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Settle, as long as I know he loves me

>>17690579
faggot

By settle, I'm assuming you mean date someone who is a human being with flaws and not the idealized pure virgin waifu neckbeard fantasy girl of your dreams.

So yeah. I'd rather settle.

>>17690559

What do you do op?

Gonna need more context to give real advice, but if all their critiques are valid, all you can reply is "I completely understand. I will make every effort to do better."

and then actually do it.

Alternatively, start looking for a new job

>>17690576
>>17690581
I'm a swim coach. I work with the littlest group (median age is 7).

>first paragraph is a long list of skills that I need to make sure all the kids are able to do

>second paragraph is chastising me for not focusing on basic skills, and trying to push them to do things that they don't need to do yet

>"Third, you are frequently tardy. Let me clarify the expectation that was given to you at your interview, and on your first day of practice; you are to be on the pool deck at 5:00pm preparing the lesson and gathering equipment. This is the [swim club] practice policy, if you're early you're on time, if you're on time you're late. If you're late you're forgotten about. Stop being late.

>Tomorrow, I am giving you the night off due to low attendance because of the meet

>Moving forward we are going to put you on probation, you have from now until December 3rd to make the necessary changes to your coaching behavior (30 practice days). You are going to be the Assistant to the Navy group in this time you will watch and learn from [other boss] and myself on how to prepare an athlete for elite competition. You will ask us questions after the kids are swimming (if you have them). We will gage your athlete interaction, your coaching habits (positive and negative), your listening, and attentiveness to the details from us and from the athletes.

>From this we are going to have three possible endings:

>You're going to take what we are telling you into consideration, and you're going to earn your position as Lead Navy Coach back.

>You're going to maintain this new position and we are going to keep you as the Navy assistant.

>You're not going to change your behaviors, and we are going to have to let you go."

Ends with:
>We hope with this VERY on the record email, we can help you understand how serious we are about those critiques.

Sounds like this is your first love
>hurr marriage
Ok, it really is.

Calm your tits.
And 1-5 times a week is perfectly normal.

Don't make her feel bad. She's going to leave..

>>17690526
Guess you could call this my first love cause I never felt for anyone what I feel for her, not my first girl or sex partner, it's just that she's just too hot to not want to fuck her 5 times a day

>>17690526

Once a week, especially towards the beginning of a relationship, is not normal imo. In my experience new couples always fuck like rabbits, meaning multiple times a day. 5 times a week is more realistic. Really though, it depends on a lot of things. Specifically, how often do you guys get a chance to be alone in a place where sex can happen?

Is she on birth control OP? That can affect her libido.

In any case, sexual satisfaction is a huge part of any relationship, so if you aren't getting what you need, a solution needs to be found. Oral sex? Masturbation? idk

braindamage

>I quit

>>17690478

Always go with food poisoning/diarrhoea, only lasts a day or so, believable, common and no obvious outward symptoms. Either that or severe migraine.

You can go one step further and just go an get a medical certificate to excuse you from working, doctors are pretty lenient on these. You can go with the migraine/diarrhoea story or even stress/grief to get certificate.

delete your fb

Delete your facebook account.
Few young people use facebook these days anyway.

Go on a vipassana buddhism retreat for a week. You can't talk for a week. The self-reflection that comes naturally with a week of silence should be all you need.

>>17690367
>am I cheating?
Maybe, probably, but you are absolutely an asshole.

>I feel like we have a strong bond
Must be one hell of a bond when you can't even talk to her about the sex you both have.

You know, that basic stuff you ought to know being "experienced in relationships".

Hey op
Care to explain how you find woman online and flirt with them ?

Different people have different definitions of what constitutes "cheating". The fact you have to ask whether it's cheating suggests that you know it's wrong - you're just looking to validate your choices by not defining it under the term "cheating".

How would you feel if the tables were turned? Say she felt you were rubbish in bed and went online, flirting with men and asking them for dick pics? I'm assuming you wouldn't stand for it, as many people wouldn't.

In my opinion, you should speak to your girlfriend about the issues you're finding in your sex life. You run the risk of using these pictures/chats as a replacement for real life intimacy, meaning the physical relationship with your partner will never recover or be any good.

I would stop your chatting/pic requests for a while and really focus on what it is that isn't working in your relationship. If it's her confidence, then this is definitely not going to help her. If it's that you just don't have chemistry, that's a bigger issue. If you don't find her attractive and you're waiting for her to get to "a healthier weight" then that doesn't sound promising either.

The first year of a relationship should be nothing but passionate fucking, trying new things and loving physical contact with your partner - sounds like you have much bigger issues at hand that you need to identify.

You are being a total dick by the way.

Just say that you're not very experienced, don't have to go on a massive sperg about your life really.

Given your current state, I think this'll be a good thing for you. Just enjoy it, tell her you'd like her to take the lead.

>>17690376
>Given your current state, I think this'll be a good thing for you
started going to a shrink lately, got big problems with self-steem and so on. yeah maybe it'll be good for me to wet my dick a bit, idk.

So should I tell her about me not having much experience in the phonecall, or just tell her once I'm there?

>>17690379

If she asks on the phone then tell her, she'll probably ask you what your preferences are, etc.

>>17690312
Post pic and let femanons rate you first

>>17690316
N-no thanks

>and it's impacting my masturbation

Never change, 4chan.

No. She seems toxic.

>>17690309
The predominant theory is that it's an alternative mating style, and people who are naturally monogamous aren't going to wait the 6 years for me to graduate school. I'm lonely, and if she seemed like a bad person then I wouldn't talk to her.

bip

how come you are so underweight?

but yes, your face will fill and you will not look so sickly.

try and bulk, tho', unless you actually want to get pudgy, which is all right as well.

I'm 120lbs at 5'5" and even i look skinny/weak as fuck.

What the hell man, fucking eat.

>>17690327
I live on my own and I'm literally way too lazy to cook. Plus the less I eat the less hungry I seem to get, I have to remind myself to eat at times.

Also thanks, I know it's not healthy

I know this is the most over used answer in the book and something you've probably already thought about.

But have you considered getting on a strenuous exercise routine or joining a physically demanding sport/hobby to beat all that excess energy and rage out of your system? Something you can do that exhausts you so you don't even have the energy to get mad at things? Recent studies have also shown that stomach bacteria plays a huge role in your mood and how positive or negative you are. If you eat junk food somewhat regularly, breads, pastas, burgers, you have bad bacteria in your stomach. It takes about a week or two of complete healthy eating to flush out your stomach and provide it with healthy bacteria.

This might not help. But it could be a piece to the puzzle of fixing this. If you haven't tried this. I heavily recommend you give it a shot. 2 weeks straight of strict healthy eating and hard workouts.

>>17690285
>fracturing an eye socket and obliterating someone's nose, teeth and jaw in the past
And you were not sued for this?

My advice: stop arguing on the Internet and start a hobby requiring patience, like gardening or clockwork.

>>17690291
This advice seems counterintuitive, but I actually like it. I honestly never even thought of wearing myself out of rage, to be honest.

As for the diet, it's not great, but it's not horrible, either. It probably doesn't help my anger to be a poorfag.

>>17690305
Actually, no. The perks of having a friend-of-the-family's sleazy lawyer who is basically best friends with the law where I live has its perks. Convinced an entire jury of our peers that the individual exploited my anger by repeatedly having "poked the bear" until I lost my shit. Seriously, the only time I spent in jail was the initial arrest.

As for arguing on the internet, that's not what I do. I will take your suggestion into consideration.

absolutely. above all, the girl will appreciate knowing you were thinking of her and went out of your way to buy her and bring her some things. Doesn't necessarily matter what it is. If there is effort and thought put in, she will appreciate it.

I once traveled about an hour to drop some vapor drops and something nice off to my fairly sick GF of the time.
She didn't appreciate being dropped in on and was blatantly somewhat uncomfortable with me hanging around while she was clearly quite sick (she looked pretty bad).
I was pretty taken aback/offended.

So I don't know, your mileage may vary.

Yes, very. I'm a sick femanon right now and I'm suffering.

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>Sounds like a great idea.

Why not just get a job instead of becoming a criminal?

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>>17690181
>Because OP's not a pussy.
Thug Life

>>17690145
yes, go to the hospital ASAP

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>>17690145
No, you're just having your period.

>>17690147
srs?

>>17690150
fuckoff fagit

im a guy

>>17690102
Yeah, fuck that shit. Grocery stores are for plebs without the incompetent manager conundrum. If there's something better available to you, bail asap.

If you can for sure get hired at those other places, than yeah.

I basically had the same thing happen to me.

"Wahhh, I'm, so understaffed"
"I can help, sign me up for more"
"No, sorry"

Alright, now you're going to be even MORE understaffed when I quit, you twat.

>>17690112
Do I put in a two weeks notice?

>>17690113
I'm not officially quiting until I have a new job lined up. I haven't called in once yet (unlike 75% of the other workers) but I will if I get an interview.