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>>17695946
What makes you feel you're an autist when it comes to texting?

>>17695980
I have a hard time thinking up replies, most of the time drawing completely blank, and lot of the times when I read back of what I wrote I'm like "the fuck was I thinking"

>>17695990

Always leave something to reply to, like imagine how'd you reply to your message and then use that to take the conversation towards where you want

What job can you do with zero experience and no skill whatsoever?

>>17695923
Dishwashing

>>17695932
Like in restaurants?

I guess I'll go ask around about that.

>>17695832
You're either 16 or a cuck. In both cases you should look for pussy elsewhere.

>>17695832
This is purely speculation, but to me that appears as her wanting emotional support from you but not wanting to be committed to just one guy. And I'm assuming you're not 'officially' in a monogamous relationship. By officially I mean both have talked and agreed to it.

>>17695832
Ask her to clarify her answer because her answer is really unclear for you (and me). What does she mean by "complicated"?

>>17695795
quicktime is the best on the market

>>17695799
>Fucking apple

>>17695795
I use VLC and AIMP. Could do better, but won't bother, and they suit my needs perfectly.

>>17695799
kek

>>17695778
It's almost a form of drug to watch The Kardashians and enjoy it. Let it be a guilty pleasure because who the fuck cares why not. And you will literally fit in with more people on Earth now.

What's the point of being one of these 'higher intellectuals' if you're constantly unhappy and can't even sit down and find enjoyment in mindless entertainment?

>>17695794
I know that's what I'm saying. It's so true I haven't realized it until now. There's no advantage, it's cutting yourself off from potential pleasures. Let yourself keep them as pleasures.

Go for it. She does not have kids and she was rational enough to get a real divorce.she sounds like a blessing. Spend some time with her and relax and try and have a good time

>>17695763

this, shes not perfect but way better than most people who put up with abuse and think they can remedy it by having kids

She probably was a mail-order bride. That's called being desperately poor (or have incredibly poor judgment over her career).

Don't stress this too much though and once you're more comfortable, bring that old guy in a conversation.

>>17695717
At whatever your local equivalent of Walmart is, or a street market, buy a cheap set of pots and pans. You need little more than a big pot, a small pot and a frying pan. Ditto a cheap set of dishes and cutlery.

Google "cooking for beginners" for leads to websites and books

Take your dirty clothes, sheets and towels to a laundromat once a week. Virtually nothing really needs ironing.

>wants to move out on a whim
>despite not knowing how to do anything for himself

It always seems so odd to me how people don't know how to do these things. I mean, because it's not like that complicated of an affair.

But I would say the best way as far as the cooking would probably be to think of the best meal that is also the easiest to make for all three meals... for example, for me that would be oatmeal and a banana for breakfast, a sandwich for lunch, and a stir fry for dinner.

Oatmeal & Banana:
Oats in a bowl. Enough water (google). Microwave. Banana.

Sandwich:
Meat. Cheese? Lettuce? Tomato? Mustard? etc.

Stir fry:
Put a pan on medium high heat and put half a chopped onion in there, with half a chopped bell pepper and half a chopped tomato. Whatever else you want. Carrots. Potatoes. Then add some ground beef or turkey when the other stuff is reasonably done. It helps immensely to cover the frying pan while it's cooking, in fact this way you can even do it without oil if you just add some water to it (not a lot) so that it's steaming.
From longest cook time to shortest cook time...
Celery > Potatoes > Carrots > Broccoli/Asparagus/Cauliflower > Meat > Greens like lettuce or spinach

Anyway um yeah otherwise find stuff to snack on and you're set.

Laundry is super easy... as for ironing watch one youtube tutorial and you've got it.

>>17695682
If you cut a relationship with someone on the first sign of a flaw then you're actually gonna have a miserable life.
She's a human, she's gonna have some flaws, we need more info on the actual reason because jealous just doesn't cuts it.
Why did she got jealous?
Why did it escalated to her being mad?

Her saying that she basically ghosts people if she gets mad is worrying but apparently she likes you enough to not do that.
You should have a talk, not too extreme like saying "if you drops contact we're done" because you're just starting and getting used to each other, but talk to her.

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>>17695698
Why did she got jealous?
Why did it escalated to her being mad?
She gets jealous whenever I'm near any of my female friends (most of whom I've known long before her) and it got to a point where all of the little incidents built up and exploded. The first sign of this red flag came a couple months ago when she saw a picture of me and a friend and my hand was on her shoulder; she kept asking why my hand was there.

>>17695707
Now that sheds a lot more light into this, she seems almost childish specially in that she just stops talking to someone that gets her mad.

The best course of action here is probably talking to her, a CALM talk, don't just put a limit on her or something and if she does this kind of thing during the talk or after it then the best thing would be to end it.
I've known guys that lose their entire circle of friends due to a possessive girl and then they keep breaking up/getting back together for years and years, don't fall into that rabbit hole.

>>17695675
Why would anyone call you names, you don't want to date him and that's fine.
Not only that but you're worried about losing a good relationship, how "obvious" are these signs of no interest?

The problem is that this is hard, one misstep and he might get mad at you even without saying no.

There's also the chance that he's been trying to be with you more time because you broke up with your boyfriend and he's thinks you need someone to be with you on though times.

>>17695690
thank you
well the other week he came over and we started chatting and he was asking like "so who do you have in mind to date next?" and i told him no one and he goes "mm.. that's really good to hear" which was a bit uncomfortable
today he took me out for hours and it started with a restaurant where he payed, then we went to some amusement thing and he put his arm around me and i asked him to take it off .. then he tried holding my hand and i pretty much told him that i didn't want to be touched but in a stern way
then afterwards he just texted me a bunch of stuff saying like "i hope you're okay. tonight was really fun."
idk it seems too much to just be friendly.. he's not usually like this

>>17695704
Oh yeah, "I think" is not a thing here, he's not even being subtle and he's not being friendly, that's flat out trying to get it on with you.
Do you think that he might get mad at you if you find someone else?
Is he that kind of guy?
You might just say certain guy caught your eye on a casual conversation with him, that tends to really bring down expectations but this is where you gotta be careful, depending on how mature he is he might get extremely hurt and take it out on you for no reason, and the same thing might happen if you flat out tell him you don't want to be with him.

It's a tough situation and it really boils down to how he handles it, the "mm.. that's really good to hear" is just fucking weird which makes me think he might have been waiting to "have a shot" with you.

>>17695673
Get a new therapist. If you don't feel like you're being helped in a way that benefits you then you shouldn't be giving them your money.

>>17695679
>>17695673
Alternatively maybe therapy isn't what you need but medication. Therapy will always be mostly talking and discussing things. Sometimes this helps people work things out especially loners.

Never worked for me but my issues are probably different from the run-of-the-mill considering my life is pretty grand. (not to brag) Medication helped though and I genuinely feel so much better.

>>17695679
I can't switch, free health care doesn't work that way. They picked me a psychiatrist because they thought I needed one, and if I switch to a private clinic I'll have to pay for it myself and they might not approve of it.

>>17695683
What pill will make me like sex?

I don't get with them, per se, but they make great FWBs.

>>17695603
I work with this girl tho. She seems like she would easily get attached. Don't get me wrong, she is cute in her own way.

>>17695599
Yeah I did it.

I became friend with this shy chubby girl and after a couple of months we became couple. After years of relationship I fell hard and she became a generic cunt whore, but kept the fat. It was rough after the break up.

It is not a good idea. Aim for better, at least you will enjoy the ride.

>>17695576
>so it ended up I just said by to B as A was walking in the door quickly.

I explained this poorly.

I remembered I had a class with B, and B mentioned an assignment earlier for that class, since it was related to the one we were standing outside. B put down her bag, and was getting out a paper and I asked her if she was in my class, and she replies, "Oh am I? I didn't know."

"Did you do the assignment?"

"No, I'm about to do it right now though."

As I'm talking to her, I think I broke attention with A for a section like a fucking idiot, and her friend walked by and started talking to her, and they both start walking in as I'm done talking to B, she looks over at me and I just say bye to both of them, but I doubt A heard me. I fucked up the last like 30 seconds.

>>17695576

Wow I must've asked for so much advice about this shit other anons are probably annoyed at me already.

I'm kinda doing these at 3 AM and I'm tired as fuck, so fuck me.

Yeah, just fucking talk to her.

bamp

Here's some good ones I find.

>"You like my wiener? Yea, take it bitch"
>"Ima put it in ur ass slut"
>"suck my taint baby"

>>17695570

I'm a lot like you, my ex was a bit into dirty talk and It always just felt off to me, most of it was initiated by her and I would just reply to it. Being the one doing almost all the work, working the angles and basically mild cardio makes it tough to concentrate on talking too.

I found saying things like "you look so fucking sexy" or "you feel so good" etc to be my staples, nothing too bad. My ex used to ask me if she was my little whore and things like that, it just made me uncomfortable but I would reply with "yes" lol.

All of this just for sex? Pay an escort if u want sex. Enjoy life.

>>17695543
no sex also means no gf

all I want is a girl I like to lay with me and watch shows together and just a relationship

I've never had a relationship with a girl in my 29 years of life. If it were just sex I'd be fine with masturbating.

You won't find girlfriend material in a bar OP. What are your hobbies?

Let them be, unless it harms you in some way???

>>17695532
How do you know what she meant by "fun"?

Maybe they really enjoy playing chess.

>>17695764
yeah chess is fun af