A socially awkward person

>>17806238
Well. The practical version is this: listen more. It is a perfectly valid way to maintain a conversation, and it will likely lead to a better experience for all involved---just nod you head, and interact in simple ways. Once you feel comfortable to speak, do so---don't rush. People enjoy a good listener more than a funny joke.

In terms of starting a conversation...No clue. I'm shit at that, too.

>>17806238

it probably just means you're smart and you're not a peice of shit. Easiest way to get over that awkwardness and anxiety is to realise how shitty people are and how banal and silly a lot of socialising is. You're not above socialising, but you're probably above the vapidness of it.

Know that you don't always have to keep a conversation going. Face them, then ask them some questions, then smile and stop talking. Now the ball is in their court. Naturally, if they want to continue talking to you, they will ask the next question. Otherwise, after a while of silence, you can shift your posture SLIGHTLY away from them (think of it like turn your body slightly away from them). If you do this correctly and casually, it makes the conversation less interview-like and more open and casual, which makes everyone feel much more comfortable and invites others to join in on the conversation.

Just get comfortable with keeping your mouth shut.

Put yourself on the shoes of the other party and dont talk about shit they wont get / wont like.

AKA learn to hide your powerlevel

May sound kinda shitty but what I do is the usual small talk I heard from other people's conversations, and listening.

I learned not to make jokes may not be funny or references, because it can't get very fucking awkward. I work on overcoming most of my weaknesses but with this one I just seem to have a different way to think than most people which leads to awkward jokes and that's ok. I basically listen to other people's conversations whenever I can so I can copy, and play it safe.

>>17806995

Not really man. I'm autistic as fuck too but lets not kid ourselves, our brain does a lot of work subconsciously to track other people's feelings and intent, and social conventions and expectations. That's processing that the brain does so in a way it's a form of intelligence, and normies are better than us at it.

I've been working this out for the last few months at work. I'm usually very quiet and just do my job very well. The best advice I can give is to say what you want. Things are only awkward if you let them be. If you make an bad or autistic joke, just act like that's how you intended it. Confidence in what you say matters wayyyyy more than what you actually say.

Don't go 100 percent funny when getting to know someone
Play it safe, let them be really comfortable around you
Once they're comfortable around you you can start cracking jokes
Then go in for the kill

You come off as awkward/creepy to people when you aren't on the same page with humor. You get them on the same page as you by way of conversation and time spent with eavh other.

keep it simple op, dont try to become likeable, just socialize for the sake of it. once you git gud at it, start to make jokes and such. think of it as earning xp, every level will increase your CHA or something
jokes can get people offended or can build you a reputation of being a dumbass
and not many people can get references
also, the whole twitter "i hate mysel lol" thing is a repellent for people, or at least decent people. other persons can sense that what you mean is true, and those who dont, will realise if you keep doing those kind of comments. and no-one wants to hang out with a downer. plus, confident downers find this kind of people obnoxious.
thats all i can think, op. keep your mind cool and empty, the more you worry, the harder and awkward-er itll get

>>17806995
>smart
>this is what introverts actually believe

>>17806238
OP if you want other people to be interested in you, you have to be interested in others. The best thing you can talk about would be the other person.

>>17809557
I have never seen a smart extrovert

>>17809886
ffs

i hope you're memeing

>>17806238

by not making yourself 'responsible' for ocnversation. conversation is something you engage in for YOU, not for other people.

if they dont get the shitty reference, its not bad. its not negative. its not a judgement on you. its an awkward moment the way bumping into someone is awkward. not bad, just ;oops;.

you are not a clown. you are not responsible for other peoples happiness and enjoyment. say what you want to say, and nothing more. if it fades out, thats okay. there is no cloaked ghost man in the sky with a scoreboard keeping track of how many conversation you 'kept going'.

own yourself. because if someone has a problem with you being 'strange' then they need to 'get out' more.

>>17811019
Extroverts are loud and obnoxious, not a sign of intelligence if you ask me.

>>17811073
Or you are looking for a way to make yourself feel good for being an introvert.

>>17811104

BUT IM ME SO PEOPLE LIKE ME MUST BE WRONG!

its like when that ugly kid tells everyone hes really smart even though he gets like a C average. so he just convinces himself that hes REALLY smart but really lazy.