Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1641. page

>>18325041

>Advice?

Online. Fetlife, OkCupid, etc., Its arguably the best place for meeting people off the beaten sexual path, if you will.

plenty lesbos go to >>>/lgbt/ just make sure they don't have a dick or frankengina first

Are you good looking?

You're probably ugly, seeing as you have no girl friends. Stop being so ugly, and you'll attract girls who want to experiment.

Maybe you should tell your gyno

>>18324762
this
>>18324755
nah not shit out a luck you would have to explain that too them tho. personally I think vague is better then anal.. like anal is ok, just nothing beats a warm wet pussy

>>18324755
what a waste of a perfectly good pussy

>>18324626
You are misinterpreting the "realization". The world is not a simulation in YOUR brain as an individual but the universe is a simulation of the omnipotent consciousness of god. In the same way your individual mind will construct false senses when subjected to a sensory deprivation chamber the greater conscious field has created reality through an infinite time of "sensory deprivation". So, everything is "fake" in a sense but it is also real because you and everyone else are an individual aspect of and experiencer of the larger singularity.

>>18324648
You can't prove that consciousness isn't just a mechanism produced by the brain. I see what you're saying but I have trouble believing that there is a right or wrong or something I cannot do.

>>18324657
>You can't prove that consciousness isn't just a mechanism produced by the brain

You're right, I can't, but what is the significance? If anything is seems that that would only reinforce the theory of absolute reality if your consciousness is a direct product of the evolutionary process.

>>18324346
You need to get over yourself.

You're getting way too fucking worked up over him watching the porn. I can see trust issues forming, but if you're losing self esteem over the possibility he wanked it to women who mean nothing to him, you need to look in the mirror and do some thinking.

Forgive him but tell him not to lie to you again. Maybe put a porn internet filter on. Most guys do this, its in our DNA to think about sex all the time and sometimes you won't be around. Try to be around him more often. No one is perfect, have you ever looked lustfully at another man? It will help your relationship if you don't watch porn and only see each other but in this society this is a hard trait to achieve.

Basically forgive him and try to forget but tell him to refrain from looking at it again (however hard this may be).

>>18324346
Get that stick out of your ass we need the wood.

ID HOPE SHES ATTRACTED TO YOU, YOU BEEN DATING 5 YEARS

>gf for 5 years
>flirted with me multiple times
are you sure she's your girlfriend?

>>18324291
Were affectionate but yeah like hardcore flirting and physical stuff is a rarity from her. She's very shy. Emotionally the relationship is thriving. But never touched 2nd base in 5 years nope.

>>18323922

If you find his sexual habits disturbing this is not a thing that will be a 'character flaw' that you can brush aside, and a perfectly legitimate reason to end it.

You can't force him to change, you can't let this blow over because it will eat away at you.

I'm sorry to have you hear it like this but I think it's time to end it.

>>18323922

I mean, if you don't feel comfortable with him, dump him.

I'm more concerned with the person that got into your relationship. Careful with that. Even if they were right about him, tjey are meddling in your life. Ask yourself why.

yea, even relatively mundane things like finding out your partner is into anal or piss play or something can shock a lot of people, its a perfectly normal reaction. just give it time for your heart and your stomach to settle.

as far as normalcy, you could rationalize that since he has a little bit of everything considered gross, he's probably just into the taboo nature of it and isn't too sexually invested into any particular piece like the rape or snuff. perhaps you could steer him towards some taboo that you both share common ground over?

happy ppl in perfect relationships dont get crushes that linger in their minds for long

cut the bs sweetie and tell us what is it that is so unresistable about him

>>18323801
I am honestly happy with my boyfriend. I don't have anything to complain about.
We're very attracted to each other, have amazing sex, we are best friends and we love each other deeply.
Sure, not everything is perfect, but in general it is a good relationship.

The guy is very attractive. We have a lot of chemistry - same sense of humour, similar interest, very compatible personality, etc.
I don't talk to him outside of school, and I try to avoid him in general, but when he's around me I feel electric.

>>18323783

You will go through life and realise that you have chemistry with a lot of people, it's why people often have more than one more relationship in their lives.

Forget the idea of "the one", there are plenty of men for you, including this guy if you are getting along so well, this man is are potential mate, it's all good just say (to yourself) hey in another life time maybe. And keep coming home to your boyfriend.

If on some night you're all out and drinking and having fun and look here the two of you are and you're both drunk and and and and-- just don't and go home, when you get in bed with him, just you two, that relief is incomparable.

retard

>>18323547
Get off on Vanilla porn and only that. Dont watch rape or hardcore videos ever again. Dont ruin your life for a shitty fetish

No need to change. There are lots of whores with a rape fetish. Lots. Most women in fact, probably all women have a hidden rape fetish. Find one who admits it and rape her.

You'd think he can't be stupid enough to be this obvious, but there are some pretty dumb people out there. There's something going on, and it's up to you whether you want to do something or not, but I know I'd have more self-respect than to sit there and let this happen to me

additional info:

the thing that seems like he's not trying to hide anything is that he could have simply not told me about the phone call and said it was just a friend (no gender distinction)...

we're also getting married in a few weeks and it might be that he needs to check if he still "has it" before that?

idk... guess my mind is goin a bit crazy right now.

Snoop on his ass. Use your friends car and drive by his place of work. Look through his phone or fb. But honestly he's probably cheating and drop his ass.

look into prostate massage. I can last for like 4 hours now.

>>18323262
Train yourself. Next time you sex/pull the pickle, keep getting close to orgasm, but slow down and ride that wave until it subsides (do some fingering or whateverthefuck if you have to). Keep doing this 4 or more times when you do your thing. It should take longer and longer for you to nut. Eventually your gf will be the one bustin too early.

Watch me fuck her cuck

This will get you good exposure and be something you can do in the meantime while you find a job

>>18323252
Depends on what he's paying you. If he ain't paying you shit then tell him you can't do it because you're broke and need to find a job, and if he doesn't offer to pay you just go find a job.

>>18323261
I don't think he'd be paying me.

It would just be for promotion, I guess. The party is downtown in a major city, and he is "famous" on the internet or whatever.

So if I did it, I would probably get promoted on his social media accounts, be exposed to trustfund kids/hot women, and play in a prestigious place in the city.

I'm really fucking tired and want to focus on other things, but I am having a hard time turning this down because of the potential exposure and connections I could make.

I just wonder if she means this as an actual soft no, or if its something to buy time until she's comfortable?

Basically said "Honestly, starting up the nursing program and the amount I'm riding with the ambulance, I just don't have the time for anything like that now. I really think we should stay friends"


But these two things happened in her past

Scumbag (the guy she WAS friends with) did stuff that could border on sexual harassment. But I stupidly didnt notice until later on after its all said and done If I noticed earlier, I woulda said something Like he would make very graphic sexual jokes while in her presence, kinda directing to her aswell

And would get touchy with her, and kinda made her visibly uncomfortable (According to my friend who told me after the fact) Could atleast cause her to be more cautious and potentially down right distrustful of most guys

I'm sure you know that WVU is kinda a well regarded school? She went there for like a year right after HS. For some reason she dropped out of that school, and began going to a community college instead. And now she ended up at my state college, leagues below WVU. The odd thing though is that she was a National Honor Society student in HS and went overboard on College courses in in high school. Also she seemed to loose tremendous weight in the 8 months she's been at WVU, Somewhere like 60lbs


So, I'm not so sure. I guess I should just be her friend, and reassure her that she can rely on me. While still being open to others

Though, the fact that thouse two things happened makes me think its a little more complicated than just a "I'm not interested" type answer

Why do girls show interest in dudes who disrespect them, but show dissmisiveness and almost disgust for people who show them respect? I'm not talking whiney beta subservience, but just detached respectful language and proper behaviour. I've witnessed this many times, and it's not even girls I'm into. But if I'm an asshole, they like me, and if I'm respectful they dont.
Inb4 "not all grils" I know

A girl in my program asked me to get lunch with her on Friday? Was I just asked on a date?

>>18322705

>So what is wrong about me?

You're young, emotionally indecisive and bisexual.

>>18322709
I'm 26. Not that young you must know.
With a girl that I have time to bond and to be exceptionally close with I feel something when she holds my hands or touch my back or my shoulder. Weird because I feel exactly the same when men I like touched me and men that makes me turn on.
If this is the case that I really want to kill myself because I can't in the same time can side with both men and women. I feel like I would be a unfaithful person cause not only I do have to stop myself from desire from men but also from women.

>>18322720
Sorry for bad grammar I don't even check it just typing like crazy

>>18322510
talk to your doctor about anxiety. I used to have that problem and it was apparently caused by anxiety and the way it manifested was anger. now she has me take 1mg of xanax daily and I haven't had the problem for a year now. although my body is dependent on the xanax so I can't stop even if I wanted to, which I don't.

Thats sounds like some kind of autism/aspergers perhaps? Coupled with other mental stuff too.

Is this going to be one of those threads were you ask for advice but when we give you advice you won't take it?

>>18322525
Here they don't give Xanax. I can get diazapam but not long term because it's addictive and when you come off it you won't sleep for days.

I've also tried anti depressants which did technically work but they made me so tired and apathetic it wasn't really a solution.

>>18322531
What's the advice? I'll take it if it makes sense.

Just explain to him exactly what you said here. Tell him that it hurts afterwhile.

I don't know about him but if my gf says she's hurting I'd do anything to stop it, make it better, or feel bad for causing it.
If he's not getting it still, then he must be really immature.

>>18322049
he gets it. i told him that. he's also sorry after he came. but when he's horny, his brain just completely shuts down...
i need to learn how to tell him no so it penetrates his skull even when the blood is in his cock. how do i do that?

you can try to make it into a kink, some light-bsdm stuff, such as getting sex once a day as a reward

or just repeat what you have posted to his face