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AAAAAH

HELP

R u schizophrenic?

How long is a fortnight?

>>17806115
2 weeks

>>17806115
20,160 minutes.

Go.

>>17806092

civvies are weird.

you know what we call that in the military? new years. new orders, you move, and you dont know anyone. thats life.

its fun, its an adventure.

>>17806101
Where?

>>17806071
Wtf just turn djing into cash

>>17806071

if you can't pass your class you can't be an entrepreneur. you are either lazy, dumb, or both.

go work at mconalds with the other lazy dumb dumbs and try not to be jelly of the guys who are just 'passing through'

>>17806083
b-but Steve Jarbs. No but in all seriousness is there things that i can do to make money to sustain myself. Like programming for other people. I know I'm lazy. I am my worst enemy tbfh.

>>17806074
The DJing I want to make a career out of, but at the same time keep alive my programming side. Both are important to me.

You don't. Because its not about what you want. Its about who you are. There are no "leagues". Go to church. Be a good person. Work hard. Play hard. If you find yourself alone, be ok with that. If you find yourself with others, be ok with that. Be confident in who you are. Have a little faith.

>>17806032

if you are consistently single despite your attempts.

>>17806032
Standards in others/life in general reflects your standards of yourself.
Your standards are too high when you scorn anything less than 'perfection', and are constantly straining yourself to do and be perfectly. Your standards are too high when you find you can't relax despite knowing that you want to & should. Your standards are too high when you are rejecting groups, society, and the universe at large in broad, self-assured strokes. Your standards are too high when you can't appreciate life happening all around & inside of you.

If you can relate to any of this, you need to loosen up. You don't always need to be taking perfect steps, so long as you are in fact moving. By the same note, you cannot hold the perceived shortcomings of others against them.
You need to accept all that truly IS first, before you can really make headway in attaining what you want there to be. And as you do this, you will find that what you want shifts to be far more forgiving of, appreciative towards, and happy with aspects of life that in the past you'd told yourself you simply couldn't or wouldn't tolerate.

P.s.
OP pic is a beauty. Fine tastes indeed. Balance ideals with reality for maximum profit. <3

I figured it out when she said she would kill herself when i wouldn't come over one night... took me a couple months after that to actually break up with her.

Does she go through your phone? Does she tell you you can't watch porn? Does she hold sex over you? Does she bring up your past fuckups during unrelated arguments?

Need more info

>>17806059
We're long distance, but I have done the vast majority of the travelling. Always complains when I see my family(she lives where I grew up) even if I do it when she's at work. She wants to go away for vacation next Christmas because she can't stand the stress of having to run around to see all of her family, got upset with me when I wasn't totally on board because it's Christmas for crying out loud and I would like to see my family durring it. Gets mad at me for taking a half hour to text back even though she knows how busy I am. She wanted me to move in a while ago and I wasn't ready, she really didn't take that well. Got over it but then started suggesting things like me living with her for just a few months as a trial. It feels like if I give her an inch she takes a mile.

>>17806059
Oh, she lost her shit one weekend when I told her I couldn't visit because I had a ton of school work to do and that there's no way that I could get it all done while visiting her. Didn't threaten to kill herself but chewed me out until I broke down and went.

>>17806004

why do you have to 'hold off'?

If you have offers from both, take 500 one. If you're just waiting, you have no idea they will even offer you one. And worse case scenario, you accept the first one, then accept the 500 one, and tell the small one you simply can't due to unforseen circumstances (moving back home, adverse schedule change, second job conflicts hours, just make something up)

>>17806007

The smaller company is going all out trying to recruit me. I'm well acquainted with the owner and the person that would be my boss, but they're not going to wait forever - and I could tarnish my inevitable working relationship with them "waiting" for the Fortune 500 job.

I have a very, very good chance at the Fortune 500 job, coming from their biggest competitor, but their size is probably going to prohibit me from getting an actual offer for about a month, once HR completes the hiring process and all.

>>17805992
Get into statistics and economics or switch to math

>>17805992
You either die still or hurt growing

>>17805999
I don't know im pretty stupid. I took intermediate economics twice and barely passed the second time.

First of all, how good looking is she?

>>17805918
Do you want to bone her, or become her boyfriend, the distinction is important.

>>17805952
I'd say he's a 7 outta 10

Mein Kampf by Adolf Hitler is a one stop shop for all of your math needs.

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>>17805948

My problem is math not programming, besides my life is already lame anyway and I'm very creative so I'd wanna make some cool projects on the side of my main future career.

Most of the time, the people who insult you are virgin cucks. So don't pay attention to them. Brush it off and stop being a pussy

lol
i hope ive insulted you before. i only insult those who deserve it and you sound like you do

Dirty Dave's Guide to Street-Tail

In almost any town or city of moderate size, you can pick up a piece of stank if you know what to look for. Now I'm not talking about street walkers here. They are easy enough to spot. Just for shits and giggles though, next time you guys see one of them working girls, honk the horn. They'll be happy to flash you some titty. While we're on the subject of professionals, here's some tips when picking one up. Do a drive through to assess the situation. You're looking for evidence of other working girls nearby. These ladies are very skittish and if the police are using a decoy, chances are the real prostitutes will split. Have your buy money ready, like in your pocket or the ashtray, making sure your wallet is under your seat. This makes it hard for them to pick your pocket during a BJ. If there are guys hanging around the girl, keep going. No sense getting mugged over a piece of ass. Last thing on these girls, trust your instincts. If it looks too good to be true, it's probably a cop. Real toots have a rough edge to them, so if a gal is too made-up, keep rollin.
Now, on to the finer things. My favorite stalking times are the hours between 2am and 6am. Any street, any corner. What I look for is a lady walking and looking around, making eye contact. Most decent women aren't out at these times. If the girl won't look in your direction, don't bother her. If she does, pull over and offer her a ride. Ask her what she's doing and be frank in letting her know that your looking for a "date". You'll hear something like, "I don't normally do this, but I could use the money". Just go with it and you'll be on your way. Be nice. I often carry a pack of smokes, some bottled water and kleenex. Dark, quiet streets are alleys make perfect parking. In a place where you can keep an eye out while she's buisy getting you off. Some girls will even give you their number. Take some condoms and enjoy.

Be honest? Try being more with your partner but also remember to be an individual. If you're too clingy I'd say maybe you jump the gun and devote all of your waking time to the person? Why not treat your partner as friend and not over think the relationship and just have fun.

>>17805903
thats what i try to do

but I'm scared just being chill and treating them like a friend will make them think I'm not interested

Problem is, you're more concerned about what you're showing than what you're doing underneath that.

You need to seriously address why you personally feel compelled to cling. It doesn't matter what acts you put on if you're still feeling the same underneath.

Since we don't know you, no one here can exactly say what the reasons behind your admittedly exaggerated need for attention/approval & sense of safety are, but know this:
You have to know how to be alone & satisfied with yourself before you can ever be in a great relationship. Otherwise, you will always be asking, in some way or another, for your significant other to provide you with senses of comfort that you are still convinced you can't provide yourself, because something in the way you view life or yourself keeps staining that.

And no healthy relationship will ever last if you continue to need things of other people that you should be providing for yourself in the first place. Make sense?

Indianapolis? That city is scum.

Just look up stuff to do on Google

>>17805858
>what are some cool things to do?
Uhm...move out of Indianapolis?

>>17805794
add on:
>toxic friends that used to pick on me and had a anxiety attack and broke out by forcing myself to speak up (I dont see them anymore)
>dont really talk at home unless spoken to

Probably not. Not by itself. Being physically active helps a lot with your mental state but it's not a perfect cure for every problem you might have.

But yeah, it would definitely help and it's a start. If you can I suggest working out at a gym though. If you can't do that for whatever reason at least go out for a jog in the park once in a while.

Alright listen up.
>can making healthy changes to my life make me feel better?

Absofuckinglutely. Simple dietary changes and exercise can make such massive improvements in your mental state that the age old advice of eat-right+exercise can seem damn near mythic. But you can see for yourself how much better of a state you can put yourself in.

Check out the book Brain Maker, which goes into the concepts of your intestinal bacteria and their state regarding your dietary choices and how it affects your brain (alzheimers, anxiety, autism, parkinson's, inflammation at large). Implement some of the suggestions the book gives for at least a sustained week and see how you feel.

From there you can really get into proper exercise. Stretching is absolutely huge, and you should start with things related to it like aerobics or yoga. After really getting into that, you'll have great fundamentals to get into lifting and be aesthetic as fuck because the stretching and aerobics/yoga will have you on your way to mastering great form.
You'll be blown the fuck away by how comfortable and happy you'll be in comparison to now.
Fucking go for it, time spent sitting around and thinking about it does nothing.

>>17805785
>also i can't give other guys a chance that actually like me. Whats wrong with me?

>>17805796
any advice 4chins!

No, he's not playing games, he just likes your posts once in a while. Or you assume everyone who likes your posts is playing games?

You have a crush on him and it's obviously not going to work out so yeah, best thing is to delete it and go on with your life. He'll probably not even notice and if he does, why would you care? It's a person you'll most likely never going to see again, there's no reason to worry that he'll think you a drama queen or whatever.

So yeah, spend more time on your hobbies, preferably things that require your attention and pique your interest (as opposed to scrolling down on facebook and 4chan) and socialize more, especially with men. You should get over him pretty fast this way.