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I was dumb. Got in a relationship with a girl I met online, but very quickly realized that she was insane. Being a horny 20y/0 tho, I stuck with it, and ended up losing my virginity to her.

As time went on, her constant screaming and crying drove me into anxiety and I developed panic disorder. As I got worse, and I became more irritable to be around, all my friends slowly began ignoring me. Except for one.

Last November, my friend dragged me out to a hockey game along with his other friend (who dragged his gf along). I didn't want her to come along at first because I thought she was going to ruin fun like my then-gf did. She didn't, and actually ended up being pretty cool to be around.

Ended up setting me down the path into realizing that I was in an abusive relationship, and that I was the one being abused. I broke up with her about a week before Christmas of last year, and haven't dated anyone since.

My panic attacks have stopped, and my anxiety is almost back to normal, but I do have one thing that I can't get over: I think I hate women now, and I'm realizing that I have some pretty violent fetishes.

Not in any rush to get back into a relationship, I just don't know what to do from here, and frankly, I don't feel comfortable confessing my misogyny in the current political environment.

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My stash is gone besides sum resin. Can't hit anymore of that cuz it makes me feel like a desperate crack whore. Anyways, I've been smoking everyday for a few years, to deal wit anxiety/depression,?enjoy food, tv, music, etc. however it has gotten to the point where it is too expensive a habit to support. I don't want to be a poorfag anymore. Also, I have noticed that when I wake up and smoke, a few hours later I'm groggy which hinders productivity. can only be fixed by smoking more or taking a nap. It's a negative loop that results in me pissing my money away. What was your experience giving up the devil's parsley? Did you come out better, faster, stronger? It feels like I'm turning away an old friend

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Hey /adv/

Anyone got any amazon links for the items in pic? Can't seem to find these exact things.

Also, dubs decides what I write as my suicide note.

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I feel so depressed. Anyone else suffering this and have advice?

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OK this is minor but it's really irritating me now and wanted to get it off my chest and hopefully make sense of it.

So there's me and a female friend. We are pretty close, or so I thought. She told one of our mutuals we are "super close" and she does tell me some very personal stuff.

We are also both somewhat interested in photography, so I suggested we hang out and do a photo walk. Then she says "you aren't taking any of me", which was totally unprovoked. I didn't hint at wanting to take photos of her, though I am interested in portrait photography so it would have been cool to take a few with someone I'm comfortable with to pose for me and who also understands photography/cameras

That would be fair enough if I knew she was camera shy, but she isn't. She would send me heaps of selfies even when she had just woken up and looked disheveled. She gave me some BS about she only lets her boyfriend take her photo but I'm constantly seeing selfies, and stuff uploaded to Facebook by other people where she is actually posing for the photo - not just some incidental thing.

I actually am camera shy, haven't updated my fb profile image for 3 years because of it, but if she wanted to mess about with her camera I'd have let her take some photos of me.

So what's the deal? She'll let other friends take her photo and even pose for people who she isn't even that close with but not me? I felt really kind of offended by it to be honest.

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>"Get out of your computer chair and make yourself a better person"

Easy to say, but how do you do it? Especially when you've been NEET for 8 years?

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I sit next to this kid in class who is Pakistani. We do all the class work together and we get along okay.

We were joking around a bit and I yelled out "ALAHU AKBAR!"

Everyone in the class turned around and some people laughed but some people didn't like it.

He didn't like it that much. I just thought it was funny.

Now I'm afraid of going to class again on Monday for some reason.

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Hi, girl here

I having dreams... where I have orgasmic sex with people I know... or even fammily members...

I know those people well... friends, fammily members... I have sex with them... ugly , preety, fat, slim ... boys and girls...

I am straight girl... not a single dream about any of my exbf or so.. just people I know as friends/mates/ or simply a fammily members..

Its sex... orgasm and I wake up..

What might be the reason of such dreams?
What it might mean?

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>have wonderful girlfriend
>does everything for me
>last night i got so drunk
>last night i yelled at her, told her she was worthless, that we werent compatible, that i wanted her to move back home, that she was nothing
>wake up
>same excuse as the other times
>im so sorry, i love you, i was just drunk
>she says its okay and that she forgives me but i only see sadness in her eyes

I recognize that I am an abuser.. It's not her that I want to hurt, it's me. Deep down, I just want to self destruct. What do you do when there is no light inside..

Hold me

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Gf is coming over for a few days. She has never been to my town. Any ideas what to do?

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Well, nobody cares thay I'm going to kill myself in less than 9 years, neither my friends or family.
I'm single and virgin, I have no one even as a prospect. I'm ending myself at 40.
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I am on the border of being a NEET slob. I am:

- 20 years old
- a senior at a higher-end state school (Computer Science and English double major); respectable GPA, but I'm working to make it stellar by graduation. Skipped 3 semesters so I graduate early
- a slob (I disdain working out; I am not fat, but I am skinnyfat -- 5'9", 155-160 lbs, 24ish BMI.)
- lazy as fuck (I set a schedule for a day, and then go "eh" and end up taking long walks, browsing the internet -- I don't play video games (stopped when I turned 19 because I realized it was part of what was making me such a slob) -- so I'm not irredeemable)
- unsure of what I want to do in life -- I have average social skills (but a small speech impediment I had since I was a kid, mostly gone except when I get nervous) but I excel with writing, and my technical skills (programming, math, etc.) are all superb. I'm not an idiot at the very least. My skills are employable. I have work experience.

I've spent the summer reading, jerking off, halfheartedly drawing, etc. Total waste of time. I feel terrible. I want to be a productive person. After going to sleep around 3am last night, waking up at 11:30, spending 3 hours looking outside, driving to get coffee, etc. I decided I'm a piece of shit so I started cleaning the whole entire fucking house like I said I would at the beginning of the summer. Inbetween carrying boxes and vacuuming I'm doing weightlifting reps. I have a plan for the day of applying for jobs for when I graduate, practicing my foreign language skills, going running for at least 2 miles, reading from 8pm to 9pm, going to sleep until 4am-ish, waking up, going for a run, and then forming a new, hard, productive schedule.

Cleaning the house is making me feel accomplished and motivated.

My question: For those who have gone a radical shift from lazy slobs to respectable, productive assholes, what mentality should I be under to ensure that this burst of productivity doesn't end tomorrow morning?

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So work is kind of driving me crazy.

I'm a middle manager with my direct manager seemingly having given up at work approximately 18 months ago. As a result the team beneath me have been exploiting the lack of support I get from him and have also given up. My manager has hidden this as much as possible from those higher up because he is concerned that people will investigate and find him out.

This has meant for me that I've had to cover nearly everything while everybody else is just phoning it in and being sarcastic and difficult to work with. This has resulted in me having to work overtime and having to prioritise my projects because 90% of my day is spend covering basic shit and bickering back and forth with uncooperative individuals.

Half year has put me in the spotlight with those higher up the chain because usually I'd have a full program of events and projects and things would be looking busier. I've been asked about this and replied that I've not got the time because I haven't got a team who can handle the basics freeing me up to take on projects. I've been told to deal with it. Don't care how it gets done. Just that it gets done. You've got a good answer for everything except why you aren't working at the required standard.

So I've applied for a role in another department which has a fair shot of succeeding and if I get it, I'm out of this cluster fuck.

In the meantime head office have taken my manager out of the site for 12 weeks, transferring him to another site where he has nothing to do and put in place a consultant who is on the surface there to help, but in reality there to act as a spy. So she has produced a report on 'troubleshooting'.

While my manager has been out of the site I've basically formally disciplined all but one of the team and caused a shit load of drama. I've already decided that if I've been asked to deal with it, I've lost a fairly worthless, but still needed member of the team and am being spied upon I'm going to go fighting.

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How can i completely shave my pubes off using a razor without fucking up the skin and getting rashes/red spots as the hairs grow back

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today my girlfriend said she wanted "a break" after i got somewhat upset over that she didn't want to see me (after being almost 2 weeks out of town). she says it's because of that we've been spending too much time together and she wants to hang out with friends and family for a while. i asked her if this was just a nice way of breaking up and she responed with something like "no don't worry about that i just don't wanna see you for a little while". so /adv/, do you think she just needs a little while for herself or do you think she's breaking up with me in a "nice" way?