I broke up with my girlfriend last night.
She canceled plans with me on a Friday night cause she said "She wasn't feeling well" and so I ignored her all day Saturday until around 9pm when she texted me saying "I cant believe you ignored me all day" but I was at work doing a 12 hour shift in the ER... she knows I worked all day and yet she still makes it like im an ass for not texting with her immediately.
Anyway things were going really good prior to all this. We were even talking about moving in together and I really cared about her but no I feel like I need to stick to my guns with this break up or otherwise ill look spineless and basically be the bitch in the relationship from here on out.
What do you think I should do /adv/?
>>17438350
So, what did you break up over exactly? Because you didn't talk for a day? What the actual fuck?
well you were ignoring her right? I mean that's what you said. I dont know about you but I like talking to my girlfriend, I would at least send a text or 2 and if your job is really that busy then do it before or after. She said she wasnt feeling well did you ask her if she was feeling better?
Dont act like a child and just apologize
>>17438350
so why exactly did you break up with her? You ignored her and I can understand if shes upset, but why are you upset? Because your high school relationship tactics don't work?
So I wanna off myself like this but it's difficult to come by pure helium. Is it possible to buy industrial helium (for welding and shit) and hook it up to a flow regulator?
Dude its not worth it life is amazing. It might be shit right now but it always gets better. Trust me.
Take that 100 dollars and invest in a gym membership. Its been proven that exercise helps people suffering with all sorts of things...give it a try.
>>17438353
No it's not and I've been working out four times a week for three years.
Normies pls don't respond.
You're sick. Call a hotline.
I have suicidal thoughts but always defuse myself by thinking and empathizing about all the people who died when they wanted to live. There's so much Injustice in history that I'd be unfair to kill myself when so many others never had the chance to live. Don't know if that helps but best of luck.
Hi 4chan, I'm a 28 year old male, who like drawing art and comissiong art, some of which features fetish work that i'm into, such as people turning into anthros or gaining additional body parts, but I'm no longer comfortable with the art I've comissioned, i think i may have gotten a bit too weird with it at times, so I want to tone it down a little, and focus on art that everyone can enjoy, only problem is that i'm now constantly thinking about how weird i am for comissiong such stuff in the first place, and family or possible future employers finding out about it. Maybe I'm worried about nothing. I'd like to post more of my own art online, but these thoughts are kind of holding me back a little. since I'm constantly worried people will find those comissions through my screen name on google or something. Sorry if this is wrong place to talk about this, I dont know anyone else to talk too.
As an artist, especially in something as openminded as the fetish industry, it's usually interesting to be grand, weird and out of the box. As an artist, you'll be respected, if not tolerated for it. Just make sure it's nothing that would even be frowned upon in your niche. I can imagine paedophilia is several notches too far.
Can't you just use a pseudonym?
>>17438339
Its not child porn, so no worries there. But I feel more comfortable with myself focusing on more normal art from now on.
Braces question:
I have a gap in the tooth front teeth and a few gaps in the lower teeth. So I'm seriously considering investing in braces. What is a better option invisilines or the metal ones? How does it feel? How long will it take to close up the front gap?
>>17438264
invisaline are more expensive, otherwise I don't think there's any real difference. You can't eat sugar and shit with invisalign either cuz it'll give you mad cavities
>>17438264
Food for thought. There is a huge influx of models with gaps in their teeth, popular so to say. Gaps in teeth are actually desired by both women and men alike.
>>17438297
lol no
Should I bother? Was talking to a girl on OKC she's coming to my city for a holiday but then going back overseas for extended periods of time for uni.
Is she going to get dicked at uni and am I just going to get fucked at the end of this
So you're literally expecting to see her for 2 weeks and expect to maintain a LTR from then?
Anon, I don't know what to say. You're either deluded or 15.
if you are just 'talking to a girl' on OKC you are not dating and its silly to think she would ignore everyone else
>>17438260
In my experience long distance relationships particularly tough under a few circumstances:
1) When the relationship starts from long distance.
2) When either of you are under 30.
Femanon here, usually not talkative at all. However sometimes when something excites me i enter a state where i'm not really conscious of my actions and words. When this happens i start being horribly loud and annoying, my words leaving my mout without even me noticing, and when i realize what's happening it's usually too late to fix anything. It's good when i'm just talking loudly about non-important things, but usually it's just cringy bullshit, where i tend to talk about my family issuses etc withou a little bit of a reflection.
What can i do to fix this?
Guy with genetic anger issues here, something I wasn't even conscious of until my late-teens. They're not the same thing, but it sounds like they have the same problems behind them.
First and foremost, find the things that flip the switch in your brain. Second, when you feel a conversation start to head in that direction, make a conscious effort to think about your words. Third, continue to expose yourself to the things that 'trigger' you, but do it with the mindset that you're going to control what you say, be aware of what you're saying, and acknowledge that, regardless of whether you're spurred to talk via pride or something else, sometimes you just need to shut up.
That's basically all you can do. Acknowledge the problem, acknowledge what causes the problem, take the conscious steps to fix it, don't let the problem get further out of hand.
>>17438320
Thanks, will try this.
This is often triggered by any situations i am uncomfortable with, so i suppose im gonna head into alot of awkward conversations.
>>17438320
>genetic anger issues
lol
>>17438220
>trump
>alpha male
>developed anything
>>17438221
>asshurt
>you
Pick 2
>>17438220
god how upsetting is that meal... guys a billionaire and he's eating KFC like a fucking pleb
I'm starting to draw to the conclusion that there's likely no one out there for me. That I'm just not as lovable a person as I hoped. That there really isn't many redeeming qualities to make me a person anyone would anything more than an acquaintanceship with. That I don't really have anyone meaningful in my life, nor am I remotely meaningful in anyone else's. That at the end of the day, I'm just a minor foreground, or perhaps the background detail, in the paintings of everyone else's life. That I just don't matter as much as I thought, or wanted, to be. That I'm just always going to be someone others will consistently brush to the side or put on the shelf for later. While I virtually have nothing, no one, to preoccupy myself with. No one to meet or form relationships with. No place to go in such a pursuit. Virtually no friends, acquaintances, to do fuck all with. Every time I try it alone, they always come out as some of the most dismal, heart-wrenching, and horrifying experiences that I can fathom; in turn making me too afraid to leave the house at times. And no matter what, regardless of what I try otherwise, I'm as unimportant to everybody as both of us realise. That neither of us have any place in our lives. That I'm just meagre to those I call friends, family, colleagues, loved ones, etc. And that my presence to everyone I meet, or know, has less weight to it than breezes in the wind.
Anyway, what's a good drink to stave away the current depression? I'm thinking of a glass of Jägermeister and coke.
Hot chocolate with Rumpleminze.
thats real sad and all, but don't start drinking to make it better because although it might help for a while, eventually it will make it a hell of a lot worse.
exercise is your best bet. even better if you can get a physical job where you're exhausted physically every day. you wont have time to think like this then.
My gym pal and his wife just split up. She messaged me and wants to get together. She's sexy as hell and I want to fuck her but we all go to the same gym and I'm not stupid enough to think he won't find out somehow. Advice?
>>17438161
Weigh your priorities:
>friend
>her pussy
That's all there is to it. He WILL find out. She will probably rub it in his face.
>>17438178
She is probably trying to fuck you to get back at him for some perceived slight. Are you going to help her do this or not?
>>17438178
True. But she's already sending me sexy teasing pics and I want her holes. But yeah I could never go back to that gym he's also a professional fighter
>It's all in your head, you're just being paranoid.
So my mother is chatting with this guy from another country which keeps promising all this cheesy fluff "I'll help you, I'll come to your home country, I don't care if you have kids, I'll take them too!". Because of this cheery cherry bullshit talk my mom took down her Tinder profile and went.
Now the reason she even had her Tinder profile was for a few quick lays, she only had it for like 2 weeks and then deleted it. But during that period of time I wasn't around home so I'm telling myself: what if it wasn't hormones, what if she was realizing that she can actually get rid of her kids and live a new potentially better life, at least that's what I'm telling myself.
(Continued in the next post).
>>17438124
show her the creepy pasta narration of the girl who met a man on a website and ended up going to africa and was creepily never heard of again
Your mom is fucking stupid. Bitches fall for this scam all the time and get in trouble. JUST FUCKING DON'T
Now she wouldn't leave me right? She's a serious and mature person, she doesn't do that kind of bullshit. But I keep seeing all these other people's moms which left their kids for a new life.
Plus my mom and my whole family has a reactionary personality type. They don't do things in a proactive manner, they only do it under conditions, accidents, coincidences, kneejerk manners.
So I'm scared shitless of being left alone. Now I have a somewhat intelligent conscience capable of reason, but my body isn't. My heart is pumping like crazy and my temperature is going up whenever I'm scared. Yes, that kind of anxiety.
So, I was a 26year old kissless virgin up until about three months ago. I joined OkCupid and it's been stupid how easy it actually is to meet with women and date them. No idea at all why I was so afraid and timid until now.
It's literally just talk, laugh and have sex.
That part is simple. But the whole relationship aspect is beyond me. I don't know how to have serious conversations with them.
For instance, first girl, we went on about nine dates before she sent me a message stating that we needed to talk, that it's not serious, or at least it isn't right now, but it could turn into one soon.
I was freaking out. What the fuck that could have meant... does she have a STD? Was she pregnant? She wouldn't tell me. Because
>It's serious and I need to say it in person
I ended up leaving my work and my fucking work is important. When I leave my job somebody has to be there to cover it or the state is going against safety violations. So I leave work, force somebody else to come in that wasn't on-call (he got 2.5 pay for it, so he's cool) and she tells me she's sad.
She's told me she's sad. Her mom said something mean to her and she was feeling depressed.
>>17438088
She is an idiot. Dump. I don't even say that nearly as often as most people on here do, but seriously.
>>17438088
She spent the next two days with me, staying at my place, because she didn't want to see her mother. And not leaving me alone for a second. She attempted to go to my work with me.
After those two days I broke it off. I told her why, but she just kept saying, "it's because I'm ugly...isn't it?...why do you hate me?...why are you doing this?...Is it because I'm ugly?...are you cheating on me?"
That went on for four hours. This isn't an exaggeration. It was 11pm and she went on to 3am. She refused to leave. Told me I would have to physical remove her if I wanted her to go. I wasn't laying a fucking hand on her. So she repeated that over and fucking over again.
Then sends me a text the next day asking me to meet up immediately, because we never got to talk. Like an idiot, I go there, and she says the same fucking shit again on repeat. I walk out of her house after five minutes and she screams don't go. I leave.
She's been texting me about four times a day ether being rude or sending photos of herself to me.
And that's just one.
My current girlfriend just refuses to leave me alone too. She spent the past week at my place, at which point she became pissed off due to the fact that she didn't have her meds here, she didn't have clothing here and her roommate texted her asking if she still fucking lived there, and if not, to go there and pick up her dog and get her shit so she can rent to someone else.
I don't want to spend every waking moment with these people. I'm not even fun to fucking be around.
What is it I am doing wrong? Do I literally just have to say, "can you leave my place tonight? We've been spending too much time together?"
I have no idea at all about any of this.
And I really don't want to tell my current girlfriend that she needs to learn how to watch her god damn privates. It smells awful and I hate it whenever it goes anywhere near my face.
How the fuck do I talk about these things?
>>17438088
Using dating apps is fucking pathetic and disgusting.
I'm a straight man who is considering going for a potential gay hookup because I am lonely and want to be physical with someone. Women have standards I cannot meet.
Would this be dishonest to the person I hook up with, considering I'm going to be fantacizing about an anime girl the whole time
>>17438058
not really, but why not just go trans and split the difference? that way it at least looks like ur banging an ugly girl. from behind you can probably not feel guilty at all.
>tfw no straight anon to cuddle with.
>>17438067
>trans
I'm not some sort of degenerate
So i got a girlfriend now. And now i'm drawn a blank what do i do now? Honestly i didn't think i'd get this far. Pic related
>>17438051
Go on dates (if you can afford it).
Hang out and chat.
Find things you both like to do and fo that (sex probably counts).
But talk to her about these things, not us.
Dam she fine
Live life, laugh and do stuff together, grow some love (in a healthy, non-clingy, not forced way).
How do I cut off an attention seeker?
Basically we talk and see each other, she calls and texts me then after 2-3 weeks she all of a sudden stops, then I'm the one chasing her while she doesn't respond to my texts, or cancels on hanging out at the last minute and after I realize I'm wasting my time I stop. Then there's a huge gap of about 3 months where we don't talk at all when one day we bump into each other and start talking again, and the cycle repeats.
I think when she finds someone "better" she ditches me and hangs me out to dry.
Anyways, I just left her alone, but she texted me the other day trying to initiate contact, but after I kept it short with the whole "I'm doing good, what about you?" she stopped responding and went away.
I've moved on but how do I respectfully cut all ties? as in I don't want any kind of contact and for her to stop coming back,
My roommates told me to stop ignoring people as a method, and I guess they're right, so that's why I'm here
You can't. If you were going to, you would have done so already by just not responding.
>>17438042
>>17438840
Ignoring her works just fine. Taste of her own medicine and all that.
fuck her then ignore her
I'm a uni student with no idea what to do and no real talents. Give me ideas for hobbies I can autistically devote myself to that are practical in real life.
Carpentry
>>17438040
ever play dungeons and dragons? Fun, social hobby that you can get all autistic over and no one will get weirded out unless you like rape their characters or something.
Brewing.
Seriously, that's what I did. People with real expertise in other fields will look at you as a wizard.