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I'm the same age as you, and my mom had reconstructive surgery several times throughout her life. She was in a major accident when she was 19, almost died and it fucked up her face a bit. She went in for another rhinoplasty later on, I was 4. I remember her crying when we dropped her off at the hospital because I thought she was sick/hurt. Other than that, it hasn't had any effect on me growing up.

It's your body and you have every right to do what you wish with it, and I think your daughter will be just fine.

You're asking if plastic surgery will affect a baby? No. You're the parent and you make the decisions, and be default the child will trust you and respect any decisions you make. The child will however come to understand that plastic surgery is acceptable.

>>17838775
My mom got a boob job when I was in hs. It hasn't really affected me in the slightest (I consider myself pretty normal). I am a guy though, but my sister doesn't seem affected by it either.

I wouldn't do any facial surgery though. I'd imagine looking different would be unsettling to your child.

Go get a job on a small local organic farm. Look on craigslist for an opening for part time. They always need another hand and are usually very open minded and will be supportive towards you as long as you give them a good hand.

I was depressed, and my doc is the one who informed me.

He put me on pills, and I took them. But, I realized it wasn't really me that was depressed, just the situations I'd gotten myself into.

Engaged to a cheating whore, trying to make it work.
Working a dead end job, barely making it by.
Not having any freedom because cheating whore is absolutely draining my entire life.
Work sucked, I had no friends, my life was over and I didn't think I'd ever recover.

After being on the prescribed pills for a couple of months, I decided it wasn't going to change the situation I am in, and I can't just sit there thinking these pills are going to work.

I have to do something, me. It's not going to happen for me.

I broke up with my girlfriend, and I took a big leap in my job, and I wasn't on medication.

Last night I watched the football game with my friends, had a few beers, have been working out, and make more money than ever and my life is happier than when I was around toxic people in a toxic relationship, letting my life rot away into nothing of worth.

I'm ready to have fun, enjoy my time, and spend it doing whatever the fuck I want to do, and it's that way because I was in a depressed suicidal rock bottom, and had the will power to climb out of it and understand I was the only one responsible for my own happiness.

>>17838694
>I have to do something, me. It's not going to happen for me.
I am aware of this but it isn't so simple.

I was born into a wealthy family and study in a world class university. Everything got thrown at me and my future is supposed to look very bright. I should be happy but I am not.

I am not stupid and if it was easy I would have broken out of this a long time ago.

>>17838636
I used to be like you in a way but once I got a relationship I was happy for a while and happy for others in relationships. After I broke up I realized relationships are not all what they are cracked up to be. The company is nice but the lack of freedom sucks. I don't mean freedom to see other girls. Depends on who you date though :)

>>17838636
Yup, there's your problem. It's a catch-22 - you ponder all the time why you don't get relationship -> girls shows interest -> itshappening.jpg intensifies -> inevitably get disappointed.

It is bad that you want all relationships to fail. It means you are losing your ability to empathize with others because you feel wronged.

If you get caught in the Internet echo chamber of "All women do [blank]", you're only going to distance yourself from what human beings are actually like and it sets you up for addictive and escapist tendencies, and inevitably exacerbating your problems.

Some people in this world die alone, never have love, etc. There's 7 billion people out there - inevitably that has happened. Think about what you want out of life in such way that you're okay even if everyone left you. Do you want to fix something in the world? Invent something? Thoughts like that.

Let's hear you out OP.

>>17838636
ElliotRodgers.jpg

Truth is an unhealthy relationship is worst than being alone. You get to do whatever you want, don't need to have a second person on your mind that you really don't want there.

>>17838612
a place to drop your worries and get a meme answer in return

>>17838612
a gateway board to /r9k/

>>17838616
Hmm 20 mins in and I think you're right

What's the Reddit to non-Reddit ratio here?
How about the /pol/ to non pol ratio?

Forgot to mention that we both work 12 hour shifts overnight, we need to be able to lift at least 200 lbs in our positions at work

Can't you get money from the gov
Disability or some shit

>>17838607
Is that how that works? I'll look it up right now

>>17838588
Fucking leave her then. That shit ain't healthy at all. Bbbb..bbut I love her. Or maybe ypu don't qnd you're scared. Get a restraining order and stay as far away as possible from her. Fuck that. You can only tolerate so much and she cleary sounds unstable.

>>17838588
i have bipolar and adhd and i would never do that to a cheating bf. i would probanbly at most try to hurt their feelings but thats all. ur ex is a bitch and should be treated as a criminal.

I haven't found a way to get out of her life without risking my own life. I can't just ignore her, the consequences would be very harmful to me. As a side note, I have been dating her for 3 years now and have never cheated on her and always gave her my all.

>>17838575
And your question is?

>>17838758
The request for advice is between the lines.

If you can't pick it up I don't want advice from you.

Not everyone requires a female companion to be content.
Seems like your bliss lies in solitude.
Besides, if you and a woman a compatible, the day will come. If not, so what?

Have you tried getting to know the people you have sex with? Spend some time getting comfortable with them and developing an actual connection.

Seems like you cannot into casual sex

>>17838558
Try not being a slut and get to know the attractive guys before you have sex with them.

>>17838549
>playing your own original songs
>not spending all your time trying to master bach and chopin pieces

>>17838584
Ikr I'm a total hack I get it ok

>>17838549
book ur self in the city until bigger places have heard of u

What do you do during the day

When was the last time you were in school or work

>>17838531

I sit at home and go out of my mind with regret and boredom. I sit on my computer and occasionally jerk off

I went self-employed 4 years ago which failed miserably. I am now essentially a 30+ NEET. My last official job was a temporary role 9 years ago. My CV is pitiful

you need an obligation
School, work
Something you can't get out of and gives you a routine

pls help i am an absolute social retard

Don't be a mental-case.

>>17838516
wow thanks
mental problem and solitude solved

cant believe i never though of that

>>17838421
make a fake guitar out of wood then hide in it,
when it arrives at his hous u can g o out hahaa charade you are buyer then u can ask his address and sell the guitar for his address back

Do what this guy did:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_QdPW8JrYzQ

>hey guys, how do I convince a scammer to not scam me, and instead pay me all the money in cash face to face

You don't, it's a scam, moron.

>>17838400
Having a gf is pretty fucking great but without bringing anything on the table you will get the bottom of the barrel whales or nothing at all.

Trying doesn't hurt though, just don't get suckered into being a cuck or orbiter.

>>17838400
Just be yourself bro.

>>17838411

Yeah, that's my concern. I don't really have anything to bring to the table - more things to take away, honestly - so the only people I could interest are women who either are as unappealing as me, or who make really bad decisions.

>>17838412

I am myself, bro. That's the thing: I don't want to lie or big myself up on a dating profile since in my mind that just makes any eventual meeting more disappointing.

>>17838357
I have none
I'm a boring person
But seriously radio
Radio is a step over tv because it's better quality and you can do other shit like cleaning or cooking while listening to it

>>17838357
Damn dude have tried actually getting a hobby instead of trying to pretend to have one? There's tons of great things out there depending on your personality. I'm more of an out doors type I love hiking, camping, kayaking, hunting, and judo. Try joining a local group there's groups that do pretty much everything if your willing to look.

i feel like hobbies is something for teens and retired peoplethat need to fill empty time. no adult who has a home to manage, a family to care for and a career to tend to has time for hobbies.

Go to an Adult Novelty/Sex Shop and look for the lube Gun Oil or whatever.
If you have any questions just ask the cashiet, theyre usually knowledgeable on lubes.

so, you want to lose your virginity by having gay anal sex? dude... how about taking things slow?
anyways, relaxation is key. do you do anal play when masturbating already? use plugs and dildos? if not, start NOW to get used to it or it might hurt like a motherfucker.
any lube will do. water and silicone based ones preferably.

>>17838345
That is very helpful.
I was mostly aiming for some dick-sucking but I wanted to be prepared in case things escalated.
As far as anal play goes, I mostly just use my fingers, but I should probably get a dildo.