My boyfriend broke up with me but we live together. I have no idea what I'm going to do but I feel like shit and can't sleep. I wish my mom would take me back
maybe she would. call her and ask if you can stay with her for a few days till the storm has passed. shit situation, but you WILL get over it.
>>17837874
Into the vagina? Because you're a failed abortion?
>get your shit together.
>>17837877
My mom lives all the way on the west coast and kinda hates me, I will give it a go though. My boyfriend said I could stay here. I'm just super confused. He wanted to flirt with other girls. It just came out of no where..
Just answer my question...
How can I COMPLETELY hide threads I don't like?
I want them completely gone from my sight.
I don't want to see them in my "hidden threads" tab.
>>>plebbit
>>17837825
You could always stop bring a thin-skinned little bitch
why tf do you look at your hidden thread tab? just look away if you are that sensitive. i swear
Gf is very athletic, runs for miles and works out a lot. She has very strong legs, and weak upper body, but for some reason her sides stick out right at about the waistline. I don't understand because its just this spot. Her diet is pretty good (lots of salads) but her sides - like about an inch above the pelvis - stick out above the waistline that she can't really wear pants normally, she has to wear a belt and wear super high waisted stuff. It drives me absolutely insane - I am embarrassed when she exposes her sides. This frustrates me so much because I try really hard not to criticize her and I feel like a total douche for even typing this, but I'm going fucking nuts. Dating for 3+ years, parents and friends expect us to get married. I'd fucking kill myself if I go to a cocktail party with clients and my girl cant wear a dress without it looking weird. I've punished myself for thinking this way multiple times (cutting myself) and I know I am a douche for thinking it but I just cant take it anymore. She has mentioned she loves me, I have never said it back. Please let me know what I can do differently. I can only control my own actions. Thank you
>>17837819
What are you even talking about?
ok, so you are an adult who actually fucking CUTS himself because his gf has lovehandles? you, my friend just won the "insanity of the week i saw on 4chan" trophy. and wtf are you even doing? being in a relationship for 3 years and not once tell the person you love them? i feel REALLY sorry for your gf.
i suggest you get professinal help for you MAJOR insecurity and accompaning perfectionism as fast as humanly possible.
>>17837819
You probably should actually consider suicide, faggot. Newsflash, no one is perfect and I'd wager she also puts up with some of your ugly or unfavorable attributes too. Get over yourself.
No one here will feel bad for you just because you've "beaten yourself up over it" and cut yourself. You have some growing up to do.
I'm a pretty cool guy. Yeah, it's safe to say that I am pretty darn awesome.
I have many life experiences, including living with in an exotic country and advancing from basically homeless to dining with high end world leaders. I have acquired a cool, prestigious job that pays well and is respectable, I have lost a ton of weight to the point where I actually look handsome and people around me keep praising me for it, I have sensible and interesting hobbies and I can hold conversations with anyone.
Why can't I get a gf then? I've only been in 1 "relationship" all my life, which lasted less than a month and she left me on the "it's not you, it's me" pretence. I can say it screwed me a bit because even in this short period, I've been the best bf I could ever be to this girl.
One shortcoming that I have is that my texting game is poor as fuck. I can't hold a text conversation to save my life. I've had a "date" set up a while ago and my texting was just awkwardly short. All I said was basically hey, OK, yeah meet you then.
I didn't even show up at the date because I couldn't be arsed to leave my room that day, and ghosted the girl.
What is wrong with me adv?
>>17837730
What's your height and career field?
You prob have a self-important/narcissistic tendencies. Those only attract gold diggers.
If you want a 'nice' girlfriend, you will have to start being nice yourself. And not in that bullshit shallow niceness that's obvious to anyone who grew out of teenage angst.
You sound very self-centered. How old are you?
I'm a 27/F with a good high paying job with good upward mobility. Just started seeing 28/M who is a year away from graduating with his undergrad, working as a waiter, and unsure of what he wants to do.
When/how do I bring up the subject of finances and expectations? My last relationship ended up where we avoided the conversation all together and I ended up footing the bill for nearly everything. Ex got comfortable, started joking about quitting his job and moving in and me being his sugar momma which I really didn't want. When we finally did talk about it, we broke up.
How do I do this tactfully? My best friend already told me that it's not worth it and to just stick to guys at the same paygrade.
>>17837723
Just be explicit about it and say you really don't want to end up footing the bill for everything. Guys generally prefer clear explicit answers over feeling grateful that your trying to soften the blow of your words.
hey handsome
i dated a slob
please dont be a slob
love
sweetie
pick a guy with money if you want a guy with money. you sound like you want a guy with money, so why are you dating a waiter in college?
I don't think of myself as a complicated or clingy girl when it comes to relationships. I don't ask for the world, but when getting the attention of my boyfriend feels like pulling teeth, I don't know what to do. When I crave his attention enough, I'll say anything to get him to even just act like he likes me, and I love that. I don't know. Calling him up for him to come over used to be really simple. He'd come over here, and take me out places without me even asking. Now, it's, like yeah, pulling teeth. I'm running out of teeth of his to pull.
Perhaps he needs a little space? Has there been any issues between you two lately?
>>17837717
It's not like I call him up every day or text him all day vying for his attention. I've thought I've been good about giving people space. And no, everything, seemed to be going well, but he's coming to me less and less now. I'm the one instigating everything, when in the beginning, he did the traditional male thing of asking me out. I would've never thought I'd have a chance with him.
Why don't you go over to his place?
anyone would be tired if they're the ones at your beck and call. Go over and make his favorite meal and surprise him a couple times a week. Put in the effort and he'll do the same.
So I'm a 25 year old guy. Up until about a year ago, I was a fundamentalist Christian and had faithfully saved myself for marriage - never anything more than a kiss on the cheek. I've since finally come to terms with the fact that I'm not a believer anymore and I have to face the fact that I no longer have any ideological reason to avoid sex.
Now that I'm associating with people who aren't hardcore Christians (just started graduate school) I'm feeling a bit out of place knowing that many guys and girls have extensive sexual experience going back to high school. I had relationships in the past, but there was never sex involved.
I'm really tempted to go on Tinder or some other dating site and try to do the deed so I get this out of the way. I'm 6'3", white, athletic, and in a lucrative career field. From what I know of the hookup scene my chances of getting a girl to come home with me are pretty good.
I'm also considering that I could just find a girlfriend, but I feel like I'm going to be pitied at best, ridiculed at worst, by most girls who lost their virginity long ago.
There's also a small part of me that would be comfortable with just waiting for marriage anyway, and telling people it's not for religious reasons. Honestly though, a host of Google searches and asking around have made me think there's basically no one waiting for marriage who isn't religious.
Suggestions appreciated!
i wouldn't mind dating a guy who is a virgin and i'm 28. i would actually find it very neat because i assume that everything would be so new and exciting to him, which hopefully would rub off on me.
i think, a girl worth having s relationship with wouldn't mind, especially after knowing what your reasons were for waiting.
as for losing it now or waiting: i would actually mot just lose it for the sake of not being a virgin anymore. that could seriously undermine your sexual values and greatly reduce the pleasure you get out if being intimate with someone. find a girl you like, and then just do whatever comes naturally. don't hold back but also don't push it. if you feel like kissing her, do that. if you feel like slipping a hand under her shirt, go on. and so on. take it step by step and enjoy every one of them. if you jump from "kiss on the cheek" to "vaginal sex" and skip all the pleasureable steps that lead up to it and really savour them, you will regret it later. take your time and enjoy the ride
>>17837688
Well it's good to know there are girls out there that wouldn't hold being a virgin against me. I have to wonder how common that is though.
>>17837725
it think it is common for girls who have sane values around sex. if someone can't adopt that mindset, you might be lucky you found out so fast and could dodge a big bullet. having a problem with someone being a virgin for whatever reason seems like a good indicator for questionable sexual values. if a girl wants a guy with "experience", that shows that she thinks the most valuable trait for good sex is "technique". a saner thing to look for in a guy you want to have sex with is the ability to value intimacy and also not think they have all the right moves, which is then easily assumed to work on every girl. it takes away the ability to experiment and be curious, adapt to the peron that is with you right then and there instead of touching her body according to "what the 20 girls before her seemed to like". which makes being a virgin an advantage.
Is it pretentious to wear my college ring? I graduated like a few months ago and got a college ring that cost like $800 or some shit, but I don't really wear it because I'm not really a ring guy and sometimes I feel like people will think it looks like a high school ring.
I kind of want to start wearing it, but do you think it's pretentious? I wish I didn't give a shit what people thought about me, but sometimes I think people will look at me and think "Oh, this guy has a college ring. Bet he thinks he's a big shot with his fancy ass expensive ring." Also it's pretty big and kind of looks weird when I wear it, I know I should wear it with pride and what not, man I'm pathetic. I don't really see a lot of people wearing a class ring, maybe a lot of people just didn't buy one, or didn't go to college.
I didn't even really want one but my parents kind of WANTED me to have one, so they bought me and I guess it's a dick thing to not wear an $800 ring that someone else paid for. It's just they kind of look gaudy, and I don't know.
>>17837660
depends on school, diploma, and day job
No one gives a shit. If anything, they'll just notice you're wearing a ring other than a wedding/engagement ring and ask. Then they'll say something about how your football team is doing decent this year and then you'll follow up with some self depreciating remark about how there's always a strong start before they suck again. You two will laugh it off a bit, then move onto some other shit.
as an european, this seems extremely strange to me...
My little brother is 14 and a freshman in high school and his girlfriend is 20 years old and in college. They met online and apparently hit it off, somehow. My little brother had been acting weird and sneaking out the house at night and I had confronted him and he told me everything.
Right now I'm trust trying to wrap my head around how this is happening. I can see how an older girl might think he's cute, he looks a lot older than his age but actually being a couple? I don't know, it doesn't seem right. I love my little brother a lot but despite his appearance he's 14 at heart. I don't necessarily have a problem with him dating an older girl but I don't want her to take advantage of his inexperience. Should I do something? Should I say something to our parents?
>>17837637
Let him fug first then say something to your parents (but not that they fugged, just that they started hanging out)
Bro gets laid be a college girl, that's a lotta points for the highschool charts. You break up the creepy relationship. Best ending.
that's pretty disgusting desu. you wouldn't think twice to inform your parents if it was a 20yo guy inviting your 14yo sister to his place at night, would you?
You should intervene. He is a child and she is an adult. I'm not saying she's a pedophile, but it is definitely illegal if they have Sex.
Even though he might seem more adult than other 14 year olds, he most definitely isnt. And he probably thinks its great to have an older woman being interested in him. For her, he's never going to be something serious though. Better talk about that to him.
I never want to leave the house of socialize, how unhealthy is this? I'm not really self concious, I just never have the desire to contact anyone or talk to anyone besides my mom and s/o. I'm scared this will affect my mental health in some way.
>>17837630
or socialize*
It'll be a problem if you out of a sudden feel the need for a social life. Idk, maybe you want a partner, or you want do do stuff with friends. If you never do stuff with your friends, they will stop asking after a while.
My point is, If you feel comfortable being by yourself that is fine, but keep in mind that it could be VERY hard to reintegrate IF you ever wish to do so in the future.
It's probably not bad as long as you do step outside that comfort zone once in a while. I've been a shut-in for several years, and now that I'm adult there is nobody forcing me to meet people and now I'm terrified of people and the outdoors in general.
Is it normal to have a regular erect penis but acorn sized flaccid penis? Im really insecure about my flaccid penis. I'm scared to take a shower with my gf for that reason.
Completely normal. Average flaccid penis is somewhere below 2 inches.
It's not as, shall we say, "pretty" flaccid as some lucky men's are, but it is normal.
Girl here. She doesn't care about your flaccid penis. Some girls even prefer sucking a soft dick. What she cares more about is that you don't hog all the hot water. Also, if you've never tried it before, shower sex sucks. Use the shower for foreplay, and then fuck her anywhere else.
>>17837621
can confirm. all of it.
is safeway good place to work
>>17837571
i need work experience
>>17837577
i went to an interview and they said they dident have any job openings butcould let me do work experience there
>>17837571
They're very stupid in their business practices. I think they got bought out here in California.
It's a good starting job but don't get stuck there.
I've had horrible odds with women all my life, be it platonic or otherwise (read: or not at all). No woman I've ever met has either been interested in me or returned my feelings. I have no idea what a relationship is supposed to be like because I've literally never had a woman care about me ever.
But I'm not /r9k/ either; I don't resent women as a group or anything, I've just never been accepted by one. Oddly enough, I seem to have a very easy time socializing and befriending men. Multiple men have outright told me they were in love -- seriously -- and wanted me to be a bigger part of their lives/misread me as gay, and I get flirted with by gay guys a lot.
The hell am I doing wrong? I'm so lonely I've conceptualized multiple fantasies of having what I assume is a functional relationship, in varying levels of realism, with women, but literally only rouse the interest of men.
You seem effeminate and introspective. Part of being in relationships with girls and anyone really is being to see out of that bubble and be involve yourself in other people's lives, desires and feelings. If you can't manage that level of assertiveness on the most basic level you will probably never get a gf.
>>17837549
I don't know about the effeminate part, but I believe I do the latter portion well enough when it comes to my friendships; I've just never gotten my foot in the door (romantically speaking) with women before.
could be the way you are presenting yourself. i used to grow up and had trouble with people always saying i was dating people i was comfortable with talking to, which happened to be guys & girls i viewed as good friends. you just have to get comfortable with the opposite gender and present yourself in a new fashion possibly.
I'm tired of living.
I'm not bored or too full of anything, just tired plain and simple.
I can hardly stand up to go to work, I employ minimal effort on anything.
My days are simply work and play video games all day.
No friends.
No more family.
No more gf.
Absolutely nothing.
At work there is nobody I could consider close to me, everybody despise me and tries their best to make my day miserable as fuck.
Failure has been a marked on me for years and everything I've done so far seems like a pathetic attempt to revive a hope I've lost long ago because no matter how many bullshit I could hear or tell myself, I know this is my life.
I seriously don't want to live one more day on this shit.
I don't like life, I don't like humanity, I would gladly quit being a member of active society, a slave or a cog, whatever you name it and even while being a lazy and useless parasite I get no pleasure from resting/playing gamed all day.
I get pleasure or joy from absolutely nothing.
Everyday is more disapointment in people around me and myself, everyday is bad news being thrown at me, more difficulties to face, more pression.
I don't know why or if I still care.
What do?
>>17837433
>>17837433
I guess first things first, are you seeing a counselor? Even just talking to a doctor about this would be good. You sound depressed, a medication might make a world of difference.
Humans are social animals, and it doesn't seem like you're getting any socialization. Ever thought of going to church, or some kind of community group?
You need to find reasons to stay here. If you don't have any friends or family, push yourself to make some. You don't seem to have any ties, what has kept you from ending it already? Find more shit like that, maybe adopt a pet or something. Some poor animal somewhere is going to get put down, you can be its savior.
Honestly I don't think any of us can give you great advice. Finding reasons to live is a very personal struggle, you have to figure it out. A doctor or shrink can help, but ultimately it's you that has to find it.
>>17837433
You are depressed and in a abnormal frame of mind. YOU need to firstly talk to a counsellor or shrink, get outside more and so some exercise and finally involve yourself with people. Community or charity work is a great start.
>>17837502
>>17837535
Meeting isn't this easy.
I'm socially inept.
It's not like i'm shy or anything.
It's just not me...any attempt I've made ended up being a failure.
I haven't had one person over work invite me to something or a coffee.
Imagine in a whole community group...
No I don't see a shrink, and I can't really afford one.
I don't want to go whine to somebody about my life I find it really shameful, I feel already bad making this thread.
I fucked up an SD card on accident, need halp.
So I was transferring files from a friend's micro SD card to my micro SD that goes into my 3DS. Because my Mac doesn't have a micro slot, I was using one of those converter things. I put in my friend's card, copied the files onto the desktop. REMOVED THE MICRO WITHOUT REMOVING THE CONVERTER. Then put in my own SD card and transferred the files. I was in a rush so I didn't see that the card didn't read correctly and didn't show all of my folders and files.
Somehow, this created a new partition on the SD card the size of the GB of files I'd moved over, and now the original partition is unreadable. All of my games are digital and I'd hate to lose progress on them and shit, because my 3DS is sorta my lifeline at times. So a typical format will not work (32gb of saved games, man! Almost beat Fire Emblem on the hardest difficulty) Thanks for any advice in advance, yo.
bumperino plz
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