When do you feel like you're good enough either for a particular person or to try to pursue relationships in general? What's your baseline for feeling like an acceptable partner and how long did it take you to get there?
Asking because no matter what I do I always compare myself to people and feel like I'm not enough, as if virtually every other guy has something to offer that I don't. I truly don't know if it's self esteem issues or if some semblance of reality is knocking and telling me I need to get my shit together.
This is entirely in your head anon stop comparing yourself to others you're basically just solidifying all your insecurities every time you do that
I've never felt I'm not worth dating because I've never been a loser.
>>17842040
it might be a little of both. we dont know you. for all we know you are a 5 foot tall 200 pound brony with a fedora, no hair on your head, and a neckbeard, whos only talent is being able to recognize obscure furry art by the artists name.
but chances are you are like most guys. some bring more than others. some bring less. but all bring something. so as long as you aim for girls within your range, you will do fine.
the problem you have is that you are acting like all girls are the same, look the same, act the same, want the same, etc.
there are lots of fat guys who date fat chicks. or ugly guys who date ugly chicks. sometimes they mix and match. sometimes they settle because of other factors.
there is no baseline. cuz even the fat fedora neckbeard i described above can get a fat fedora wearing vagina beard lady.
pursue people you feel an attraction towards, and balance that out with what oyu bring to the table. dont be harsh. if all you can say is 'NOTHING' then you are being too harsh.
Could anyone please educate me on the following "relationship" models:
>Friends with benefits
>Fuck buddy
How close should each type be kept, how frequently should we keep contact, and so on
I've fucked a gorgeous and very friendly girl and she said she's up for a second round when she visits my city again, but texting feels very distance. Idk if I should aim for her friendship or just wait until she comes back and we do our thing. Worth noticing I'm not looking for anything more than that and not being clingy to her, just want to keep the right distance to keep it that way, not to close but not too far. I just don't know how since I've never had something like this before (only gfs)
Friends with benefits technically refers to a real friend - someone you have a valuable platonic relationship with - where you add sex to the mix.
A fuckbuddy is just a booty call. You would not spend time together for a reason other than sex.
This is fucked up because people habitually refer to fuckbuddies as FWBs to be coy, despite not having any serious friendship with their hook up boy/girl.
Don't try to spark a friendship when there isn't one yet. Especially when she's being distant. Stick to rules like
>no sleeping over
>no making out if it's not a part of fooling around
>no cuddling after sex
and enjoy the pussy.
If you're afraid she's forgetting about you, send her a dirty/playful text.
>>17841974
I travel for my job and have sex with 5 different women in different cities and rarely communicate with them other than to let them know when I will hit town next. If they have time and I do we fuck, no questions asked. I know some of them have relationships and date but don't want to know.
>>17842026
Sure thing pal.
I need to lock the door and throw away the key when it concerns browsing this website. How do I accomplish this?
>>17841954
Sell laptop to taiwanese pumphouse drive-thru ladyboys.
Gamble hands in game of dice. Lose.
Replace eyes with cotton balls.
Tell 4chan it's-not-u-it's-me once and for all. Cross fingers behind back while saying.
>>17841970
I can't sell my PC, I'm a comp sci major. I'm just wondering how I can block this site with a password that I will intentionally forget.
>>17841954
you dont, youre here forever.
enjoy
Hey /adv/, first-time visitor here. So, I'm an alcoholic. I'm working on it and have been implementing a plan to first drink at a lower alcohol content, then move on to lowering number of drinks per day. I'm at about twelve beers every single day and most definitely experience alcohol withdrawals. When I haven't had any in about 6-8 hours I experience a variety of symptoms, and they're different from day to day. They include hot flashes, stomach pains, cravings, erectile dysfunction (which was never a problem previously) and constant shakes. The shakes in particular are universal and always happen. I don't want to nor do I think I can stop drinking completely, but I do want to cut down significantly to the point that I don't have these symptoms anymore.
I had a collapsed lung back in August and I have a bottle of hydrocodone (generic Vicodin) that I haven't touched since. I've been looking into it and I think that I could potentially use that to minimize my withdrawal symptoms. I don't have nearly enough to become addicted to opiates and I'm considering the possibility of sedating myself with painkillers to circumvent the alcohol withdrawals long enough to escape the constant cycle of drinking, because I only drink as much as I do to not experience the withdrawals.
AA or something like that I know firsthand won't work for me. I've had and beaten addictions before but this one is a real bitch because it's legal, so it's always available as long as I can afford it (and an addict always finds a way). What do you all think? Can /should I use medication to fight my way out of alcohol addiction?
>>17841947
>hey guys
>those ways that are proven and work for everyone - I don't want to do those
>how about this stupid risky way of doing it?
Fuck off retard.
>>17841947
Watch this video for motivation. I kri everitiem.
https://i.ytimg.com/vi/CrTlI6seM0A/hqdefault.jpg?custom=true&w=246&h=138&stc=true&jpg444=true&jpgq=90&sp=68&sigh=VatZzy9a4jigRNrYQxiVmSbnqqY
>>17841962
fuck
>copying the thumbnail url
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CrTlI6seM0A&t=103s
What are some reasons someone would be a fixer? I constantly try to fix everything and I can't think of a reason why.
>>17841893
If we're talking about relationships, it's because you're not like that Squirtle at all. In fact it's pretty much because you feel incomplete and believe that fixing others will give you the validation you're seeking for so much.
t. fixer
>>17841893
if yuo think of someone as a fixer upper you should probably just leave them be.
that being said, everyones different, there aren't general reasons, everyone has a 'type'. they have constantly changing needs. to say that one thing makes them a fixer would be insulting to everyone who has that quality.
which kind of circles back to my first point: dont be wiht someone if they're a fixer upper. its not helpful to you and its certainly destructive to them to hear 'you're okay, but not good enough and you're going to have to change just to date me'.
fuck that mess. yes, relationships are about compromise, but to go into one saying 'YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO COMPROMISE JUST TO DATE ME' is pretty cruel.
>>17841893
what do you fix?
cars
general house stuff
computers?
I am going to have to enlist in the army since it is mandatory in my country and I have to give a urine test some time in the near future (2-3 months from now). I know for a fact that if I was tested today, weed would be found from my body. I smoked weed almost daily for 2 years (approximately 1-2 g a week since I am not big on smoking large amounts of weed) but the past month I've smoked only on weekends. My question is what can I do to enhance the chances of not getting caught by a urine test? I've already figured out that going to the sauna often should help as well as drinking lots of water. But are there any other things I should consider and does someone have experience with drug tests (specifically weed)?
I'm not sure I see the downside in failing a urine test as a draftee - what are they going to do? Throw you out of the army that you don't want to be in?
>>17841884
Completely cut it out from today onwards, exercise a lot to sweat it out, eat low fat foods, drink lots of water and cranberry juice. You have 2 to 3 months, thats a good amount of time.
>>17841884
For frequent smokers, weed can stay in your urine for up to 2 months. It will go away faster if you do what I said in >>17841933. Lucky for you you have a head start
About a month ago I had an extremely akward sexual encounter with a girl that I met through a student organization at my University. Long story short, I'm a virgin who has a lot of confidence issues and I couldn't get my dick up and was just very frigid and stiff. I kind of just panic'd and basically apologized to her for my akwardness and I sent her home. I've felt really shitty about this whole thing but haven't done anything about it because I felt like this girl would want nothing to do with me after that. But, she still looks at all my snapchats and I definitely know I'm going to be seeing her again soon due to the student org. Even though it's been a month would it still be worth it to try and talk to her? This girl was really infatuated with me, and was willing to put up with some of my bullshit when I was drunk, so I'm part of me feels like I made her think that she wasn't attractive or something, because I really didn't provide an explanation for why I was being so odd. Adding to these fears is the fact that I didn't really take off any of my clothes while she did. I basically feel like I'm projecting that I undressed her, decided she wasn't good enough and then sent her away which is a complete cunt move, when all I wanted to do is fuck her and have fun.
This is also the 4th time that I've basically cockblocked myself like this. Should I just buy some viagra (I have a friend who sells his perscription, kek) to get over the hump? Last year I was fat as fuck at 270 pounds, and I still feel the same nervousness (if not more intense) interacting with girls even though I'm 6 ft 180 now and should feel more confident.
>>17841849
>hey... I didn't used to look like this, so I'm kind of new to these things
>can we just kiss for a while and see where it goes?
Just be fucking genuine. Obviously you can't be anything else right now since you're so psyched out about it
>>17841858
I don't even know if I'll be getting physical with this girl again, it's just something that's eating away at me. Like I feel like I owe this girl an apology, but I can't tell if an apology is what she wants.
>>17841858
>>17841862
Don't listen to that moron.
Juat cut all contact, completely ignore her, find another girl to fuck and get over the whole thing.
My boyfriends exs boobs are massive. Mine look like the D-E ones in the picture and his exs are bigger than any of those. They're the biggest I've seen. Now this normally wouldn't be a problem and he has told me my boobs are the perfect size yet, i found a bunch of photos of girls with massive tits...no girls with boobs like mine. Does he secretly wish my boobs were like his exs?
Found photos of girls wih massive tits on his computer*
>>17841819
Nope.
He secretely wishes your boobs were EVEN BIGGER.
Don't worry, that's something all men do, at some level. We learn how to cope and not assault the first titty monster we see.
He's with you, it will be ok. You can ignore the pics.
>>17841819
I'm going to reverse your question.
>My girlfriends exs dick is massive. Mine is like 5 inches and a half and his exs is bigger. It's the biggest I've heard about. Now this normally wouldn't be a problem and she has told me my dick is the perfect size yet, i found a bunch of photos of guys with massive cocks...no guys with cocks like mine. Does she secretly wish my cock was like his exs?
Well, what would your response be if the girl was you?
>be me 52 years old
>married to a wife I dont like
>Have a big house so we live separate
>kids left the house
>finally have money to buy a sports car, but now it does not matter to me<
>What is the point in living, feel like been there done that<
OP here
I have everything I could want?
Can I move in with you and have you buy me things? Or just wire me some money every once in awhile.
>>17841805
how much do you need?
What is an easy way to gain weight? It practically falls off of me no matter what or how much i eat. I think i have a hormone imbalance but the doctor says i haven't
Schedule times to eat, make sure you eat the proper amount of times, even if you don't feel hungry.
>>17841775
Melt ice cream into a drinkable type shake
Highest calorie intake in the easiest way to consume
First of all start counting calories.
Right now, without changing your diet at all. You will realize that you're not sick, you don't have a hormone imbalance - you just eat to little.
This is a fairly important thing to realize when trying to gain weight because it makes it clear to you that its all in your hands and that you don't have anything to blame but yourself.
Then once you are there you can look into diet plans etc - theres lots of them.
My dad just told me he would "really like it" if I went to senior prom.
I have 4 months to make enough friends to go to prom with as an 18 year old in High School
Can it be done? How?
>>17841765
Stop watching Sam Hyde and start watching Daniel Tosh
They will flock
>>17841802
>start watching Dane Cook
Fixed it for you.
>>17841818
Yooooo I wrote that first but changed it
I wasn't sure if today's high schoolers know him
i was molested by my father as a child. I wasnt able to understand what he was doing, and it felt good, so i never blamed him and i felt guilty instead. Is no use telling anyone, because it woud only break my family apart and is not ike it would give a solution to anything.
i see now how this affected me, because is really difficult for me to have physical contact with relatives or friends.
I only wanted to say it, because i repressed it, and is no use. i will accept it and go on.
Thanks for sharing
>>17841751
that sucks man
I can admire you for not making your pain others people pain. I know I would be weak in that
I hope things gett better in this regard. goodspeed anon-kun
I hope you avoid that faggot cut contact
>tfw love with parents, no job, gf, life and being 36 going on 37
sometimes I want to die
thought about going to school and study nursing but who wants to hire a newly graduated 45 year old nurse since all I have is a high school diploma
Where you from friend
>>17841764
USA, Florida
>>17841770
Isn't nursing in demand there?
I have a friend that studied to be a nurse and got so many interviews / job offers afterwards.
Especially if you're a guy since muh diversity
My wife and I were on our way to the gym when a commercial trailer truck started switching lanes from the right all the way to the left. She swerved to the left trying her best not to end up underneath the truck when all the sudden this white truck appears in front of us, swerving all the way to the left trying to also not die from the trailer truck. We hit the white truck from behind. Our car got completely trashed in the front. The hood got fucked up good and something started leaking. The white truck we hit just got a broken tail light. The trailer truck that caused everything, fled the scene. Cops came and we called insurance. However we were driving my mothers car when this happened and her insurance wont cover us any damage to OUR vehicle but will cover damages to the truck we hit. What can we do? There was a car in front of the truck we hit, that was also cut off by the trailer truck. The guy didn't get hit but stayed to give the police the report that it was the trailer trucks fault.
Image related. The car all the way in the front was the first one to see the truck turning to the left so he was able to get away in time. The car in front of me breaked and swerved to the left while we were just trying to swerve to the left. Had that car not break we wouldn't of hit him, but he would of ended up dead. He was very nice and seemed scared for us and for himself.
>>17841741
Typically insurance follows the driver. Hence your insurance will cover YOUR car and not HERS. As far as the other vehicle. Typically it's the insurance that is on the car that covers their vehicle and any medical bills.
I mean it all really depends on the policy but typically that's how it ends it up working out. So your insurance is going to have to claim the accident on your mother's car and her insurance can claim the truck.
Take all this with a grain of sand. Like I said it's dependent on your policy, but this is usually how it ends up playing out.
>>17841757
I don't understand?
My wife was driving my mothers car with my as passenger. My wife has he own car and insurance.
We didn't take my wife's cars cause it was low in gas.
>>17841760
Yeah after reading what I posted it seemed a little confusing since I worded it improperly...At least the first part.
So if your wife was driving your mother's car then your wife's insurance should cover your mother's car, but your mother's insurance should cover the truck ya'll hit. This is typical if you have liability, I believe.
Like I said, it all depends on your policy. If you have liability, full coverage, and/or collision coverage etc.
If you have any concerns, which you do, just contact your insurance claims and ask them what your options are. If you can claim this some other way they will let you know. It's not like they're going to tell you that you HAVE to do it this way, unless of course that's the only choose.
I know this still sounds confusing.
I fear so much for my country, my family, my friends. I just want everyone to be safe, why can't people just be safe. Eat well, love each other, forgive, why in such advanced times do these concepts find themsevles being so foriegn. What has happened to kindness, what i ask you. Who's killed it.
>>17841712
> current year
>>17841712
We've killed it, anon. The human race has killed it.
I'm sorry. Things WILL get better I can promise you that. But, before they get better they must get worse.
Oh shut the fuck up you dramatic SJW hippie bastard.