavior? Make plans with someone and they just ditch you last minute cause they don't like where you're going to get food, don't offer a solution, then go hang out with someone else? I'm very confused here, what do I even do going forward?
Drop her. She obviously doesn't give a fuck. Instead of taking the 5 seconds to charge her phone or borrow her friends, she basically said "fuck it" and bailed.
>>17809520
I'm just confused at the erratic behavior. The plans were set in stone then she just bails on me and goes and hangs with someone else.
>>17809533
She could of just had second thoughts about the whole thing and didn't want to face you about it. You could try to set another date up, but if she pulls the same shit then I would just drop her.
I'm probably overthinking this, but here goes.
>become friends with a couple over a year ago
>Get the guy a job where I work
>Things are fine, we hangout sometimes and I third wheel; whatever.
>Have a falling out and don't really hang out with them anymore
>Still talk to him at work but nothing more
>find out they broke up about 6 months ago
>Girl hasn't talked to me at all in the past 6 months
>She randomly texts me today
>We talk, she suggests that we get lunch and hang out this week
>I accept
>He is supposedly over the whole thing but I haven't told him that she's talked to me.
I just find it odd that after all this time she's suddenly interested in hanging out again. Is this a sign she's into me or am I mistaking it for being friendly? Is it fucked up to go for her if I get that vibe? Seeing as how it's my "friends" ex. Its worse because I have to work with him. Or am I just retarded?
What do.
Fuck her
She wants the d
You're just a pawn in their silly games
>>17809508
Does she though? I just assumed she was being nice, for whatever reason.
>>17809561
if you guys were close enough for that she would have done that after a few weeks