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My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year - is it too early to move in together? We've been thinking about it recently, especially since it would make seeing each other easier as we've been long distance. I've seen some people move in together and just get stuck in a rut, which is what I definitely want to avoid. Anyone have good or bad experience with this?
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>>17514285
I'm speaking personally, but I've seen so many relationships fall apart be it romantic or friendships. Some people are meant for each other just not under the same roof. What I would try is keep your place but rooming with her 2 weeks to a month to see if it pans out if, you notice the relation starts to slide than go back and take mental notes of how it started to go wrong and if you can solve it later in the relationship.
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>>17514310
I can appreciate that method. We've spent weeks at a time with each other before and it's only ever gotten better, which is why we're feeling pretty good about it. But I've seen things go south too, so I want to be cautious
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>>17514317
I would keep trying it out. Have her stay two weeks or you stay two weeks or however you go about it. It's a big leap so make sure you're ready. Godspeed
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How do you actually get back with an ex who is a complete mental case just for the great sex and being in a relationship with someone else who is also fucked up.
It's been 5 months and she likes to fuck but her dad raped her when she was younger or she lied about it anyway the point is I'm the only male in her life who actually didn't treat her like shit.
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>how do i hit myself in the head with a hammer
first, you get a hammer, it should be a big one. Then you smack yourself in the head with it.
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Find someone else.
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>>17514272
where do i get a hammer ?
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LDRs never work 2016-08-30 10:57:28 Post No.17514084
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What do you do when you still love someone who isn't in your life anymore?
We came together summer 2013 I believe, after knowing each other for years prior. It was long distance, he loved two-thousand miles away. We gave each other a chance. I was his first girlfriend. That was the happiest time of my entire life.
To make a long story short, it was awesome at first. We were so happy. But throughout the span of the relationship, fights broke out because I was a needy attention whore and wanted more than he could give me. It began to be hard to spend a lot of time together due to school and the time zone difference (we were either 2 or 3 hours apart depending on daylight savings time). Ironically we were both affectionate people, I myself especially crave touch and hugs, yet we were in a LDR and never touched before. It was really hard.
As time went on, we both adknowledged that we were unhappy and unsatisfied with the relationship, yet we stayed together because we dearly loved each other and didn't want to be alone. We were very good at mending after fighting. I hope I'm not painting my ex in a bad light: He was a wonderful, strong person with a good heart, yet fragile too at the same time.
I took care of him as best I could, always always made time for him, always there to comfort him in hard times, we uplifted and supported each other. This was someone where we meshed so well together we talked about marriage and I was making extensive plans to move to his state. I was saving up.
But love fucking hurts sometimes, and we were both unhappy and unsatisfied due to the distance, no matter what. Eventually, the time we spent together dwindled. I was lucky to even see him for one hour of the day. No more falling asleep to the sound of each other's voices. No more Skype calls where I could see his beautiful face. We hardly even basically called anymore, it was all through text now. I was so sad, this wasn't a relationship anymore....
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I kept trying to get away, get out, because we were both suffering but he wouldn't let me go. To make a long story short we had a final big fight and cut contact because I "cheated". He wouldn't let me leave yet didn't satisfy me at all. What was I supposed to do? I found a real life boy that satisfied my need for touch and hugs (really all I wanted was cuddles. Previously I had only been in LDRs).
This tore each other up inside and he hates my guts. Instead of thinking back to the good memories we shared, my now ex only hates me because he thinks I'm a cheater. Yet he didn't always have the same "ambition" to keep the relationship afloat like me. Instead of appreciating me as a person who shared life with him for 2 years, he only focuses on the bad. Yet I still love him dearly. I never wanted to leave. I just wanted to be closer but it wasn't working out.
The real life boy that broke us up wasn't right for me, and I left him. Realized he didn't care for me as much as he said he did. Yes broke us up. Literally what he did. Since then I had been on a few dates with people, but I think I have something seriously wrong with me. My heart is in pieces. I feel incapable of love for anyone else . I still love my ex
I will tldr if needed but one really needs the background info to provide accurate advice
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>>17514084
you guys not atleast in the same country? also how old are u both. when was the last time you talked to him? mainly wondering cause u said u know he hates you and that its because u cheated. just wondering if your presuming this is all.
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>>17514102
>yes both USA
>right now I'm 24 and he's 18
>last spoke 2 months ago; yes it hasn't been that long since everything came falling down
Ask anything
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Ok Anons, this story seems so autistic but I can assure you it's real and I need help.
On Monday me and my buddies managed to peer pressure/blackmail another one of my buddies into licking our friend's balls.
This happened at school and now one of the teachers knows who was involved. This teacher is a total cuck but told some other students he'd have a talk with the kids involved. What should I do? Should I threaten him subtly? Beg him not to follow up on it? Should I claim it's just a rumour and there is no real proof?
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OP here. Just so you know there were like 12 witnesses watching/peer pressuring him to lick the balls and 2 people filmed it. One person has since deleted the video and claims he never had it, the other has been showing dozens of people.
One of the members involved was under 18 so it is considered child pornography and paedophilia.
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So... not only did you bully someone, but you had a dozen witnesses to it too? Assuming this isn't bait, how dumb can you get?
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>>17514073
This is not bait and we weren't bullying him at all. Both people involved said they had no regrets and found it hilarious now and at the time. But they could get suspended for this shit.
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How can I avoid falling in love with every girl I talk to?
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>>17514055
By not talking to them.
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>>17514063
Too many female friends, I can't do that. Also somehow got rejected by all of them.
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>>17514083
Cut out your tongue, become mute.
On a more serious note, there's no such thing as "falling in love with every girl", you seem to have a warped perception of human feelings and emotions. Go see a shrink about it.
Where do I find a muslim gf :( !
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In a mosque.
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good luck with that .... where u from ???
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>>17514071
I'm from France. I have no muslim friends.
What level of transparency is needed, acceptable and when does it become creepy or controlling?
Do you guys ever share your passwords with your SO(and they do the same?)
Maybe you leave your phone/laptop around your SO and don't mind/care?
Or do you feel this is weird and get uncomfy, even if you're 100% faithful?
I have massive trust issues and I was wondering how you guys trust your SOs, or deal with your insecurities.
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>>17514045
>Do you guys ever share your passwords with your SO(and they do the same?)
Yes
>Maybe you leave your phone/laptop around your SO and don't mind/care?
Yes
>Or do you feel this is weird and get uncomfy, even if you're 100% faithful?
No
If you feel that way or if your SO is acting that way then you/they have something to hide and it causes problems.
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Yes
Yes
No
My boyfriend and I honestly have no problem with these things, because we have no reason to have a problem with these things
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>>17514053
What these two said.
I'll add one thing- sometimes there are things people wish to keep secret, not necessarily because it would upset/anger/whatever you, but because the person is embarrassed about it, and they also have trust issues, or just don't want to talk about it. Everyone has the right to some privacy, I guess it just depends if you think keeping a secret, secret, is worth the potential suspicion it would cause your partner.
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I just got a €500 fine for busking without a permit. I never knew I had to get one. Because normally you don't need one. What the fuck should I do?! I don't have that kind of money. Got around 300 saved up. Which I have to use to pay my rent. Is there any way I can fight this?
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>busking
Get a job, faggot.
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sell the guitar thing
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Get a real job faggot, God I hate musicians.
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Name that problémon! 2016-08-30 09:00:51 Post No.17513912
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I either become defensive or hold temporary resentment towards people when they criticize me or suggest disagreement.
The most mild, innocuous comments set me off for a bit. What's weird is that I'm almost always confident in my opinions/choices and appreciate alternate perspectives.
What's wrong with me, /adv/?
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You want to be right, just like every other person.
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>>17513912
inb4 autism
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>>17513912
Where you raised by Narcassists?
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Need your advice, anons. 2016-08-30 09:00:10 Post No.17513909
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>Got to meet mah old friends
>Overhear that they're talking about beating up some guy (They're into fighting 'n' stuff)
>Keep quite
>Ask what did he do to deserve this
>"He raped a girl and kept a loud mouth about it"
>Get into <holy rage> mode
>Say "Count me in, bastards like this shoud be punished"
>Time passes
>Hear that there's actually 7 people coming.
>Due to my stupidity skip this info
>Party's almost over
>Hear 'em say "Do you really think we're going to do this just cuz the girl? Nope. We've been just said to "Hey gotta beat him up for <^>"
>Due to my stupidity skip this info
>Go home
>Wait for the night
>Cry like a bitch (Not really)
>Realize that beating peps whom i dont even know is not for me
>Realize that the bloody girl might be lying, and i'll beat up an innocent dude.
>Freak out
K. So on my own i figured that i shoud do this shit. Once(???). Cuz i've already said i m coming, and i cant hurt relationship with my friends anymore. But how do i escape being hooked upon it? Also, meeting I-just-want-to-fight faggots
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>>17513909
"Hey, i don't want to beat up this person due to me not knowing for certain if he did it or not. I'm not going to stop you, but I won't take a part in it." Say it in confidence and stand by your views
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>>17513921
Hey, thanks for the reply!
The thing is - i cant back off anymore. If i do, my "friends" will be no longer "friends". Still gotta live with 'em for 2 years you know.
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>>17513935
Why won't they be "friends"?
I'm at my wits end.
so to give context, my brother is 18, and well he's your typical shut-in neet, has no pals, only thing he does is play CS all day long.
so ever since my father left, thins have progressively gotten worse. he's been stealing from my sister's alcohol stash, taking money from my mother. always tells her to kill herself, that he hates her, tries to intimidate her by slamming doors and throwing objects near her. he's just so hostile.
this all came to head last week, when he stole something off me. and I got violent, I had a complete snap, started laying in to him (and yes, I know that if I hit like a man, than I ought to take it like one too), and just went scorched earth.
I feel bad, and idk, I'm a god damn pacifist and it sickens me that I resorted to that shit. I'm just a fucking mess. and I know he won't ever go get help, he's just going to continue leeching off my mother. so how do I deal with him? how do I detach myself whenever he starts attacking my mother, when he tries to control everything that goes on in this house? because I honesty think I'm losing my sanity.
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Keep laying into him and telling the fucker to go get a job.
Don't give up on your own family, anon.
Sometimes they need harsh love. If your brother's being a dick to your mom, tell that fucker to shut up and get a job and move out.
If you think he needs help, just lay into him and be like, "Fucking this could all be changed if you just worked on yourself you dumb cunt".
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well here's the thing, I'm a really petite person, he can easily overpower me if he wanted to.
and of course I wouldn't leave my mother with just him, he doesn't help around the house at all, nor does he contribute to the bills as I do.
he won't listen to me, he acts on his own accord. for now he's been unusually quiet ever since I sperged out, but I know he hasn't suddenly got an epiphany.
I just need coping mechanisms for myself, living with such a low-life.
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>>17513926
Talk about your true feelings, tell him you don't want him to live like this. Blah blah
Guys im sick of staying home all day and none of my friends can go out so where tf can I go
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Audio books at the lake :)
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>>17513852
No lakes where I live :(
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Go to the gym, take steroids.
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I am 20 living in my parents "basement" not really a basement just other room, I work dead-end job and in my spare time play vidya all day, or try to make music, basically have no ambition, goals or aspirations in life.
Lately I've been pressured by my family to go get a girlfriend point is, I don't want a girlfriend, or any relationship if that matters.
How do I tell my parents without confrontation if possible that I don't want gf, they seem to look down on me cause I'm virgin and never had any experience with opposite sex
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>>17513823
Do you really not want a relationship? Or do you tell yourself that to make your life bearable? If yes then tell them straight up how you want to live. Expect: get fuck out my house and grow up or if your lying to yourself, workout and go get friends.
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>>17513823
why the fuck would they care about you not having a girlfriend? working a dead-end job seems to be a much bigger deal in the long term
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Go out busking? Try to prioritize making music over vidya. Also don't worry to much about basement dwelling. Instead think about ways you can personally improve.
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I'm relatively certain that I'm going to die by suicide, unless something like a car accident or unexpected health issue takes me out first. It's not really a matter of if. It's when.
Tonight the feelings are very stromg, and seemingly out of nowhere. My life has been hard, but then who's hasn't been? Everything feels like a mess. I don't know how to handle any of it.
Should I start putting my plan into action? It will take a few weeks to get everything set up and ready to go, and I feel like maybe I should write a few letters to friends and family. Maybe by the time everything's ready I'll have changed my mind again, temporarily. I do know I won't be doing any more attempts. My research is done and the next time will be the last time.
Or should I try therapy and medication again? It never really leads to anything positive. Or hasn't yet. Best case scenario I get back on lithium and the suicidal feelings are quelled along with my sense of self.
I really don't know what to do anymore.
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i dunno man, is that what you feel like doing? are you absolutely certain that this is what you wanna do?
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Get help. Reach out to someone. You're worth it.
Where are adults supposed to get love? Mom is exhausted with my sister's clingy bullshit and I can't bother her.
Booze helps the feeling sometimes but I can't be drunk all the time and I shouldn't be crying at work.
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I've tried getting a partner but I'm really not good enough for a girl to invest herself into.
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>>17513770
then get good, scrublord
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>I can't be drunk all the time
spoken like a true casual