I'm at my wits end. so to give context, my brother is 18,

Keep laying into him and telling the fucker to go get a job.

Don't give up on your own family, anon.

Sometimes they need harsh love. If your brother's being a dick to your mom, tell that fucker to shut up and get a job and move out.

If you think he needs help, just lay into him and be like, "Fucking this could all be changed if you just worked on yourself you dumb cunt".

well here's the thing, I'm a really petite person, he can easily overpower me if he wanted to.

and of course I wouldn't leave my mother with just him, he doesn't help around the house at all, nor does he contribute to the bills as I do.

he won't listen to me, he acts on his own accord. for now he's been unusually quiet ever since I sperged out, but I know he hasn't suddenly got an epiphany.

I just need coping mechanisms for myself, living with such a low-life.

>>17513926
Talk about your true feelings, tell him you don't want him to live like this. Blah blah

>>17513861
Just block his internet access. Like changing the wifi password or unpluging/removing ethernet cabels from the router. Surely that will motivate him enough to look for a job

>>17513861
>has to live with his mother and two sisters, one of whom is willing to beat him up
Yeah I'd be shitty too. I've been in situation like this and they treated me like shit before I started acting up. They weren't even aware of it so of course it was all my fault.

but that's the thing. he gets everything handed on a platter to him. I used to be so kind to him, and we used to talk, but he just abused that, wasn't thankful. his other sister than occasionally comes over always buys him stuff and tries to talk him, but he pushes her away saying that she isn't apart of the family.
his mother is too afraid to stick up for herself and excuses his behavior because he has anxiety and severe OCD.

>>17513989
I can't do that as our mum would force me to change it back, she doesn't want to upset him. hence why he lives a life without repercussions and can get away with shit.

Is he a cunt?

You have to know if he's a cunt or not because cunts can't be reasoned with, just trained and mitigated.

Guys tend to mellow out in their 20's, however. But that's for the future, not now.

>>17514204
yeah, no, he goes in to fits of rage where he starts shouting over the other, throwing stuff, spitting out petty insults.
he's definitely a cunt.

but what do in spare time until he chills out?

>>17514209
He may never chill out. I have an uncle in his 40s and he did the exact same shit while my mother and I took care of my grandmother. He never changed, he just made excuses and demanded more. And more. And more. He was never happy and just became an alcoholic. He was never to blame, it was everyone and everything around him. We would make food and he would just eat everything. When my mom was a struggling single mother trying to pay for my medication, he would send her messages about how he had no money for groceries (when this first started, before we let him move in). Then we later found out from his roommate that he was just spending it on alcohol, games and porn.

You know what helped? We kicked him out. He didn't change that much but he was no longer able to use us, treat us like shit and destroy our things. He has mental health issues too, but he refused to seek treatment. Getting him out is the only way.

Please show this thread to your family, because otherwise, nothing will change.

Also,
>he has anxiety and severe OCD
So do I, but I don't use that as an excuse to treat the people are me like garbage. Your mom needs to stop coddling him.

>>17514214
>*around me

>>17514209
That's not what I want to hear because I don't have advice for that.

I've got shit family members but thankfully (for me) my immediate family and myself have ostracised them so we don't have to deal with them being assholes constantly.

If you have family members you love who keep him around, it's a lot harder.

I'm sorry.
Professional help might benefit. Avoid psychiatrists, avoid psychologists that use traditional Freudian style theory. CBT, group therapy, schema therapy are good.

>>17513926
>My brother's a shit and I'm worse for being mad about it
>How do I do nothing when he's clearly wrong

Girl, no.

The second you decide to stand back and put up with it, the worse things will get later. His OCD is probably the cause of most of his issues so find a way to get him a job that will let him put that to use. Have your mom put her foot down and tell him he needs to work. Find him a job some place like Walgreens. Walgreens is filled with OCD spergs because 90% of the job is keeping shit organized. Turn off the internet and tell him he has to pay the bill. Hide your money and alcohol. He gets violent then threaten to call the cops. Present a united front.

But the worse thing you can do is nothing because it will just get worse.

>>17513861
He won't listen to you because you are way to close to him.
It will get to a point where he won't change because neither you or the mom will leave him and he subconsciously knows this. The mom definitely won't leave because their more attached to their sons then their daughters and will continue to get this special treatment, and it's probably part of the reason you raised your hand at him.
It's hard to say what you CAN do to help your brother or mother other than telling mom to cut him off so he can eventually fend for himself but she probably won't go for it.

>>17514209
People don't change unless you give them reason to. Your mom needs to give him a reason.