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>>17840315
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Male, 31.

I don't hang out with friends either. Just talk to people online.

I make better friends with old ppl, or people dying of serious diseases. Just people who genuinely appreciate your company.

Most of my friendships were just materialistic acquaintances in my youth. By that I mean, all they did was sit around doing drugs, and that was the whole of the friendship.

When I stopped doing drugs, I felt like I was there out of whatever respect was left, but really there was hardly a reason to remain. That or play video games, not much else.

It's like what keeps people together is consumerism or stupid music shows, and it makes the friendships feel so disingenuous or repetitive. Even my closer friends are gone, people who actually had things in common with me. Still they went their way, and it was better that way.

The older I got, the more I realized it's better to be alone, than in bad company. Or to feel forced to participate in trivial bs. I just feel ready to be married by now or dating someone as simple as me.

>>17840353
Good luck meeting or keeping anyone if you have no friend group. Women hate loners.

I smoke a little bit of weed before bed and workout.
Also try to keep busy either by reading, vidya, or something hands on.

>>17840227
I'm depressed so I'm about to watch Dave Chappelle - Killing Them Softly

>>17840227
To begin i'd like to say that I'm not here to spread positivity or give emotional support. If you want to kill urself, get help; you are clearly not healthy as almost no healthy living thing knowingly kills itself.
Positivity is dumb. Be a realist.


Also if you are afraid of being happy and you think that if you become happy you will slip into a hedonistic life of gluttony because of your sense of oblivious wellbeing, i can assure you that if you keep a lookout ull be fine. You'll actually probably function better. Dw, your misanthrope will still be there for you.

Been at her place in previous relationships. She doesn't love you anymore. Sorry. Get out now.

You pulled when you should have pushed. Depending how much time has been vested this may be fixable. How long have you been going out for?

For 7 months. We have talked about her careless attitude and she promise to fix it. But expectation leads to disappointment, everything is still the same. Maybe its who she is

>>17840174
All your pros are pretty insignificant. Being a manlet is irrelevant too.

First you need an attractive personality. Second would be to change your location to improve the chances to find her. Outside of middle east and north Africa, most major western cities should do.

>>17840185
>attractive personality
I am genuinely caring person, however I say edgy shit without realising what I said was edgy, which makes people think I'm weird

>>17840211
Well, work on that. If you do realize that something is edgy, even in the retrospective, you should have enough sense to read the situation, whether it's a good idea or not to say it.

I regret asking this but can you take a picture of the drain?

If its a sink can you take a pic of the plumbing under the sink?

>>17840133
I cant get a picture of the sink onto my computer because the camera and computer are incompatible. But the sink has regular sink plumbing.

please help. its like a years worth of cum in the drain.

brinig a pillow to work or wherever you're going and sleep on the table of the lunch room like the girl in your pic is.

>>17840099
where do you nap during the night?

>>17840189

In a van.

>>17840159

Can't do that at my job.

There are plenty of other women out there, move on.
Shes your ex for a reason, dont try to win her back.
Invest the time into yourself and eventually someone will notice and appreciate you for who you are.

Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else

>>17840104

it's tough dude. this was the girl i was planning on marrying before shit went sour. i'm at rock bottom right now and some people are saying i should be getting on with life now but i'm still almost as crushed as the first day. i'm not trying to win her back, i know it's a fools game to do so, but keeping focused on my goals is so fucking tough right now man. hard to see light at the end of the tunnel, not to mention i live in a fairly rural area. women like her are pretty fucking uncommon and they usually don't go out.

>>17840105

easier said than done.

i'm underweight and girls date me

>>17840088
Do you have a handsome face?

>>17840082
Idk what you're getting at but I got lots of ass when I was a skinny fuck 6 ft 145 lbs at the thinnest. Girls usually care more about conversation skills than anything else in my experience tho. different girls like different builds there 7 billion people on earth and 7 billion ideas on what beauty is

Die is fucking retarded, and your sense of tadte will eventually heal by itself

You are fucking retarded for noy knowing when to stop, and there is no cure for that

>>17840009

well, fuck, I can only taste pain but at least I'm not as high as you are.

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>>17840020
>I can only taste pain but at least I'm not as high as you are
what did he mean by this?

Tell her politely and if she doesn't stop then its okay ti throw a shitfit

Also, consider negotiation

Aorry, drunk as fuck right nwo

>>17839941
If youre stronger fight her if you're not then accept your place as her beta or leave and start a new tribe

>>17839941
Wait, what the fuck are you sharing a duvet with your female housemate for?

>>17839900
Written contracts?

>>17839914
This, if not then you are out of luck, sorry.

>>17839900
Yes
There is a group of people, they are armed and like to seek people who do bad things and make them pay
And the best part is that you don't have to pay the, at least not directly if you get what I'm saying
And this is exactly the kind of thing they would be interested in
They are called police and you can contact them by phone

Just tell them. I told my grandmother and my mother that I was molested by a cousin when I was eight. They were shocked but didn't freak out. I told them when I was 18 or 19.

>>17839999

>be me
>older brother molests me
>confide in my boyfriend
>he tells EVERYONE after i break up with him
>probably should have seen that coming.
>family finds out
>they demand an answer
>i say its true, and i confided and then shit hit the ceiling fan
>dad says i made it up for attention

I molested my cousin when I was little

I think she hasnt said anything because she enjoyed it too, but I would probably kill myself if my family knew

Unless it still is a problem today and it is causing yoi trouble today then you shouldn't talk about ir, you arw only goinf to cause troubke for your family. Howdver you should put yourself above your family if this issue is affecting you directly then by all means be selfish, you are more important than your family (this s
Would apply in cases of like your father continousky getting in your bed and similar)

If you have a trauma talk about it to a psychologist or psychiatrist

Sorey for the bad grammar, I?m drunk right nks

>>17839865
She's obviously got emotional problems you don't need that in your life anon find a nice sane girl

you should've not ignored her after 2 flakes if she says she's got problems
if you loved her you would've tried to understand her situation and be there for her

>>17839865
Why the hell didn't you respond to her trying togive you an answer?

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If I stay here I not only lose the opportunity to travel with this new girl. I also subject myself to the possibility that all the same heartbreak will happen again.

If I go than it means giving up on the love of my life in a time where there is a chance on making things work. I want her to be my traveling companion. She has found serenity and seems like a completely different person. I just don't know what to do.

I'll clarify any questions anyone may have.

Go on the trip see if things work with the new girl, if not you will come back and the girl you are currently in love with will still be in the same cycle of life because that's just the way addiction works. Broaden your horizons you are 21 get out there and try new things. Don't get stuck in this cycle with the girl you currently love. I can almost guarantee you will fall in love with the girl you go travelling with because you sound like me - fall in love with any good looking girl that is nice to you.

>>17839851
It's not just a road trip. I'd be moving to California for good. This would mean closing the door on the girl I love forever.

>>17839809
I usually don't buy anything for my mother, but I gift my sister perfume or similar stuff

but if I gifted something to my mother it would be

i spent like 10 minutes thinking and came up with nothing, sorry I'm really drunk right now

how about a pendant or some bijou shit?

Necklaces and bracelets anon women love shiny shit

Girl here. Don't buy jewelry or clothes. That's a given. But throw blankets and "spa kit" type stuff are big winners. As simple as it is, it's freezing out, and your sister will enjoy a really fuzzy/warm blanket for her room or apartment. One of those really plush ones. Mom will appreciate the thought of a $10 beauty kit. Something like a basket with lotion, face wash, bath salts, all that shit. It's not personal, since I don't know your mom, but all women do like that shit. Mom might also like a plush bathrobe or slippers to wear around the house. Winter means really comfy stuff is the best.