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Look dude. No you don't want to die. Chances are things in life are unfavorable for you. Me too! And sometimes we have more problems than we have resources to solve them. Sometimes those resources are time, energy, or motivation. It's ok though. A lot of us hit that point.

I don't think you should and I'm not going to try and stop you. If you want to, you can get sick. You can stop eating. You can get some crazy disease I will not mention. But realize that you're probably searching for relief...which is a feeling that you are required to be alive to feel.

>>17803911

herei s what you do

>spend a predetermined amount of time going on rooftops
>you go up there most nights, to watch the sunset
>you bring snacks with ya frequently, and always take pics
>you post these pics on social media or send them to friends or family
>dont bull shit about how you dont have anywhere to post this, just make an account and add some people oyu know even if you arent that close to them
>then after about two weeks of htis you go to the tallest building
>you bring a hamburger from your favorite restaurant with you
>you eat a little less than half of it
>you take your cell phone out and move to the edge with the camera app open
>you then fall to your death

looks like an accident.

>I want to kill myself
>rational decision

Yeah, no, you're not foolin anyone but yourself on that one.
Look, this is 4chan. Most of us have probably or do dwell on the idea of suicide for some time, so you can trust that we, from many different walks of life, can understand what you must be & have been going through to be so hopeless and fatalistic. But suicide is not the answer, no matter what. Even if you were to be sent away and locked in a box for 20 years, killing yourself is in no way a proper solution. Even if your failures have guraterey dishonurudu your famiry, seppuku will fix nothing.

Please, tell us why you think suicide is your only, rational choice.

I'm very interested in dating a close friend of mine, and I feel she is interested in me. Last night, she and I went and got dinner together, and she was very flirty (played with hair, made excuses to touch me, etc;) and we also saw Dr. Strange together. She then also brought up making plans for when she's back in town in 2 weeks (she goes to an out of state college but is going to one near mine next year).

I'm fairly certain she's interested, but that's less of my problem than the fact that she was a long term girlfriend of a friend of mine. He and I aren't super close, and he broke up with her, but they still dated for nearly a year and a half. We all went to the same high school so we all still know one another.

Should I still follow bro code and ask him if I can date her or should I just ask her out? Should I talk to her first about it? Or is it a bad idea entirely?

>>17803772
Girls: how do you feel about bicurious guys?

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>>17803772
Women: what's your preferred sex position

Men: what is best condom

>>17803533
>Independent porn star. Looking for advice on what other scene/scenarios/content to shoot!
>Suggestions needed
>thxxx
nude pic with time stamp or no advice given

>>17803538
https://twitter.com/lia_austin95/status/803103799774760961
Theres all the proof you need
Click my profile for said nudity

Anyways. Bump for suggestions

asking for a friend, to test your ability to solve anything

let's say i'm male from singapore. they have mandatory army service (3 years). let's say i have chronic depression, and i would have shot myself if i joined the army.

i left. doesn't matter what happened in between, but now i'm in australia, studying in a university. my grand aunt is paying for everything. i am in the course i chose because it leads to permanent residency in australia, thus i can legally stay afterwards.

the problem is that my passport has expired. i don't know if they will give me permanent residency without a passport, and i can't renew it without either going to singapore, or going to the singapore embassy (where they could arrest me on the spot, if i enter).

current "plan" is to just attempt to get it anyway, and if rejected, to lay low and stay illegally for as long as possible, if they won't listen to reason about why i can't return to singapore (and why i defaulted, genuinely worried for my own life).

have also considered that maybe i'll be deported and have to pay a fine, or be imprisoned, or both, and then still have to do the 3 years service anyway.

what do, femanon?

Hey, think you could give your opinion on my problem with my relationship? I posted it a thread about it a couple of minutes ago.

>>17803175

can you fuck off please

there are vocaroo threads on /soc/
saged.

>>17802996
Just cheat. Marriage isn't all about sex, its about kids and money mostly. Just never, ever, ever admit to it no matter what. I don't care what she says, or if she catches you red handed(dont cheat at home btw) lie to her fucking face.

>>17802996
Anon is a fucking idiot. Us ladies know. We can smell other women on you. We may not react to your face but we might get destructive (or cheat back.)

As a woman I never thought I would have a problem since my drive is high but my man can't keep up. That's what toys and adult gif are for. He is my partner and it's not worth the breaking of trust.

>>17803907
If your not fucking and your not divorced we don't care what you do. Just cuz your wife wont fuck you anymore doesn't mean no one else should.

>>17788257
C

I don't think you want to be my friend anymore, Even one of my best friends G doesn't really ever want to hang out anymore. This all just really bums me out and I feel like I'll never have as close a friend as you. The worst part is you're such an extreme extrovert that I feel like you took our friendship for granted. anyways I guess this is it. desu I always felt a little uncomfortable around you because you had like 40 "close friends". That's just not possible and maybe we weren't as tight as you made it seem. anyways bye

J

H,

I slept with her.

R,

I think im starting to realize that I shouldnt be your friend.

C

If you asked and she did not tell you a shit then just move on. Focus on yourself, do exercise, focus on sleep and diet. Delete her from facebook and your life and you should be fine.

She is probably projecting her insensitive decision making onto you. (ie she probably knows deep down that she is a shitty person so she treats you like shit to cope)

why are you still friends with this person??

>>17806534
I was with her for 5 years, we started losing touch after 4 until she sai we had a problem because of it. So i did everything i could to make it work but it came out that she cheated on me with another guy. I gave everything for her and made a promise to get her away from her abusive father and kept it by getting an apartment and moving in together. I just wish it wasnt all for nothing.

btw. That picture above is the 10/10 girl. Any feedbakc on if she's actually hot or im just stupid.

>>17806499
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iGNWVwTq0cQ

"From a logical point of view, always marry a woman uglier than you"

>>17806499
Been fucked over by the girl next door, plain Jane, the hipstress, and a few sjw tomboys. I would go for the 10/10 because anything below an 8 will get approached more because the chance of rejection is lower.

Hate to say it, but usually the betties have had more dicks in them than the stacies. Stacies entice visually, but don't put out like the betties and janes do. We think well she's hot so she must be a whore, but I have actually found the reverse to be true.

Grow some balls and go for the 10

>>17806462
>What are you supposed to build your life around
Whatever the fuck YOU want. Screw normal stuff.

>>17806462
What's normal? Why does it have to be normal? Why not do what you want to do?

>>17806471
I want to be happy. I don't know any other route to it other than the normal one.

>>17806475
"Normal" is getting a job where you can do what you do best, a nice wife who wants the same things as you want in life, and settling into a comfortable routine of doing just that, being at work so you can enjoy your time at home.

I want to be happy. What other ways are there to be happy?

>>17806393

do your homework at the library. less distraction.

do your homework with a friend, you'll be keeping up with them.

have a reward system.

have a punishment system.

>>17806414
Thats it?

>>17806453

yes anon, this is how people actually do their homework. i know its shocking that people actually have fucking drive.

>>17806344
cont.

See, we change our perception of things on a daily basis. Of people, food, movies, music, politics, clothes, etc. The more trivial the object at matter, the easier we will be able to change our perception of it and the less energy it will cost us doing so. Someone we've just met - no problem fundamentally changing our views within minutes. Changing the perception of someone we've known for years is substantially harder and more draining. Realizing that someone you've loved more than anything has somehow become someone you don't even want to talk to, can be such a knock down that it can destroy us - even causing depression.

cont.

>>17806347
cont.

Now what will happen when the perception about your entire life - who you are, where you are, whom you with, what you are doing - starts shifting? In a world where continuity, plans, goals and overall order are absolute key traits in ones life, these thoughts become crippling, draining, un-thoughts. Especially if your self-view is extremely stable - or atleast appears to be. Without an extremely flexible mind, these changed thoughts will inevitably be suppressed and/or will lead to double-think which will then lead to the inevitable mental instability and dissatisfaction. If suppressed this instability and severe dissatisfaction with life will ofcourse appear to come out of the blue. And don't get me wrong, a life that appears to be super-fine can ofcourse be de facto not-so-super-fine for you individually. In fact, it might be especially draining to realize that super-fine life you're living is infact absolutely not what you're desiring.

So what is the typical reaction when we realize our perception of something has shifted and makes us feel no good? We change it or get rid of it. We stop listening to music we stopped liking, we wear clothes that we view differently only to different occassions or we stop socializing with people that are detrimental to our life.

cont.

>>17806351
cont.
How come our reaction to 'My life is miserable' isn't: I have to change or get rid of it. Instead we cry for pills and cure, for manipulation of our minds in desperate hope of changing our perception back to what used to be. When I stopped liking my ex, I didn't cry for a pill to be in love with her again, I cut her from my life. Ofcourse there's a possiblity that food doesn't taste so well as it used to because of an unnoticed cold, but isn't it more likely that we've simply become tired of it?
Why don't we get rid of this life we're living, that is making us this miserable - I'm not talking about suicide here btw - and see if that does the trick and cry for pills and mental manipulation only when this doesn't do the trick? I'm starting to think it's just the blatant fear of admitting that the life we've lived has lead us to a point of miserability and out of fear of the change this acknowledgement might bring.

Maybe this will get someone to start thinking differently, maybe some of you feel the same. Contribute, whatever.

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>>17806313

>how much trouble would we get in for being high on shrooms while playing laser tag?

Are you 12?

>>17806315

No, we are all late 20's.
Two are early 30's.

Thing is, what the odds we get caught and how much will the clerks will care?

Would they just kick us out, or rat us out?

if you cause any kind of non violent disturbance, you will just be forced to leave.

if you cause a violent disturbance in a laser tag place you can bet the authorities will be called, there are generally kids in there after all.

frankly i think btoh activities are fun enough that you dont need to mix them. why risk it? drugs are meant to be taken in the safety of your own home with controlled settings.

sounds stupid as hell and you sound stupid also

>>17806262

I think you fit in with the retarded people at your job more than you think you do.

>>17806276
Why are you calling me stupid? i just asked a question

>>17806260
Avoidant personality disorder. You fear abandonment and so maintain control by abandoning others before they can abandon you.

Could be borderline but you don't sound manipulative and histrionic enough

Could be covert schizoid judging by the emptiness, but 'real' schizoids tend to be pretty rare, and the hypersexual schizoid rarer still

t. armchair psychologist

>>17806260
Why the hell would you even want to commit? Haven't you learned anything through Tinder and other crap? Most women are sluts and/or whores. Commitment is very dangerous and it is totally normal to be afraid.

Don't rush it. Wait until you find a woman that seems actually trustworthy. And it won't be easy to find her.

>>17806286
OP here I actually did see a psych for a bit and he straight up told me I was avoidant

didn't help me get through it though the fucker

how do i fix this

Believe yourself to be the person you want to be, become them, feel it and never stop

Please, someone tell me something. I'm not suicidal, but I don't know how long I can go on with all this shit pushed back. I need help.

>>17806289
I've done that before, it didn't work. I failed to meet the goals that I set. Do you have anything else that could help?