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Found your problem: your whole posts reeks of "I lack confidence"

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Oh calm your shit you faggot you're only 19.

Chances are you're not ugly. You're probably average. WHICH EVERYONE FUCKING IS, for the most part. The odds that you TRULY are ugly are one in ten.

Second, get a fucking hold of yourself. If you feel bad looking, exercise your arms and body. That's the first step to look physically good, which is, gaining a flat improvement over you. It also gives you a fuckload of Dopamin which will make you feel chemically better. Not joking

Second, get a haircut. I'm sure you still got plenty of hair at that age. Get some clothes.

And this will be the scary part, try talking to girls, you'll get rejected. Just try talking. Don't go like "YOU WANNA FUCK". Just talk

And talk. And keep talking. But make sure you't no a fucking pushover. Talk like you'd talk to a dude but about the things SHE tells you. Like get interested in her.

If she's INTERESTED in you (it'll be fuckign hard to know at your age) then you make a move. Wanna go out, the likes.

You'll know in a couple of years to distinguish about a girl who is into you and a girl who friendzoned you. You'll probably beat yourself up over it but don't. Or try not to.

MOST guys go through the whole "nobody fucking likes me, mimimi" and shit phase. Just get a hold of yourself and SEE the things you can improve and try to be less of a downer. You're JUST FUCKING NINETEEN. People here still don't know how to talk to girls on their 30's, you'll be fine man.

Godspeed

>>17435424
Thanks man.

>get a haircut
Fuck, I forgot to mention in my post. I still have a shit ton of a little bit curly hair, but I can't think of a good haircut. I'm scared that I'll look like a fag.

Anyway, thanks anon. That's the shit I needed.

call the police about your car, make a report, inform your insurance agent if you want
contact a lawyer about the lease if you really want to brexit your apartment

>>17435349
Already filed a report and contacted insurance, but still have to pay a $500 deductible to fix all the scratches - there are a lot, and they are big. One ranges from the back of the car to the front of the car on the passenger side.

Thing is, I do not want to have to pay another deductible if they wish to do it again and the landlord doesn't install any security measures.

Seems like a lawyer would be an option.

>>17435329
There would have to be a clause in your lease contract that would allow for you to back out of it without repercussions. It'd have to be something where the manager guarantees the safety and protection of all tenants and their property, and you can argue that he materially breached it by allowing some spic kids to destroy your car. That would allow you to breach it without penalty.

Let's also assume he has his heart set out for the most prestigious university he can attend

>>17435234
I don't know anything about American schooling systems but if you don't teach an autistic youth essential life skills he might just hit the wall once he achieves his goal. Random shit like finding the room you're supposed to go to could become insurmountable obstacles.

>>17435317
This wasn't mean to be a comprehensive way on how to raise a child. The reality is that I would go through this route regardless if my child was socially retarded or not. I could have written this from the perspective of a kid who wanted to get into HYPSM purely through a scholastic route.

'no'
And you?

>>17435146
no im not happy. i was when i was 13-16 years though . but not after and I'm 19 now

>>17435101
I'm happy.

>>17435095
Yeah, if she was still trying to be healthy and exercising.

To be honest I'd be worried about her gaining weight back if/when we have kids. I've seen too many people fall into the fat trap after having their kid and never bouncing back.

>>17435119
I think ex fat people who are consistent about it are less likely to gain fat later in their life.
Shit I get so worried when I gain like 3 kg, it was such a pain to lose it.

Op pic is still fat

>>17435081
What are you scared about?
The situation isn't going to get better. He will be virgin till you fuck him.

>>17435086
Or till someone else fucks him. OP should buy him a prostitute

I don't want to get pregnant I guess

Seriously? No one?

what is your nationality?

>>17436453
I'm American.
I would prefer Asian Americans, like first or second generation Americans

I had sex with the guy in the pic and I'm hooked...
Unfortunately he lives out of town

Are you a guy?

>>17434720
No

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Anybody?

Surely this isn't normal? I feel disgusted at myself.

>>17434604

The problem with this place is that it exists for vague questions for deep-rooted problems that can't exactly be solved in one step.

If you want a clear solution to a clear problem, you go to the relevant board.

Car broke down? Ask /o/
Too fat? Ask fit
Computer broken? Ask /g/

Etc.

>>17434604

It seems relatively recent that it's really gone to shit.

>>17434608
>Computer broken? Ask /wsr/
ftfy

no one has responded yet so i will.

imo you're right not to go back to a "professional" as they will most likely just try and put you on more brainfuck drugs and make the problem worse than it already is.

i think a lot of people probably feel like you do now, whether they were on SSRI's for years or not. sometimes it almost seems like the human condition is in fact to feel totally fucking empty and, as you said, wear a mask of empathy and sympathy.

in my own case, i'd say i go through different phases, sometimes deeply tuned in to others and empathetic, sometimes completely indifferent and selfishly uncaring about others. sometimes i can identify and weep for a stranger while ignoring the problems of a close family member.

i think it's something we all need to work on consciously rather than turning to drugs - legal or illegal - to magically fix. you're on the right track already just by questioning yourself and why you are feeling - or not feeling - what you are in your life.

life is rough, life is a struggle, and we have to apply our intelligence again and again to the problems presented before us. if we just go through life ignoring shit, drugging ourselves into stupidity or indifference, we never grow as people.

i think it's important to do a regular life review, looking back on your entire history, to see how you have become who and what you are now compared to the past. we are not set in stone, frozen in time; we're processes functioning through time, shifting and shaping based on life experiences and our own decisions, thoughts, intentions, actions, etc. we were all born completely ignorant and helpless as babies, we all had to gradually accumulate a knowledge of the world and others, we had to assimilate all kinds of complex, contradictory views and ideas and ways of life into our own view of life and way of being. it's been a long road, even from birth to your age 23. just stick with itt, don't give up, keep questioning, keep trying.

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Everyone reacts to different medications in different ways.

For example:

I dated this grill who was on a lot Lithium.

A possible side effect is:

>Sexual dysfunction including decreased libido and vaginal dryness.

Well it did the opposite for her; she told me she would randomly get super wet. And after she got out of the shower and was just in a towel doing her hair and makeup, her pussy would start dripping on the floor.

She didn't have a high libido to begin with but when she wanted to fuck, she seriously needed to FUCK.

Interesting grill.

Anyways, I think it just numbed you emotionally and you never really learned or experienced show to express or convey emotions properly.

The grill I was talking about had the same problem.

She came across as a complete ice queen in public but even when it was just her and I, she still had a stone face.

It took months of making her laugh, saying sweet things, getting her little gifts from time to time and teaching her to kiss passionately to finally break through the wall of ice/numbness.

Then when I started saying "I love you" she wouldn't say anything back but then after a few times, she started saying it back and truly meant it.

There's hope, just gonna take some time and things that are feels inducing.

Thanks guys. I'll give a proper response in a few, but I'm very touched and this advice has definitely already helped me deeply.

>>17434031
About what should you be worried?

>>17434038
I'm worried that he's thinking about cheating.

They're going to have gay sex. Continue to face time and record it for enjoyment later.

>>17433114
dude.. nice guys finish last is more about younger girls chasing after the assholes until the nice guy has a good career.

i don't if you fucked up, but once u got the girl, u should've put the games aside.

faggot.

>>17433114
Nice guys finish last is about assertiveness, not being a dick for being a dicks sake

yeah no girl wants to hear that you as her boyfriend think she's fat. you're a piece of shit. you mentally broke this girl down and that's abusive behavior. she deserves better.

>>17436241
yes

>>17436241
you should, even if you don't mean it, just to not be an asshole at least

I'm somewhat concerned that you think where you went wrong was insulting your manager's food, not insulting someone in general.

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>>17436125

>>17436125
>>17436126
Bump

>>17436125

I would suspect they are ingrown hairs, but I'm no dermatologist.

>Nair on my back

I can't imagine how you applied and removed that on your own. If you had help, why not just have them use a beard trimmer on you instead.

>>17435993
>I was watching the Olympics today and it made me depressed to think about how I'll never do something as great as be in the Olympics.
Name three athletes you watched compete. Not the sport they were in or the country they were representing, but their actual names. You can't, can you? For most of them
>If I died tonight in my sleep the world wouldn't even blink
is true too.

>>17436001
They're still doing more than me.

I just want to do something worth while with my life that will make some kind of impact after I'm gone but I feel so worthless and incapable.

Those Olympians thought many times they wouldn't have got to where they are, they nearly gave up many times but here they are. Things may seem pointless and depressing but trust me, it gets so much better okay? It doesn't matter if you don't do something great like going to the Olympics, life isn't about being great. It's about living, living the life you have! Please do not kill yourself, please. Life is the most precious thing to have, you only have the chance once in an infinity to be alive. It doesn't matter if you want to be great, just by breathing and taking in the world and universe around you, you are great. Please do not kill yourself. Please.