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If you are totally serious about it have a serious talk with your wife and Tell her All your feelings. Also find out what are her feelings is she upset about it etc.

If it its not a big deal 4U leave it like it is for example with promise of not doing it again.

If you don't bother you can Allow it her or even ask for a threesome.

Everything depends on your attitude

>>18313995
Why would I want a threesome? I don't want to cheat on her.

>>18314003
I am talking about sex with her and her mother. Cheating is doing it behind her back

Have you asked the cops, or any other authorities?

I wouldn't know where to start honestly, I'm in another country from where they (at least claim to be) located

How fucking AWESOME! Putting your penis in a 14yo pussy must be INCREDIBLE

>>18313936

Stop treating women like a different species. Just talk. Have a conversation like you would with anybody else. Women, like everyone else on the planet, just like having fun and connecting with people even if its not romantically. You'd be amazed how much better women respond to you when you're just talking and joking and having a good time and not treating them like a prize you're trying to win.

Women can absolutely tell when you're doing some lame routine to pick them up and any decent woman with half a brain will shut that shit down. You're being very robot about this with your "introduce, compliment, number" routine. Its weird and trust me when I say it looks and sounds unnatural, dude.

Just talk. If you want to make a woman comfortable around you and disengage her immediate anti-man defense mechanism that she has in public just treat her like you would anybody else and have a nice, light hearted conversation about literally anything.

>>18313957
Well yeah I get that kinda, but I don't even socialize with dudes at all. Never had many friends.

I have no clue how to strike up a casual lighthearted conversation in public. That's totally alien to me. I just don't do it, and I don't see anyone else doing it anywhere, ever, unless those people are already friends. Not to mention I'm going out with the explicit purpose of getting a chick on my dick, if what I do doesn't lead to that happening there's no point in doing it. I've had several girlfriends but they've all just come on to me. I just wasn't so lucky this semester. Hence why I have no clue how to approach women, since I've never needed to do so before.

>>18313982
Basically what I'm saying is I've always relied on my good looks, not my social skills. But now that that's not working, I'm in a pickle. They'll no doubt help, if I were some neckbeard fag then that'd make it a hopeless endeavor, but social skills are still the main thing I need.

How difficult is it to hang out with friends? I live in suburban environment which contains maaany stairs and uneven concrete.

If you do hang out with friends, is it bothersome to catch a ride? I'm to understand you need someone willing to drive you to places in a vehicle with handicap accommodations?

>>18313893
It's a pain. I can't do a bunch of stairs but I can get up one or two on good days, unsafely and painfully. Some towns have standards for "visitability," which means houses need to be accessible just so anyone who can't do steps can get in to any given house (ie have friends and family) and use a bathroom there, but mine doesn't.

So some of my friends I have to park my chair outside, crawl or stagger in, and have limited movement inside the house. If I were 100% nonambulatory I'd be fucked.

Luckily my partner lives in a house that's mostly accessible.

As for vehicles, it's mostly bus, but I actually just "walk" across town if it's very late. Uber has services with lift/ramp-equipped vehicles, but not in my area, and there's no accessible taxis here either. I'm hopefully moving somewhere with better access next year. If not, I really need to look into a folding power chair, or a manual with power assist, so I can toss it in the back of a regular car.

Do you know many people who also need wheelchairs?

Why do you need one? If it was something that changed, how was dealing with it?

I'm in the same boat, dude. I'm trying to organize some stuff on meetup to keep myself busy and not think about it, but as you probably know, some nights are worse than others.

>>18313886
It's like, normal life wouldn't be so fucking depressing if I had someone to bounce off of. To joke with, to talk to, to hug, etc. That's how I feel anyway.

Find a hobby that'll get you talking to people.

If you enjoy board games, try visiting a friendly local gaming store and asking if there are groups/times that people play. That sort of thing.

>>18313837

poeple dont need to know everything right away. most men, or really most people have some weird interests and such. they just dont tell you about it until you are already into them.

people get to know us in layers. if you want to bring them up on a first date, go for it, it certainly cuts a lot of bullshit. but sometimes waiting til date 3 or so makes them too invested to be turned off by it.

seriously though saying that comics or video games is nerdy in this day and age is a bit silly.

what girlie interests though? a lot of people rip on me for liking female lead shows but i dont consider them to be 'girlie'. for instance, buffy the vampire slayer, orange is the new black, weeds etc.

they all deal with traditionally male subjects and aren't afraid to get raunchy, silly, typical 'guy humor' etc.

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>should I pretend to not like the things I like?

No. This is 100% sperg behavior. Own up to your hobbies and don't be ashamed of them. People respect confidence. If you say
>W...well I like a-anime I guess kinda...
They'll think that shit is cringe.

So you instead say "I like anime and video games" but with a spine. Don't apologize for yourself. You don't owe anyone shit. I fucking hate sports for instance. I don't think less of you if you enjoy sports, but I sure as shit ain't gonna feel ashamed for liking video games and not liking retarded-ass sports.

as a girl, I would be insanely attracted to you if you were nerdy and looked like Chris Pratt

don't change, OP. The right girl will you like you just as you are

18 an hour as a house keeper? Lmao.. Dude i make 11 an hour to remodel houses..i LOVE the days i get payed to clean.. But anyway.. Start your own business. Thats my plan..the way i figure, 4 yrs in college, or 4 years in a trade.. But the trade needs startup money. Trust me, good work is hard to find

>>18313703
You're...well, you're not really in all that bad of a position. 18 a hour for housekeeping sounds actually pretty comfy. Listen to a podcast, audiobook, or some chill music while working in probably a mid-high class house. Is it that bad?

>>18313718
I would love to go to uni for criminology and be a police officer or go for registered nursing. But as im already 23 to me its a bad move to start my career when im thirty, financially. A trade is 2 years of school max, and apprenticeships pay well. Also 18 an hour isnt great here in ontario.

>>18313586

when in doubt, eyes forward. if you notice that they nod or say hello, go ahead and return it.

generally if osmeones giving you a hard time its for looking at them, not for looking away from them.

I think this probably depends on where you live, but eyes forward I guess

look at the ground

You're definitely a cuck.

Lots of people have this fetish.

You are very stupid though. All cucks are. No guy should think about another guy touching their girl like that.

OP here:
I don't like it, is there any way not to be like this?

>>18313517
I'm not sure. If I saw my gf missing another guy I'd punch him in the face and break up with her on the spot.

If you really don't like it why do you get horny at the thought?

what kind of secret online group? it is true to some extent.

>>18313433
I've heard about this kind of stuff before

Funny it's always older women

Some kind of attention seeking behavior in relation to aging and being less sexually attractive

I think.

Sounds like she might have paranoid schizophrenia. It's best to give her help asap. Tell your family doctor and have a talk with your father. That shit ruins families.

>>18313408
>when is it okay to try to get back together after a break up?
when both of you miss each other and want to get back together
>when is it a bad idea?
when only one person really wants to get back together, and the other is just going along with it for lack of better options

Never. You obviously broke up for a reason, and if you get back together its only from leftover feelings that will die again.

Just stop.

>>18313435
Dumb advice. None of this stuff is black-and-white like that. There are some situations where you'd be right, but there are also lots of successful relationships that were on/off a few times

By that logic, there's no point in starting a new relationship with a new person either, because those feelings will die too, and we will all die one day

>>18313282

fuck da ganja in the ass

Pills

>>18313282
MDA is supposedly god-tier for the sexy.

She doesn't even let you watch porn and she can't hold her own in a crowd? Sounds like she has issues dude.

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>>18313260
>BBW
>muh porn

Gross Mikey.

Get a set of fucking balls and treat her right. She's the love of your life then don't fucking do anything to ruin it dumb shit. Otherwise you don't deserve anything imo

Very small, relax bro

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The period thing doesn't matter... women can technically get pregnant before, during, and after their periods. Sperm can survive in the womb for a while. That said, if you really did pull out before you starting cumming, then it's pretty unlikely that she's pregnant. If you want the peace of mind, you might consider investing in Plan B. Otherwise, just be more careful in the future. Always wrap it before you tap it.

if you pull out she basically can't get pregnant. the only way it can happen is if there is sperm in your precum, and even then it's not worth worrying about because it's so uncommon. just make sure you can pay for an abortion if anything does happen.

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The best way I've found to keep from being angry and hateful toward everyone is to train yourself to not give a shit what other people think. This can't be done overnight, and takes a constant mental mantra of "I need to calm down. Why should I care what they think?"

Once you get to that point, you won't be angry because you just won't care. You can get to a state of emotional neutrality that is actually pretty fucking great. Just don't become totally apathetic... you should still PRETEND to care sometimes to maintain relationships that might be beneficial to you later on.

As far as killing the world goes, I think nukes are probably the answer, but getting access to them would take a whole lot of effort. Not sure it's worth it.

>>18313091
How do I stop caring what people think? What steps should I take? I feel bad about myself when I think others think I'm a loser. I wish I only cared about my own thoughts

Aside from any advice you would get on this thread, start doing meditation. It clears your thoughts, and lets you find and solve inner issues more easily. It won't solve your issues, it will just make solving your issues really easy.