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not a joke seriously help

Do you mean a part time job like at fast food or Wal-Mart or a professional job?

If part time then all you really gotta do is start applying for everywhere you can get transportation to. Walk in, ask to see the manager, ask for an application. Do it and come back and ask when the store's general manager will be in and go in on those days and hand it to them personally. Recommended not to go when they're super duper busy.

While they're glancing over it linger around and wait for them to say whether or not they'll call you or if you're going to be starting anytime soon. If they don't glance at it or they're taking too long just ask if they'll call you. This is how I got my first job at a shitty fast food joint which I absolutely hate.

Also consider seasonal business trends. Stores like Wal Mart or Target will become more busy due to it being holiday season while a place like Sonic Drive-In will slow down because its the Winter months and no one wants to wait on their food in that cold ass weather.

>>17768048
lives in India

>>17767841
>you need to show me that I can actually trust you with these things, they're important to me
>if you can't realize how important they are, then you aren't taking this seriously enough
some shit like that idk

What did she say?

>>17767841
talk to her about it. say that its been weighing on your mind and that it still bothering you. And while you say you "forgave her" it seems like that was in word only and that there's still some wounds that you need to heal. Time heals all wounds but that's only after you bandage them.

>>17767799
Beauty is completely subjective, you know that right?

Hollywood actors look great into the 40's because they have good makeup artists and take care of themselves because their job tends to require so. Anyone can look decent (provided they didn't start out Down's) into middle age, but it requires a training regimen and a good diet. For decades.

That's hard for most First Worlders.

Youre not ugly by a roll of the dice.
Youre ugly because the minds of your parents were ugly, and so too is yours.
The egyptians regarded beauty as a sign of holiness. Its in how you use your perspective, body, life.
Its the choices you make and how.

Beauty was never the goal
Its only a sign, the symptom of a truly healthy being.
Get healthier.
You wouldnt see beautiful ppl brooding to 4chan about the injustice of their own self denial, would you?

just stop giving a shit about her completely ignore her behavior think of her as a being created to give you money and food and some extra money on her death bed then she will look alright

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>>17767789
>How do I stop being a dick to my mother?
Cut off your dick.

JUST BE QUIET

Take breaks. Don't think "I don't need one" because you're lying and you know it.

It's boring, but don't allow yourself to get bored.

9/10 of the time you'll be alone.
But still pay at least half-attention.

Audiobooks help to keep your attention on staying awake.

Watch out for highway hypnosis

>>17767770
How often would you suggest? My girlfriend lives ~1/2 way between my start and end point so I was going to stop there

>>17767722
That's not your bestfriend

>>17767725
this

>>17767725
This. Friends don't sit around waiting for your sloppy seconds. You may not be mad at him, but the numbness is a sign that you recognise that what he did was shitty. Ditch him and get better friends.

Because you clearly don't really want to die. Lock your fucking self in a goddamn bathroom and OD. Go drive/hitchhike to the nearest forest to OD. Go the ole mafia death and tie a cinderblock to ya. Fishermen won't be able to pull you out fast enough before you sink to depths that you'd need scuba gear to retrieve your corpse.

It is incredibly easy. You just make excuses because you don't want to die, you wanna whine about how bad your life is.

BTW this isn't a cry for attention thing. I have clinical suicidal ideation and have been thinking of suicide every day for 2 years but haven't had the means or the guts to carry it out.

Clinical suicide ideation is still a cry for attention thing. So why not just admit yourself to the nut house?

>>17767701
Why not just move out?

Welcome to real mental illness, not the pussy "waaah my girl dumped me so im depressed :(((" crap you usually here on here. It's life ruining, and ruining to everyone else in that life's orbit.

You can move out, but that would effectively be dumping the responsibility on your parents. They would understand I'd imagine, but still.

Schizophrenia is a condition where if the pills don't achieve functional remission, nothing else will but dumb fucking luck.

I hope you achieve some sort of satisfactory solution OP, because you have a real problem unlike most people on /adv/.

>>17767748
>"Even the thought of moving out and escaping all of this doesn't make me happy because I know I would be leaving my mom to deal with it alone"

besides, im in my third year of college, i cant afford that shit. I HAD been previously in an apartment wih 2 roommates for year 1 and 2 but that situations over now.

>>17767771
Yeah, moving out wouldn't make me happy. maybe if I had parents plural, but it would just be my mom to deal with her and that thought breaks my heart. Thanks for at least listening and taking me seriously, I hate when people disregard my feelings and say well at least you don't have the illness you're being insensitive yadda yadda.

>>17767688
You need to internally accept that your procrastination is 100% your fault nad responsibilty and YOU can hcnage it.

>>17767694
Where do I start? I've been trying to force myself to study, but to be honest, my mental power is kind of weak, and I'm so used to spending too much time on this shitty site.

you're in school right?

it may seem like a drastic step but give up your computer, any work you need to do can be done on a computer in the library. Without a computer you can read in your spare time instead of browsing 4chan.

If you can't have an adult conversation with your girlfriend about sex and what she's comfortable doing....then you're not adult enough to have sex.

>>17767650
"hey I'm raping you and abusing your mental illness, are you okay with it?"

>>17767657
"For a while now we've been having rough sex and getting really close to daddy/daughter roleplay. It's a little late to ask now but I'm just wondering if you're really happy with what we're doing and if you're okay. I don't have to have the daddy thing, I ultimately just want you to enjoy yourself, feel secure and feel loved."

Personally? I use the death of my mother as a motivator. She lived an unhappy, unhealthy life, ended up losing her legs and then her life before 55. Watching someone slowly fade away with their vices is heartbreaking but it has its purpose.

Do it for yourself, it's really not about anyone else. Being healthy just feels better all around and it'll be a blessing and a present to yourself, should it be attained. That's up to you.

>>17767640
I know the all or nothing aspect
Every few years I grow a beard and stop giving much of a shit about my hair or whatever.

But doing something proactive builds itself.
Like the more you do for yourself, the more you want to do for yourself.

Whatever choice you make, for appearances or against them, it has momentum.
If you choose to be for your appearance, each step gets easier.
The same if you're against it.

Like if I'm feeling good about myself and I do things to improve how I look, every little thing feels good.
It just builds on itself.

>>17767672
If I was doing it for myself I would honestly just say "Fuck makeup and fuck revealing clothing, I'll wear what I want and if you don't like it you can eat me out"

But if I had that attitude I would def be single until I died. You cannot escape The Patriarchy.

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>>17767645
I don't understand this meme

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>>17767592
I suggest field research.

>>17767597
Alright wise guy, "Psychological Aspects of Human Sexuality"

>>17767603
Ignore pegasis, he's an annoying and stupidly unfunny troll.

But idk if you've ever seen the kink charts on /soc/, you might be able to draw inspiration from that. Basically just asks people to check off their kinks with colors, green for "love it" yellow for "Like it/willing to try" and red for "Absolutely off the table"

Personally, I think it'd be interesting to break it down and see where people's boundaries lie in that sense. Find out what people are willing to try even, even if they don't particularly know or think they would /enjoy/ it, but just not hate it or something. You could phrase it like "Suppose your loving partner expressed a desire in acting out X fetish, would you be willing to try it for their sake, or are you completely uncomfortable with it"

Invite her to a party. If she says no, pull some "alpha" bullshit, say how her boyfriend doesn't own her. Get her drunk; most likely she'll fuck you and cheat on him, too, because that's what cheaters do. Helps to heal almost immediately because you learn how simple cheating really is and how stupid it is to get mad about.

>>17767585
She cheated on BOTH of us. I found her other boyfriend and he was devastated as I was.

I've been through exactly the same thing, so I feel you. All you should do now is keeping yourself busy. You should be opened up and get to know more people. Going to the gym and changing yourself to be a better person. Let your ex regret Her whole life for losing you.

>>17767563
give us some fucking context, please.

Well she tried to kiss my boyfriend and he flipped her off and pushed her and she tried to tell me off by telling me to stay away from my own boyfriend so...

>pretending to be girls on 4chan
When will this meme die?