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>first job
>hate it

yeah it's cause you're not used to having a job you dingus. All jobs suck, some are better than others but that's why they're called jobs and that's why they pay you to do said job. Have a better attitude about it, and thank jesus that your coworkers are actually alright.

>tfw my first job pays $90 an hr
thanks for rubbing my ego and making me grateful

>>17693098
What do you do?

From last thread -

There's a cute girl in my class that I talked to on Monday, but I didn't talk to her the next class that we both had together Thursday since she was in a group of 4 girls. I did notice her look directly at me though when she was leaving the class and I THINK she flashed a smile, I'm not really sure. I do know she definitely looked at me. When I talked to her Monday she seemed super nice too and I want to get to know her more, but I don't want it to come off as too obvious I have a small crush on her. I don't even know her name to be completely honest, me and her kinda got pulled away from the conversation since class was starting and her friends rushed in to sit down.

I'm really inexperienced with girls obviously, so I'm at a loss of what to do. I don't want it to be super obvious I'm kinda into her because that might come off as creepy, but then again I get the feeling she's probably somewhat interested in me. I'm thinking next time she's somewhat alone or with just one friend, I can say hi to her and be like, "Hey, I'm anon. You helped me last week with the exam, you think you can help me this class?" and see if I can sit with her or something.

So, girls, how obvious is it that a guy is into you if he decides one day to sit next to you and ask for your name and shit? How obvious would it be if I told her what I wrote above?

Ladies, I used to be a bit of a rake, but then I got chubby but my face is still handsome. Being overweight has taught me a great deal more empathy, and as I'm slimming back down and getting back into running/fighting shape I notice interest in me is climbing back up.

How much of the above would you want to know and how early? Because I don't want to dump my life's story on someone over dinner, but I also don't want to be an enigma to the person I'm in a relationship with.

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Girls, if you went home with a dude and saw this hanging above his bed would you think "hey this dudes hilarious and also owns fluffy handcuffs" or "this dude is a fuckhead and is using sex toys as decor, I'm out"?

(Non sarcastic tone) What do you think?

>>17693033
I think I'm young. I'm healthy. I like the feeling. But I'm just wondering if it's possible to live life like this?

To get a few things out of the way. I'm Native American -- we're basically alcoholics from the get. Is there any point?

Enjoy getting fat and pissing money away

Tell her she's probably about to get her period

Google says IUD is "Over 99%" effective

>>17693056
>>17693063
Actually yall reminded me of some info I forgot. She thought she started her period, but apparently it was just random blood. I think she said it happened twice.
She's also worried that I can feel the iud string when I'm insider her, she thinks it may have came lose but I'm thinking it's common to feel it

please help.

Where do you work?

Understand that everyone is stupid and that even you yourself might have your moments. Also try to avoid assuming the customer knows what they're doing the way you know just because you work there. Just try to be positive and you'll have a better time. I've been in the customer service industry for 11 years now.

>>17692954
Have you taken her out on a lot of date? Have you let her know that you're emotionally invest in this relationship?
>How I do that?
Do something she likes. (Not just go out to eat or a movie) something like visit romantic place. Or meet her family and get along with them; form a friendship with her father, mother or siblings.
After being fully invested in her then try making a move on her after she knows you're in it for the long haul.
Also try to start by eating her out or fingering

>>17692982
I've met her parents alot. They really like me. But it's like she doesn't want them to like me too much. They offered for me to come play a board game with them and my girlfriend said no. I don't get it.

I've fingered her alot and shes given me a hand job but nothing beyond that because she always says she's afraid she'll be bad. Also forgot to mention that she's a Christian. When she told me that I straight up told her I'm not waiting till marriage for sex and she agreed but at the rate it's going I really don't know

>>17693011
Lol anon seems like she's really trying to hold you off until you ask her to marry you.
Try licking it down there. Also try to get her to give you head? Once I started getting head from my gf, and I started eating her out, that meant we were going to start having sex that week or moment.

Here's a tip. Really get her wet and ready and ask to put just the tip in. Works 75% of the time all the time

>>17692940
If I had to describe myself in one word it would be "late".

Late to bloom. Late to work. Late on payments. Late to swerve away. Late to become someone.

>>17692940
Utilize it to your benefit. Own it and run with it, just don't show up late to work. Make sure you do a better job than anyone around you because fuck them. I'm drunk but I'm kinda hearing you, I've been successful and going upwards for 8 years now just running like that. I was behind everyone in my peer group and just said fuck this shit and now there's only 2 bros who I think of as "above me", but I'd never admit it out loud because we're in comparable job situations and pay ranges. They just have a more solid career foundation than I do.

>>17693003
Thanks brodie. I barely speak to my best friend and disconnect as much as possible. Frankly, I don't have a peer group. None of my coworkers or my role models are people I see myself growing into. Part of growing up for me was finding a replacement for religion. And I have a whole slew of perspectives that are elitist or harsh. For that, I have respect, but there's no relating and certainly no comparing careers or philosophy. As a social outcast, I strive to be non-redundant and succeeding is, as it turns out, very lonely. The stress sort of manifests itself into repeat attempts to maim my livelihood.

If you feel remorse for it, you're not a sociopath. Just never do it again and forget about it.

>>17692944
I don't that's the thing. I dated a couple of girls. Had sex with one, left the other one for a good reason I think. She did this whole thing where she was really spiritual or something and had this imaginary friend/demon thing, she was sorta possessed I think maybe? Then again she could have been pretending? I don't now, I'm really skeptical about it anyways. The point is I don't really feel bad about using them for sex, I just think it was fucked up, but really I don't internalize it I think?
I know that sounds really fucking weird, but that kinda actually happened.. My ex thought she was possessed or something by spirits, and I don't really care, which is kinda funny if you think about it

I have a swiss army knife next to me I sharpened recently, and I'm not killing myself with it. I don't know why though. NOt that I want to die, I'm just curious about it though. Fuck nevermind, I don't know why I thought about that. It's just fucked up to think that I could do that anytime now. OP btw

>>17692906
I'm so worried about the future that I avoid living in the present and past, and enjoying myself in life right now. I get stuck caring too much about future plans when really all that exists is right now, this moment, so if I don't enjoy life now I may not have the chance in the future. Just start enjoying it now, stop thinking about the future so much

Stop being afraid to have your future ruined by embarassment, just stop worrying nobody cares

People that judge you will either forget about you because you aren't important in their lives, or they will forgive you deep down inside because they feel empathy and compassion, even if they have subconscious judgements who cares. Forget them. Focus on moving into the life you want now, not the future. Because that is the answer to having a good future: to lay a groundwork with a good present and past. It's not hard.

>>17692923
Being worried that people will judge me or I'l embarass myself, that is literally a powerless force and you shouldn't let it get to you. It hasn't killed anyone

That's the answer to live, to being social with people. Just be nice and stop assuming they'll judge you, because if they do they're just assholes anyway and who cares, and if they don't then they're yours, they're someone you can rely on and love and trust and give your heart. So relax, stop worrying.

>>17692926
I keep worrying, and then the future comes, and it never ends up mattering. WHO CARES LMFAO!

Just do your job, be a good citizen, and connect with those who you know obviously love you, like your family. And find new people to connect with too. It's so easy

I'm pretty sure he'd be seizing your vaginate harder than commies want to seize the means of production by now, if he was interested. you risk losing a great friendship by making it hella awkward, but if you really think it's worth risking and thst shit can still roll relatively smooth after a potential fuck up, then drop some more hints. not gradually, though, be even more open and direct this time, if that doesn't work then fuck it

>>17692898
Man here.

There is a VERY good chance he didn't get your message.

Men are good at a lot of things, but not at reading subtlety or getting hints. Hints or clues or nonverbal communications that are blatantly obvious to women are opaque to us. You have to speak to us in short declarative statements, preferably of one-syllable words, to be sure we even notice that a message is being sent, much less understanding it.

>>17692898
Most men do not understand subtle, and it is surprising how many women just don't understand this. You have to be super obvious. If you want him, fire a second volley for sure. Get him alone and make a move on him.

When you say you made a move, what did you actually do?

>>17692895
Thats fucking gay. abort.

Holy shit this sounds fucking awful, you still there op?

>>17692910
Indeed I am

>>17692892
Why would you need fake mac and cheese?

>>17692909
I'm guessing because real mac and cheese won't stick to his helmet.

anyway OP you should try /cgl/, they have a halloween costume thread here:

>>>/cgl/9201659

>>17692892
What do you even mean fake mac and cheese? Just use raw macaroni or whatever, and spray painting it yellow sounds like it would turn out fine.

they're stealing from her every time she goes to work and this incident was not even their fault. complaining about a phone but not her wage is dumb as hell

Small claims court or file a claim with her local labor department if she's in the states.

She shouldn't expect to keep working there if she sues though. If she files a claim she can negotiate for unpaid wages and overtime as well.

she said that they said there's nothing they can do.

you're going on a downward spiral by continuing this daily routine of bleak, senseless existence. days, weeks and months strung together mesh into one big moment of the same shit, so naturally travelling is good for you because it adds some DIVERSITY into an otherwise boring life. you've over saturated your existence with the same sources of entertainment which leads to your hunger for, well, 'fun' being left unsated

>>17692854
the only problem is when I see people who go out every weekend to the bars or to a party I just feel like they are hiding from the meaningless through distraction. I feel like I'd be lying to myself.

you need to get your shit together, anon, by asserting your dominance and control over your body, mind and life. and you're gonna do this by adopting some rules and setting some goals for yourself, then going through with them. afterwards, do something you've never done before (like getting laid LMAO SICK BURN XDD) and trying new things. talk to new people, go for a movie or something else you haven't enjoyed in a while, read a book, do some drugs, go exploring into am area you never have, try fishing, camping, archery, swimming, fucking beekeeping whatever man, get some hobbies and fill out your life with things you actually will enjoy instead of /v/ and chan

Easy,just find a guy thats virgin too,that way your both will be awkward.

>>17692834
I, uh, honestly haven't met any guys who were virgins since high school. I'm in a massive party university so everyone has boyfriends or one night stands. So they probably have high expectations, too. All the girls here are completely stunning.

>>17692815
Is that a picture of you? Your not ugly.