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Don't do it anon...

I fucked up.. I became attached and developed feelings for a girl across the sea. we really liked each other. We flirted a lot, skyped, talked lewd, and helped each other and motivated each other during hard times. But as time past and her life became busier. I think she began to move on. she started dating local guys again.

It eats me inside. I've never had a connection with a girl as beautiful and amazing as her. I know I never will ever again. It hurts a lot..

>>17516138
My advice from personal experience: don't do it.

That being said, there needs to be a CLEAR timeline, a date in the future where you both plan to move close together and continue the relationship. It's your only chance.

More Details* I'm currently in a relationship of 3 years and she is going away for university. Thoughts?

>>17516127
This picture isn't mine btw. I just found it.

I'd like it more if she held my dick with her mouth.

>>17516131
Very funny. You're the king of comedy. EVERYONE, THE KING OF COMEDY IS HERE! ALL HAIL HIS MAJESTY AND ABILITY TO MAKE DICK JOKES.

It depends on how big the issues are and how integral they might be to who he is.

The person he is will never change. If he did bad stuff in the past, but has abandoned that part of his life, there might be hope.

My advice is to find some catalyst for leaving him. Make a big change in your life. Find a job in another town, for instance.

There's no easy way to do it. He'll be hurt either way and there's no way he won't take it personally. If you're feeling this way, make plans now, especially if you're living together. When you do it, do it properly. Face to face, then move on.

>>17516123
Why do you have to leave him? Why can't you just tell him about the things that bother you?

>>17516156
>>17516165

the issues are big. I was sick on our vacation and in return, I complained a lot and I was irritable and annoying. when we got back we found out I had lyme disease. I was in the emergency room and he was texting me telling me to shut the fuck up. he has been absent throughout my whole sickness. i know this isn't the only time in my life i will be sick. i need someone who will be there for me. his friends also disrespect me, and hes a narcissist,and thinks hes better/smarter than everyone and cares way too much about impressing people and money etc.

i actually am considering moving..closer to my school. its two hours from where we live now, so maybe then things would just fall aprt -_-

I mean unless you have someone following you around slapping the soda out of your hands you're just going to have get some discipline.

If you cant stop cold turkey start tapering your intake. Have one a day for a month, then one every other day. Better yet just switch to diet soda.

I wasn't as bad as you but I drank 1-2 cokes every single day. I like having my fizzy gassy drinks with my meals. I stopped myself from buying soda by replacing it with a lemon type of mineral water that they sell here in mexico. It's like Sprite. From there, I went on to more healthy drinks. It takes time and you will basically get withdrawal and the urges but it works.

My mom still buys coke for the house but I don't even care when I see it.
I'll drink coke if I go to a restaurant or to eat outside but I don't have that insatiable urge for coke anymore.

Taper off sodas for a few days and move to tea, sweet tea even if you want. You want to limit the amount of sugar you take in,not cut it all out of your diet. The fact that have low water intake is concerning. Kidney stones are ultra horrible! I know, I had a couple due to dehydration. Think about your teeth as well.

Maybe you want to become a women?

>>17516109
Take a vacation to like Thailand or something. Go see people who work day and night just to scrap by. Think they have time to ponder the futility of life? You can have a good time, get some perspective on life, and break up the monotony of the daily grind.

>>17516125
I don't have money for a vacation. But lets say in the future I do, what should I do on a vacation? I can't afford to go out drinking or anything and prostitutes are pointless when I cant even get a boner anymore.

Shameless self bamp

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You put more thought into this than some people put into deciding to split their tongue.

>>17516313
It's what I do.

>>17516065
Pro tip: buying a home is never quick. I think it took me a month and a half to close on my home and my lender expected it to close in no less than two. Also you need good credit if you can't rely on family to co-sign, so I hope you have a high score/long history of credit.

Also pro tip: Being a home owner is not cheap, but your tax return will fucking kick ass. A way to keep your home expenses cheap is to rent out a room (if possible), unplug what you don't use (it helps more than you know), and above all, if it's a simple fix, fix it before it becomes UN-simple. Other than that being a home owner is simply not cheap. Once you move in there are things you won't think of that you'll need to buy last minute, if you have a yard you'll need the tools to maintain it. There are so many things, honestly I could just keep going and I've only been a home owner for a few months.

>>17516065
Go to Detroit and buy one of those $1 houses

>>17516092
Oh, btw, another thing to consider are closing costs, which can be negotiated; say they're asking a few thousand too much for the home. Instead of haggling them down a few thousand, say you'll pay the price they're asking (or even cut it down by a reasonable number) if they will cover closing costs. My closing cost was $7700 but I payed the price the seller asked (which still gave me equity in the house even though the price was a hit much) under the agreement that he would pay my FHA fees and closing cost. Also go FHA if you're a first time home buyer, which you obviously are.

>>17516049
Everything a personal trainer will be charged at a premium, and has a good chance at being wrong. The sticky on fit is just as good and free.

What you are really paying for in a PT is accountability and a cheerleader. If you need that to workout then go ahead but you should develop the discipline you need and eventually drop them.

>>17516071
I'd only get one for a month to learn how to work out correctly, I'm afraid of not lifting correctly or having good form, etc

>>17516101
That's a good reason. Make sure you do your own research on form as well because being a PT isnt a standardized field so they can vary from shit to great.

I put out some old guitar hero guitars a few days ago. Found a nice nightstand a few weeks ago, worth refinishing, and also spotted a dresser I put out in the alley a year ago, back in the alley, but behind another house.

People throw stuff out all the time.

>>17516305
I find it hard to believe the people next door are wealthy enough to just toss a tv they could easily get $300 for.
But I am not complaining. We are setting up the garage to be a hang out area, and guess what it was missing!

Sorry for being unhelpful, but why is this a problem?

>>17516108
Because he's a cancerous frogposter.

>>17516108
because you can't get off to girls unless you see someone else's penis

Surprisingly, bacon grease really helps retain a smooth skin because of the fats

>>17516070
sounds like a surefire way to get black heads.

Pls respond

>barbara palvin
I didn't know who that was and she's gross looking. like an olson twin with added collagen
what's your, um, tit situation? fashion/supermodels generally aren't worth leaving anybody for

>>17516011
Odds are they won't leave you but cheat on you given the chance.
Good people are rare.

>>17516024
she's objectively beautiful... she's an international model for a reason...

my tits are average, it's like a b cup...

i don't know, i think a lot of people in general would like to brag that they at least fucked a model. i'm sure if they could, they would marry one so they can hold on to them for life.

>>17515976
No.

I was with a woman I thought I would marry, for five years. A year and a half later, after it ended, and all the random hookups have done nothing.

>>17515984
Five years is a very long time though

>>17515976
Yeah sometimes. It might not fix all the issues but it's one hell of a distraction at the very least.

Being a skanky man. Tight Ed Hardy shirts and gelled up hair. Maybe even a gold stud earring. And don't forget to shower in cologne before you go out.

>>17515947

This will instantly attract women?

My point is women can literally just wear less clothing and be found attractive. Is there an easy method like this for men?

Men crave a hot chick on their dick so women wear makeup and show a lot of skin. Women crave power, which boils down to money these days. Faking is fine so go buy a fake watch, rent a suit ant take her to a hotel room in a cab.

>>17515893

I don't see the big deal at all?

So what if she believes in a god or something like that? Unless shes forcing her views onto you and trying to change you then let her believe what she wants.

I mean, fuck sake are you that stuck up that your partner has to believe the same thing as you or else they're wrong and you can do better?