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Okay Okay, I know I sound crazy, but hear me out.

Be me.

1- Have terrible childhood, extreme bullying from parents (things that people write horror books on).
2- Come to merica, get bullied into oblivion.

3- Go to college, stay there for five years, zero drive. Constant stupid decisions and obsession with strong morals.

Get into research, realize I see something about cancer and cells that most researchers don't. Then I get beat up by a group of racist african and european kids. I go to hospital but don't press charges out of fear (since i lived such a sheltered life).

Transfer university. Now here it gets really really odd.

95% of the people I see on campus, not only do I know them, they are in my classes. Everyone who works with me in work study, is in my class.
In two years somehow I have managed to take a class with every professor. Even teachers who havn't taught me (which is like three) know me.

So I go around waving and saying hello to people all day long. Everyone treats me really nicely like I have something to give them. I sort of like them too because they like me.

Some of these people start getting close to me and giving me advice on moving out of my parents house, on life etc and how to get ahead in general.

I am still a sheltered shithead who is afraid of people so sometimes he pushes them away. What I want to know is this.

My college is meant to have a population of 9000 students currently enrolled. How the fuck do I only see 20-25 people a day on campus? why the fuck do I know all of them? why are they so nice to me? why do they keep mentioning "research" that I abandoned? why are they being so friendly to me?

It makes no sense to me. But I like it so much that I don't care if it is fake.I am starting to feel like a human being and it's weird. But I want to know what is going on.

People did terrible things to me, so I do deserve niceness. But why would an entire university be setup to do this?

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tl;dr How do I stop binge eating?

I'm 190Ibs and 5'11. I am a jiggly fatass who lost a lot of weight by unheathy means. I don't want to go down that route again. I want to have complete control of myself. But for some reason, my mind always wins. It just does. For years and years I've tried so hard to get into a good routine, healthy diet and exercise, but I will always fuck up no matter what. I'm lonely, and when I'm not doing anything, which is most of the time, I'll go and eat food like crazy and I'm not afraid to throw it up.

What could I possibly do to overcome this?

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Hi /adv. Long time.

I just have a weird thing going on.
I have been badly abused by my two ex boyfriends - they used to beat me, abuse mentally and sexually.Kind of made me their scared toy that would do everything they ask for.

I am 21. I have been for 2 years with the first guy and 2 years with the other.

Now I am with a third guy, he is 22, and we have been together for a year. He was a virgin.

So yeah, now the problem is that I feel like I am looking for this abuse.
I want him to abuse me, use me, and make me serve him.

During sex I insist on him telling me that he doesnt love me and just being rough with me, like slapping me or choking to an extent where I almost pass out.

I want him to abuse me too.

I dont know what to do. I cant get turned on properly without a good dose of stress, fear or violence.

He isn't happy with it.
I am not happy with it either, and I love him more than anything.

What can I do?
Therapist didnt help me.

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How do you know if you went through puberty properly?

Apparently women get bigger hips and butt and breasts

but my hips are narrow, my butt is flat and my breasts look deformed

Did I not go through puberty properly? I'm in my early twenties

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>no hobbies
>no personality
>no taste in music
>vidya getting boring
>can't motivate self to watch animu/television
>watches alot of youtube and general internet browsing

what is wrong with me.
how i can i enjoy life more and be happy.

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So i've had this.. situation in the last few months.
I met this girl on twitter who's 16 (i'm 20) we started talking frequently and it kinda got... you know. It got to a point where i visited her.

We were both awkward and all, but somehow spent the day together. We both liked Touhou so some small conversations happened, but nothing big. I did buy her some expensive headphones as a gift though when i was walking with her. And some chocolates. Both of which i suggested.

We weren't really doing anything past some hugs. But i started to feel very insecure and i'd sometimes send her messages where i'd just apologize for being awkward etc. I think her opinion of me deteriorated because of that, though i'm not sure. We texted each other regularly then.

I helped her with some auction of stuff she wanted, it was some doujinshi merch that had a pretty high shipping fee. She told me she would pay me back. After i won the auction, she asked if giving me money right aways' fine. I said yes, but she didn't give it back. Then when i asked a few days later she said she'll give it in May. I got a bit suspicious.

I wanted to visit her for a 2nd time so we could watch some stuff together, i booked a room for that specifically in her town. Kept asking her if that's still good to go. She said yes everytime. But when i got there, texted her when we would meet up, she told me her mother got -really- pissed at her, and she had to help her with something for the whole day (smelled bullshit on that too). So i basically wasted money both getting there and booking the place.

She has not texted me or started any sort of conversation with me since. Which made me really worried and suspicious. I had very high hopes for that person because we were similar in a lot of ways, and we had legit sweet moments before. Now it's hard for me to move on from that in any way. I don't know if she'll pay me back for that auction stuff. Really not sure what to do. I wanted her as a friend at the very least

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Why is it so hard to get a date for most guys, but so easy for a few?

What is it that they got?
Is it the perfect pictures?
Is it their perfect profile?
Is it some special tallent and charm?

I read about som guy who had had as many as six dates during a single week and 3 dates during the same day.

I can get like, one date every 3 months if i put in effort. And the girls will mostly be overweight and maybe 3-4/10.

I've never dated a girl who was above average.

Can i improve? Or is this something that youre either born with or not.

Long term, i would like to get a wife and have children. The game itself doesn't matter that much to me, but i've realised that since i have like no game at all, chanses that i will end up like a childless, lonely old man is increasing every day.

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Is there any way for an asocial person to succeed in life? I don't know if that's the right word, but I generally don't talk to people. I'm kind of afraid to sometimes and I'm the kind of person that never knows what to say because all my life I've really just stayed locked up in my room and just played video games, masturbate, and whatever else losers like me do.

I feel like this is just the way I am. It's not like if somebody started talking to me I'd just ignore them, but I probably would prefer if I didn't.

I'm 22 years old right now. Time is fucking flying. I really need a job. My life sucks and I don't know if I can take sitting in my room anymore. I've had a couple seasonal jobs but they were pretty trashy "anybody can apply because we need people constantly" jobs. I'm unsure of what to do. I just went to get myself stable.

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tl;dr Girl told people I'm a creep. WTF?

>Girl from class always initiates conversation with me, flirts with me, clearly shows interest.
>I ask her to have coffee in a couple days. She says yes and we go and have a good time. Normal conversation and light flirting, nothing more.
>A couple days later I see her and she is markedly less friendly. And less friendly the next time. And the next time.
>Mutual acquaintance lets it slip that she told him I was a creep.

I feel so weird about this. I've never heard anyone say that about me. I literally did nothing.

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Hey Anons,

I am an attorney out in California. This year I'm hoping to take my girlfriend on vacation, preferably somewhere romantic, tranquil, and in the Caribbean/Mexico. I want this to be a great relaxing week long experience for us to really spend some quality time together. She's really into animals, so if there was a place that would allow us to see some neat animals, even better. Price isn't as much of a factor, though I'd rather get more for my money. I'm worried that since we live in California, the Caribbean/Mexico would just be a cheaper version of what we're already used to. Thanks in advance for your advice Anons.

Pic sort of related, GF has that sort of body.

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How much should I legitimately factor in a commute when choosing between two jobs?

I've really wanted to work for this one company for a while now but it's like a 45 minute drive away on a standard morning - could be way worse if there's an accident. The other job is a 10-15 minute commute with two routes I can easily take.

But I feel like a little bitch being worried about a little extra time in the car.

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I've just realized I got fucking memed on with the whole get an education thing.

How do I cope with the fact I've wasted 20+ years of my life on something that will never get me anything more than a shitty middle class job?

People recording themselves playing videogames are literal millionaires while I was wasting my fucking time in engineering school for a trashy 60k a year job.

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Personal shit you won't care about but a part of my reasoning for wanting to be a game developer
[spoiler]
>Grow up with video games, no friends at school or anything fancy like that
>Decent grades
>Starts to get memed on by other students and gets depression
>grades and self esteem drop
>Fastforward until i'm in my last year of school
>Have to get a job soon
[/spoiler]

>No job available to me interests me in the slightest
>Decide i want to be a game developer because vidya helped me cope
>Grades are extremely shit so i can't study programming
>Lurk in programming/game development threads
>See & take advice
>Do the Unity tutorials as i'm told to learn programming
>By the end of it i still had no clue
>Few weeks pass and i ask my friend if he can teach me
>He shows me how to do shit in visual studio but it doesn't help and we both give up
>Try again 3 months later
>Finish the tutorials on unity AGAIN and still don't know how to write a line of code

It seems i can't manage learning programming on my own and i can't get into a school to learn due to being an absolute retard.

What do??? I'm just lost at this point so i decided to ask you guys, do i just give up?

tl;dr i'm too autistic to be a game dev,i'll end up killing myself if i do any other job

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is this a good pic? OC. any advice/tips you could spare?

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To get to the point, Iam addicted to weird fetish porn and a kind of music that artificially stimulates parts of my brain that have, well, more than just a pleasuring effect. Before anyone tries to track me down, I am not breaking any laws with these addictions. I am, however, led to believe that these addictions have taken so much of my mind that I am growing more mentally ill as a result of my consistent exposure, with symptoms including paranoia;headaches;stressful, uncontrolled, and depressive thoughts (including suicidal tendencies);and emotions and spending prolonged periods seclusion. Also, I feel normal side effects of these addictions, including weird penis behavior, having my mind filled with weird imagery whenever i see someone particularly provocative, and generally having my free time consumed by them. I do not know for certain that these addictions are causing so many of my problems, but I want to feel safe by removing them from my life. Also, I spend way too long fapping and listening to music, and I feel like I should use that time being more productive. In any case, I have managed to achieve periods as long as months abstaining from my weird porn and music. However, whenever I try to abstain, I can only go so far until I relapse. Also, I cannot simply avoid everything, as I often hear music in other tasks that I perform or see any non-ugly female in public (with that term being broad for my young and easily stimulated hormones, so way too freaking much, and as much as a heel in a flat getting me stimmed). I have, at this point, considered wiring machines to myself that inflict pain whenever I press a certain button or switch, and using said button or switch whenever I find myself enjoying things that I should not. Before I do, I want anything easier or less masochistic, since I feel that the stress on me may have its own tolls on my physical, psychological, or emotional well-being. Thank you. Also, I am not trolling. I am 100% honest and serious.