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I wasn't ready. I let my fears and anxiety overcome me and I broke up for no good raisin when everything was going well. We cut contact even though we didn't want to, because I couldn't handle a relationship and he didn't want to be just friends.

So I wrote him an actual physical letter of apology, asking if he'd be interested in trying again with me if I get help. I'm gonna see a psychologist this upcoming Wednesday to get professional help.

tl;dr

>be in 2 year LDR with someone 2k miles away
>never met before
>we're a great team but we get bitter over time and fight n shit
>No intimacy or closeness, we eventually talk less and less till we don't speak much at all
>no more skype calls, no more seeing each other's faces, no falling asleep to the sound of each other's breathing
>I was unsatisfied but he wouldn't let me leave
>found real life boy
>we became together
>eventually he used me then ghosted me
>took break then got into nother relationship because I felt ready
>prematurely broke up for no good reason and I feel really bad


What I wanna know is, is there any chance he'd take me back after my anxiety induced breakup?

TL;DR

I have a cunt, resolve me of responsibility!!!!

If you're only working, then yeah probably. If you're something like a full time student then a full time job on top of that probably isnt the hottest idea.

>>17436023
this

how much do you love legos?

>>17436000
They don't care what I think of my family, they just tell me "this is the army, deal with it." which is the wrong answer, they can leave early and not work but I have to deal with it and stay even after what I already work? They like to give assignments or orders to do something when the tools are not even around and it is impossible to do, just so that they can get mad and correct me for it... and all I can say is Roger SGT, Roger SSG. 1 example of it is: SGT tells me to write 2 pages of our responsibilities in our SOP, I ask him where the SOP is and tells me the SOP IS BEING WRITTEN AND IS NOT COMPLETE, BUT WANTS THE 2 PAGE ESSAY FOR TODAY. Again, all I can say is roger. thats not even all... theres so many wrong stuff that goes around and none of the lower enlisted say anything cause they are sacred of what the NCO's can do, so many SHARP/EO comments that goes around and do you know who's the Sharp/EO representative? the same guy who's in charge and makes all of them... every time I hear him say: Did you know soldier told me this and that? and laugh about it. I don't trust anybody here... I'm loosing my mind and I don't know what to do. I don't know where to go to cause they all tell everything to each other... I'm not suicidal /adv.. I'm just depressed and can't take it anymore. I just see my son in the mornings because when I get home he is sleeping, I hang out with him in the weekends and we ARE IN THE SAME HOUSE. My wife is depressed cause she sees me like that plus her not able to work cause of my dumb leadership. What do I do /adv? I understand deployments... you're not supposed to see your family, I don't expect to, but here? while in garrison? I thought this was a professional career... I cant stand this abusive leadership.

So you can do three things:
1. Get out and move to the civ world (your best bet).
2. Suck it up and wait for a change of command, or try to get into another unit through whatever opportunities you can find.
3. You can try to inform higher ups of actual harassment, but this can backfire spectacularly, and probably is not a good idea given the army's poor track record in this area.

>shit will always roll downhill

>>17436136

Getting out does not look like an easy thing to do.

>>17435944
I wish I had advice but I'm on the same boat. This indeed is a hard age. I'm just trying to go for anyone 18 and up. Go for the legal adult age in your country and up, try anyone you are interested in, you may get lucky. Either way I have no luck, last time I dated someone I was 18 haha.

>>17435944
Same situation actually OP, minus the LDR baggage you have.

Trying to make new friends when you're in a completely new area with no other contacts you know is outstandingly tough. You just have to keep going out and being active at anything that interests you really. The only problem is there's a high likelyhood that even if you hit it off and think you're making new pals, nothing will come of it and that number/friend request just kinda fades away after a few weeks.

It's even worse with girls.

Have fun I guess.

They do suck. I'm good looking so I get those tinder matches but it's forced and shallow. I need to figure out another way if getting a gf (same age btw, only I'm a virgin)
My plans are bars and getting more social.
I've just started my driving course and there are some real cuties there. Can't hurt to try and start a conversation I think.

>>17435778
Shameless self bump

its possible

>>17435837
How possible

is this your first day using the human body

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hemorrhoid

>>17435923
There's no blood but it might be one I don't know.
Should I go with a medic?

>>17435941
Squeeze till pops. If the ball pops then clean thoroughly and replace bandages twice a day. If it doesn't pop see a doctor.

Just text her. If you blow it, big deal. You're guaranteed to blow it by not getting the balls to ask her out. Also, if a girl has determined she likes you it's pretty hard to blow it.

Ask whats up, talk joke around and then ask her out.

But I wouldn't do it by text but by phone.

>>17435731

like, what do I text her? I'm actually retarded about these things. Once I get the date though I'm good. In the past, dates have always just kind of fell into my lap

>>17435734
well, I never texted her or called her before this. I had to get her number from a friend. Wouldn't it be weird?

>telling a girl she's beautiful
God, that's nauseating

Clearly she's fishing for a compliment. Do the opposite of what she wants to hear and agree with her.

>>17435693
>contradict yourself and look like someone who can't think for himself and just agrees with whatever everyone else says

>>17435636
If both are approximately equal in terms of value, then you have to choose the place that has the best culture fit. Japan and Hungary could not be more different from one another. So you need to examine their culture and the social & work opportunities available in each country, then base your decision on which you will be most happy in. There is nothing more miserable than being stuck far from home without friends.

For me, it'd be difficult to have friends in Japan. I don't care for the culture and it's not a good fit for me. I can't imagine spending years of my life there and feeling socially isolated.

But it may be different from you. Maybe you're the type of person who would fit in there. This all depends on who you are. Examine inwardly, research outwardly.

>>17435644
Well. The university in Japan certainly ranks better than the one in Hungary.
For Hungary I'll have more money than in Japan.
Hungarians seem way more friendly and accepting than Japanese.

What study

I've done it. Just go to the bathroom

Be careful. The air pressure might make your dick explode

>>17435593
Are there any reasons to go into the bathroom to do it, other than possibly getting caught if you don't?

Story doesn't add up. The 26th of July was almost two weeks and you are telling me the warrant for her arrest was issued on a Satarday?

I don't know when it was issued, the cops just showed up today looking for her

>>17435574
Probably for something else.

Why would you date someone so irresponsible anyway? How does that not turn you off?

>>17435419
There's not a concrete age when you get that. It's a process, because "what you want to do" crosses every facet of life including relationships, health, career, goals, etc.

At 18 you should be primarily concerned with career. Which means education of some kind. Or if you are too dumb for education, get a job and start working so you're not a burden to your parents.

The rest of what makes you a grown person happens over time. I'm 30 and it took all of my 20s to finish school, get the job I wanted, find the woman I wanted to settle with, be involved with the organizations I'm in, etc. It's a constantly changing, evolving process.

>>17435419
Started getting a vague idea at around 22

>>17435419
No one knows at 18, when I was 18 all I wanted to do was labouring. Got knocked back a couple of times and ended up gettin a job as a surveyors assistant, so I wanted to be a surveyor. Quit that job after a while and got work as a engineering draftsman. Wanted to be a design engineer. Went to university in civil engineering then realised I wanted to get into construction management. Finished university and got a job at a coal mine, wanted to be a production manager. Got made redundant and now I'm a construction coordinator. Im 26 now.

Tldr, work hard and let your career find you

>bachelorette party

Holy shit, leave her now. That's one of the biggest red flags out there. We all know what goes on at those. Sounds like she doesn't want to be marked as taken, but still wants you on lockdown.

Ya that is a major red flag as the anon above me said. If a girl is willing to do something to you but not let you do it to her right back, it means something is very wrong here. She does the hickies to mark you to other girls to know you are taken but she wants to have fun, and let guys hit on her. She probably fucks on the side guy...just saying

Probably doesn't want her boyfriend getting suspicious OP.

>>17435403
This doesn't sound like cancer at all. Those symptoms are vague as fuck.
You're just anxious.

Getting a full body MRI would be useless.

>>17435415
How can you tell? If you look up cancer my symptoms fit a lot of it.

>>17435459
Is this b8? If you look up any symptoms it comes up as cancer. You are just a hypochondriac

There's no such thing as the perfect girlfriend, at least not generally speaking.

>>17435386
let him fuck you ass
dont get fat

>>17435386
Do everything he says. Be everything he wants. Find out what he likes and be/do that. Never get mad at him. Never say no. Offer sex and food and massages all the time. Do him any and every favor you can think of. Don't be too clingy or suffocate him but always be available for him. Make your boyfriend the center of your life and devote it to pleasing him and making/keeping him happy. Then you will be perfect girlfriend.