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>>17691059
> EU is basically a police state under muslim invasion
>police state

Kek'd hard. I guess you're from america and wanna talk about police brutality? You must be totally retarded. We got the chilliest police on the planet.
Generally EU is the best place you can live in, especially germany. education for free.

>muslim invasion

Kek. You must be a trump supporter, right?

>>17691223
At least I can say a bad word on the internet without going to prison for 5 years. Euros who understimate how much of an Orwellian hell they live under are delusional as shit.

>especially germany.
Now I fucking KNOW you're out of your mind. Germany is the worst state in the EU. Even the UK and Sweden aren't as batshit Stazi as that shithole.

>You must be a trump supporter, right?
Fuck no. But having every major city in Europe turn brown within a decade is a sign of failure. At least in America there was a reason for it and it happened slowly. You guys decided to up and fuck your continent to shit for no reason one day.

>>17691059
My advice is to stop going to r9k and pol.

No. You don't want to. You've experienced everything you need to with her. Find new people and learn more.

>>17691057
Also I should state, I did message her saying I'll disappear for a while. She got worried, asking why etc. I just told her I need to move on. She said how long. Told her I don't know, she's the only girl I've ever loved. She was like okay fine do whatever.

She is clearly confused right now and still has feelings for me. Even though she's being a bit negative if she really didn't care, her responses and mood would be very neutral and care free. I just don't know what's so 'hard' or 'complicated' for her. Maybe issues with insecurity, her being afraid to love, I don't know. I know it's not me, it's not us or this 'other guy', its definitely something inside her. But I can't do nothing except go No Contact with her, and maybe in time she will sort herself out.

But she

Bro she cheated on you a while ago with her new lover. That is why she broke up suddenly. Don't be a cuck and get a better woman.

Find a hobby and meet someone who shares your interests through it.

That may seem like a lot of money now but over your life, even if you invest, you will run out.

Start a business or something.

>>17691022
>implying 25 shekels per hour is a respectable wage
anon pls
also any mail order bride you get will leave you as soon as she possibly can, and you will be extra fucked if you impregnate her

your ignoring the I need a sexy wife part...

I could open a 711 and make the wife work there if I got bored of her too.

>>17690982
which methods have you tried?

>>17691005
Mostly to do list apps, I guess.

>>17691008
What kinds of good habits are you trying to build? Do you try one at a time or do you try a whole lifestyle change at once?

Something that helped me on occasion was the thought "I am unable to stick to my plan (or goal) because my ego is too strong, not too weak". A weak ego will listen to what past you, or sober you, set out for it to do. A strong ego does what it wants when it wants to.

>>17690975

ffs stand up for yourself dude. Just tell her to stop this shit.

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>>17690975
You're getting bullied by a girl, anon? If she's seeking you out chances are she is subconsciously attracted to you. It almost sounds like she's flirting w/ the trash/bottles crap.

>>17690980
Well, it's not like she is actively hurting me or something. She's just very good at putting up a mean face towards me and treat me like air. She has actually never spoken a single word to me and I've never met her before. Maybe raising my voice would make me seem like the aggressor to others?

>>17690985
Why would you be mean and treat someone like shit if you like him? That's contradicting IMHO.

Pray to my ancestor spirits. They will cause a burning skeleton to rise up from the ground and cauterize the wound with it's finger.

I know it works. My brother did it once.

>>17690958

google 'how to treat a bullet wound'.

>>17690958
Go on 4chan and ask them how to treat a bullet wound.

>>17690937
You basically answered your own question. You stated that you are only yourself when you're around people you're comfortable with. This means that for everyone else, you are uncomfortable. This is not a "normal" trait. In general, people are just fine meeting new people, meshing into a variety of situations, etc. I suspect that perhaps you had limited social experiences while you were growing up. Awkward teen, not the popular guy in high school, not the outgoing sports guy, etc. Those experiences lend to a lot of peoples' ability to function in any social situation. If you weren't that person during your formative years, you weren't acclimated to those situations.

So to get over feeling uncomfortable around people you don't know very well, you just have to keep doing it. Force yourself into new situations all the time. Force conversations. Be the person who initiates conversation. Visit new places and social circles. If you're a nerd and into D&D or that kinda stuff, find a gaming store and go hang out there. Force yourself to make the first move on people.

As with all skills building, you just have to do it frequently.

It's incredibly hard to be who you want to be when it feels as though the world is looking down at you because of it. The only real times that I'm able to do this, without the assistance of weed or alcohol, is when I'm with someone of the same nature. Most likely your best friend. Dunno how anyone could be treated like everything they do is wrong and actually manage to stay positive.

It's not a shitty question, though. Are you a guy?

>>17690943
Can we not encourage this person to habituate themselves to being around people? it will be a total loss for both parties.

>>17690886
I took a class

>>17691093
This.

I took a course my last semester of college. Came out of it with zero anxiety.

I'm sure you can find non-college courses/tutors.

I never took a class, I just forced myself to do it a lot. It's really not that hard. In a lot of ways talking to an audience is easier than talking to an individual or a small group of people because they feed off of each other -- you know how when you watch a comedy in a theater sometimes you laugh at jokes you wouldn't laugh at if you were just watching it on your laptop in your room? A group mind is a lot easier to win over than a single person (for me, anyway).

My favorite trick is to say something slightly outrageous (not offensive, sometimes even just something unexpected and offbeat will do) in the first minute or two. If you can get 20% of the audience laughing, which really is not very hard, they'll often get a further 30% of the audience laughing, and from that point on they'll all mostly be on your side.

>>17690823

100 year old vaudeville joke:

PATIENT (moving arm or something): Doctor, it hurts when I do this.
DOCTOR: So don't do that!

Modern version

YOU: I feel shitty when I drink a lot
DOCTOR:

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>>17690823
What exactly are you asking here? Do you feel guilty for drunk driving or are you feeling the affects of a hangover? Clarify.

I did everything to sober up before leaving but still feel bad about it

>>17690774
If you're male, it is a minority method but not a tiny minority. If you're female, it is actually a quite common method.

I never do it while conscious. Because fapping gets boring after years of doing it, I have developed the ability to have sex in my sleep. It's the best orgasm in the world because it's dragged out by "sleep time", which flows much faster than normal AND it removes that awful feeling of loneliness that masturbating leaves you with.

Usually happens about once a night if I don't fap before bed.

> that awful feeling of loneliness that masturbating leaves you with
I don't think that's supposed to happen, mate.

It's gross no matter who does it. Once every other day is the bare minimum imo

>>17690746
what if its only the hair that she washes once a week

>>17690759
If you wash your body, it's fine. Washing your hair every day is very damaging to it.

>Everything happened because I told my parents that I cant trust them and what they are doing (being aggressive and impulsive) is the easiest thing

Be more specific. What EXACTLY was the argument about?

>>17690666
>parents back from work
>preety angry
>they start talking about me being huge fuck who doesnt talk about himself and they dont know anything about
>my father is neurotic starts threatening me
>pushes me down the stairs
>after i get up i tell him that i cant trust him and being aggressive and impulsive is primitive and it's the easiest way of living
>they start arguing with me about it and about me not giving a fuck about everything
>after everything ends i go back to my room trying to get my shit together
0.5h
>my father walks into the room
>"You wouldn't even understand how much I hate you"
>beats me up

Jeez, your relatives are huge fucks. Specially your dad.
Ask to a good friend if you can live with him/her. Explain the problem so they can understand, and offer to clean the house and get a job so you can buy your own food.

I recommend it if you're getting sex regularly. if you're just abstaining from cumming altogether, I don't think it's necessarily healthy.

I'm no expert but I think it's been proven that regularly masturbating to porn can have a negative effect on your sex life - maybe try masurbating without the porn, at a reasonable rate. Say, once a day at most or something.

>>17690503
Nofap is a meme.

Don't masturbate longer than 20 mins, also you don't need to do it everyday either.

If you stop masturbation and are not having sex regularly you will end up having wet dreams.

>>17690510
>>17690512
welp, I masturbate like 3 times a day to eroges and porn, and I'm virgin.

>>17690502
>What are the good things?
The sex is fun and risqué because it's taboo

>What are the bad things?
You are ruining someone's life, potentially destroying a family for the sake of your own physical pleasure

>What's gonna happen in the future?
If you don't stop, the person being cheated on will find out and be very upset. See previous commentary

>>17690502

What are the details? Age of you and the woman/why is she cheating on her partner? how long have you known each other etc.

I really don't think you're doing much wrong, you're a single guy (I assume) and have the right to see whoever you want. In saying that, I would really think about the circumstances of why this is happening, if you will develop feelings, if her partner is a psycho etc.

I know it could seem like love, she might even divorce this guy for you, you might get married, but what she did is a huge character flaw that is likely to repeat, she felt about this guy how she does about you at some point in time and that changed.

On the other hand if you're solely doing this to get your rocks off then go ahead. I feel bad for the husband of this woman but the blame is almost entirely on her.

>>17690521

>You are ruining someone's life, potentially destroying a family for the sake of your own physical pleasure

Wrong, she is ruining someone's life and destroying a family for her physical pleasure. If it wasn't him it would be the next guy she found attractive. If anything this guy is doing the other guy a favour by exposing his wife for who she really is.

find a man you love

>>17690476
I am that man. UK?
>pls

>>17690480
How do you learn to love someone you're scared will want to hurt you?