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Seriously, I have basically everything I need, good grades at my university, enough money to cover all my needs, girlfriend (a bit toxic but unhappiness began even before I was with her so I doubt it's that), good friends (only a couple of, but they are like my thunderbuddies), and I'm quite healthy if I don't count my eyesight and glasses. So why am I so unhappy? I've tried feeling grateful for what I have but I can't muster such feeling, it all seems vain and hollow. I feel like everything is empty and it doesn't really matter in the end, and it drives me fucking insane because all my needs are satisfied and yet still I am not and I feel shitty. Do you guys know what might be the case?

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What can change the nature of a man?

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Want some input from some protective/jealous guys. My gf occasionally like taking pictures/videos of me when I go down on her, and sends them to her friends. I don't have a problem with this, but one of her friends' boyfriends certainly did. She isn't sending stuff to this friend anymore, but it's turned into a thing where this guy is getting all defensive, and even threatening to me.

Any way I can get this guy to move on, and stop over reacting to this? Its not like I made a pass at the friend in question or anything, but he's still acting like I'm causing him a problem.

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Need some advice as I feel a bit gutted and upset right with my current girlfriend.

Known my girlfriend for 1 1/2years we have been dating for 7 months.
Last night started talking deeply towards her. She gets very ready when I say romantic nice things to her. I was going to finally tell her I love her..

Pretty much said to her along the lines of

Me : "I can't imagine my life without you, I never want to loose you"

Her : "me too , but nothing is for certain and things change but I'm here right now and I love our relationship we have"


I gave her a weird look, and she knew. She got upset and I said "oh nice way to ruin a nice moment we are having. "

She said oh I didn't mean to say that, it was just "word vomit" whatever that means, then she got a little defence and said my actions should speak louder than those words I just said . I pretty much didn't feel like saying I love you anymore and felt pushed away. I think she knew she stuffed up last night as she's been a bit more clingy today, been nice , offering sex today...
She left my house an hour ago (been here two days) and sent me a message when she got home .

"I already miss you"

Now , my girlfriend got out of a 9 year relationship previously before I started dating her. I'm not sure maybe she said that because she fell out of love and ended her previous relationship and things changed?


So I feel a bit lost, her star sign is a libra if any of you follow star signs libra definatley way up a lot on their "scales".

Not quite sure how to take it... And not sure why she would say something like that, no one wants to hear stuff like that in relationships. You live it and if that happens, well it does. Why speak of it when I'm talking all romantic??

Advice please!!!!!

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I use a large military backpack to carry my 15 inch sketch book, 15 inch laptop, a small pouch with 2 note books (about 7 inches or less), and writing tools. I was thinking about downsizing to a small messenger bag(satchel) and trading out my laptop(retire it from the front lines) for a smaller 10 inch tablet, as well as a smaller sketchbook. My main problem with my backpack is if I ride long or walk long distances I have to take a break(I need a bag rack for my bike). Otherwise it's just bulky but carries what I need. I figure if I downsize it will be much easier to transport my items, plus I can go more places without looking funny with a smaller bag.
What do you guys think? Should I downsize or am I probably fine?
Thanks

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I'm stuck in a loop of today like Groundhog day. This isn't roleplay, but I guess that's pointless to say. I've typed this up 4 times now but I'm hoping if I word things differently I'll get different replies.
So basically I woke up about 2 weeks ago and it was Saturday august 6, which was normal, but now every time I wake up the day just resets. At first I was confused, then understandably flipped my shit when I realized all my facebook conversations were gone from that day, texts, etc. I've watched the olympics a few times now to confirm it's the exact same result every time. So far it's not that bad; I can do whatever I want during the day and never have to work again, but I also can't make any continuity with people. No I haven't raped anyone or committed crimes, I haven't gone that crazy yet.
The day doesn't seem to reset until I fall asleep. I actually got to Monday once but that was like 50 hours of no sleep and I couldn't stay up. Woke up on saturday again. So, ask a guy from 24 hours in the future anything. Offer advice, anything. I'm not gonna try killing myself yet just gonna practice mental skills like piano and drawing for awhile until I figure out what to do.

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How do you guys manage to sleep without drugs? The only feelings I get when sober and trying to sleep are restlessness, anxiety, and a very, very strong urge to go an hero.

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Sup /adv/. My mom is constantly walking all over me and trying to control me. How do I make her respect me more and make her stop walking on me?

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Has anyone here gotten Lasik and can tell me about their experience?

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My boobs are 34DD and sag to my waist w/ nips pointing forward. They probably would be higher if they didn't start so low ( about an inch under armpit length if I pull them up).
Before you ask I'm not morbidly obese or anything, I'm a pretty normal weight. However, my weight has gone up and down these past few years which probably led to the excess skin on my tit leading them to sag. The only real way to fix them is to get a breast lift.
This is where the problem comes in. The scarring that occurs after the surgery looks pretty harsh, and even once it heals you can still find it if you know where to look. It is also pretty eerie the fact that they literally cut off your nipples (and I have big aerolas), leaving behind a tiny nipple that looks glued on. There is also sensitivity, breast feeding risks etc. Luckily I'm a britfag so I can get this for free if I say my pancake tits are giving me mental issues (which they are) because I'm so young and I shouldn't have to suffer my whole life because I used to be a fat ass. Even if they don't give me muh free cosmetic surgery, my parents even promised to chip in a bit because they feel sorry for me.
Should I just fucking do it or what. All men want natural tits but at the same time want them pirky, so I can either have natural mom tits or good tits + scar

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Due to how many non-answers /g/ tends to give since they would rather insult anything asked, I've decided to come to you guys for advice.
Basically, I'm working with Unreal Engine 4. I wish to develop a game, as soon as possible, just because it's something I've always wanted to do. Problem is, I lack the knowledge of programming in C++. My question to you, /adv/, is this: What is the best way to learn C++ for game development for free? I'm 19, have no money, not in college yet and won't be able to attend until next semester at least, so taking some sort of college course is out of the question.
I've been messing around with the engine itself for the past few days and feel as though I have a basic enough understanding of what to do when it comes to level design at the least. A couple friends wish to help and they have volunteered to do modeling and texturing while I'll focus on the placement and programming. What do, where do I go to learn C++?

>Tl;dr
>Want to be game dev
>Unreal Engine 4
>Need to know C++ for free, quickly

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My bf texted his ex at the beginning of our relationship. He told her that she has been on his mind but she said it wasn't mutual. Well a year after that he started looking up her pics (only pics, no info on her life) like maybe once or twice a week before he got caught. He also looked up two of his coworkers. He says he didn't miss her, want her back or anything like that, he just maybe wanted some attention.

Well yesterday we talked about it once again and I asked "if you really would have wanted her you probably would have said something like i miss you i love you stuff?" and he said "yeah i would have said something completely different if i had wanted to succeed". So what bothers me is that "succeed" part. He sees getting her back as a success? Freudian slip?

The problem is, I don't believe he didn't miss or want her. He has been trying to figure out the reason for his actions for a year and still isn't sure, so I feel like he is trying to think of a good enough lie. I just wish he could be honest.

Tl;dr does it sound like bf wanted his ex?

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I quit my antidepressants early in June (Escitalopram, aka Lexapro), but I feel like it would be a good idea to get back on them. My main reason for quitting was I hated the neutral feeling I experienced on antidepressants, and I hated having to rely on a pill, especially when I felt that I was an absolutely normal person in just an excruciatingly difficult circumstance.

Right now I'm having trouble with some anxiety, insomnia, depression and manic symptoms that I can see continuing to become worse and worse and worse until they cause me to do something that I'll regret.

Long story short I had a falling out with my family because I spoke out against my father who was abusing my mom. My mom ended up going back to him (because that's what domestic violence victims tend to do), members of my family started harassing me, stuff got thrown away, the police harassed me and I ended up sleeping on a friends couch. Unfortunately that friend was a family friend so my parents found ways to continue harassing me by coming over. Was homeless for a few days. My parents even gave away my dog that I used to comfort myself because during my periods of depression and anxiety.

I've been in a transitional living program for homeless/at risk youth for the last month. Things are going pretty well. I've found a job, I'm starting school but I've found myself acting out in various ways.

When I first moved in I had an extreme desire to fuck my case manager and other ladies in the office, and genuinely felt like I could do so. This manifested in me getting an erection around basically all the women in the office and a mental back-and-forth on my ability to fuck them. Variants of this have happened in the past in high school as an awkward teenager, but I'd never bring it so blatantly to something important, which is what concerns me. This may have been a symptom of my withdrawal, as I was only 40 or so days off my Lexapro.

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My co-workers at my new job probably resent me now, and it has been only a month now.

It's not in my head, nor is it something that would subside later. A week after I got hired, the company hired a female and everybody seems to like her. It's not racism either... I was mainly hired to replace another guy since he was leaving for another store near him. He's the same race as I am and everybody liked him so much. One of our regular customers left me hanging in front of most of the staff when I tried to shake his hand. He's seemingly cool with most of the staff but me, it seems.

I didn't have a very kind childhood nor did I get to do alot of stuff. My co-workers talk about the olympics, sports, camping, college, their SOs, funny stories, and their other various life experiences. You know. Those typical things. Me? I don't really care for sports, im not in college now, my dating life is pretty complicated, I don't have many stories to tell really. All I like to talk about is stuff that's not really appropriate. I am also not a very good talker and while people can't see it and I haven't been officially diagnosed, im pretty sure I have anxiety of a sort. I still can talk but not in long lengths. I stutter alot and get sweaty in front of alot of people.

They haven't officially told me anything but I can just feel their hate towards me. I know they mutter stuff about me. I seen it happen a million times from people who are pretty two-faced. All because i'm basically softspoken. I dont know what to do. I feel like this is their problem, not mine but alot of jobs before my current one has kinda been the same way too. Changing jobs really isn't an option.

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Good morning /Adv/

I am worried that I am in a failing marriage after 9 months of being married. (We've been together off and on for 10 years) He's a good man but shortly after I moved in a few months before we got married, he told me he had feelings for some chick up north. I told him he needed to sort out his feelings before he hit the alter, and supposedly he did.

>Being an idiot I married him
>Attempt to dress up in ways he claim to prefer, he just shrugs and goes back talking to women who hes been sending naked pictures to.
>Been changing my appearance for him and not even batting an eye.
>Attempt to ask for sex because he "is annoyed" with me hinting despite me outright asking. I have a hyperactive sex drive which he knew about years ago and he said he could handle it. Sex pretty much died between us after "I do"
>Get promotions at work and not a word of "Congrats" or "good job!" Just a blank stare and "okay"
>He has been hitting up escort sites and Personal pages.
>Has shut down anything I say despite me showing him facts and him not being able to provide any sources for his assumptions.
>He went ballistic when I told him he was an alcoholic and he needed to stop emotionally drinking (He would get pissed off and drink himself until he was drunk verses dealing with the situation. We got into a spat about his failure to fix his license after months of asking him to and he bought a large bottle of vodka and drank half of it in about 6 hours.

I'm at a loss on this. I told him my biggest fear was divorce since almost everyone in my family is divorced and he said we would never get one. after 2 years of saying it I thought he was serious. I'm feeling lonely and depressed that this is continuing to go south because bringing anything up would result in another fight.