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Wtf? Yes. Don't be retarded. Go and talk to her. She obviously is checking you out and is a lonely girl. Go and talk to her before you regret it forever fag lord.

>>17690103

Even if she's in a group?

Which kinda contradicts her being lonely, but whatever.

How do I talk to girls in groups, cause I get the feeling that's what she'll be in for the rest of the semester, knowing my luck.

>>17690008
>Any advice guys?
Break up with her.

>>17690008

Why in the fuck do you have a girlfriend if you exchanged bj's with dudes?

You're gay, anon. Break up with her.

>>17690010
why?

don't :)

>>17690006
>My question is that should I compliment it on her?
I wouldn't. She would probably take it the wrong way as soon as you mention it.

>>17690006
It's a little weird, she might be self-concious.

Think of something more benign. Or something that you can relate to for further conversation.

Dont be a fucking beta

Realize they are regular people just like you and your friends. Don't look down on them or put them on a pedestal, they are literally just people.

>>17690049
It's fundamentally different to interacting with a man though, you will never think about sticking your penis in a man.

>>17689951

You're both stupid. You, and your ex.

/thread

So, it was you and your ex that hooked up?

>>17689951
Are you autistic enough to think you can keep it a secret after you and your ex told each other's partners?
Everyone in this story is *so* fucking dumb, it's like a trashy soap opera.

Bump.

Boys don't like girls who don't put out.

>>17689931
Why would you want to?
Contrary to popular beliefe there is more to life than sex

>>17689989
Well, a relationship is kind of like a restaurant.

Of course you'll mind if the environment is unpleasant, if the staff is rude or the food is cold, tastes nasty or gives you food poisoning, salmonella and chlamydia, and if only one of the three is exceptionally good but the rest is disgustig, you won't stay. 2/3, you'll consider it.

But no matter how nice and luxurious the furnishing, clean and pleasant the environment and how sweet and efficient the staff is, absolutely nobody would set their foot to a restaurant that doesn't fucking serve food.

Try sleeping pills or weed.

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>>17689928
Couple things:

Different people have different sleep requirements, so not everyone's the same. Some need fewer hours than others.

That being said, I used to think I was someone who could get by on 3-5 hours a night, but really I was just using that as an excuse to not change my lifestyle.

Today I try to get between 6-8 hours a night, and sometimes more on the weekends. BUT, like you, I was laying in bed awake a lot, and it sucked. So I started using 25mg - 50mg of over-the-counter Benadryl to fall asleep. I think this is a pretty benign medicine, and it usually helps me get to sleep easily.

Also, exercise helps a lot.

So I wouldn't say you're "fucked", but you might feel a lot better if you tried some exercise / light meds to help get into a 6-8 hour sleep routine. Sometimes you don't know how much better you could be feeling until you try it, cause you get so used to what 2-3 hours of sleep feels like.

>>17689928
Also, I had a period some years ago where I got very, very little sleep. I started at 2-3 hours a night, then kept pushing it to less and less until I was getting almost none. This was largely fueled by amphetamines, but the resulting sleep deprivation was what caused the next phase: psychosis.

I'm not really an expert on this, but I was told I went into a psychosis from lack of sleep. It was sort of an ongoing waking hallucination that was becoming more and more "real" to me. Over the course of weeks, I started to obsess over these increasingly bizarre theories and projects...I did not realize I was going into psychosis until family members intervened and saw what I was doing. Had to be institutionalized.

Found out later that it's possible to go into psychosis and not be able to come back out, which is scary. While I was in rehab I encountered a guy in psychosis who seemed to be going deeper and deeper into it. He had to be put into a more serious facility. Luckily, I was coming out... cause I could feel myself losing touch with reality, and people were getting very, very concerned about my behavior. If I had kept going, it's possible I may have ended up in a padded cell. Anyway, that's what scared me into getting better sleep.

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>>17689919
It takes some practice and experience with different situations, anon. I've had sex with maybe 10 or 12 different girls, and they came in a variety of different flavors. Some of them changed my whole perspective about what types of girls are out there. What I'm saying is they do come in different flavors, and it's extremely possible to stumble across someone who you are unexpectedly highly sexually compatible with. You just kind of click with them. So it doesn't have to be about changing your own sexual style to match other people.

Plus, with more and more experience, you get more comfortable with yourself and just start to know what to do more. It get more natural.

>>17689994
>Picture
kek, made me chuckle, thank you.

Now as for the topic itself...

>I've had sex with maybe 10 or 12 different girls
Uh, I'm 27 and I haven't had sex with nearly as many people. In fact I've had two sexual couples (my ex and another girl); the rest of what I know are mostly online interactions I don't want to delve further into.

>it's extremely possible to stumble across someone who you are unexpectedly highly sexually compatible with
What, a girl who likes to take charge more than not but at the same time is super sweet and is not expecting to have anything rough at all?

In my dreams.

>Plus, with more and more experience, you get more comfortable with yourself and just start to know what to do more. It get more natural.
Okay this is true. Although I seriously doubt I will have that much extra experience, not with my personality at least.

I mean, the most sex I've ever had was with my ex. She liked me to take charge, and the only reason she didn't ask me to go rougher was because she suffers of fibromyalgia. Other than that she does like soft bondage - at least she'd ask me to pin her wrists. I did but I wasn't super crazy about it. It wasn't super rough so it didn't turn me off, and hey why not do it for her? But it wasn't my cup of tea.

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>>17689919
Another thing I had to learn the hard way: it's always a bad idea to invest a huge amount of hope into girls when you're still looking around / dating / casually having sex. You gotta remember: you can't control other people, or the world. Shit can change, people change, people change their minds about you, and there's nothing you can do, and that's okay. You gotta just let it happen.

So if some girl decides she's not into you, it wasn't meant to be, and you move on. You can't control that shit. And if the sex wasn't good? You might not be compatible. But trying is the only way to find out, then you just move on having learned a bit more about what you like and don't like.

So when you're shopping around for dates and stuff, remember: you barely know these people. It's impossible to predict what's going to happen. Do not try to change yourself to fit the desires of girls. You can't keep up the facade forever, and the relationship will be doomed cause she'll be falling for a fake version of yourself. Be yourself and Let. Failures. Happen. Let breakups happen. Lots of them if necessary. Don't force relationships.

>>17689885
bump ;)

>>17689885
not bad
6/10

Noice, I was disgusted then I did the head weave.

>>17689865
Get a payment plan, go to a dental school, anything but try and fix it yourself. Because you will not be able to, and any fix you might think you find will only make things worse in the long term.

GO to a FUCKING dentist.

just keep it clean and it'll be fine for longer than any filling you could make lasts

>>17689869

I did go to a dentist. I don't have $2000 lying around, and they don't do payment plans.

>closed until November 1st
that's like next week

My uncle was diagnosed with leukemia and was able to sign up for emergency Medicaid from the hospital he was diagnosed from. Ito available to the uninsured and paid for his entire treatment. There are people in the hospital that can help with this. Ask your doctor to direct you to the right person.

Move to an inexpensive area of Massachusetts. We have the best healthcare in the country- our state system is what Obamacare is based on. I pay nothing -literally nothing- for health insurance, and have access to unlimited therapy, physical therapy, free prescriptions, all surgeries paid, accupuncture, chiro, all specialists and dental... ALL PAID. FOR FREE. Don't fuck around with blue cross when you have cancer. I've been trying to get my grandparents to move up here temporarily while my grandpa battles pancreatic cancer but he's stubborn and now he's in serious debt. We also have medicinal marijuana. Make it happen.

You have to network or get lucky. Don't count on the latter. I had crap, part-time jobs For 3 years after I graduated until a friend from college referred me to his employer. I was laid off from that positron after about a year during the height of the recession and remained unemployed for 2 years before training for a new field. In total, I was unemployed for over 3 years. Don't get comfortable after finding work. You can lose your job at any time.

>>17689846
Thing is since I graduated I just worked shitty retail/restaurant gigs . All I want is something simple but requires some sort of challenge until my dream career comes. IDK how better to market myself. Im not even getting replies from fucking internships

>>17689853
I worked part-time jobs too. The only reason I didn't work retail/restaurant is cause I didn't apply for those jobs. I was stubborn and refused to do the same kind of work I could've done before I went to college. I conducted surveys and was a wedding studio's assistant. I was a PA on a movie shoot briefly, but they didn't give a rat's ass about us and didn't pay us a dime, then they proceeded to lay off most of us (which was honestly a blessing). I was getting very little sleep when working for them.

If someone does respond about an internship, beware. They will probably exploit you to the nth degree. Know your rights.

Learn how to write a resume…or pay a someone to write it for you.

Yes. Stop eating candy and your teeth should grow back from the top automatically.

>>17689800
solid advice bro.

>reverse cavity

Sounds scientific, definitely would be great

>>17689760
No! Why the hell would you think that's okay?

>>17689760
Don't know what to say.
Uhm, if you can't afford it, don't bother.
I don't think that's working at all, infact you might be wasting money. You're also killing the planet unconsciously too

>>17689760
if ur trying to get crud off your teeth you can use paper towels.

>>17689749
it's probably in your head, or only on your side.

my boss is a 30 yr old (i'm 24) lady with an hourglass figure, and i don't think she likes me very much but occasionally she stands really close to me when explaining something to me, or i'm explaining something to her. like, so close sometimes that the side of her chest is on my arm.

but i'm fairly certain she isn't even aware.

>>17689749
I can assure you this has happened to every single person who has ever worked a job. Don't act on it you dingus.

op here, i cant look at him in the eyes for some reason. we go on cigarette breaks together and talk shit about our coworkers. we share personal stories as well