Anyone here ever managed to change who they are? I mean everything.

I got a job and an apartment, but im the same as i've always been.

No gf.
Still a weeb.
Still fat.
Still a neet in heart and mind.

Yeah. When I was 19 my parents gave me enough cash to afford tickets and sent me on a journey around the world. I had to earn money for food and hotels on my own.

After coming back I changed almost everything - body language, style, got rid of acne and changed hair color and became much more confident. Then I moved out.

People here should understand that watching weird porn, being a weeb and playing vidya all night doesn't really influence your life as much as you think as long as you don't go full "wew I'm such a loser because I do these things" mindset.

I mean I'm probably bisexual, I jerk off to traps, futa, furry, femdom, play a shit ton of videogames and watch animu yet somehow I'm a healthy 26yo with a girlfriend, my own apartment and a good job.

>>17430357
>girlfriend

This is what makes the difference in mindset.

I mean, who cares what you're doing with your life as long as you enjoy it and you have a gf.

If your lifestyle repulses the kind of girls you want, you have a problem, otherwise not.

I did
It takes work and time but it's possible

>>17430342
Yes and no.
Part of the change I had was embracing who I truly am and let a side of me show publicly.
Part of it was basically just growing up and accepting that I some things were out of my control and I had to stop being so anxious about them.
I also grew to accept I have to take responsibility for my life, which meant taking better care of myself and eliminating things that in the long run hurt me.
I travelled more, went out more and read much more.
In 3 years I became a much better person.

Yeah, it's called growing up.

Yes and no.
I have a solid job, am considered a good (if weird) team-member and co-worker, live by myself, manage to keep my place clean, feed myself relatively healthy, ...
I still don't have friends or a relationship though.

Like this anon said >>17430367, it takes time, but it's possible.

5-6 years ago I was autistic as fuck, couldn't talk to girls, I played games all day and I was fat. As years went by, I started seeing that this lifestyle wasn't very good for me, and I decided to change it. I started going out to drink with my friends, we went to bars and clubs. I started talking to girls, it was hard at first, but it became easier as I talked with them more and more, and now I talk with them without a problem. I started eating healthy, started going to gym etc. I started taking midnight walks, that are really relaxing for me and I take them every weekend. I started playing sports, basketball was my jam, and still is. I reduced my game time, I'm not into games that much as I used to be. I started reading, and I became really passionate about movies. Now, when I look back, I cringe from time to time, but I'm also very happy, because I'm better in every single aspect in comparison to the old me. It really is great seeing how I changed for the better, and this gives me more motivation to go even further. Hopefully, my rambling will help you somehow.

>>17430367
But how did you choose what to become? My problem is choice, not motivation

>>17430394
Growing up and maturing are somewhat passive. I'm talking of post adulthood change, one that's planned and calculated.