>Work 80+ hours a week
>Rarely see home
>No friends
>No social contact
>Health is slowly circling the drain
>Make 45K a year
>Most of it is spent to house my delinquent mother
>Having to shell out wads for her mistakes
>Financed a new car to give myself something to be happy about
>Her POS breaks down and now dailies my car even after I strongly digressed about it
>Dents and scratches all over it from the past month
>Refuses or makes a million excuses not to fix her POS
>I'm just being used
>Too much of a pussy to take everything away
>I have no control over my life
>Constant episodes of anxiety and rage
>Thoughts of suicide
I know what to do and I'm tires of my situation and everyone around me. I'm in debt financially due to my family and my inability to cut the line. It feels as if I'm drowning and can't find the surface.
How the fuck do I snap out of this shit? I want away from everyone and want to tell them all to fuck off.
Filler image because I don't give a shit.
>>17437713
You need to cut your mother out before you can begin to tackle this
Just do it.
>>17437713
Give her an ultimatum - get her shit sorted or get the fuck out. And of she chooses shit sorting and she doesn't stick with it, boot her immediately.
So recently, I got out almost entirely of a very expensive hobby I've had for about 7 years. I'm not posting what it is in the OP because I don't want to spark off some nasty debate. In this area, I was incredibly knowledgeable, and often my advice was sought by others looking for help, even if they weren't willing to become aficionados themselves. I didn't have a great job, but I always managed to put some money into this hobby, and often managed to get good deals because I had a knack for finding these things.
Thin times would come and go, and I'd always be alright with selling off some of my property to keep things moving in my life, but I started realizing that, aside from actually having money to spare, I didn't like buying my stuff because it meant dealing with people I don't like on principle. It's not because of race, religion, or something superficial; it had more to do with how they thought and acted. I honestly hated dealing with these people, but I can't get my stuff anywhere else, so I had to stomach their bullshit just long enough to pay and leave.
So, about a month ago, I sold off everything. I saved one or two pieces for the sake of having them, but everything else, down to bare accessories, was piped away so I wouldn't have to see it again. I had to haggle a bit but I got most of what I was asking for, and now I have an empty space where most of it was.
Except, of course, now I'm feeling the need to get back into it. It's not a hobby you can run around outside showing to everyone, and you really can't do much with it, but goddamn if I'm not tempted. I just hate the people I would have to associate with, and the negative stigma it comes with.
Thoughts, /adv/?
you're done with that, do something else
>I'm not posting what it is in the OP
I swear to god, you are some of the most boring fucks on the entire internet.
>>17437677
I was a gun collector. Now you see why I didn't want to post that first?
I feel like it's impossible for me to stay loyal /adv/
backstory
>addicted to sex, used tinder. Having multiple sex sessions daily with different women, if i couldn't find one willing i'd jerk it
>met a girl I actually like not just for looks
>she's a virgin
>we're both addicted to sex for a time
>like 8 times daily
>she's on birth contol, ends up pregnant anyway
>fucknigger
>have to marry her, legit love her so its okay
>fast foward a year and a half
>son is born, have a house all is well
>my lust is coming back
>I am no longer sexually attracted to my wife
>I want to fuck everyday
>jack off twice a day
>came real fucking close to fucking a co-worker
>It's pretty much the only thing that drives
idk what to do, why is it so fucking hard. I feel stressed the fuck out just trying to control it. I am fucking up /adv/. What should i do at this point?
>>17437624
>on birth control
>ends up preggo anyway
Wew lad good thing I'm a perma virgin.
>>17437626
she told me once she missed a pill, i didn't give a fuck. Had sex 8 times anyway. I'm an idiot, i fucked up
>>17437628
My advice to you would be to man the fuck up and own the mistake you made. You're fucked, but I'm guessing there's ways you can mend it. Maybe try some new things with the wife, any fetish you've never mentioned? How would she react if you proposed an open marriage? Would probably be better than cheating.
On a side note, how did you have sex 8 times a day? Nigger didn't you have a job?
what is the evolutionary reason behind women being a complete bitch to their boyfriend during their period?
it's good to put fuckboys like you in your place once a month
Most women are creatures of emotion, not logic.
During a woman's period, her hormones are fluctuating wildly, which means her emotions are just as wild.
The hormones rush into their brain and cause them to cry randomly, say things they normally would keep to themselves, and lash out to people closest to them.
>>17437629
There's also the pain and discomfort which would make anyone irritable.
Mainly:
>have good female friend
>naturally smart, nice and feminine personality
>pretty and pleasant looking
>only drawback is her extreme negativity and severe social anxiety and suicidal threats
Recently I've realized how jealous I am of her. I've been getting into fitness, cooking, reading and drawing and improving my social skills, yet deep inside I know that people will still be drawn to her and like her because of her looks, and she doesn't even have to put in any effort to get people to initiate the conversations. Sometimes, I feel so inferior whenever I'm with her because people would always notice her. Another of my friend also said that even if she has this extreme negativity, people will still like her even more as they want to "fix" her and love her.
So, how do I get more confidence in myself, overcome this jealousy and stop comparing myself to others? Thanks /adv/
>>17437589
Become good looking.
>>17437597
How? Makeup doesn't really count for natural beauty
get on tinder
you dont need looks to feel desired as a female
my gf would like me to cuck her. she told me that one of her biggest fantasies is for me to tie her down and then fuck another girl whilst she watches.
my question is this: are there any long-term consequences that could come out of this? i would like to do it but if she's going to start holding it against me in three months time then i don't want to.
>>17437587
It'll be a risk. If she insists, give it a try
>>17437587
Some fantasies are better left as fantasies for the sake of the relationship. Fantasies involving other people like cucking or threesomes or such are at the top of the list. There's a very high risk of bitterness and jealousy.
Yeah, cuckolding is really one of those fantasies where enjoying the concept is wildly different from enjoying the reality.
>My wifes best friend came to visit.
>She is married also and we are all really close.
>But me and her are exceptionally close.
>My wife is suspicious but oddly trusting.
>We were being super sexual the whole time she was down, holding hands, grabbing ass, and putting eachothers sunscreen on when it was just me and her... it was erection causing and she said she felt like she was gonna pass out lol.
>Last night she is down, the stars aligned and I should have fucked her. I didnt and she was being distant after that.
>Drop her off at airport when she goes inside I text emojis of my disapproval of her distant behavior. She immediatley responds and is texting me a lot and quick being funny and sweet but we cant talk about what did or didnt happen cause our spouses might see texts.
>I cant tell if shes just being nice or if she still wants the D
>I sent her a snapchat in just a towel telling her she looked incredible and I wish i coulda got more of her.
>She didnt respond I think shes scared to get caught.
>So I facetimed her husband while I knew she was at work but would be coming home while we were still talking. When she got there she asked who are you talking to he said Cameron and then she got all excited and bubbly "HI CAMERON!"
>she could have just said hi or just ignored me if shes not attracted to me anymore but I can't tell if she's just being nice or if next time I see her I will get to fuck.
>>17437583
fuck you OP
>>17437583
Fuck you dude
Idk sounds like a paradox usually if you fail to make a move girls lose interest I can see how you are confused since she is still being nice
What do I say now? Should I suggest we go on a date or ask her to meet and have sex with me straight away?
Non-kissless virgin here, trying to get laid. She returns to my city in two weeks, she's a tourist from China. We're the same age and race but I'm a local.
>>17437522
Her response
Bumping with qts
So I was at the pool with a friend yesterday, and for some reason we started talking about tans and stuff. She is very pale and she was saying she was getting really tan this year, so I just pulled her leg a bit and told her she was as white as ever. Then she jokingly said "I'm super tan, if we weren't in public I'd show you my tits so you see".
Then later that night she sends me a message to my phone with a pic of her topless covering her nipples that says "Check these tanlines" and a emoji. I was out all night, so I haven't replied to her yet.
How do I respond to her so I don't sound like a sperg and hopefully keep this going? I've never done sexting with anybody.
>>17437481
Gonna have to see the pic first, OP
>>17437481
>>17437497
seconded, got plenty of responses for you
Reply with your own suggestive picture
Has anyone here had these?
I went to a doctor and he told me to use Verrumal. Been using it for a week and a bit of the warts came out everyday and finally, today the superficial part of it is completely gone (no white skin).
My question is: I can see two little bumps where I had the two warts (it was two together). Should I keep using Verrumal? I know it will absolute kill me with pain, but should I keep doing it?
Is that a plantar wart? I had something very similar to that on my arm years ago. The doctor froze it off on the spot. The doctor also tried to tell me it was an std, but that's not important.
>>17437530
It's a plamer wart
I've tried freezing it too several times, but it didn't die.
>std
Aren't you checking that out?
use duck tape. for real
I just moved to the States from Europe. Is it true that Latinos are more sociable and friendly in the workplace and that when they do small talk, they really want to get to know you?
>>17437449
>adv, can you confirm a stereotype about an entire race/population/subgroup for me?
>>17437458
Here must be some truth to that stereotype, right?
i live in southwest us, not so cal. and yes its more or less true. HOWEVER theres been an unspoken tension lately since trump has a valid chance at candidacy and he sorta majorly pissed them off. nobody knows whos on whis side anymore. not sure how thatll factor if youre obviously from europe. however be warned they can get annoying fast. its hard to describe unless youve been aeound them your whole life. but they can be more fun and genuinely chill than white people. i havent had much problem with it but theyll steal youre shit if youre on obvious idiot too
i'm 25.
i have no family.
i have no friends.
i've never had a girlfriend.
i feel like with everyday i get out of touch with the world a bit more. as if i was only slowly dying.
what should i do?
>>17437439
Did you ever have any of these things? Have you always had a lack of connection to other humans? What's stopping you?
Buy a car, a bike, a van, something you can just pack your shit into. The less, the better. As long as it's not a shitheap.
Figure out something you do well--doesn't have to be your passion, you just have to be good at it (and it kind of has to pay your bills).
Point your new ride towards a city you've always heard about, but never been to and felt you never would.
Rinse, repeat, until you find somewhere you like.
Also, just quit watching anime. Better decision in my life was to cut how much I watch down by a lot. You'll find your view on life a lot less skewed.
well try to get a job, and then go from there.
you will meet people, and get some money to go out and try to meet some new people like that and so on.
moving (or at least trying to) from a dead spot is the way to go. just take a deep breath, and do it. you will most likely fail at first, but thats the way it goes.
I got my hair cut yesterday at a salon (I'm female). My hair was long (from shoulder to ass about 18 in) and really thick even with layers. Well she didn't give me the length I asked for (made it too short) and "thinned" my hair out which made it extremely short in the back. She basically turned my hair into hers.
Pic sort of related. It looks like this, but the layers are shorter in the back and they're covered by a long layer of hair on top.
Do I give an honest review of this salon and call out the stylist or do I just keep my mouth shut?
>>17437437
Give an honest review, truth is always the best, so they can learn from their mistakes. And also, that kind of haircut doesn't look bad in my opinion, but well, is your hair kek.
Why didn't you tell her when you were there? You could always call and ask to speak to the owner or manager
>>17437437
Don't go personal but give an honest review.
I want a philosophy on life that's conducive to being happy, healthy, and full of purpose.
Problem is I'm not religious, and can't help but think that life is meaningless and has no intrinsic value.
Would like to read something that opposes this thought with logic.
Or maybe you have some insight?
>>17437436
What is it to be human?
>>17437436
Without spewing out a wall of text first, what exactly is your background? Do you exercise? Are you academically inclined? How do you use your spare time?
>>17437436
it's probably not as simple as that but reading the right philosophers might be what you're looking for. can't really recommend the one and all go to solution - also bc some stuff is hard to get into without prior readings. but maybe have a read of heideggers being and time. or check out nietzsche ( start with his autobiography ecce homo).
in general, it doesn't even have to be philosophy. at the end of the day, if you don't follow any exterior religion, you have to find your own answer to what constitutes a happy life. also other thoughtful literature can help with that. maybe you'd want to give hesse's steppenwolf a try.
Hey /adv/. I don't really have a question, but I guess I am looking for some direction or comfort. Here goes.
I give up.
I have given up on trying to find a girlfriend. I am 26 and haven't had sex in over two years. In my previous
relationship my gf cheated due to long distance. I have since tried to find someone else for over two years.
I briefly dated with someone for two months, but that relationship went nowhere and we broke it off... Nothing remotely sexual happened (beyond kissing, because she didn't want to do anything else). I broke it off with her a month ago. Went on two more dates with different women but one secretly had a boyfriend and told me on the
second date... The other one, I met today, just didn't "click" very well. Didn't help that she as sick and I was going in there with a feeling of sadness. But I basically told her if you want to be friends, contact me through other means, I will delete my dating profile app because this is all so pointless... Now, remember, this unsuccessfulness has gone on for two years now. And now I have finally broke. I have had enough of it, so I give up. What do I do now? I know relationships aren't everything, but my predicament isn't normal for
someone my age. I know some of you will say "you are only 26, you still have time" but what happens
when I reach 30 and still haven't found another relationship? It is hard feeling especially when you see your friends finding people or even getting married and having children while you can't even get a girlfriend.
>>17437425
Bump
>>17437425
Got to keep going anon. There isn't much you can do besides carry on with life. I think its important to note, as painful as it can be, you need to try to put yourself out there. Not to the sole goal to finding a girl, that's a bonus, but to just do stuff. Like joining a sports club, groups, a local team or take up a new hobby you haven't tried before?
I am in the same position, 26 and single. Its alright, your time will come. The point is not to give up and keep on moving forward with your life. But if you want change in your life and more opportunities, that is entirely up to you to make that change and no one else.
>>17437560
Thank you for your response...
It is harder to keep going the longer it gets. It shouldn't be this difficult...